| Abortion |
| This matter has in the past personally effected me. I had a friend, which most people who visit this site don't know, so I won't give her name, who recently got pregnant. When she did, she was a Senior in high school. She went through a huge mental and emotional struggle with herself and her opinions about what she would do. She did talk it out with her boyfriend. She ended up writing out the pros and cons of keeping the baby and the pros and cons of having an abortion. She said that most of the pros fell under abortion and most of the cons fell under adoption. Her family pressured her to have an abortion, while her boyfriend's family wanted them to put it under adoption. Personally, I am pro-choice. I believe it is the rights of the parents to decide whether or not to have the baby. However, I would only do this under two circumstances: (1) if I was raped and (2) if the baby had a genetic disorder that would end up being fatal and the time it was alive, it would be suffering (i.e. cerebral palsy). I do not view abortion as a way to make up for irresponsibility. However, if someone does have an abortion for that reason and it is a mistake, they do have a constitutional right according to Roe Vs. Wade to make that mistake. In my two friends' situation, I would not have personally had an abortion, but, being pro-choice, I have nothing against them for doing it. It was a mutual decision. I think they could have made a better one (namely put the child up for adoption), but they made their decision and there's no changing it. What's done is done. They now both say if they had more time and not so much pressure from their families, they would have done things differently. My point is here is that you should never pressure someone to do something in any situation. Giving suggestions is one thing, but forcing opinions on them is wrong. Give them suggestions, state your opinions, but do not try to make them do anything. When she first found out she was pregnant, I wrote her a note telling her what I would personally do in her situation (adoption). I think they may have taken my advice if it weren't for having so much pressure on them. Please, never do this to a person. Humans do not make the best decisions when they're under pressure from all their friends and family members. |