And, now… here’s some comments that I received from placing a personal ad at www.yahoo.com. The ad read:

From: Dmac1
Email: Email
Date: Thu Jan 8 05:09:14 1998 Hi, Your words paint a rare and impressive picture. I admire your integrity and commitment, especially since it flies in the face of typical attitudes and behavior. That shows personal strength and a real commitment to your beliefs. I believe in purity outside of marriage, believing it's a sin and also believing that promiscuity has cheapened sex, making it expected and impersonal. The thought of saving ourselves for the right one makes it so special. Of course, it's easy for me to say that: I am not a virgin and when I was 18, I was a typically sex-focused/brain dead male. (I'm 41, too old for you I know, but I don't feel much different than when I was 20.) I am now searching for Ms. Right and am saving myself for her. I just wrote to tell you to stick to your beliefs--there aren't enough people being true to their convictions, even fewer when the convictions require effort and integrity. I hope you find that right guy--he will be very blessed to have a woman like you.
Dan

From: beef39 email Date: Thu Jan 8 02:56:57 1998 abstinence...that's a good one. all i have to say after reading your ad is good luck!!!!! i welcome any reply, regardless of how insulting it may be...

From: URJLM Date: Thu Jan 8 01:59:33 1998 You must have taken idiot pills the morning of the day that you wrote this ad !!

From: Todd_1978 Date: Thu Jan 8 00:59:44 1998 Hi there, My name is Todd. I am 19 (almost 20) and live in Winnipeg Manitoba Canada. I am a virgin, by choice, and plan on staying that way till I find the girl who I will spend the rest of my life with. You are right when you say that us virgins are a near extinct breed. If you would like to chat with me, write me back and tell me a bit about yourself.

From: UrbanaJoe email Date: Wed Jan 7 22:37:21 1998 Hi, I read your ad and wanted to reassure you that there are guys out there that want to remain abstinate until marriage. I'm glad you feel the same way. I have a feeling that you're the kind of girl who likes romantic movies and roses. Am I right?? :) If I am, maybe you should write back to me, we can talk...I always enjoy talking with someone, and we might have something in common. Well, write back, and sweet dreams, Joe

From: goldgrif email Date: Wed Jan 7 22:17:49 1998 Mi lady, yes I believe it is ok to wait till marriage I think It is a personal choice, ad you have a right to decide what is right for you. I have never dated a lady who was a virgin, but all the ladies I have dated have been abused in one way or another, and I feel that they felt that after such a thing has ahappened it was the only way to find someone who would care for them

From: skywalker_77 Date: Wed Jan 7 22:04:05 1998 for the record--yes!!! I'm 20 and I plan to stay a virgin until I'm married, which is starting to look like a long time. Doesn't matter, I won't change my mind. I've got more important things in life.

From: viper_ah Date: Wed Jan 7 20:10:14 1998 Hi there! I seen your ad under Yahoo and thought I'd respond. I'll tell you a bit about myself before I answer "the question." :) I'm 19 years old, tall (6' 4") and slender with blue/green eyes and brown hair. I grew up in the northwestern part of the state and now am currently attending Wright State University and majoring in computer engineering. I love to spend time outdoors whenever I get a chance to get out there. I enjoy running, bicyling, camping, riding and driving horses, astronomy, basketball, and volleyball. When I can't get outside, I love to read our mess with the computer. As for the answer to your question, I believe whole heartedly that abstinence is the answer until your married. I want to have myself "established" (house, good job, and be married) before I

decide to have children. Sex is something that should be sacred between two people. I know that I'm in the majority and I'm proud to say it. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin!

Whenever you get a chance, you can write me back if you want to...If you don't that's fine too. Have a great day! God bless you! Aaron
From: chris_dog Date: Wed Jan 7 19:34:08 1998 I can understand what your talking about. I'm Chris. Write back if you get this and are interested in getting to know someone like me.

From: derf21 Date: Wed Jan 7 16:46:58 1998 Hey there! This is your lucky day. You have found yourself a completely "no sex til marriage" gentleman. About me...I'm 6'1" 240 dark-brown hair well built wear glasses. Senior in accounting@ Ohio U. in Athens, OH. Pursuing a professional career in auditing or consulting (whoever gives me a good position:-) I like to play music, watch movies, do outdoor stuff and mainly have a good time. Also attend church regularly as it helps me hold on to my faith. I've been a lonely guy looking for a greatwoman to come along...just haven't met her yet. So if any of this stuff is of interest, I'd be happy to have a chat sometime! PS--am into exchanging pics
From: MatthewTV Email: verucchi@telapex

Date: Wed Jan 7 16:34:58 1998

I can't tell you what a relief it was to read your ad. I am 23 and a virgin. I have many friends at

Mississippi State University that are also virgins BY CHOICE. Please do not give up on your

quest. There are guys out there, and they will be impressed by your own virginity so please hang

on to it. I was appalled at how hard it was to find a girl on this thing with the same views that I

have. Please write if you want to talk. God bless and good luck. MatthewTV

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From: Jayson_Saylor

Email: [email protected]

Date: Wed Jan 7 16:27:48 1998

Hi ther, I can really relate to what your saying although I'm not "that guy". I am a born again

christian though and a "new creature in Christ". I don't know if you would consider that a born

again virgin or not but I do and have not had sex since, nor will I before mairage. I am a 25 year

old guy I attend Lighthouse ministries in Cincinnati, and work as a server @ the Holiday Inn. I

would be interested in hearing your input and corresponding with you further.

'Til Then,

Jayson

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From: arizonadreamer

Date: Wed Jan 7 11:01:21 1998

Hi Again,

I was looking around on the web to find something additional for you. Check out Ron

Hutchcraft's home page. It can give you alot of advice on many matters. I copied this part for you.

Again, good luck to you!!

* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *

Here is what I found:

Super Glue

------------------------------------------------------------------------

Our work with young Native Americans has only increased my wife's appreciation for Indian

jewelry. One night I was busily involved in a conversation, and Karen was over in the corner and

she was just quietly working on some jewelry, actually she was painstakenly trying to glue some

tiny little pieces of turquoise into a bracelet setting. And then I heard, "Oh oh." I said, "What

happened?" She said, "I got some glue on my finger." I said, "OK." She said, "It's super glue."

And instantly her thumb and her forefinger had become part of the bracelet. Oh no, the ads were

right, that stuff bonds instantly. It bonds permanently. We had our own ER, and spent probably an

hour trying to unglue Karen - a lot of hot water, home remedies, carefully pulling. I'll tell you it was

painful. But finally we were able to give Karen back her thumb and finger.

Well I'm Ron Hutchcraft, and I want to have A Word With You today about Super Glue.

Our word for today from the Word of God comes from I Corinthians, Chapter 6. I'll begin

reading at Verse 16. Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her

in body. For it is said that two will become one flesh. But he who unites himself with the Lord is

one with Him in Spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his

body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Now these are words from the inventor

of sex. And it reveals something that many people just don't realize about sex until it is too late.

Sex is emotional and spiritual super glue. It deeply bonds people to each other whether they are

aware of it or not. And like Karen and her ring, you will bond - even if you never meant to. And

like Karen, it is painful to separate when you have done something that permanently bonds. This

one flesh is quoted from God in what He says about a married couple usually. "Let no man

separate that couple," He says. See sex is designed by the Creator to be inside a lifelong love

covenant called marriage. It is designed to permanently bond people. But when you do it outside

of the marriage covenant it still has all its bonding power. It deeply attaches you soul to soul with

your sexual partner - even if it is the totally meaningless sex with the prostitute the Bible says. You

can't stop the bonding.

Now, tape bonds to whatever you stick it on, but if you stick it to different surfaces over and

over, eventually it won't stick any more. People don't realize that every time they get really

involved physically with someone they are giving away more of their "bond-ability" - their ability to

give and receive lifetime love. And then in the one relationship you really want to work, the

bonding is much weaker than God ever created it to be. And when you try to end a relationship

that has been heavily physical, it is like trying to separate two pieces of paper that have been glued

together. It rips both people apart, because two people who have been sexually committed were

never meant to separate.

If you ask Karen, she would say, "Be very very careful with super glue, or you will end up

bonded when you really shouldn't be, and it will hurt a lot to separate what's bonded." See that is

your Creator's advise about sex. Keep it special - keep it saved for your lifetime partner. Don't

push the limits physically. And if you have already gone too far, come to Jesus cross, and hear His

promise, "I will remember your sins no more." Let Him begin to restore your emotional and

spiritual virginity. Whatever you have done before today, from today on, doesn't ever have to

matter again. Jesus can make you clean!

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From: arizonadreamer

Date: Wed Jan 7 10:05:14 1998

Hi Friend!

First, I must say that are plenty of guys in the "V" category!! I'm in my thirties and I'm proud to

say that I am one of them. No, I'm not ugly, not a geek, not a dork, or any of those things. It's by

CHOICE.

I have to give the credit to being a Christian. I KNOW that waiting until marriage (your lifetime

partner) is what God intended. Just think about all the problems we have today;

AIDS, STDs, unwanted pregnancies, emotional problems . . etc. The solution (God's way) is

actually very simple: Stay a virgin until you are married. Marry a virgin. Stay faithful to your

spouse. Case closed. Can it be any simpler?

Anyway, good luck to you in your choices. Just remember, if a guy really loves you, he will

respect you and your decisions. Also remember that for all the people that you know that haven't

waited, well you can become like them (non-virgin) any time you want, but they can NEVER

become like you!

If you ever want just a plain friend, or an anonymous "cyber-shoulder" to cry on in Arizona, feel

free to write to me. Again, good luck to you!!

AZD

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From: Thomas_007

Email: [email protected]

Date: Wed Jan 7 10:02:56 1998

Well, you came said that pretty well, didn't you? I'm responding to your add because I too believe

that you should WAIT till Marriage. I am Christian, Pentecostal to be exact. I like to hike, bike,

read, chat, yak, and Write "SOME" poems. I LOVE Camping, Christian Music (that's all I listen

to), and Animals. I have some cats, a guinea pig, and ducks. Yes, I said Ducks. :) By the way, my

name is Thomas (Tom if you prefer). I am 20 years of age. :) If you have ICQ, you can reach me

@ 2816746. My alias is SoG (Soldier of God). My webpage, IF interested is @

http://www.bright.net/~tomhunt/sog.html. Oh yeah, I live in a small town known as Jeromesville.

It's about 60 miles SOUTH of Cleveland. Ummm, I don't know where Lynchburg, Ohio is, but I

do know where Lynchburg, VA is... :)

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From: Fafnir777

Email: [email protected]

Date: Wed Jan 7 03:13:33 1998

In answer to your question in your ad:

"Why are there so few guys who are Virgins?"

That is very easy to answer.

Boys are taught at a young age, that it is "unmanly/wimpy" to be a virgin, either through the words

of their older peers, or their actions.

I'm 29, and I wish that I was a Virgin still. I did not become a Christian until after I had already

lost my Virginity. If you're still a virgin, save it! It will be worth it. The Girl that I lost my Virginity

with, did not love me at all-I was just a one night stand for her, and that Hurt me emotionally for a

long time.

Sex is a spiritual thing created by God to KEEP a Man and Woman together-it's not THE reason

to be together! I was involved in a strictly sexual relationship, and The Woman in question and I

were planning to get married. It fell through after 6 month's, and we never got married. Thank

God! He gave me enough rope to hang myself with that one! Once bitten, Twice Shy?! I learned

a major lesson-Don't sleep with anybody that you don't plan to spend the rest of your life with!!

So now, After 3 years of Abstinence, I'm going back to college to get my degree. This way, I will

be able to Provide for a Family, and Once I have a decent Job, THEN I'll look for my Mate.

Hang on to your Virginity, Find someone who is Educated/has a good job, and look for someone

who is JUST LIKE YOU! otherwise, you'll be trying to "change them", and they'll be trying to

Change you! Don't believe the hype, Opposites only Attract in MAGNETS!

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From: epsilon2000

Email: [email protected]

Date: Wed Jan 7 02:46:12 1998

You asked: "I just want to find out if there IS anyone out there who believes that abstinence is the

answer. So please write... if you have comments, or if you are that guy."

For me, faithfulness is the answer. I have already made the commitment of faithfulness to my

future partner, even though I haven't met her yet.

If you have access to a Web browser, you can read about me and my search for a partner at .

My e-mail address is [email protected]. I would really like to hear from you.

Don't worry -- you're not alone!

Bye!

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From: gpweasie

Email: [email protected]

Date: Wed Jan 7 01:00:48 1998

Believe it or not there are a few of us. I am not religious, I think everything up to the point is all

good, but I want my wife to be my one and only. Do you play tennis or golf by chance?

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From: _gigno_

Date: Tue Jan 6 23:24:33 1998

well I'm not a virgin but I sort of wish I was. The first time I had sex it did not mean anything, we

both just wanted to have sex. In fact I only made love to one women in my life. but she did not

feel the same. She just wanted sex.

I have used and been used so I know both sides of the story.

I don't think that I can wait till I'm married though, because I'm not going to get married. I have

friends that are , and they are not very happy. I really hope one day to find my one and only, but I

do not have much luck with relationships. Its like once you have sex with a person, everything

changes your friendship turns into something more. Then it turns into something else. Usually

something bad. In my case anyway. If I had to do it all again, I would not have had sex with them.

I do not see them at all anymore, and I miss them I miss thier friendship.

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From: SweetYoungGuy

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 22:57:43 1998

Hi there. Saw your ad and just thought I'd let you know that I feel the same way. I'm 23 and I

have NEVER been intimate with a woman before. I plan on staying a virgin until I'm married (only

the LORD knows when that'll be). I've had a few relationships, but in the end they always broke

my heart. Well, if you still want to talk, let me know.

Christopher

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From: Spirit_of_one

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 22:51:23 1998

Dear angel.....

Your ad caught my eye....I think that your beliefs are wonderful...and that you are a rare breed....I

would like to reassure that there guys out there who are caring enough to be virgins. Like me for

instance.....I have chosen not to sleep with any girls until I am married. I hope that you keep your

beliefs and NEVER let any guy take that away from you. I would love to hear from you....

Wes

1-513-231-0586

Cincinnati, Ohio

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From: techie70

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 22:13:06 1998

Hey!

I think that your attitude is great! there is absolutely nothing wrong with abstinence. Sex is a way

for two people who love each other to completely give themselves to one another after marriage.

too many people abuse it and it's now a thing for personal pleasure whereever and whenever.

It's great to see you thinking like this.

Hope to get a chance to talk to you.

bob

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From: Rev_Ron

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 20:21:31 1998

Hello:

I am writting you to say "GOOD JOB".

There are not any many who will take a stand like your and I am glad to see that:-)

I am to old but I just had to let you know I think waiting till your married is the right thing to do.

Good luck with your serch ;-)

Ron

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From: HappyHigh

Date: Tue Jan 6 20:14:52 1998

That's not crazy. I didn't wait I though I would but hey I made it till 22 and that's more than most

guys can say. I am going to marry her though. She's my best friedn and I couldn't imagine it being

any better than it is. Just be you though okay. Later

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From: vaald

Date: Tue Jan 6 18:57:18 1998

take the pill, make all men wear rubbers, dont fuck anyone you would not like your mother to

meet,(unless your drunk and really horny- it happens), quit worrying about this shit and have some

fun in life!!!!

spore

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From: at_1998

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 18:47:45 1998

I thought I'd write, because your beliefs are sound. I'm not a virgin, but I've only made love to one

women. She was my girlfriend for a long time, unfortunately it didn't work out. I strongly believe

you should love the person you share your body with. I know I'm not your type, but have faith,

there are plenty of guys out there who feel the same way you do. Good luck and Godspeed!

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From: udayton

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 17:58:29 1998

I'm still a virgin and it's not because I can't get any. I haven't met the right person that I share my

gift with. Sometimes I'm torned, because I'm 25 years old and still haven't found the right person.

I feel that I should be having sex but whenever the oportunity presents itself, I don't go through

with it. I think it's because it would be just sex, and that's not what I want. I want to make love,

and that takes time and commitment. I'm not sure if that means marriage, but some sort of love

and committment should be there. I thought I would just reply to your ad because it's a very good

question. There aren't many male virgins especially my age, and it can be very hard, but in the end

I know I'm doing the right thing.

George

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From: Nator24

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 17:49:44 1998

I agree wholeheartedly. I am glad that there are women like you in the world today. I am a

Christian, and I believe that not having sex until you are married is the only way to believe. I am

24 and still a virgin, and, like you said, chose to, not because I was forced to do so. I have even

had girlfriends who have offered, but still I refused. I just wanted you to know that I concur. Email

me and we can chat. Hope you have a great day.

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From: big00000_91

Date: Tue Jan 6 17:19:53 1998

well your right

and i belive as you do

i hope you are more lucky then i in finding

that spichal person

so very hard

one must wounder if its all worth it at times

but it may be true the best things comes to those who wate

best wishes

jay

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From: ladiesluv2i

Date: Tue Jan 6 17:01:50 1998

I have grown to believe that abstaining from intercourse is good and safe. Although I believe that

two people can share other fun which is fulfilling, fun, but yet still safe.

What are your thoughts on this?

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From: exorcir

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 16:45:11 1998

I was amaized to read your comments i thought that i was the only guy in thye world who stiil

thought that waiting for marrage was the right thing to do. I'm glad that ther actually are women

out ther who think that too, it's also nice to know that you are in Ohio to, btw i'm in Youngstown,

Hope to hear from you soon! @-->>--

Marc

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From: AttheMovies

Email: [email protected]

Date: Tue Jan 6 14:49:39 1998

Hi,

I am responding to your personal and yes there are still men out there who are virgins and think

that they should wait until marriage, becuase I am one of them. its kind of tough saying this

considering I am 24 years old, but I haven't found that right girl yet. To tell you a little bit about

me, I am a gentlemen, 5'7" with brown hair and brown eyes, 140 pounds, I live in the Cincinnati

area and have all of my life. I like reading, hiking, camping, writing and doing just about anything

else. If you would like to talk please email me at [email protected] and we can talk. Talk to you

soon.

Dave

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From: tsensure

Date: Tue Jan 6 14:49:19 1998

Yes. you found one. Please see my ad.

type Tsensure in the keyword box and click the search box.

Ron

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From: crazylegs_98

Date: Tue Jan 6 14:22:00 1998

They call me crazylegs.

I'm 20 years old.

I have been a christian for 6 years today.

I believe that there are some guys that are still virgins, I am myself. Not because I couldn't get any

but because I choose to keep it until I get married' for that is what the bibile says. I am sorry I

don't know my email address right now. because we just got the internet. I just have to get it off of

my aunt. but as soon as I get it I wi