The Rules of Common Courtesy

What is courtesy? In its simplest form, it is treating those around you with respect and in a well-bred manor that you would care to be treated in while adhering to the social norms of your society, to this we also add, that you act, speak and live in a Christ like manner that is worthy of a noble of The Royal Order of Chivalry.

To this end, every Maiden is required to memorize the 5 rules of Courtesy and be able to explain what each rule entails. A Maiden�s adherence to these rules will be observed by various members at any and all times. A Maiden can be required an additional three months of Maiden service should it be determined by the Head of the Household that said Maiden has failed to apply these rules to her life.
    1. Give preference to others.
      A. If two people arrive at a door at the same time, give men the chance to be a gentleman by opening door.
      B. If items are offered of varying size or quality, do not rush to grab the largest or finest, but rather allow others to select first.

    2. Speak with respect, grace and purity.
      A. Speak respectfully.
      Use �yes sir, no sir, yes ma�am, no ma�am,� when speaking to those who are of senior age or position, whether in the home, school, church, or place of employment.
      B. Speak graciously.
        (1) Let your comments be kind and generous. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Do not gossip, backbite or slander. If you don�t have something nice to say, don�t say anything.
        (2) Avoid the urge to take �take shots� or �cut� someone down.
        (3) If you must disagree with someone, make your point and leave it at that. Avoid public arguments. Some things are best handled in private.
      C. Speak purely.
      Avoid all crude, lewd or ungentle comments and subjects. Sexual jokes, gestures, or innuendoes are never in order.

    3. Listen attentively.
      A. Look into the face or eyes of those you speak with.
      B. Listen, don�t dominate the conversation.
      C. Listen, don�t interrupt. Wait for an appropriate break in the conversation.

    4. Look at others respectfully, graciously and purely.
      A. Respectfully look into another�s eyes or face when speaking with them or listening. (Don�t daydream)
      B. Graciously overlook others� blemishes, handicaps, mistakes, blunders and slips.
      C. With purity turn your head or eyes from staring at a gentleman�s backside or provocative apparel or situations.

    5. Be a lady at all times.
      A. A lady should always:
        (1) Dress modestly as to not attract scoundrels.
        (2) Give men the chance to be a gentleman by holding a chair to sit on, accepting an arm offered as an escort, and by allowing a gentleman to defend your honor in a non-violent manner, such as rebuke or leaving.
        (3) Slam the door shut to any sexual advances. (A Gracious rebuke is appropriate for an initial advance, after that put the �crude peasant� in his place.)
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