| The Awakening |
For all of U/us, discovery of the lifestyle and O/our �awakening� , only leads to more questions. For some, the first question may be�.�What am I, Dom/me or sub?�. This can be a troubling question, for it defines who and what W/we are. It is the label W/we choose for O/ourselves, and although the discovery of the lifestyle may speak to newly found needs, the question may remain as to which role, Dominant or submissive, that is right for Y/you.
In seeking that answer, I find two potential bumps in the road. First is that the feeling of excitement at discovering the lifestyle may become overwhelming, and W/we may feel the desire to make hasty, uninformed decisions. The truth of the matter is that the answer has already been determined. Y/you are what Y/you are. Always have been. The journey Y/you�re on now is one of self-discovery. Looking within Y/yourself to find the answers that only Y/you possess.
Finding answers implies having questions. And Y/you can ask Y/yourself many questions about what Y/you see and learn about. About what interests Y/you, what excites Y/you, and even what turns Y/you off. Additionally, people Y/you meet that may be knowledgeable in the lifestyle may help in asking the questions to which Y/you can find answers.
And that brings Me to the second bump in the road as Y/you determine who and what Y/you are. Please, don�t fall prey to those that TELL Y/you what Y/you are. A common theme on this website will be the fact that it is Y/your life. It�s personal and unique to Y/you. Don�t let O/others live it for Y/you. Find Y/your O/own answers, that work for Y/you as an individual.
The most common falsehood is fed to submissives that are �spirited�, independent and opinionated. I hope not to be the first to tell Y/you that those qualities do NOT make O/one a Dominant, or preclude O/one from being submissive. That is just Y/you, as an individual. And the person telling Y/you that those qualities are not �submissive� qualities is simply expressing T/their personal taste in the qualities T/they find attractive in a submissive.
It simply reinforces the need for strong communication, for sharing and questioning, before finding a partner. Finding S/someone that values and seeks the qualities Y/you possess is called compatibility. Compatibility in needs, desires, lifestyle, and personality. One Dominant may desire a submissive that is meek and mild. The next may value independence and a strong spirit.
The trick is to be Y/yourself. Know Y/yourself. There will be S/someone that values Y/you for Y/you.
Rover
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