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Section 1 - Cunnilingus FAQ

Eating a woman's pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can do
for her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and of course it
makes her cum like crazy. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and
for most, it is the easiest way to cum with a man. You may have the
littlest dick on the planet, but if you give great head, you will be
appreciated as a fabulous lover. Yes, it's that important. Besides,
lots of women expect it these days - you might as well know what
you're doing. 

First off, guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship with
women's genitalia. Guys that can't wait to get their dick into one
are often reluctant to put their face "down there". For every guy
who says he loves to eat pussy, there's another one who's squeamish.
Women know this, and it affects their ability to lay back and enjoy
the experience. There is nothing more exciting to a woman than to
know that her partner finds her delicious. Don't be coy; tell her.
When a guy fingers a lady and then smells, licks, sucks the juice
off his finger and sighs as if in heaven, she knows this is her
lucky day. 

What if your sweet lady doesn't smell or taste very sweet? Don't
suffer. (Don't complain, either.) Take a nice hot shower or bath
together. Lather up both of your bodies and slide them together.
It's like a whole body fuck. Soap up her vulva, washing between her
outer and inner lips. Spread her lips apart and gently wash her
clitoris. Hey, don't stop - this feels great! Run your soapy hand
down the crack of her ass, and rub a finger all around her anus. You
can stick one finger in and wash around inside too, if you
anticipate any anal play, and I suggest you do. But don't put those
soapy fingers up her vagina. Instead, rinse them off well and stick
one or two inside, making a circular motion. Think about washing the
inside of a tall glass - same thing. Now wasn't that fun? And now
you can feel free to let your tongue wander anywhere it pleases... 

So now what? You've found a comfy spot to play, you've been kissing
passionately, your tongues darting around each other's mouths like
playful otters. You've moved down to nibble one of her hardening
nipples and she's starting to groan, grinding her pelvis against
your stomach. STOP. I know it was just starting to get good. But was
she really groaning and humping you, or was it your own excitement
you were detecting? I strongly prefer to be excited before a guy
starts plunging his tongue into my inner recesses. Use your
judgement, and kiss, lick, and fondle your way down her stomach, up
her thighs, until she's arching up her back trying to get you to eat
her. Of course, if she really was groaning and grinding, go for
it... I also don't particularly enjoy a guy endlessly nibbling my
inner thigh while my clit is quivering in anticipation. 

POSITIONS 

If the woman you are with is somewhat hesitant about your going down
on her, start off with her lying on her back, perhaps half-sitting.
Lay down between her legs, with her legs over your shoulders. She
may enjoy laying or sitting at the edge of the bed with you
kneeling. She can also straddle your face, but be prepared to get
very wet. There are endless varieties of positions where you can
press your face up to her cunt, some of which strike me as more
acrobatic than erotic, but feel free to experiment. And then there's
69... 

69 is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you both get
to enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head, simultaneously. The
upside down positioning of a woman's pussy and your mouth is an easy
fit and there's more room for your hands. On the negative side, it's
a less than ideal position for a woman to give head. Plus, if you
need to read this article, you may be better off concentrating your
energies on pleasing her, without too much distraction. But even for
experienced 69'ers, it's easy to short-change your partner. "It
feels soooo good, I'm just gonna stop for a second and concentrate
on what you're...aaaarrrgghhh". Get the picture? Some show of
will-power is in order. 

69 can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side. The
latter two are easier, though it's more restful with both partners
laying down. Some women love being licked on all fours, so if
female-on-top 69 drives her wild, take the hint and find some other
ways to eat her in this position. I happen to enjoy male on top, but
for many women this is a sure choking position. If a woman can, or
wants to try, to deep throat you, this is THE position. When her
head is thrust back you can really slide your cock all the way down
her throat. But don't forget what you're supposed to be doing! 

So there you are staring at it - the mysterious hole from whence you
came, and into which you hope to cum again... First, an anatomy
lesson... 

THE CLITORIS 

Before I go any further, a few words about the clitoris, accent on
the first syllable. Most of you know it, but for those who don't, it
is THE woman's sex organ, period. It may feel great to be fucked
vaginally, anally or otherwise, but if the stimulation is not right
there, on the clitoris, you're ignoring the place that's going to
make her cum, and presumably that's why you're reading this, right?
It's right there at the top juncture of her inner lips, a small knob
of pink flesh. This is where it's at boys, and don't forget it.
Almost any licking and sucking of the labia or vaginal entrance is
going to feel just dandy; just remember that this is pleasurable
teasing, not the main event. I can't tell you how many guys have
thrust their tongues up my vagina thinking that this was going to
make me cum. They were wrong. Of course, with a little manual
stimulation....but I'm getting ahead of myself. 

Women feel differently about how much direct stimulation they can
take on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on
their exposed clits, others will shriek in pain. You may encounter a
woman who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her
clit; the goal is still the same, but you'll have to stimulate it
indirectly, such as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what
is unacceptably rough at first may be fine after she's very excited.
The fact is, most women really need a good bit of stimulation before
a targeted attack on their clitoris, but once they're there, that's
where you want to devote your attention. 

The key here is go slow, ask questions, and if she's comfortable
with it, leave the lights on and really explore. Body language often
does tell what feels best, but I promise, she will appreciate your
attentiveness if you ask outright. If she seems shy, get her to
guide your hands and mouth with her own hand, and pay attention. If
she starts bucking up against your mouth and gasping in ragged
little breaths, for God's sake, don't use this opportunity to try
something different. Just keep doing exactly what you're doing. 

THE TONGUE 

I want to reiterate, there is almost nothing you can do that won't
feel terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be confused and
uncertain, but she's in heaven. Any licking and sucking of the
labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area is going to feel
just great, and I'd no sooner tell guys to "do it exactly like this"
than I would tell every chef to follow the same recipe. But for
those who are compelled to RTFM, here are a few techniques that you
might like to try: 


Try lapping her pussy from vaginal entrance up to her clit, leaving
your tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good way to start your
tonguing.  Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one
side, while holding the two together with your lips. Good job, now
do the other side.  Fuck her pussy with your tongue - in and out,
around and around, etc. This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible
or earth-shaking; nice.  Spread her outer lips with your hand. Then,
with your tongue pointed and stiff, gently flick here and there.
Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her clit. This drives
some women wild, and others can't take it. Some may prefer that you
always leave your tongue soft, so when you try this, pay attention
to whether those moans are ecstacy or pain.  The following
techniques should not be introduced until your partner is really hot
(i.e. she's no longer coherent). These are very intense actions
which may be "too much" for some women, even when nearing orgasm. 

With her clit still exposed, give it a quick little suck - pulling
it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like
licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels
incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel like torturing her
(see PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER below).  Take her exposed clit into
your mouth and gently (at first, anyway) suck on it, simultaneously
flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very
lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will
usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.  Another choice technique
involves rolling your tongue into a tube. If you can't do this with
your tongue, you can't learn it - it's genetic. For those who can,
this works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into
a tube around the shaft of her clitoris. Slide it up and down; in
effect, your tongue makes a tiny pussy for her clit to fuck. This
also is likely to bring her over the edge.  FINGERS Fingers are a
valuable adjunct to eating pussy. Most women masturbate by pressing
a finger or fingers over their clit, possibly "thru" the skin of
their inner or outer lips, and vigorously rubbing in a circular or
back-and-forth direction. You can do this too, and it is most
helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it
done. You will never be a good lover until you can bring your woman
to climax with your hands. When you fuck her from behind, or up her
ass, or really in any position which doesn't allow her to
simultaneously rub her vulva against your body, reach down or around
and rub her clit. I know it's distracting, but just do it anyway.
One important point to note: make sure that your fingers are well
lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and sometimes
downright painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across one's
clitoris. 

Of course, that's not all you can do with your fingers. One
technique which is very exciting is to spread her lips wide apart
with one hand, and with your index finger straight like a pencil,
flick the side of it rapidly across her clit. This motion alone will
often bring a woman to orgasm. Combining this with the addition of
some tongue action elsewhere is nothing short of bliss. 

Sticking one or more fingers inside her vagina is also wonderful.
You can simply move them in and out (this feels best with at least
two or three fingers, pushed in hard), or wriggling them around. A
particularly intense motion is to face your hand so that you have
two fingers inside her with your palm facing the front of her body.
Now move your fingers rapidly, as if waving hello. You are aiming to
stimulate a particular part of the woman's vagina - namely the lower
anterior (front) part. When combined with sucking her clit, this is
nearly certain to bring her to a fast and intense climax. 

An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one (and
later two) fingers inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons
area. I'm talking about that fleshy "mound" over her pubic bone.
Your finger goes in and out and the ball of your hand is pressed
hard against her vulva. You may want to rub or even shake the entire
area with your palm. 

Fingers also do nice things to tight little butt holes, but that's a
whole other story... 

ANAL PLAY 

This stuff is purely optional. If anal play doesn't turn you on,
don't do it. If you're uncomfortable, she'll pick up on your
feelings and start wondering if it's her pussy that's turning you
off. Don't feel that you can't be a good lover without anal play;
you can. 

Cleanliness is of the essence. (remember that nice soapy shower?)
Scoop out some luscious juices (from a very wet pussy) with your
finger and rub it around her anus. (If she isn't well lubricated,
saliva works too.) If that's all you or she feels comfortable with,
fine - it still feels great. But I think most women enjoy the feel
of a finger pushed up their ass while they're being fucked or eaten.
You need to be gentle, possibly even leaving your finger still. Try
moving it in and out a little, or around in a circle. If she starts
moaning, you know you're doing something right. 

It's really fun to feel a woman's anus rhythmically squeezing your
finger as she cums. (And it's great for her, too) You're probably
thinking about what that would feel like around your dick, and it's
something you should certainly explore. Ass-fucking is somewhat out
of the scope of this article, but suffice to say, if she doesn't
like a finger up her butt, she sure as hell won't want your big dick
up there. Even if she does enjoy this sort of play, she may still be
somewhat apprehensive about putting something so large up there. The
keys to success are sufficient (i.e. copious amounts of) lubrication
(a water-soluble type such as K-Y, which is safe for condoms),
relaxation on her part, and a slow, gentle, approach. She'll
certainly tell you if she wants you to thrust harder or deeper. And
remember, if you want to feel that delicious squeezing around your
cock, reach around and diddle that clit! 

As for anallingus - why not? Don't feel like you HAVE to do it to
satisfy your woman. But if the idea turns you on, great. Let your
tongue rove as it pleases. It's not necessary to actually put your
tongue inside her butt to stimulate the area. Back and forth, around
and around, you get the picture. 

One hygiene note: once that finger (or your penis) has been inside
her ass, don't even think about putting it anywhere else.
Carelessness in this regard can cause a horrendous infection. 

MENSTRUATION 

I haven't met a lot of men who are completely comfortable going down
on a woman when she has her period. But some are. Most women are at
their horniest before and sometimes during their period. You should
definitely find a way to make her cum when she's bleeding, be it
thru intercourse, manual, or oral stimulation. If you feel
comfortable going down on her, great. It's perfectly safe. You may
suggest that she insert a tampon, and then wash up. (As you now
know, you don't need to get anywhere near her vagina to make her
cum.) Or you could lay down a few old towels, turn out the lights,
and forget about it. 

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER 

I think variety is crucial. Some guy posted an article detailing a
road map of kissing and licking (first here, then here, etc.) Much
better to do the unexpected; sometimes a hungry, aggressive
approach, other times a laid-back, leisurely one. You can even even
include your nose, or your chin into the act. Start slow, that's the
key, and let your lover guide the speed of the crescendo. In all
cases, start gently. Roughness and clumsiness are big turn-offs. As
she gets more and more excited, pay more attention to her clitoris.
When she's three breathes away from cumming, moving your mouth off
or away from her clit is agony. That's fine if you're intentionally
torturing her, just understand that this is what you are doing. The
only prohibition is to be reasonably gentle with her clit. Nibbling
or biting is fine elsewhere, but we're talking about a sensitive
spot. 

Speaking of prolonging the agony... I think this is great fun. Bring
your partner just to the edge of orgasm, and stop. This is not easy
unless you really know your lover well. Instead, just have her help
you. Say, "Grab my head and stop me just before you think you're
gonna cum." Then take your sweet time. Blow on her clit, take it
into your mouth just briefly, flick it just the very slightest bit.
You will have this woman squirming and moaning like she's dying.
Finger her deeply, enjoy the ecstasy you are imparting, and finally,
have pity. Let the poor woman cum. 

UUUUNNNNGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! (or, I'M COMING!!!) 

Okay, she's practically suffocating you, she's pressed so hard
against your face; she's screaming and bucking up in the air; you
feel her pussy contracting wildly - how long should you keep it up??
The simple answer is, until she makes you stop. Some women may stop
you after five seconds from the start of their climax, others may be
able to roll right into another orgasm if you keep going. Do come up
for air, but remember, her excitement does not drop off as sharply
as yours does. Play it safe by continuing the stimulation. 

How many times does she need to cum? Some women are very content to
have one orgasm. A whole lot of women would really like to cum
again, but need about five minutes to recoup. Many women are so
sensitive right after they cum that they may push your head
violently away. This doesn't necessarily mean they've had enough,
only that you need to stop for a few minutes. In fact most women,
given a short rest between, are capable of cumming again and again.
A smaller percentage of women are able to cum repeatedly with
continued stimulation. This is the much-touted multiple-orgasm that
is experienced by a minority of women. I know this makes it
difficult to know when enough is enough, but there's a simple
answer: ask her. 

GODI'MSOEXCITEDITFEELSGREATBUTIJUSTCAN'TCOME 

It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment,
anxiety, or just an inability to "let go". What do you do about it?
The first question is, can she easily bring herself to a climax in
the privacy of her own home. If the answer is no - then she needs to
do some homework. There are two books on the subject that I know of:
For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach,
and Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving by Betty Dodson; pick up one.
Then tell her to read it, study it, and practice, practice,
practice! 

Now if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her point
blank: "Is there something different I can do?" Many women are shy
about criticizing their lovers, but if asked outright will surprise
you with a very specific answer. It may be a simple matter of
mechanics, like a little to right please, or not so rough, or more
pressure and faster. Ah... perfect. 

But suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're doing
everything right but she just can't cum. There are two probable
causes: selfconsciousness and/or self-loathing. For women who can't
help watching themselves, the best approach is to eliminate anything
that focuses her attention on what the two of you are doing. This is
a "be here now" kind of thing - definitely not an introspective
activity. Get that mirror off the ceiling. Dim the lights or turn
them off completely. Put on some soft music. Share a glass of port.
(I said A glass - getting drunk will definitely not help). Have her
lay on her back, or propped up comfortably with some pillows. This
is not the time for her to sit on your face, or the edge of the bed,
or standing up against a wall. Arrange a time when you can devote a
long period to eating her pussy, and then just keep it up. Forget
everything I said about asking her questions - just close your eyes
and get into it. I know this can be a difficult and exhausting
exercise, but she will be extravagantly thankful for your efforts.
It gets easier each time. If all else fails, get accustomed to
masturbating together. Gradually begin to add your stimulation to
her own, right before she's about to cum anyway. Over time, you can
take over completely. 

For women who themselves feel that their cunts are dirty or
distasteful, all of the above methods may be helpful, but the
underlying issue must also be addressed. I am amazed at how many
women are ambivalent about their own genitals. They don't love "that
part" of their body, and they can't believe that you would either.
Yes, it is important to be clean. But clean means a daily shower
which includes washing the vulva. It doesn't mean vainly attempting
to remove every trace of smell or taste. The natural fragrance and
secretions of a healthy woman are beautiful and erotic. Hopefully
you agree (and if not, try hard to cultivate this attitude). When
she learns to love her pussy, she will be infinitely more
comfortable with your loving it too. 



Section 2 - "How to Eat Pussy" 

Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat pussy
because there are too few of you out there. And I'm not the only
woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you guys who are giving it
the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little
lesson will help you out. When a woman finds a man who gives good
head, she's found a treasure she's not going to let go of too
quickly. This is one rare customer and she knows it. She won't even
tell her girlfriends about it or that guy will become the most
popular man in town. So, remember, most guys can fuck, and those who
can usually do it satisfactorily, but the guy who gives good head,
he's got it made. 

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you've got the
world's most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she's going to worry
about how you like her body. Tell her it's beautiful, tell her which
parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you
enough to let you down between her legs. 

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn't it? There is
nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I've
seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and
shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl's cunnie and some
have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested
in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz.
Appreciate your woman's unique qualities and tell her what makes her
special. 

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during
love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the
more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all
the time you're petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to
her about it. 

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her
inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of
her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all
different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It
doesn't mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means
is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin. 

Whenever you touch a woman's pussy, make sure your finger is wet.
You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure,
by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn't
have any juices of it's own and it's extremely sensitive. Your
finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts. But you don't
want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before
she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled. 

Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be
teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick
it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come
dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate
it. 

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face
into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down
on it to further excite her. After you've done this to the point
where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she's straining to
get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of
her slit. 

Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her
pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down
between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with
your hands. Everything you do with a woman you're about to eat must
be done gently. 

Tongue-fuck her. This feels define. It also teases the hell out of
her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check
it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it's
covering. If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be
waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up tot he top of
her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it's
presence. But even if you can't feel the tiny pearl, you can make it
rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press
into her skin. 

Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the
clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her
legs to shudder. When you sense she's getting up there toward
orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth.
Start to suck gently and watch your lady's face for her reaction. If
she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even
harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the
tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don't fight her. Hang
on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what
she'll be saying too: 'Don't stop. Don't ever stop!' 

There's a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with
cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth
learning to do well. I know a man who's a lousy fuck, simply lousy,
but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble
getting a date. Girls are falling all over him. 

But back to your pussy eating session...There's another thing you
can do to intensify your woman's pleasure. You can finger-fuck her
while she's enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, curing or
after. She'll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones
surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area
at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when
you're fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from
your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking. 

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and
therefore can't get deep enough. Make sure they're wet so you don't
irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little
faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she
does. Listen to her breathing. 

She'll let you know what to do. If you're sucking her clit and
finger-fucking her at the same time, you're giving her far more
stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So
you can count on it that she's getting high on this. If there's any
doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may
have one who's nipples get hard when she's excited or only when
she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to
tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive
lover. 

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go
of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to
come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the
underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your
tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them
a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just
now. 

If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this
way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she's had an
orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The
potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do
you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms
to? She'd be yours as long as you wanted her. 

The last advice I have for you is this: After you've made her come,
make her your slave by giving her the best head she's ever had,
don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress
her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all
the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath
and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature
requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments
after sex. 

Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have.
But it's what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay
attention to your lover's signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.





Section 3 - "Female Oral Sex Techniques"

TASTE: 

In my experience, one of the main reasons that partners avoid female
oral sex is due to a percieved or even experienced poor taste. While
it is true that women run the range from pleasant (tasty!) to sour
or uric tasting, there are easy steps to ensure that your partner
will be tasting her sweetest. 

First and most obviously, a good vigorous shower will do much to
neutralize the taste of your partner. In fact, oral sex in the
shower, while not a favorite method of mine, has a completely
neutral taste if you stick to the upper regions of your partner's
sex. If your partner has not showered recently, or has physically
exerted herself recently, her taste will be much stronger. This,
however, can be a good thing! 

Secondly, foreplay will improve upon both the taste and the
experience in general if your can get her juices flowing. I have
never found an extremely aroused, wet woman to taste unpleasant.
Quite the contrary! 

FOREPLAY: 

Do it! Take your time! Have fun! Experiment! A common male
misunderstanding is that females are aroused most through physical
contact. Not true. I have aroused women greatly simply by acting
sexy. Tension is a wonderful tool, use it. If you can build tension
to the point where the barest touch sends electric shivers through
both of you, you can't lose! Similarly, even the best love
techniques will not turn on a woman who isn't in the mood. (If you
can get her in the mood, well then you're talking.) 

Take your time, explore your partner (there's a lot more there than
nipples and a clitoris!), build tension, have fun. 

POSITIONS: 

There are two basic positions that I have found very versitile and
succesful. For a very comfortable session, have her lie on her back
with legs spread and knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach
between her legs, put your right arm under her left leg and your
left arm under her right - somewhat of an intimate hug. Now you
should find your head situated conveniently and comfortably near the
center of your attention. 

Less comfortable, but a bit wilder is the following. Lie on your
back, prop a couple of pillows (or fold one over) under your head.
Have your partner kneel facing you with one knee on each side of
your head, above your shoulders. The sexy part of this position
(IMHO) is that your partner can look down at you and watch you
eating her out. (Yum) Versatility and comfort are reduced for the
giver, so I only occasionally partake in this position. 

These are by no means the only positions. Again, experiment, have
fun. If you can find a bed where your partner can lie down with her
legs dangling off the bed and resting flat on the floor, you're in
luck. Now you can have her sit just at the edge of the bed, lie
back, and give you plenty of access while you kneel/sit in front of
her sex. 

GEOGRAPHY: 

Woman are very different in some respects of their genitalia, but
the major parts are the same. A woman's sex from the oral sex point
of view consists of two sets of lips (outer and inner) that meet
just below the vaginal opening and some variable distance above the
clitoris; the vaginal opening (immediately above the nether meeting
of above-mentioned lips), a smooth section of skin between the
vaginal opening and the clitoris (I have no clue as to its technical
name, hereafter it will be refered to as the "scav") and the
clitoris and its surrounding folds. 

If you get the chance, explore your partner in a location with
decent lighting. Use your hand to spread her sex and explore her,
find out what's where and what's what. Like I said earlier, women
are different. Especially the location and shape of the clitoris. It
can be buried, protruding, surrounded by many folds of flesh, or
hanging out it the open. The best method I have found for finding
your partner's clitoris (If all else fails, ask!), is to place a
finger at the very base of her sex and gently run it up her scav
until you feel a slight bump. That's it. 

OK, ENOUGH OF THE DETAILS, NOW THE NITTY-GRITTY: 

So your partner is showered, excited and feeling sexy. It's the big
moment, what to do? Don't simply dive in. Take your time, excite
her. In my opinion, I can usually tell how good my partner is at
oral sex by how she "goes down" on me. By "going down" I mean the
process by which she goes from kising my lips to sucking
oh-so-wonderfully on my sex. 

Depending on your partner, different methods of going down will work
more effectively. If you've gotten to this point with your partner,
you should have a fair idea of what she likes. Take advantage of
that knowledge. One thing that I highly recommend however, is a sexy
look. Sexy looks can make all the difference, and the best place to
throw one in is as you're licking, sucking and kissing your way down
her stomach stop, look up and smile devilishly. 

Unbutton your partners jean's, pull the tabs back and kiss her newly
exposed flesh. Unzip her pants, pull the tabs back as far as they
can go and place light, tender kisses on her abdomen and around the
top of her panties. Watch it, some women are very ticklish here! 

(Note the above doesn't work so well if she doesn't have jeans on
but you're all smart enough to figure it out...) Once you've removed
everything but her panties, stop. You have a unique opportunity for
further arousal. Kiss her legs and inner thighs with gentle kisses.
Work your way up each leg and make a point of stopping at the line
of her underwear. Kiss again along the top of her underwear, and
along the other two borders. 

Now move to her cotton (silk? lace? latex?) covered sex. Plant firm,
dry kisses through her underwear on her sex, low and right around
the vaginal entrance works best for me. If your partner is really
excited, often her underwear will be damp and will smell
(pleasantly) of her sex. 

Removing the underwear is again a matter of choice. You know your
partner best, I prefer either gently sliding it all the way off with
my fingers, or pulling it part way down with my teeth first. 

DIRECT KISSING: 

It is not unusual for your partner's lips to be closed together. A
very excited woman's lips may be slightly spread allready
("pouting"). Again, building tension can be accomplished by light
kisses on either side of her sex as well as light blowing. (Do not
inflate your partner! This can be very dangerous!!) Spreading her
lips can be accomplished by placing your tongue first at the base of
her sex, and then firmly running your tongue all the way up.
Continue with a few long licks from the base of her sex all the way
to the top past her clitoris. Vary the firmness of your tongue from
hard and pointed to broad and soft. 

THE BIG "O": 

The best and most proven method of making your partner cum through
oral sex is by repeated, rythmic stroking of her clitoris with your
tongue. The tongue is uniquely suited for this purpose because of
it's texture, versatility, and pliability. It is difficult (and
tiring) to apply too much pressure to your partner's clitoris. Some
women are much more sensitive than others however. Be receptive to
any sharp gasps, you could be being too affectionate. If this is the
case, move away from direct contact or adopt a gentler technique. 

Repeated, rythmic stroking can be accomplished in a variety of ways.
I prefer either rapid, repeated verticle licks with a firm, pointed
tongue, or planting your tongue firmly against your partner's
clitoris and vigorously shaking your head back and forth. (Tiring,
maybe. But it's worth it!) If you are having trouble finding the
correct angle or method for rhythmically lingually carresing her
clitoris, or if you want to try something fun and new: 

Toungue the abc's. No seriously! This is a great oral excercise on
any part of the body. Toungue the abc's starting with lower case,
and moving though upper case. (Heck, you could do the whole ANSI
ASCII set if you'd like!) Be especially perceptive while you do
this, vary your speed and watch for sharp intakes of breath -
chances are you've hit the right angle. The abc's give a large
variety of different strokes, so come back to this excersize as
often as you'd like. 

A general rule of thumb (tongue?) is to start slow and pick up the
pace as you go along. This is definately a general rule though, feel
free to break it by varying your rhythm, both slowly and predictably
as well as quickly and startlingly. 

OTHER FUN THINGS TO DO: 

Lick between the inner and outer lips; penetrate the vagina deeply
(a much stronger, iron-like taste here); "tease" the entrance to her
vagina with rapid pokes of your toungue at varying depths; don't
forget your hands, often a woman will feel a need or ache for
something inside of her while very aroused, oblige her with a finger
or two. Both kissing and manually manipulating your partner is
tough, anyone with succesful methods is welcome to pipe in. 

Talk to your partner, ask her what she likes. Experiment (if you
can) with many different partners. What excites one woman a lot may
not excite another as much, but may still be well worth trying. On
the other hand, you may not notice a subtle pleasurable technique on
one woman that can be easily learned on another. The better you know
your parnter, the more effectively you can please her. Have fun! 

A FINAL NOTE: 

I tried to be a lot less pretentious than the male version of this
article for a few reasons. The major one is that women are very
different, the above suggestions may work wonderfully with one woman
and so-so with another. Some women simply aren't responsive to oral
sex due to strong moral constraints. Secondly, I am not an expert,
though I love oral sex and have had the joy of pleasuring 10-20
women. Third, I am still young (18) and have a lot to learn. 

So feel free to comment on what you've read (men and women) and
reply either over the net or to me personally. Thanks. Hope you
found this helpfull and enjoy! 




Section 4 - from the alt.sex FAQ 

Q. What is cunnilingus? 

Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vagina with your
mouth and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience,
practice, and dedication to get it right, but any woman you learn to
do it right for will appreciate you all the more for it. 

What applies to the penis applies to the vulva-- every one is
different, requiring a different touch to make its owner happy. But
few tools can equal the tongue for the amount of pleasure it can
deliver to a happy vagina. 

This article assumes that you know what a vulva looks like and can
identify with some precision the mons veneris, labia majora,
clitoral hood, clitoris, labia minora, urethra, vagina, and
perineum, to name them (approximately) from top to bottom. 

Q. How fast should I go? 

This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a fireman
attacking a fire. Quite often at first, the clitoris is far too
sensitive for direct stimulation. Lick around it, stimulating the
hood, teasing her inner labia, tasting her. Take your time and
listen to her. Some women make noise, and some do not. It will be a
while before you learn exactly what your lover prefers as far as
oral sex is concerned. 

Some women may like additional stimulation-- a finger or two into
the vagina, or perhaps even the anus. She may want your hands to
reach up and play with her breasts, or she may want your fingers to
hold her labia apart so that your tongue can get at her vulva more
directly. 

Q. I've heard cunnilingus doesn't taste good. 

If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her to wash
first. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina
is a good, if acquired, taste. 

As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation.
In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing
climax-- but there shouldn't be a rush to get there. Take your time
and learn to appreciate what you can do for her. 

Q. What about cunnilingus during menstruation? 

Some people are particularly turned off at the suggestion of
cunnilingus during menstruation. If it is a concern to you, then
wait. A tampon may well hold the blood back, as will a diaphragm,
but some men can't stand the taste anyway. If your partner is
healthy, however, there is no particular danger in menstrual blood,
and some women find that orgasms during their periods allievate
cramps.



Section 5 - by Dryadae (copyright 1995 by Karen Chapdelaine) 

In my experience, when you try to explain to a man "in the moment"
that he is doing oral sex (or sometimes anything) wrong, often the
result is a disaster. You aren't into it, because you are trying to
direct, and I guess for many guys it comes off as simply insulting.
It isn't a very "supportive process," to borrow a friend's
phraseology. 

Example: "No, not there,...there..." (Quizzical looks, no change in
behavior.) 

Now, if you go looking for diagrams of women's vaginas, you will
find yourself either looking at medical textbooks or special
references, such as Our Bodies, Ourselves --- which, is presented as
a "for women only" sort of thing. The original edition even gave
this little rap to men about not buying it "for" women. Yeesh! Good
book, but talk about "attitude." The new edition has thankfully
dropped this negative proscription. 

You will sometimes NOT even find a clear picture of a woman's vagina
in a general sex reference, such as the original The Joy of Sex. And
you won't find a discussion of the parts of the vulva in most
places. Now, go look for a picture of a man's penis that is
reasonably edifying, and you'll find them all over. I only
discovered this when I tried to look it up, and since I had never
purchased Our Bodies, Ourselves, I was SOL (corrected that,
recently). I however, and all women, have a ready-made "reference
manual," provided we have gotten over the idea, or never had it,
that looking at it will somehow be a "bad thing." Men don't have
this reference manual readily "at hand," at least if their partner,
if they have one, is not immediately available and cooperative. 

I have also read, and just reread, the Cunnilingus FAQ. Though it
seemed excellent in terms of mood, style of approach, all the
"beginning" stuff, I found when I applied her technique suggestions
to me and my experience as a recipient, or my experience as a giver,
it was a bit short on specifics. I am sure the described approach
works very well for the woman who wrote it :), but I have a few
things that seem unsaid. 

So, you have gone through all the beginning motions, taking a
reasonable amount of time, and you are starting to "get down to
business." First, PLEASE turn on the lights. Working in the dark is
for experts at best. I am assuming you are sitting between her legs,
facing her, or some variation on this. Now really LOOK at what is
there. Where her hair is (or was, some people shave) is the mons
veneris, the pubic mound. If she is not aroused, everything is
likely, but not guaranteed, to be enclosed within the outer lips or
labia majora, the edges of the pubic mound that comes together to
enclose her vulva. 

As you spread this apart (she can bring her knees up and out, and/or
you can use your hands), you will now see the inner folds of skin of
the vulva, the inner lips or labia minora. These (usually) go all
around the vaginal opening, and come in a variety of interesting and
pleasing shapes and textures. 

As you observe that this encircles the vaginal opening, at the top
of this you will find what might look like a button or might look
like a very tiny penis, covered by an additional flap of skin. The
flap of skin is the "hood" of the clitoris, and is very sensitive,
as is the clitoris. This is the female equivalent of the male
foreskin, though it is much looser than that corresponding organ. 

If you see what looks like a button underneath the hood, then what
you are seeing is the glans of the clitoris, exactly equivalent to
your own penis glans, or head of the penis. If you see a bit more
than that, then there is probably some of the shaft of the clitoris
extending in your partner. I stress this since most men would not be
particularly enthused by a blow job that only gave attention to
their penis head and extended not a centimeter below there. Many
might find it annoying or even painful, depending on how rough their
partner is with them and how sensitive they are to pain in that
area. However, told "give attention to the clitoris," by fable and
book, many brave soldiers run to do battle on the field of their
woman's desires with their tongue, only to find their partner is
telling them to please stop, it hurts, or it doesn't do anything for
me. This may or may not be a comment on your technique, some women
don't like oral sex. I would just like to suggest an approach that
probably has a higher average success rate. 

The shaft of the clitoris is attached internally, back into the body
of the woman. Pressure on the spot above the glans and underneath
the hood will generally give you access to the part of the shaft
equivalent to the part of your penis that is towards your body,
whereas underneath the glans will give you access to the part of the
shaft that is equivalent to the part of your penis that is away from
your body. It is likely that the skin directly below the glans will
be functionally equivalent to what is for most men the most
sensitive and pleasurable part of the penis for play, and the inner
vaginal lips are also usually quite sensitive "in a good way." Going
down/in/back, you may or may not see the urethra, if you do this is
the location of the grafenberg spot (g-spot), which we have all
heard on this newsgroup is quite varied in response, some women love
stimulation there, others do not. Try licking your tongue around
there, if it is visible, and see, in the course of your
"investigations." 

O.K., so now you have the picture. You did trim/file your nails
first, didn't you? Play with your hands, play with your mouth, go
all over, gently at first, increasing stimulation and focus as her
body responds, and coming in "closer on" the clitoral area as she
becomes more aroused. Lick, suck, point your tongue and apply
pressure, use it like a "miniature penis" under the glans,
penetrating her as you go, make little circles with your tongue,
lick up and down along the skin in front of the clitoris, up and
down the inner vaginal lips, etc. These are ideas, find some others,
listen to her responses and comments. Remember to GO SLOW --- I
believe impatience and expectations of quick response are "generally
recognized as" the most common error in sexual encounters.
Eventually the clitoris will become probably become erect, and
stimulation that is "more direct" (like enclosing your mouth on the
area and gently sucking) will stimulate a sufficient amount of the
organ in question to be interesting. Watch what you are doing, and
what happens, the entire area will become "engorged" and swollen if
things are proceeding closer to orgasm. 

Some women may not, or may prefer not, to orgasm this way. Most will
probably, however, enjoy the experience a great deal. Hopefully this
"explanation and comparison" to the corresponding male body parts
will allow you to not be (still) in the dark with the lights on.