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Tallit
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THE TALLIS

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   	You know my beautiful friends, everybody knows, that whenRuth came to Boaz, she says, "Spread your wings over me"   ۋ  .  You know what she was telling him?  Do me a favor,do my bedecken.  
	Can you imagine what kind of a night that was?  Mamash. Because the Medrash says it was so holy, it was the night whenMalchus Bais Dovid began.  Dovid Malka Moshiacha.  When Ruth wentto Boaz that night.  
	Remember we were learning that Boaz was the neshama ofYehudah, and Ruth was the neshama of Tamar.  And when Yehuda wentto Tamar the first time, he gave her his Tallis  . The Medrash says,  -    .  "Chosamcha" is hisTefillin, and "Peseelecha"      .  "P'siltecheles", his Tallis.  And she never gave it back to him.  Sowhen Ruth met Boaz again after so many gilgulim, she gave him backhis Tallis.  
	So since then it's a custom that every Callah, who wants tostart Malchus Bais David, I bless you your children should belittle Moshiach children.  So it's a custom that the holy Callahgives the Chosan the Tallis.  And we bless you that it should bethe Tallis of Yehuda and Tamar.  It should be the Tallis of Ruthand Boaz.      
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	Remember the holy Ishbitser says, `the world is round'.  Themost beautiful people in the world are people who are alwaysround, who have no corners where they hurt each other.  But hesays, so what do you do when you get in a corner?  You haveTsitsis.  You know what you need your wife for?  You need yourwife to always polish you a little bit.  Whenever you get into acorner, your wife says, "You know something, you need Tsitsisbadly."  You got yourself into a corner.  But when your wife givesyou Tsitsis... It's mamash Ureisem Oissoi   .        	One more thing.  You remember when the Miraglim came (thespies), and they told us bad things about Israel and we were sosorry.  The Ribbono Shel Olam gave us a Tallis.  I want you toknow, since the Miraglim came, sadly enough, it's also betweenhusband and wife, Chossan and Callah.  There are alot of Miraglimaround.  They always want to talk you out of a Shiduch.  They tellyou it's no good, and they tell her it's no good.  So what doesthe Callah do?  She says "Do me a favor, remember what happenedwhen the Miraglim said bad things... and we listened?  We need aTallis."  So she gives you a Tallis mamash to protect you.  Youshould never ever ever hear anything bad about your holy wife. And your holy wife should never listen, G-d forbid, to anythingbad about you.  And I bless you, mamash, I bless you from thedeepest depths of my heart, don't ever ever listen to any loshanhora on your children.  Refuse!  G-d forbid.  Mamash.	       

	So before you give {the groom} the Tallis, I want you to prayover the Tallis, that your children should daven with {yourhusband}  under the Tallis.  And your house should be mamash...the snake should not have any admission to your house.  Becausethe Tallis is keeping the Miraglim out and G-d says even if itcannot keep it out from your land, at least keep it out from your"daled amos".  Keep it out from your hearts, from your insides.  	And you know, until this second, it was just Yom Kippur.  Butmamash now begins Succos for you.  You're building a little house. And everybody knows, the Sukkah is B'Tzeela D'Meihemnusa.  Sittingin the shade of the Only One.  So she gives you a Tallis and youmake a private little Sukkahla.  

	We need someone to give the Tallis to the Chosan, take theTallis from the holy bride.  			
   	OK now, your Rebbe(s) should put the Tallis over you.  Mamashit should be   .  You should always remember thismoment.
    	I want to sing just one more time, "Shalom Aleichem", togreet all the beautiful children who are coming from Heaven.  {Tothe groom} , sit down for a second.  (To the bride): Close youreyes and connect your soul to the neshamos of your children.  Iwant to bless you one more thing.  bless you, your children shouldhave Rebbes who know how holy children are.  (Reb Shlomo singsShalom Aleichem).{<abe}
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	And I bless you [bride & groom under the chuppah] that youshould have the privilege to have your children under your tallisbecause believe me what you teach your children you teach themunder the tallis. You can't teach them even if you sit over a bookfor 2000 years.           

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THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIS: Ruth gave Boaz a Tallit
THE GROOM PUTS ON THE TALLIS: Creating a world 

	Remember the old Torah I told you, but let me tell it again. When Yehuda went to Tamar, he gave her his tallis and tefillin.  The tallis, everybody knows, when Ruth went to Boaz, she gave hima new tallis.  Because of this, every Kallah sends a tallis to herChasan, and she sends to her husband, "Do you think I just wantordinary children?  I want my children to be Mashiach."
	And remember we were learning, there's a Medrash... theMedrash says,    Don't touch my Messiahs. So theMedrash says, why, how many Messiahs do we have.  So the Medrashsays      These are the children. You know somepeople have children, and some people have little Meshiachs.  Sowe bless you mamash with little Mashiach who'll fill the worldmamash with the deepest, the holiest, and the most glorious.   
 [To the groom]  And whenever you bless your children, you shouldput on your tallis, and take your children under your tallis andremember this moment.          
	The Medrash says, what did the Ribbono shel Olam do before hecreated the world?  [The Midrash says] `HE' put on a tallis, andHE created the world.  Unbelievable.  
	So before you are building your new world, do like G-d did. And sing Reb Levi Yitschak Berditchover's nigun and then we go tothe chupah.  
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THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIT

   there's a Torah from the Ishbitzer:  the other side of life is,you start praying at the end. 
	Life is when you're davening, and the more you daven, themore you're alive.
	your holy bride is giving you a gift, a tallis, because Godwants you to know, until you find your soul mate, you don't reallyknow how to daven. 
	You know today so many people say "I don't know how to pray."You know what their problem is? They're not in touch with theirown neshama; they're not in touch with their own life-energy. 
	When you meet someboday who loves you so much, suddenly allthe gates are open. So your holy bride sends you a gift, a tallis.Mamash we bless you whenever you put on the tallis, you rememberthis holy moment under the chuppah. 
	I had the privilege of being by the old Lubavitcher rebbe,and he said, "You know why I'm a little bit of a chassid, becauseI had the privilege of davening with my father. While I was withhim he took me under the tallis." He said, "I remember one time,Yom Tov, Hallel, I heard my holy father saying, Ana Hashem, HoshiaNa. He said, "This one 'Ana HaShem Hoshia Na' made a Jew out of meforever." 
	I bless you, you should have little children, and nobodyknows about crying and begging and davening more than children. Ibless you to have your children under your tallis, and I bless youthat this tallis should be with you forever.

	TEACHING: RUTH BRINGS THE TALLIS OF YEHUDA BACK TO BOAZ

	You remember: Ruth went to see Boaz at night,   Their wholelife, clal yisrael, depended on that night,  There's a torah thatshe brought him a tallis as a gift.  		Remember thatYehudah met Tamar.  When Yehudah met Tamar, you know what he gaveher?  He gave her his tallis and t'fillin, right? Can you imaginehow holy it was, that he gave his tallis and t'fillin to her?  That's the beginning of King David, right? And the end is thatRuth brings the tallis back to Boaz. Because Ruth was the neshamaaof Tamar, and Boaz was the neshama of Yehudah.  They're bothconnected.  
	So I bless you, this tallis should be the tallis whichYehudah gave to Tamar, and that this tallis should be the tallisthat Ruth brought back to Boaz. I want to bless you that you andyour holy wife should be together under one tallis forever andever. 

[R. SHLOMO THEN ASKS THE BRIDE TO PUT THE TALLIS ON THE GROOM]
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THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIS: A Teaching by R. Shlomo

	  You know, when Leah got married to Yaacov, she couldn'thave possibly have bought him a Tallis.  Because until the lastmoment, she didn't know if it's going through, right?  Andbesides, Leah's father pushed her to the Chuppah, so I'm sure thatLeah did not go the day before and buy a Tallis for Yaacov.  
	So I want to say a way-out Torah.  The first one who bought aTallis for her husband, was Rachel for Yaacov.  This is way-out. It would be even stronger, because everybody knows that we haveTzitzits, because of Yoseph.  
	So, do you remember, we we're learning it all the time? Because Yoseph is (POSUK) --  Yoseph has the finest eyes in theworld.  The Gemorah says Yoseph mamash never looked at somethingwhich wasn't his, and the whole thing of tzitzits is ureitem otam. ou see only G-d.  So this is Yoseph.  
	And  Rachela gave Yaacov the tallis.  And since that time,it's a holy custom, that the bride gives the Chattan a tallis.  
	And I want you to know something very deep.  Why was Rachelnot buried next to Yaacov?  Do you remember the story?  Because wehad to go into exile, and when we went out that day by the border,we were so down-hearted, we just couldn't bear it.  So suddenly wediscovered the grave of Rachel.  And Rachel is bringing us back,because since Rachel Mevache Al Benehah - the prophet Jeremiahsays, "Rachel is crying for her children".  She cried so much G-dsays, "OK, OK stop crying already.  Enough."  Even G-d says, "Ican't bear it anymore."  
  It was all because of the spies.  Because if the spies wouldhave not come back and told the Yidden that Eretz Yisroel is sobad, then Moshe Rabbenu would have gone with us.  We would neverhave been driven out.  
	So Rachel was not buried next to Yaacov because of the spies. And everybody also knows that the children of Rachel were not partof the spies, because of Yehoshua.  
	And let's not talk about Yehudah now, because it's notimportant here.  Because of Yehoshua, Yehudah was also included,right?  But it was basically the children of Yoseph.  
	  So Yaacov was not buried next to Rachel.  And in whoseTallis was Yaacov buried?  Yaacov was buried in the tallis ofRachel, right?  So she says to him, "Mamish, I want you toremember me, until we meet again when Mashiach is coming."  It'sunbelievable.  
	So Rachel gave Yaacov the tallis to tell him that, "Some day,I promise you I'll bring Mashiach.  And I give you a tallis as asign that I'll bring Mashiach."  
	So the deepest depths is that every woman who gives her man alittle tallis is telling him, "Mamish, I'll promise you one way oranother, I'm bringing Mashiach."  Because from Rachel on, everyJewish woman has the power to bring Mashiach.  

 	You know friends, davening is to mamash pour out your heartfrom the deepest depths before G-d.  
	  The Holy Sanzer says that Tzaddik is the words, 'ketz di'. Tzaddik means 'ketz di'?    That means, that just because of him,it will be enough to bring the 'Ketz'.    'Ketz di', that hisdavening is so strong. 'Di' means enough, that means his daveningis enough.  'Ketz'- he is enough - 'di', to bring the 'ketz'- theend, the Mashiach.  
	 Why do you wrap yourself in a tallis when you pray?    Whenyou ask of G-d something possible, you don't have to hide yourface.  When you ask something impossible...  
	  Because Maschiach is so deep, I can't even look down atyour face.  So I need a talis to cover my face.  And maybe Rachelis the one that brought down this prayer.  To pray for theimpossible.  Because isn't it impossible to bring Mashiach?     Itis so hard.  		So I want to bless you, whenever you put on thetallis, don't ever stop praying for the most impossible thing inthe world.  

	And I want to bless you with children. 
	You know I told some of you, I got my Yiddishkeit, really,from standing under my father's tallis.  Whatever I know aboutRosh Hashana, Yom Kippur, is because my father was always puttingme under his Tallis and davening.  
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< w-j&n

THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIT

	A lot of people come today and they say, "I don't know how topray."  They mean to say, "I can't communicate -- I know how totalk to my wife, to my children, [but] I have trouble talking toG-d." It's not true.  If you can talk to a person you can talk toG-d.  
	There is a saying by the Yid HaKodesh  "A person who can nottalk to a horse can not talk to G-d.  If you know how to talk to ahorse you know how to talk to God.  If you can not talk to G-dobviously you can mot talk to anyone.  
	[To the groom] But you need one person who will listen toyou.  One person who you can pour out your heart to. And from themoment on when you meet that person you can talk to everyone.  
	Do you know how some peple can love the whole world?    Thereis one person who they love so much  and this is so strong thatthey can love the whole world. And the people who don't love thewhole world -- they don't have evn one person. 	So the bride givesthe groom a tallis to let him know --  I give him the gift theholiest gift in the world: To know how to stand before G-d. Topray.  
	A tallis is the holiest thing. At the holiest moments put thetallis over your head and daven.  When you have a tallis over yourhead you are in Jerusalam.  You are by the Holy Wall, you are inParadise. 
	Then there are no walls between you and G-d, between you andeverything that is holy. And I bless you that you should have theprivelege to have your children under your tallis. Because believeme, what you teach your children you teach them under the tallis.you can't teach them even if you sit over a book for 2000 years. 

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THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIT                                                                                  
	the Gemora says, the Zohar HaKodesh says, that before G-dcreated the world, HE put on a Tallis.  And while He was standingunder the Tallis, He created the world.       ۋ  "Oteh Or K'salma Noteh Shamayim Kayiree-ah"  (You coverYourself with Light as with a garment; You stretch out the Heavenslike a carpet.")  It's a passage from the Psalms.  And obviously,it's beyond us.  
	Before you create a new world, you and [your bride], you puton a Tallis.  And you know what kind of a world G-d wanted tocreate?  It says    Olam chesed yibaneh, G-d wants tocreate a world with so much love, so much sweetness.  
{R. Shlomo here asks the father of the groom, and one other man,to assist the groom inputting on the tallit.

	 I also want to bless you from the deepest depths of yourheart, since you're building the Holy Bais HaMikdash, but it'sjust a little private Bais HaMikdash you should be there when thereal Bais HaMikdash will be rebuilt.

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< w-r&z

THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIT:  Learning to daven

  The holiest gift in the world, the deepest gift in the world, issomebody who can teach you how to daven.  Even in Gan Eden you'relearning 'Yeheeyou Mchaye Hachaye'.  Even in Gan Eden, you keep onlearning.  But davening is only in this world.  It's so deep, it'sso deep.  
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{FN (sa):  Little Joe Gomez once said to me "Dead don't need ourprayers."  }
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And again: husband and wife are teaching each other how to daven.   Because till you got married and your davening was broken, itwasn't holy enough.  But now that you're getting married, Be'ezratHashem, your prayer will be so whole and so deep.  
	So it's an old tradition that the Callah give the Chattan atallit, and the tallit is so holy.  The tallit is the 4 corners ofthe world, the most perfect thing in the world.  It's the wholeworld.  And it's more than the world.  You cover yourself with it. 	

	You know what it means for husband and wife to be together? If they're both davening for the same thing, they're both prayingand hoping for the same thing.  Which means being together. Wewant to bless you, and wish you, all your prayers should be thesame, all your tears should be the same.  All your wanting andhoping should be the same.  You should both live under the sameholy Tallis.  
{The tallis is put over the groom, not by the bride, but by a manfriend of the groom}

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THE BRIDE GIVES THE GROOM A TALLIT

         you know what a privilege it is to give your husband aTallis.  You know what a Tallis is all about?  In this world weneed garments.  In Paradise we don't need garments.    
	Do you know what garments are?  Garments are:  because it isso precious that you want to cover it.  You know when you havejewels, you don't carry them all outside.  In heaven, they haveeverything, but things are not so precious.  In this world, thingsare precious.  
	{To the groom} I bless you that the deepest depths of yourmarried life should always be a little bit covered, with so muchprivacy.  Mamash covered by a Tallis, and G-d should reveal to youall the secrets of the Torah, but on the level of a Tallis. Mamash it should be covered.  
	When Meshiach is coming, it says, "K'mayim l'yam micasim". Like water covers the sea.  It's crazy.  The sea is water, right? No, it's not true.  Who knows what the sea is all about.  Thewater is just a cover up. 
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