Part 2: Who Should Be Our Role Models &
Two Heartfelt Stories of Actual Role Models

Now more than ever, high school has become pressure packed with extracurricular activities, grades, interviews, jobs, internships, and those dreaded admission tests. From this point on, the SAT now goes on a 2400 scale (instead of the old 1600 scale) by adding an essay portion to the exam which accounts for the added 800 points.
Let’s be honest: many college students get accepted based highly on wealth and not so much merit. However, many people including the webmaster have to work very hard on their own merit especially by working their way up by having a hard work ethic.
The following articles are two stories published in the San Francisco Chronicle and transcribed into my webpage. Both articles follow high school seniors going through school trying to get into college. These people represent role models to the webmaster.

 

Pacifica senior rolls with punches from illness to college denials
- Cicero A. Estrella, Chronicle Staff Writer
Tuesday, June 7, 2005


For his senior exhibition, a written and oral presentation required of all graduating students from Pacifica's Oceana High School, Ron Noche posed the question, "To what extent does one really know reality through empirical means?"
His 26-page paper, which exceeded the minimum requirement by 11 pages, asked whether reality exists as an absolute shared by all people, or rather is determined individually through experiences. Ron cited such philosophers as Rene Descartes, David Hume and Thomas Kuhn, as well as the movie script for "The Matrix."
"The level at which he's thinking isn't typical of high school students," Dusty Jermier, Ron's science teacher for the past 21/2 years, said. "The questions he asks won't be answered at a four-year university."
Ron's own reality hasn't always been kind. The 17-year-old from South San Francisco is an asthmatic whose frequent attacks during his junior year had his mother fearing for his life.
His father abandoned the family 10 years ago, leaving his wife, Lynn Sevilla, to raise Ron and a younger sister, Celeste, 16, as well as two older daughters from a previous marriage.
Sevilla supported her family as a seamstress and real estate agent. They got by with few amenities, sometimes not knowing whether they could pay the next month's rent.
"Sometimes the sewing brought in more money, sometimes the real estate work did," she said. "You do what you can to get through the day."
Despite the hardships, Ron has excelled as a student. He accumulated a 3. 9 grade point average and seemed on his way to achieving his goal of studying at a four-year university, possibly majoring in philosophy.
But his chronic illness derailed his plans, at least temporarily. He missed so many days of school during the spring semester of his junior year that his classmates thought he had transferred out of some of his classes.
He was in and out of the hospital. He struggled to breathe at night as he fought off dizziness and "super wheeziness," as he referred to it, and woke up exhausted from the battle.
His mother worried that he would stop breathing in the middle of the night and fretted over him as he slept. She placed her hand on his chest to check for a heartbeat, or to his nostrils to check for breathing.
At his weakest, Ron had trouble standing.
"He would stand up and like a candle melt down to the floor," Sevilla said. "If he had to walk anywhere in the house, I had to hold him up."
When he felt good enough to attend school, he often missed his early classes, including math, because it took him hours to recover in the morning from the nighttime episodes.
"He looked terrible," math teacher John Magee said. "He was trying to come in as much as possible, but his body wouldn't allow it."
And the asthma couldn't be properly treated because his family couldn't afford medical insurance. Ron saw doctors only during emergency room drop-ins as he experienced his worst episodes.
It was no surprise that his grades slipped. Through his first five semesters, Ron earned 31 As, three Bs and a D-plus for freshman geometry -- the lone anomaly on his transcript to that point.
He picked up two more D-pluses and an incomplete in math analysis in his last semester as a junior and also lost study time for college entrance tests.
"It wasn't that Ron screwed up," Magee said. "Something happened that was out of his control."
After his asthma problems subsided following his junior year, Ron made separate deals with his teachers to make up assignments. He gave up his summer vacation and continued to work through the fall to improve his grades. He raised the two D-plusses to B-minuses and, heeding Magee's advice, retook the math analysis class this semester.
"Sometimes I didn't get any sleep," he said. "It was insane, but I wanted to boost my grades."
His asthma no longer poses a threat. Through a low-cost county program, Sevilla has been able to afford medical insurance for the family. Late last year, Ron was prescribed new medication that has controlled his attacks.
"He worked really hard," Magee said. "I've had other students in similar situations who didn't do as well because they were resentful. They became depressed that they had to take the class over. But Ron had a great work ethic. "
Ron began filing applications at various four-year universities, including his dream school -- the University of Southern California.
Compared with his junior year, Ron's final semester has been a breeze.
He arrived at school almost every day at 7:15 a.m. to meet with classmates at the library, the computer lab or Magee's classroom. They came to socialize, but they also arrived early to assist each other on homework that they didn't fully comprehend.
"I'm not afraid to ask for help," Ron said in a soft-spoken voice that reveals both nervous energy and a touch of shyness. But when it came to math, his classmates mostly sought Ron's assistance.
"Ron's really confident about math, and he's willing to help," said Tyler Robbins, who has been friends with Ron since they attended Sharp Park Elementary together. "We often have study groups at his house on Sundays, and for the most part he would help everybody out."
That includes tutoring elementary school kids as part of a community service program. He accumulated more than 250 hours of community service, although Oceana High requires only 100 hours as part of its graduation requirement.
Ron spent most of the hours at the after-school child care program at Sunset Ridge Elementary in Pacifica, where he patiently assisted kids with their homework.
He lacked such help growing up.
Ron's paternal grandfather died in 1995, and Ron's father brought the body back to their native Philippines for burial. He never returned, leaving Ron without a father figure. At a church function a few years ago, Ron recalled, congregation members revealed their favorite memories of their fathers. Ron said he was hard-pressed to think of one.
"I always wished that I grew up with my dad," he said. "I never had a male role model."
He finally found his role models two years ago in Darren Hom and Tuese Ahkiong, teachers at the Church of the Highlands in San Bruno, which Ron and his family have attended since 1989.
They introduced Ron to philosophy. About once a week, he joins them and other congregation members at Skyline College for "coffee talks" about religion, philosophy, science and other matters.
"We've lent him books on some really difficult subjects," Hom said. "Some of it is graduate-level reading. It's difficult for him but he actually understands what he reads. He goes through it slowly because he really wants to understand what he's reading."
Earlier this year, during spring break, Ron started hearing back from the colleges to which he'd applied.
First came a rejection letter from UC Davis, followed by another from UCLA. But the one that stung most was from USC, Ron's first choice.
For about a week, he could not reason away or hide his disappointment.
"I felt really down," he said. "I cried. I had so much hope and excitement about going there."
He didn't bother to open the last letter to arrive. He said he knew he had no chance at UC Berkeley since it had the toughest admission standards.
But Ron quickly put the rejections behind him. He again relied on his faith to get him through a difficult time.
"God has a plan for me," he said. "Maybe I wasn't ready to go away to a university. Maybe I'm needed here by my family."
Ron said he doesn't like to think about why he couldn't get into his schools of choice. When pressed, however, he looked to the illness of his junior year. Although he was able to make up his grades, Ron said his frequent asthma attacks didn't allow him to properly study for the standardized college admission tests, and he didn't do as well as he hoped.
He could have picked a safety school, perhaps a state university in the area. But he was determined to attend USC or a UC school and knew it was easier to transfer units from a junior college than a state college.
He'll graduate with his classmates on June 16 and has already enrolled for summer classes at Skyline College. Although still interested in philosophy, Ron is now pondering a major in business, engineering or medicine.
"I know the path to a better life is getting an education," he said.

 

LASS ACT: Delida Wong
Focus on future -- not just hers
Lowell grad dedicated to her own success as well as a better life for her single mother
- Julian Guthrie, Chronicle Staff Writer
Thursday, June 9, 2005

Delida Wong walked up Pacific Avenue, past the tourists who clog the streets, shops and restaurants of San Francisco's Chinatown. She took a key out of her backpack and unlocked the gate to a place that is not in any guidebook.
Her home is in a low-income housing project in Chinatown. She stopped briefly to check the mailbox before heading up dimly lit stairs bordered by grimy, scuffed walls. Inside her apartment, her mother prepared dinner in a small kitchen separated from the main room by a cloth curtain.
Delida had left her Chinatown apartment nearly 12 hours earlier to board a bus to school, then went from school to work at a law firm downtown, and then returned back home. She had hours of homework ahead of her and a test the next morning. She was worried about college and paying for college.
But on this night and every night, Delida, 18, spent one hour just visiting with her mother, Winnie Wong. The tiny apartment with linoleum floors and bars on the windows motivates this high school senior. She is motivated to create a better life for herself, and her mother. Motivated to do well in school, make it into a good college, and then to law school.
All so she and her mother can leave this life behind.
"I know I need to make enough money to live a good life and to take care of my mom," Delida said. "I'm all she has. And, I'm not one to ask people for things. I have a lot of pride."
As the young woman navigated her final semester at Lowell High, the hyper- competitive school in the Sunset District, she faced challenges similar to those of graduating seniors everywhere. She struggled to make it to all her classes when the warm weather beckoned; pass exam after exam; find a dress for prom; devise a plan for college.
But she also was met with other serious hurdles, including making and saving enough money to pay for her everyday expenses and cover what might not be provided by financial aid. She applied to seven colleges, but had her heart set on UC Berkeley. She knew that wherever she ended up, it would not be far from her mother.
"I need to be somewhere close, in case my mom needs me," she said.
Delida was 4 years old when her father died at age 42 of lung cancer.
"I think the only memory of my father is someone telling me not to cry on his body at his funeral," Delida said. After her father's death, her mother's only recourse was to apply for public housing.
"My mom wasn't even supposed to have children," Delida continued. Two years before Delida was conceived, Winnie was nearly killed in a freak accident. Her clothing was somehow caught on the edge of a car and she was dragged for several blocks.
"I'm lucky," Winnie said, flashing a smile that lights up her face. "I survived. And, I have a baby. The doctor had told me I wouldn't be able to have children."
Delida navigated life at home, school and work with unwavering resolve. She was the first to say she has no time for the teenage traditions of partying, shopping and hanging out.
"I know many people my age have it a lot easier," Delida said. "I have no one but me. I don't have rich parents who will take care of me. I think in the end this probably makes me a better person or a more independent person."
In college application essays, Delida wrote of the inspiration she has found in her relationship with her mother and with her economic reality.
"I grew up without a father and with my mother speaking limited English," Delida wrote. "I did not understand why I had to wear hand-me-downs or why I couldn't have toys that other kids have. While I have been poor financially, I have never felt poor in spirit. Reflecting on my past and my future, I vow to succeed and provide my mother with everything she would ever want, for I want her to know her sacrifices are well worth it."
Delida is keenly watchful and protective of her mother, who was born in the Canton province of China. Winnie has a quick laugh and a natural graciousness but speaks little English and has had a hard time finding steady work. Delida interprets for her. She helps with her mother's job applications. She reassures her. She tries to spoil her and recently saved up enough money to buy her a clothes dryer at Sears.
"She's a hard worker," Winnie said of her daughter. "She goes to school. To work. She does her homework. I try to tell her not to work so much."
After dinner and conversation, Delida retreated to her room, which shares a wall with her mother's. Still early in the semester, she had eight weeks to read a 400-page biography of Angela Davis, and faced her nightly battle with calculus. She always excelled in math but found herself struggling in the final semester of her senior year.
She was ready to be out of high school, she said.
"Four years is enough. It's been really hard. It feels like it's been too much competition. Lowell is a very good school, but it's really tough. College seems like it's going to be a lot easier than what I do now."
Delida began hearing about Lowell in the seventh grade. Relatives spoke of the school with respect. At the time, Delida was a high-achieving student at the low-performing Benjamin Franklin Middle School. She earned straight A's.
Lowell, with more than 2,500 students, is considered one of the top college preparatory public schools in California. Delida's school day started at 7:30 a.m. and ended about 12:30 p.m. Her classes included advanced placement calculus, American democracy, advanced placement economics, advanced composition and Mandarin. She always sat in the front of class. She raised her hand, was engaged, and had an easy dialogue with teachers and classmates.
She had little interest in the boys at her school, saying most are "not much fun. They're the nerdy, booky guys or are the gamers who spend 24/7 on the Internet." She has a boyfriend, a freshman at UC Santa Cruz. The two met at Lowell.
"I can't afford to do things like party or drink or do drugs," Delida said. "Not in my high school years. It's too important."
Delida's steady determination earned her the respect of Lowell faculty.
School counselor Joan Catelli called Delida "quite remarkable."
"I find her so pleasant and positive," Catelli said. "A lot of kids can endure a lot of things. But I see Delida going beyond endurance. She is both practical and hopeful. If she has a setback, she tries to understand why and she moves forward."
Catelli nominated Delida for UC Berkeley's Incentive Award, a $30,000 scholarship given to students applying to Cal who have persevered through hardship. It was one of more than a dozen scholarships Delida applied for.
In her essays, she wrote of challenges that ranged from academic to personal, from how she found a tutor to help her improve a faltering grade in advanced algebra to the leadership roles she assumed at work. Before starting her job at the law firm, she worked for two years at Zeum, a nonprofit children's arts and technology museum. Over time, she earned the trust of staff members, who often came to her to help resolve problems.
Her job at the law firm took away what little free time she had. But it also taught her to be a more "efficient and accurate person" and heightened her interest in becoming an attorney. She decided on a career in law as a sophomore. Her English teacher liked to engage students in debate. He praised Delida for her natural critical thinking skills and asked if she'd ever considered becoming a lawyer.
"That kind of started me thinking about it," Delida said.
She works on the eighth floor of One Embarcadero Center. The lobby is elegant and offers sweeping views. It is a dozen blocks from her home in Chinatown, but a world away. Here, Delida earns $9 an hour working as a clerk for Anthony P. David, a lawyer specializing in civil litigation.
When she started at the firm a year ago, she mostly filed papers. She soon was responsible for helping to pay bills, balance books and track payments. She summarized depositions, analyzed wage-loss documents, and drafted letters for attorneys.
"Delida showed a natural ability to pay attention to details and to work with numbers and be precise," said attorney Anja Chan, who works with Anthony David.
Delida has the ability to remain undeterred by temporary setbacks.
When Delida learned in late March that she had been accepted at five colleges and turned down at two, she responded in a characteristic way: She assimilated the information and then quickly moved forward. She did not get into her school of choice -- UC Berkeley.
"I wanted to go to Berkeley, but it's not the end of the world," Delida said. "There are other really good schools."
By May 1, she had accepted the offer of admission from UC Davis.
The decision brought relief. One of her major goals, for as long as she could remember, was finally within reach. She beamed with new ideas and possibilities. She decided on a major in managerial economics and a minor in winemaking.
The minor in winemaking came across as uncharacteristically whimsical. With Delida, it was almost wild.
"I thought it just sounded really fun," Delida said, flashing a smile as she took a break from her law office work. "And, Davis is one of the only schools to offer this."
In late May, Delida learned she had been named a Meritus Scholar. She will receive $12,000 during the course of her college career. With most of her school expenses covered, Delida said she will try to find a job to pay for extras. She hopes to land a job working for a law firm in Sacramento.
As graduation drew nearer, Delida lost none of her focus. On a balmy night, Delida trudged up the stairs to her Chinatown apartment. Over dinner with her mother, the two talked about what it will be like when Delida is away at college.
"I'll call you every day," Winnie said.
"I just won't answer the phone," Delida responded. Her moment of rebellion gave way to a smile. "I'm kidding, mom."
When Delida graduates on Thursday, she knows that her mother will celebrate that day like few others. For Delida, it is but one of the critical steps she needs to take.
"I know I will have to cover myself and my future," she said. "I know it's not going to be easy. But I know I can make it, somehow."

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