Psych 101: A Beginner's Guide To Interpersonal Psychic Etiquette and Ethics
Quick Rules of Etiquette
It is much more challenging and difficult to behave ethically and sensitively in a relationship which has a psychic connection than otherwise. It is hard work to control your thoughts, and even harder to try to behave yourself in your dreams. Personally, I don't know that it is always possible, but here are a few things you can try that sometimes help.
Pay attention. If you think you might have psychic gifts, you have an implied duty to learn how to use your talents to, at a minimum, avoid injuring yourself or others. The best way to learn, in the absence of a good teacher, is by really paying attention to patterns in your own life. I admit, it isn't a perfect way to learn, and you are pretty sure to make mistakes along the way, but you work with what is available to you. I have given some clues throughout these pages of ways in which people might behave around you if there is a problem. Watch for those and other seemingly inconsistent or irrational interactions that DO make sense when you add in the psychic element.
Volume control. Some psychic couples have a somewhat constant connection, however they may not have equal abilities. One partner is likely to be a stronger projective, and the other a stronger receptive. This imbalance may require adjustments, or the relationship may end up with one partner cutting it off simply to retain their sanity. The constant connection can range from the psychic equivalent of walking along gently holding hands to a forceful powerful drain. The latter can feel (to the more receptive partner) as if they are living with their skin off, are going mad, don't know their own thoughts from those of the other person, or have no privacy even in the bathroom. This is NOT pleasant! There are obvious reasons in the latter example for why real honest-to-God verbal communication may be necessary to clarify and set limits even in a psychic partnership.
Knock first. If you make a point of thinking about someone before going to bed for the night, there is a significantly increased chance of dreamwalking. If they aren't expecting you, then this is just as rude as knocking on their door at two AM. Depending on what you DO in their dreams, it can be much ruder! Don't be surprised if you are not welcomed.
Go away, if asked. If you are having trouble staying away from someone in your dreams, here are some ideas to try. First, do something utterly fascinating before you go to bed, something which occupies your whole attention. Have friends over and play games, watch television, or the old standby, READ. Try praying or reading the Bible, or reading something related to your work, your favorite mystery author. The key to making this work is that whatever you do, it must be utterly fascinating and occupy your attention. Read something that completely occupies your mind, and as you drop off to sleep think about that story or tale. If you focus on healthy thoughts, you have a better chance of succeeding, at least a portion of the time. If all else fails, try the Rainbow Shell, or your preferred method of "setting wards". If you are focused on not letting something else in, you won't be getting out either.
Sex. Never, ever, ever have sex or masturbate while thinking of or focusing on any person to whom you believe you may have a psychic connection. This can be a psychic equivalent of rape, and can be quite disconcerting or distressing to the recipient. Unless, of course, the person is participating and reciprocating in a consensual fashion.
