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Weddings
3ming
4th doc in series
Before the wedding 
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BEFORE THE WEDDING:  Something always has to go wrong:  a teachigof the HAFLAH
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	I want you to know, my favorite story, your favorite story,the Gemora says that before the chasan and kallah go to theChupah, there has to be a little fight.  So the Heilage HaFlah  says to Reb Shmulkie and his two holy brothers, the son of theHaFlaw married the daughter of the Rebbe Reb Shmulkie, he says,you know something, we completely forgot to fight.  So he says,OK, let's start a fight.  So the HaFlaw says, I will not let myson marry your daughter because your daughter is much too holy formy son.  And then the Rebbe Reb Shmulkie says I will not let mydaughter marry your son because your son is much more holy than my
daughter.  And then they bagan fighting.  Each of them said, yourchild is more holy than my child.  And then after two minutes,they said, OK, we fought, let's go to the Chupah.   
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THE WAY TO HEAVEN PASSES THROUGH HELL  

    There's a Torah, before you go to heaven, you have to gothrough hell.  It's not so simple.  You don't wake up one morningand you're in Paradise.  You don't wake up one morning and you'resitting on a chair and you're getting married.  It takes sometimesso much pain to grow up.  But then, when you reach Paradise, thenyou realize, thank you so much, Master of the World, for everytear, for every billionth'l ounce of pain.  
	So I want to sing, "Mizmor L'David" {Psalm 23}   Even thoughI walk in the Valley of Death, I fear no evil, because I know G-dis leading me by the hand, I'm on my way to Paradise, and all I'mbegging G-d is, can you make it fast.  Can you put me in a 747that goes through hell so fast.
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 BEFORE THE WEDDING:  TO GET TO HEAVEN, YOU HAVE TO GO THROUGH  --a few shadows,at least

     The gemarra says, when G-d wanted to created man, and G_dsays Naase Adam, suddenly there was a voice in heaven saying, 
           mhaanas ki ngbrin???
what do you need man for, do you know what man can do to theworld, he can destroy it.

	And everybody knows, a little bit we were were learning it inIzbitzer: 
	When G-d says, Let there be a cow, let there be an ox, letthere be grass, nobody said anything, {if the angelic host saidanything, it would merely have been some sort of uninterestedassent, like } why not, {but when}  G-d says let's create man,that's a heavy scene, right -- because whenever you want to dosomething stupid nobody stops you.  You want to do somethingmeaningless -- " why not".  You want to do something a gevalt,there'll be a lot of voices stopping you.   And humanly speaking{??}, when G-d wanted to create man in His image, there was avoice in heaven saying "don't". 
 
	So I want you to know sweetest friends it is very normal whena husband and wife get married the last few days they have to gothorugh all those voices, telling themn they're really stupid, whydo I have to get married, to this girl, stupid, right?'  This isall those voices who said at that time when God created man,a_________________________________, who needs it.  Listen:  youhave been happy alone, and you need a woman hanging around yourneck?  Who needs it.  And this voice comes to the woman, he says,why, you couldn't find anybody better, are you crazy or something. 
	Do you know who made Chava eat the apple?  The same voice. That voice was still going strong, because she said to herself,really what's so special about man, the only way to be special isto be G-d.  The same voice.  
	But do you know what G-d in His infinite Holiness is doing tous after that.  At the moment a man and a woman walk to theChuppah, that voice stops, it mamash stops.  And it's so holythere is not one even a billionth billionth of a doubt in theirhearts.  That they're mamash doing the holiest thing ever in theworld.  There is not one billionth of a doubt in their hearts thatmamash G-d is in Heaven, the One who created heaven and earth putthem together.  

Whenever you meet your soulmate and you have this terrible like____________________________________attack, this voice coming, andwho needs it, that means you're ok you know it's ok, it's normal,right, then just go thorugh it and get to the chuppah fast and getrid of it, there is no other 
way.  Mazel tov, mazel tov.

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