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Groom walks to the Chuppah

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EDITORIAL NOTES (sa, HaOn):
Source Docs: saHaOn \\WITTTURF\WITTWEDS 
This source documents (prefixed < ) are listed in =sh3wza1,which derives from saHaOn  \\INVENTRY:inv*
All copy-rights reserved to the Witts or as designatedthereby, says I. 
Excerpts verbatim from input; except that bride and groom andsimply termed such.  Editorial inserts in brackets.  [   ].

What I did was take all input wedding transcripts availableto me -- most of which were editted & input by the Witts --and chop them up into sequential topics; so from \WITTWEDSone gets \WED1094 , which holds 21 collections of excerpts ofsequential wedding steps, plus 2 introductory & 2 appendeddocuments.  All that was sent (unconditonally, but notassigned) to the Carlebach Foundation (& of course to theWitts) ca. 11/94; as yet I've had no acknowlegement from theFoundation.  As I note in =sh3wain, it was my thought thatthis might serve as the basis for a sort of Whole JewishCatalog style how-to-do-it manual to produce a R. Shlomostyle wedding.

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THE GROOM WALKS TO THE CHUPPAH
<JOSHU
    Singing!
	My beautiful friends, we need absolute silence.  Friends, Iwant you to know, I don't know how often you've had lunch with theEnglish Queen, but when the Queen or the King walk in, you've gotto be quiet.  So the first thing is, the holy king is coming.  Iwant to bless you... You know, in the world, you can be a kingwithout a queen.  In heaven, you can only be a king if you have aqueen.  And in heaven, you cannot be a queen without a king.   
And since you have such beautiful parents, so I couldn't say youwere not a prince when you were born, but you haven't been a kingyet.  So right now is your coronation.  I want you to give him thebiggest hand in the world.  (Everyone clapping!)
	  First you go, take him to the chupah and then you stand inthe middle.  (Singing, "Baruch HaBah"])

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THE CHATAN WALKS TO THE CHUPPAH
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	Now all my beautiful friends, I need all of us to make ahighway for the holy Choson to come.  Chevre we need  a highwaymamash straight from the holy Callah to the Choson. {Reb Shlomosinging "Aishes Chayil" (Woman of Valor)}
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< sh2wmosh < moshe.ak
THE GROOM WALKS TO THE CHUPPAH:  Why go slow?

	You know it's so important to go fast to shul, that even onShabbos you are permitted to run to shul [but not from shul].  
	Have you ever seen a Chasan running to the Chupah?  Why not? Aren't you supposed to run to a mitsva?  
	The answer is very simple.  Because [it took] us Yidden fortyyears to come to Eretz Yisrael.  	
	Do you know what Reb Nachman said?  Sometimes the hardestthing is to go slow.  You know when we came out of Egypt, wewanted the Torah right away, and G-d says, count 49 days.  So Ibless you that this should be the last time we are going slow. From now on I bless you everything should go so fast for you.   Ibless everyone with a   (a speedy recovery) fast.  Youknow a doctor can only cure slowly.  The Ribbono shel Olam  ۋ  (Yeshuos Hashem k'heref ayin, the salvation of G-d is ina blink of an eye!)  So I bless you right now  you walk slow tothe chupah, and while you are walking I want you to bless everyonewith      Mamash all of Israel.  The whole worldshould be healthy in one split second.  
	Do you know how long we are walking around in galus?  For twothousand years.  When you walk to the Chupah it's like Yidden ontheir way to Yerushalayim, again, slowly, slowly, slowly.  But while you are walking,  bless you, G-d should open all the gates,and you should bless all of Israel.      (Havecompassion on Your Nation) The Bais HaMikdash we should live tosee.  All of us,   , (Binyan Bais HaMikdash, thebuilding of the Holy Temple), we should see good days and holynights and beautiful moments.  And I want to sing for you theHeilege Rizhin Shalosh Shudis Nigun.
(Singing)
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< sh2wy&s < w-y&s
THE BRIDE AND GROOM ARE ACCOMPANIED TO THE CHUPPAH, BY THEIRPARENTS IF POSSIBLE

[R. Shlomo here (<w-Y&s} suggests that if the parents were notpresent, the bride and groom may be accompanied by friends.]
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< w-y&s
THE GROOM WALKS TO THE CHUPPAH

   Make a little highway for the holy king, yeah?
   I just want to give you one little dvar Torah on the way.  You know there's two things that you have to do: you have to do somany mitzvos every second. Every split second, you have somethinggood to do. 
	But there's something even deeper: you should walk in the wayof the Ribbono shel Olam. Do everything with holiness andsweetness, the way G-d is taking care of the world. 
	When a person finds his soul mate, the most important thingis for him to do mitzvoth, to do what is right. From now on, themost important thing is the walking.  {Hebrew omitted} and I blessyou that G-d's compassions should be inside of you, outside ofyou, surrounding you, shining out of you and be with you in thenight. And we should walk closer walk closer to the great day, tothe redemption.
(music)  walking to the chuppah.
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< w-y&s
THE BRIDE AND GROOM WALK TO THE CHUPPAH:  

	The three holidays are called the shalosh regalim; theholidays all of Israel is walking out to the Bet 
ha-Mikdash to receive holiness.  
	I want you to know what all the Jews before you, what all thehassidim felt when they walked to see the holy Baal Shem -- whenall the thousands of hassidim walked and received holiness fromtheir rebbes. 
	I want to bless you, with the few steps you're taking toreceive holiness, you and your holy chatan, that you may receiveholiness from the One, the only One -- that all the holiness thatyou felt in your feet, and in your whole being -- and I bless you,you should have holy feet. 		Holy feet is:, whensomeone asks you a favour, when your children wake you up in themiddle of the night, you jump up with so much joy, so much joy -- `Ribbono shel olam, how can I ever thank you, that there'ssomebody who needs me in the world.'  
	 And now holy bride, we bless you, I'm sure you feel yourlittle children holding onto you, and the four holy motherswalking with you, we bless you to walk with great joy, and webless both of you, you should walk with your children someday alsoto the chuppah. (music - walking to the chuppah outside)

	Reb Nachman says, everything we're doing under the chuppah isreaching mamash m'hashamayim, the heaven of all heavens. 
	The more real a thing is, the less you can see it. Apples andoranges you can see. When someone loves you, you can see it withdifferent eyes. 
	You know what kind of house you're building, with your holyhusband? With G-d's help, you'll live in a beautiful house, butthe real house both of you are going to live in, is the housewhich nobody can see, just you two.  
	a lot of times I meet people, couples, who live in abeautiful house, but you have a feeling, the house isn't alltheirs, nothing there. Sometimes you can meet people, who mightlive in a [Saknut caravan] and  gevalt they have a house!
   You know, I've seen too many young children in my life, whogrow up in a house with walls of stone. Where's the wall ofholiness nad sweetness?                                        Ibless you to see how she builds a wall around you - not the wallsthat keep you away, but the walls which makes you a citizen of_______________ that's the blessing of holy walls. 
	Can you imagine, there's a holy woman in this world who caresfor you so much, she builds a little Holy Temple.
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The bride walks to the chuppah, accompanied by (at least?) twowomen {in lieu of the mother of bride and groom?}
the groom walks to the chuppah accompanied by (at least?) two men{in lieu of the fathers of bride and groom, who would be thecontracting parties in a marriage} +}
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THE BRIDE AND GROOM WALK TO THE CHUPPAH

	 I don't know if there are signs in heaven where the Holy ofHoliest is, but your children know.  So now just in one minute,your children, take {bride and groom} by the hand, and walk youinto the Holy of Holiest.  Don't forget all of us; we'd like toget a taste of it.  You know in the Holy of Holiest, the HighPriest would burn incense and the incense would be all overJerusalem all year long.  So let the incense of this moment beover you forever.
	(Singing)
	Please, Kallah, don't speak to anybody, because you're in themiddle, you're still in the Holy Temple, in the Holy of Holiest. And the Holiest.  And Mordecha, it's forbidden to speak and pleasefriends and family, just lead them, but don't interrupt theirconcentration.  
{R.Shlomo then asks the bride to walk the left and the groom towalk to the right so that the chuppah can be put up.}
  And let's do it very softly and very beautifully, and then we'llput up the Chupah here.  OK, mamash with simcha.
(Singing)
	                                                
	Friends, we need to make a little highway for the "King ofall Kings".*  

	You are bringing down so much holiness into the world, justin the last few minutes.  We bless you, don't ever stop, don'tever stop. You that you should bring so much love for your wifeand for your children, for all of Israel, for the whole world. Whenever you walk down the street with your beautiful wife,something should happen to people when they should look at you,they should say, "Oy, there is love in the world, there is love inthe world."  Whenever you walk on the street and there's a personwho's on his way to commit suicide, and he looks at both of you,and then he thinks, "Oy, I am missing something, I gotta findsomebody who I love." 
  
	Walk slowly, because remember we were learning it, *when theChosan walks to the Chupah, he's fixing the forty days of thespies going into Erets Yisrael and coming back and saying itwasn't so good*...  But you're coming here and stand before G-dand you say, "Gevaldt, Master of the World, there is nobody in theworld as beautiful as my holy bride."  
	(Singing)
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< wshif
+ THE BRIDE AND GROOM WALK TO THE CHUPPAH

	Why doesn't a person fly?  One has to walk.  To go to thewedding you have to go through life, then after one hundred andtwenty years the neshama is going infinite, infinite, a long way,a long way... And the truth is, when you marry the right woman,she is walking with you all the way, she is walking with you inthis world, she'll walk with you in the world to come.  
	So according to our tradition, the kallah buys the tallis forthe chasan, the tallis to walk in this world and the tallis towalk in the infinite way.  
I want to bless you  that your wife should walk with you, to giveyou strength to walk, holiness to walk, sweetness to walk.  Andabove all, and above all, do you know what a tallis is, all thefour corners have something to hold onto, little tsitsis.  If thewoman is really the right woman, you always have something to holdonto, at the end, at the utmost corner of the world, you can stillhold onto something.  
	Now put the tallis over her, Avremala.  (Singing)
{??? -- The groom puts the tallis on the bride??}

	Now I want you friends, take the holy kallah, and take theholy chasan and take the chupah, let's walk down to the water andlet's get more candles and all of our friends.
	(Under the chupah, blessings, reading of the Ketuba, singingwith great joy)
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