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Tanaiim

EDITTED EXCERPTS ON TANNAYIM -- teachings by R. Shlomo Carlebach
all excerpts from < =TAY, 
Sub-topical headings by sa 
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MEETING THE FOREBEARERS AT THE TANNAYIM

	The real guests at tannayim are all your forefathers.  TheGemora says, the saddest thing is, when we went into exile,  weforgot so much about our forefathers.  So right now, beforeMashiach is coming, there's such a longing, everybody wants toknow, who's my father, my mother, my forefathers.  The deepestlonging.  These are already the rays of Mashiach.  

	Your parents should be at your wedding, but it is not thatessential.  By the tannayim, it's the parents.  And basically, thetannayim is not even so much between chasan and kallah, it'sbetween the two parents.  

	You know sometimes we think we don't need our parents.  Whenit comes to the most important things in life, you want so muchfor them to help you in what you are doing.    All you forefathersthat are coming.

	How do you know when _______ the holiest.  You don't know,right, all the way back to the creation of the world.  But theyare all coming. 
The groom is introducing the bride to his fore-fathers, and thebride is introducing the groom to her forbearers.]
[And the parents of the bride introduce their forefathers to theparents of the groom.]

	You know what it is?  Life is so serious, but if you wouldreally be aware of it, I don't think we'd be able to live.  It'stoo awesomely deep.  Then there's some special moments in our lifewhen G-d gives us the depth to really feel what life is all about. And this is one of these holy moments.  So I want to sing "ShalomAleichem" to the forefathers, to all the Bubas and Zeides, 

	*When Neshamala was born, my first daughter, people asked methe next morning, what did you do all night.  So I said I waspraying that I should be privileged to be at her wedding.  
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THE BRIDE TURNS THE GROOM FROM A PRINCE TO A KING

   [	The groom is a prince, and the bride will make him a king.]
And do you know what the difference between a world king and a G-dking?  Very simple.  A world king, when you met him or you meether, they want you to bow to them, to show them that they are morethan you.  Do you know what a G-d king is?  A G-d King is somebodywho makes somebody else also a king and also a queen.  So I blessyou, you should lift up the whole world.  I bless you when [thetwo of] you walk the streets of the world, everybody who passesby, should say, ah, it's so beautiful when people love each other. Ah, what a G-d, what a G-d.  

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REB LEVI YITSCHAK OF BERDITCHEV -- THE GATES OF LOVE

	I'm sure you are forgiving me that I'm an Ashkenazi[n1]  Forus, the master of love is Rebbe Levi Yitschak of Berditchev,right?  You know what the Kotsker Rebbe said?  And when Rebbe LeviBerditchev became a Rebbe, he went up to heaven and he opened allthe gates of love.  But sadly enough, after he passed away, theyrealized that there is nobody who could control so much love, it'stoo much!  So sadly enough, they closed them again.  So I wouldlike to offer them to the bride and groom.  Sing with me.         

---------------------------------------------------------------    HOW WEDDINGS ARE MADE IN HEAVEN
                  
	The Gemora says, you are not permitted to marry somebody,unless you saw them before.  You know, Torah is not only sittingby a book.  Torah is every second of our lives. You have to learnalot from the books, in order to be on the level. 

	When does  G-d show you your holy bride?  
	So everybody knows, forty days before a person one is born,they call out in heaven, and all our holy rabbis tell us, that notonly they call out the name only, they call out exactly when theyshould meet.  They call out exactly when the tannayim should be. They call out exactly when the wedding should be.  
	You knowsometimes we go to a wedding, we don't know why itwas shlepping, it doesn't take place... Everybody says, why isn'tthe wedding happening?  Nobody knows why, because in heaven, itwas called out for a certain moment, and the moment isn't hereyet.  
	But they also call out all the guests.   But before theycalled out our names -- this is already the second part of ourshow -- the first part is, mamash they are showing you to eachother in heaven.  

	[To the groom] you know [your bride] is beautiful, but herneshama is even more beautiful.  And in heaven, gevaldt, did yousee her in heaven.  [To the bride] And you know, [the groom] is sohandsome, but gevaldt, his neshama ---Gevaldt, right.  
	So you know, when you come to this world, you become so smalland so petty, we don't even see each other anymore.  So accordingto our holy rabbis, by tannayim, the purpose of Tannayim, at thatmoment, G-d shows you to each other again.  But this time G-dshows you to each other in this world, I want to bless you, itshould last forever.  Forever and ever.  Don't ever look at eachother with small eyes.  Don't ever judge each other in a pettyway.  I want you to be completely drunk with each other.  

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REMEMBERING JERUSALEM AT WEDDINGS

	I want you to know something: 
	When we talk about "remembering Yerushalayim", would you say"I remember that Bush is a president  and Yerushalayim is thecapitol of Israel?"  You know what the difference is?  When Iremember Bush is the President, it leaves me cold.  Absolutelycold.  When I  remember Yerushalayim, my heart stops beating, whenI hear the world Yerushalayim, suddenly the whole world stops.  Iwant to bless you that whenever you remember each other, yourhearts will stop beating.  Something else.

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THE TIME BETWEEN ENGAGEMENT AND WEDDING

	[To the groom]: When you get married, b'ezras Hashem, and Ihope soon, don't wait too long, really I'm serious...  Because theworld is time and space.  Time and space have a terrible power tomake strangers of each other.  Don't let time and space masteryou.  
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THE TANAI'IM ARE A MEZUZZAH
	Story of the Shipsker Rebbe and the Ishbitzer Rebbe

	You know what happened when we got out of Egypt?  Remember 
when you get married, b'ezras Hashem, [the bride] will walk aroundyou seven times.  That will be the walls of the house, the wallsof the Bais HaMikdash, the Bais HaMikdash above which we don't seeyet.  
	But in this world, first we build a house, then we put onethe Mezuza.  In heaven, it goes the other way around.  First weput one the Mezuza, then we build the house.  Do you know what thetannoyim is?  The Master of the World is putting on a Mezuza.  TheMaster of the World, swears by heaven and earth, He'll guard youboth.  Do you know what the Mezuza is?  G-d says, I'm guardingyou.  I got you together.  Is there anybody in the world who putyou together?  There's only the One.  

	The grandson of the Holy Ishbitser writes, when did hereceive the ordination from his rebbe, the Holy Shipsker.  So hesays, when he was eighteen years old, he travelled with the HolyShipsker, and one night they came to an inn.  And there was noMezuza.  So he said to the Ishbitser who was eighteen years old,can you please sit by the door, because G-d's Name is written onyour face, like the Mezuza.  So I want to bless you, not only thatyou should love each other, and not only you should be eachother's house, you should also be each other's Mezuza, to guardeach other. 
  
	And it says "Henay lo yanum v'lo yishan, Shomer Yisrael" (HEdoesn't rest and doesn't sleep, the guardian of Israel).  You knowwhy G-d never sleeps?  Not because He's G-d.  He never sleepsbecause he's guarding Israel.  So I bless you, you should watchover each other day and night, day and night.  

	[To the parents]  You know sometimes parents think childrenget married and they don't need us anymore.  Not true.  They buildthe walls, but we. the parents, we are the Mezuza.  Always,always, always.  

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                                                                  READING THE TANAYIM -- The meaning of 'mazel tov'

	 It says, Mazel Tov!   
	Do you know what Mazel Tov means?  Mazel Tov means not goodluck.  That's a very pagan interpretation.  Mazel Tov means thateverything should flow.  Mamash I bless you .. from the deepestdepths of my heart.  You know sometimes the world does not, justcan't tear people apart when they really love each other.  Butwhat they can do, is put a few little stones in their way. Suddenly they have to stop.  Another stop, and another stop, andanother stop.  And then you get so tired of stopping, 

                     
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