Present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. -Romans 12:1b
Imagine, on your wedding day, you see yourself walking down the aisle with someone who can say, "I have waited all my life for this day and I have reserved all of me for you ... and you alone." How good would it feel if your conscience was clear and you could say the same thing back, "I have saved all of me for you too. Only you."
Porn, undressing with your eyes, lusting, flirting, dressing sexy, holding hands, petting, kissing, cuddling, 2nd base, 3rd base, intercourse, dating without the intent to marry, all diminish your purity. All sexual and intimate desires are for you to reserve for your spouse alone. Wouldn't you love it if your future spouse thought of you and preserved him/herself for you and you alone? or if your spouse was never involved with any other but waited their whole life for you only?
Although you may not care now, you will as you get older. Say that your purity is like an apple. The more you take a bite out of your
purity apple, the less you'll have to give to your future spouse. For those who have been saving their purity for that special one and only, do not ever give in to a short-term pleasure that you'll regret someday. For others, although you may have given off pieces of
your purity, Jesus can make you pure again, as if you have never sinned. You can walk down that aisle and
look into your future spouse's eyes and say, "I am whole pure and maintained my purity for you
alone." How? When you receive Jesus into our heart and ask for forgiveness, Jesus takes your past and erases them, as if you have not sinned. They are all forgotten. Not only are they forgotten, you are a completely different person. You are no longer a worldly sinner, but you are a forgiven sinner. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, "If anyone comes with Christ, he is a new creature; old things are past away and behold, all things are become new. " When you come to God, and ask for forgiveness and repent from your sins, your sins both past and future are cleansed. Even virgins aren't as clean without the complete cleansing of Jesus Christ. But anyone who begins a new life in Christ is born again and can start anew, as if they have never sinned.
God values your purity as well as your future spouse. For when you die, all you who will meet Him in heaven will come home to Him like a bride. "Nothing means more to a husband than a wife that maintained her physical boundaries." -Jeremy Clark author of I Gave Dating A Chance. Humans are more likely to loose their purity, because of sin. But a life in Jesus Christ will keep one pure physically, spiritually, mentally, and subconsciously. All these is what God plans your sexual relationship to be. A preacher had a child who soley, and continuously thought of the future spouse. This person
maintained purity by not getting into the dating game, knowing that God will provide her with that special one. This person did not get involved with the dress-to-impress gear but wore jogging pants, baggy gear, etc. modest gear.
Even in college, this person maintained. This person became friends with someone who eventually
married with. Because of the value this person had, the spouse highly valued this pure person. Just remember, 2 Timothy 2:22 says, "Flee youthful lust." Of all the sins, this is one sin that you must not only not do, but avoid altogether. Phil 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
Dating is not bad, but it will be easier to maintain purity without it. God can use dating to help you find "The one." Always, ask God for direction and He will no doubt reveal what He wants for you to do. Just maintain all aspects of Holiness. Praise God that God forgives and forgets. Peace to my peoples and God bless.
