Hello! Thankyou for visiting I have often wondered how much of a difference I could make for a parent. E-mails and even my guestbook has shown that it helps to know that we are not alone. As my son gets closer to adulthood, I have discovered alot about myself. The guilt that a parent feels when their child is mentally handicapped is horrendous. Randall has Oppositional Defiant Disorder, and the things he has done to the family, to the public, to school officials and students has led me a few times to just give up. I never could understand what I was doing wrong. Some blamed me, told me I couldn't treat him like the other kids, others said I spoiled him, or showed my fear too much. A judge told me I was not doing enough to keep him in line. He had second degree assault charges on him for beating up his little brother, the school had charges on him for hiding a purse some kid had stolen and paid him to hide. This teenager is 5"11 and 211 pounds, but I was not controlling him because I couldn't stop him from running away. I finally had him evaluated, I refused to put him in my car after the police picked him up for running away. He was on drugs and I had a note he wrote threatening to kill anyone that messed with him, and he even threatened to kill himself. He was evaluated and he was going to be put in a behavioral center, I was so relieved. After a 2 hour drive, they said they had no rooms available. I had to take him back to the crisis center he was staying at. He refused to go back indoors, he punched my car, threaten to run, then layed down on the ground and cried. He said I didn't love him. It was heart wrenching. But he remained there.
I want you to know, when he finally came home, he changed. This child looked at me and said "Mommy, it is time I started believing in God again, I have to go to church" He is going to church, he is not doing drugs anymore, he has not shown any violence. The child that once terrorized his family is now in therapy, and is trying hard to be good. He still has alot of issues, ODD along with the other mental health problems he has is very challenging for him and the whole family. We work together, and we will overcome this. My next hurdle is the school(every year it is a hurdle) If I can get them to try harder, I think I can get Randall to try harder. If you have a story you would like to share, or any questions or thoughts, please e-mail me. I would love to hear from you.
Momma Kitty
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