| My Personal Rules In A 24/7 Relationship |
I have shared bits and pieces of My personal house rules at various times, both publicly and privately. On several occasions I�ve been asked to post them, but have been reluctant to do so for two reasons.
First, these are My personal rules. Unique to Me. A submissive that enters into a 24/7 relationship with Me must negotiate these rules to O/our mutual satisfaction, and make her own contributions. These rules are NOT for E/everybody. They are not universal, and I don't want to give A/anyone that impression.
The other reason for My reluctance is that the process of developing Y/your set of personal house rules is just as important as the rules themselves. Much like a list of expectations, it is that introspection and self examination that helps Y/you to recognize what Y/you truly need. Simply copying what Y/you find elsewhere does nothing to help Y/you look inside Y/yourself. However, many have suggested that this could be a framework for their own house rules. And so, I present them.
submissive�s Rules
1. The D/s litmus test of �safe, sane and consensual� shall govern any and all D/s or BDSM activities.
2. The submissive is not responsible for rules that can not reasonably be known to her, or have not been expressly contained within the rules. Questions regarding this matter shall be mutually agreed upon.
3. The submissive should expect a reasonable explanation of any rule or discipline.
4. The submissive shall have an opportunity to participate in all matters, including her discipline, rules and education. Final decisions still rest with Master.
5. The submissive shall not lie.
6. The submissive shall not withhold information, which is a form of lying.
7. The submissive is ultimately responsible for her own safety and well being, and shall bring to the attention of Master any and all matters that concern her. See withholding information.
8. The submissive shall NOT consider �Nothing� as an appropriate response to �What�s wrong?�
9. The submissive shall not talk back to Master.
10. The submissive shall be respectful at all times.
11. The submissive shall not manipulate Master, or any situation, in order to achieve her own personal objectives.
12. The submissive�s clothing is subject to the inspection and approval of Master.
13. The submissive shall respond with �Yes, Master� to all requests made by Master. (See "The Three Phases of a Dominant" to understsand that I am not always in "Master" phase)
14. The submissive shall execute and complete all requests made by Master in the manner and time frame He sets forth, and agreed upon by the submissive.
15. The submissive shall discuss with Master all decisions of any significance.
16. The submissive shall recognize that Master makes the final decision on all matters.
17. The submissive shall have a question and answer period each day in which she may feel free to bring any matters to Master�s attention that she wishes.
18. The submissive shall submit a journal entry to Master each day.
19. The submissive shall not fear discipline from any matters contained in her journal.
20. The submissive is always to act in a manner that reflects positively upon her Master.
21. The submissive, in Master�s absence, shall always behave in a manner that best exemplifies what she knows to be Master�s wishes.
22. The submissive shall be responsible for the timely completion of any assignments designed to promote learning or growth, or used as a discipline. A reasonable time will be mutually agreed upon for each.
23. The submissive shall provide Master with a weekly schedule of activities. This schedule need not include every detail (ie: going to the store) but should reasonably reflect her weekly commitments.
24. The submissive shall not misuse her safe word. It is appropriately used only at times in which she feels her personal safety, either physical or mental (including fear), is compromised.
25. Daily customs shall be developed that are mutually gratifying and agreed upon.
26. The submissive shall indicate her desire or readiness for sexual contact in one of several ways that are acceptable to Master. This includes, but is not limited to, assuming a position of submission; voice and eye contact; mutually agreed upon physical contact.
27. The submissive is to remember that Master works out of His home, and that time spent working is a necessity. It does not reflect a lack of desire or interest in His submissive.
28. The submissive shall not take it upon herself to protect Master in any way. This does not prohibit her from defending Him to O/others.
29. The submissive shall retain ownership to all toys, and be responsible for their care, upkeep and cleanliness.
30. The submissive shall refrain from using profane language at all times.
31. The submissive shall not run away, literally or figuratively, from problems or discussions. Particularly those involving Master.
32. The submissive shall have a Mentor, to whom she can turn to for a second opinion, or questions relating to Master.
Master�s Rules
33. The D/s litmus test of �safe, sane and consensual� shall govern any and all D/s or BDSM activities.
34. Master shall not exceed any limit as established by the submissive.
35. Master shall honor the submissive�s safe word at all times. Even if used in an inappropriate manner, it shall be honored, then discussed and a discipline meted out if necessary.
36. Master shall be responsible for the continued education and growth of His submissive, and shall inquire of her from time to time as to her satisfaction with her personal development, and growth within the lifestyle.
37. Master shall protect His submissive in every way. This protection does not extend to areas that may inhibit her growth.
38. Master shall fully inform the submissive of any new D/s or BDSM activity, and offer her an opportunity to ask questions. she must be fully informed in order to offer consent.
39. Master shall not inhibit His submissive�s growth in any way. He shall not stifle her independence, self reliance, or personal growth.
40. Master shall support and encourage the submissive in any endeavor that fulfills her. This shall include interests, hobbies, career, etc.
41. Master shall never discipline out of anger. Only out of love, and the desire for His submissive to learn and grow.
42. Master shall not humiliate or otherwise demean His submissive for His personal, exclusive enjoyment.
43. Master shall not lie. However, He may determine what information and what matters to share with His submissive. This does NOT extend to a right to mislead or obfuscate.
44. Master must fully listen to and consider all requests or opinions of His submissive. He shall make Himself available to her as needed, and shall listen completely without prejudice.
45. Master shall periodically question His submissive with sufficient diligence to determine her state of mind, happiness and sense of self worth.
46. Master shall not forget that D/s is a mutually gratifying lifestyle, and the continued pleasure and happiness of His submissive is equally important as His own.
47. Master shall be the authority to initiate all sexual contact.
THE HOUSE
48. Clothes are to be put away when removed, unless sex is involved.
49. Laundry is put away when completed.
50. Cars are to be in the garage each night, with the doors down.
51. Cars are to be kept clean and orderly.
52. Household chores are not the duty of the submissive. A fair and equitable distribution of household chores will be mutually agreed upon.
53. When online, Master and His submissive shall always use T/their approved nics, and shall never enter chat rooms in disguise. The only exception to this rule will be by informed mutual consent.
Rover
Copyright 2000
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