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The blessing over the glass of wine
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THE BLESSINGS BEFORE AND AFTER THE GLASS OF WINE (BEFORE THE GROOMGIVES THE BRIDE THE RING)

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THE GLASS OF WINE.
	OK now, where's the wine?  Good.  Basically I make the Brachafor you, so you have to say Amen with all your heart.

(The Bracha over wine)  Baruch atah Hashem Elokenu Melech HaOlamBorai p'ree hagafen.  Baruch atah Hashem Elokeinu Melech HaOlamasher kiddishanu b'mitsvasov v'tsivanu al ha'arayot v'asar lanu esha'arusot v'heter lanu ha'nasuote lanu al yidei Chupah v'Kidushin. Baruch atah Hashem, Mikadesh Amo Yisrael al yidei Chupahv'Kidushin. (Everyone- "Amen") 
  	The groom recites: "Harei at mikudeshet lee b'ta'abot  zook'dat Moshe V'Yisrael"
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	Reb Shlomo: Mazel Tov!!
	(Singing to the tune of "Tov Lehodos Lashem") 
	Mazel Tov!  
  
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< my.ak

THE WINE AND THE RING
{Apparently the ring is given over a glass of wine, but the wineis not drunk then.
I don't think the Ketuba is read over a glass of wine, but I'm notsure.}
  
	OK, now, everybody knows that all us are a little bitshleppers.  We forget half the things we are supposed to do.  ButI just hope that you didn't forget the ring.  You have the ring? Yea.  Anyone has some wine left over from Shabbos?  Unbelievable,David'l, I knew I can rely on you. You have a cup also?  Or do youwant me to drink from the bottle?  Oy, David'l.

 	There are so many Torahs, why the ring is round.  
	One of the Torahs...  you know the world is round... You knowG-d created the world, there are two kinds of walls, four cornersand round.  So your holy bride gave you a Tallis, a Tallis hasfour corners.  This is very beautiful, four corners of the world,it's the four corners of our life.  
	And then there's something even deeper.  You know what it is,when you get into corners, when you get into a corner, sometimesyou lose the center.  So you say to your holy bride, "Thank you somuch for the Tallis.  Thank you so much for the seven walls."  
	And you tell your holy bride, you know women have somethingthat we men will never have.  They can build a house, we can't. You know I can be a bachelor and live in the most beautiful house. It's not a house, it's stones.  A room?  A woman makes the house. Rav Yossi would call his wife his house.  So you say to your holywife, thank you so much, I can never build walls like you, but letme give you a little ring to let you know, to let you know- I'llbe so careful with your walls.  
	You know sometimes -- I don't want to say anything bad --  alot of men, they love their wives but they always push the walls,a little bit here, a little bit there.  Then G-d forbid, at theend when the walls fall apart they say it's not my fault.  {To thegrrom} I want you to be so careful -- because I want you to know,the seven walls which {your bride} built for you, gevaldt are theyholy.  They're done with so much love, with so much sweetness.  

	OK, now I need everyone to say, "Amen" very strong. Mordechai and Yona, you have to say "Amen", because I make theBracha for you.  (Bracha over wine, brachot of chupah andKedushin).  Where's the ring? 

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SHEVA BRACHAS	
{N.B.:  I think there are 2 cups of wine -- first, before readingthe contract,then, for the after-blessing, which is sheva brachas-- sa}

  	Where's the wine, it has to be filled again.  (Bracha overthe wine.  The Sheva Brachot, the seven blessings) 
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< my.ak

THE SHEVA BRACHAS ARE RECITED OVER A GLASS OF WINE

{The rabbi invites other to say the first six blessings, and thenhe says the last, pri haGoffen; and having said that blessing mustdrink some wine.  I do not know whether it is incumbent upon therabbi, as the one who read the ketuba for bride and groom, todrink some wine in their honor}

	This is the first, for the rest of your life, full ofblessing.  And just remember, Mordechai and Yonala, the sevenblessings we are saying tonight, is not only over the marriageceremony, it's over the privilage of bringing children to theworld.  But the seventh bracha is mamash telling G-d, "Master ofthe World, didn't you promise us that the whole world will befilled with love and and with joy.  OK, now that we were here, alittle four inches of the world, but why isn't it like this allover the world.  Say it with me (the seventh bracha).  (Everyonesinging together). (M'sameach Chosan Im HaKallah.)  

	  You know what a best friend is?  That you can ask us 48hours a second for anything in the world.  We can ask you. Always, always.  And I want to bless you and us, and all of us,our children should always be the best friends.  
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SHEVA BRACHAS
1)  that all was created for the the glory of Heaven on earth andin the heavens
2)  former of mankind
3)  that man was created in the Divine image and was fixed bylosing part of himself for the creation of a wife in whose shelterhe could dwell forever
4)  that the chilren of Jerusalem may return to her, as childrencome to a wife
5)  that the bridal couple may share the joy of Adam and Eve
6) Happiess and joy, groom and bride, exulation , song, jpleasuredelight, love, fellowship, peace asnd companionship; joy to thesettlements of Judea and the streets of JErusalem
7) Blessing over wine
{ Source not noted}

 	Listen to me my beautiful friends: When I do something for  G-d, according to our holy tradition, you say a blessing over it,thanking G-d for the privilege of doing it.  
	When you get married you say seven blessings. Becauseaccording to our holy tradition, whenever you do something holy,you fix one part of your being.  But when you get married you fixyour whole being.  You fix the whole world which was created inseven days.  
	OK, I want you to join me.  (1) The first blessing is, I'msaying to G-d, thank you so much for putting so much honor, somuch G-d honor, so much holy dignity into the world.  Somethingheavenly in the world.  Not just a beautiful world.  It's aheavenly world.        
	(2) Let me say thank you G-d for creating man; 
	(3) let me say thank you     G-d for creating us in Yourimage.  Gevaldt.  G-d could have created a beautiful human beingnot G-d's image.  And above all we  have the privilege of creatingchildren in His image.  I don't want my children to be in myimage.  I want my children to be in G-d's image.  And then I saypraying to G-d, all the people who have no children here, pleaseG-d, let them have children.  Let them rejoice with theirchildren.  
	(4) And let the Holy City of Jerusalem, who's crying for herchildren, let them all come back.  
	(5) Let me say, "Master of the World, let this bride andgroom rejoice before You, like Adam and Eve in Paradise.  You knowwhat's so special being in Paradise?  Because there was no hatredin the world yet.  Nobody ever hated anybody.  There was no badword ever spoken.  And you know, we are trying so hard to loveeach other, but the vibrations of the other side, make it so hardsometimes. So we bless you that you should live in the world wherethere is no evil.  Where there is no hatred.  
	(6) And then mamash the last blessing, praying for the wholeworld.  "Master of the World, you promised us that the whole worldwill be filled with love, with friendship, with joy, with dancing. So why don't you keep your promise?"  
	Join me.  (Sheva Brachot, the seven blessings)
