Thoughts about Love

What’s love really all about these days? I wonder and try to answer this question.
Does love involve PDA (Public Display of Affection) or maybe…buying your spouse a diamond ring on a special anniversary. Truly love works in weird ways.
The generational gap thoughts about love is huge. Two generations ago, there was no such thing as a divorce. Many couples stayed together no matter how abusive the relationship was. More importantly, couple would celebrate anniversaries of being married for at least over ten years.
These days…I am scared to death in order to fall in love and go into a relationship with another person. Just think about it. Pre-nuptial agreements have to be made in case a divorce happens. I am making up this statistic (so this has no scientific proof…whatever)…for every 5 couples that get married three out of 5 couples get divorced. It seems to me that way.
In particular, why go through an elaborate wedding. It costs around $10,000 in order to have a wedding in which there are about 200 guests. Reserving the church, reserving a fancy room, catering, and even some entertainment are just some the expenses that go into a wedding. Sure it’s a memorable moment. But one special day just to be in debt for months or even years…No thanks!
Back to my generation…I can seem to generalize some conceptions for some women (this also works to describe many characterizations of some guys…it works both ways).
Overachiever: Someone who wants to succeed at everything she does by not accepting work that’s average.
Pretty Girl: Very consciousness of her appearance by watching MTV and reading magazines like Cosmo girl in order to be hip with many of the fashion trends that are in. Spends about an hour per day in the bathroom in order to get ready.
Yakker: After asking a woman this question: How’s you’re day? This person takes over 20 minutes in order to answer the question.
Inner Beauty: (Rare) Someone who can see through what’s really going on & has a good karma.
Now those are just some characterizations. This doesn’t necessarily mean that a girl has to fall into a category. However, our society always likes fitting people into categories anyways.

Love Test

In order to love someone fully you have to love yourself first.
If you really love yourself, then you can really be ready for a relationship.
Here are some questions that you need to answer:
What do I do for fun/What do I consider fun?
How much free time do I have?
How much sleep do I get?
How much physical activity you do?
Do you have any addictions/Do they affect your life?
By answering these questions you can figure out whether or not you really love yourself.
Make up your own scale and decide for yourself whether or not you really do care.

Webmaster’s Personal Belief

First of all, I would like to congratulate those couples (hetero and homo) who have made a relationship work for longer than five years. That’s awesome and I applaud you’re togetherness.
Personally, I have heard so many sad stories about couples breaking up over some stupid little thing. Since many couples don’t have good communication, many small, negative events build up. At that one moment, BOOM…there’s an explosion because someone could not take it anymore.
Since the age of 14, I have been going on my adventures by myself. I go to 90% of the sporting events on my own, because I just got sick and tired of asking people if they wanted to go to a game with me and hearing the answer, “No!”
Relatives of mine ask me, “So…Do you have a girlfriend.” I say no, and then they ask me, “When?” I reply back to them later on.
Seriously, it seems like a mandate that every single human being needs to be with another loved one. I have been in love before with some girl. But since she thought I was spoiled by going to “too many baseball games,” I decided that she was not the one.
It fascinates me that I am one of very few people to have this unique idea on love. This shows 2 things: Human beings cannot live without love and/or Many human beings cannot live alone. It fascinates me that I am one of very few human beings to think of this.
Love is essential in life. It’s a great mystery that can never be solved. I have realized this: I don’t really need love in another intimate relationship with sex and marriage. I can live by sort of live by myself. I have a strong spirit and mind has it is. Why only give love to one person when I can give it to more people.