Poem To All Dads

It must be very difficult
To be a man in grief,
Since "men don't cry" and "men are strong"
No tears can bring relief.
It must be difficult
To stand up to the test
And field calls and visitors
So she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's alright
And what she's going through
But seldom take his hand and ask,
"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the night
And thinks his heart will break
He dries her tears and comforts her
But "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult
To start each day anew
And try to be so very brave -
He lost his baby too...

Author Unknown

If I Could Take

If I could take a minute out of each and everyday,
To hold my child close to my heart and kiss her fears away.
If I could take a minute out of each and every week,
To play with blocks and peek-a-boo, tag or hide and seek.

If I could take a minute of any span of time,
I'd never waste a second of the pleasures that were mine.
If she could crawl upon my knee and lay her sleepy head,
Upon my shoulder tenderly and dream of gingerbread.

I'd spend my time in total bliss and watch my small daughter grow,
From babyhood to childhood, knowing all there is to know.
If I could stop my aching heart and put my mind asleep,
If I could stop the flow of tears that are always on my cheek.

I only need a minute, Lord, I know she's safe with you,
But there's something real important that I had no time to do.
If you could do it for me Lord, here's a message she should know,
Tell her that I love her, then I'll let her go.

-Author Unknown-

The Mask

It doesn't fit me very well,
But it matters not, you see.
Because most people do not want
To see the real me.

It's much too painful for them,
So they avert their eyes.
Their platitudes are only words,
That I've come to despise.

They can't bear to confront it,
They don't know what to say.
They think if I ignore it,
The pain will go away.

But I cannot ignore it,
It is too deep and real.
And those who've never lived it,
Just don't know how I feel.

Noone wants to face it,
When a baby dies.
They quickly try to hush,
A grieving mother's cries.

They say I should be moving on,
They don't know what they ask.
So, to spare their feelings,
I put on the mask.

-Gwen Flowers-

What Makes A Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes
and prayed to God today
I asked, "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say

A Mother has a baby
this we know is true
But, God; can you be a mother
when your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can he replied
with confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice

Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
and some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here
He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear

I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say...

"We go to earth to learn our lessons of love
and life and fear
My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here

I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had
so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillows where I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
Mommy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"

So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay

They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons are through
And on the day you come home
they'll be at the gates for you

So now you see what makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start

Though some on earth may not realize
Until their time is done
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are A  Very Special Mom

Author Unknown

Today is your birthday
without candles and cake.
And since you are not with us,
we will not celebrate.
We cannot send you a birthday card,
your hands we cannot touch.
So we ask God to give a message
to the one we love so much.
And grant us one wish
and make it come true.
To have His choir of Angels sing
Happy Birthday to you.

You sit there in the darkness
You feel so all alone.
You suffer in your sadness.
Your house is not a home.

You call out in the night
"Just let me see your face!"
Hold on to a memory in your mind
A very sacred place.

The darkness is surrounding you.
On both the inside and the out.
All alone in this darkness
You feel that you must shout:

"I'm here. I'm all alone.
"I need your help. I need a hug"
"I'm dying on the inside
"The pain of a mother's love."

Most mother's take for granted
The precious gift they have
Wishing they weren't parents
Especially when their child is bad.

Above this group of parents
Is a different kind of crowd
Of mom's and dad's who've lost a child
And cannot shout out loud:

"I need your help. I'm all alone
"No memories to share
"I'm here. I'm reaching out to you.
"Please show me that you care."

It's your future that you lose
Your past and present too
Losing a child changes
Every thing you say and do.

I feel much more compassion
Mostly for new angel friends.
People from all over Earth, who
Listen while I tell again.

The story of my angel
No matter how many times told
They listen and reply to me
My feelings never get old.

They are always here to help me
And stand right by my side.
They are always there to comfort me
In them my feelings I confide

Each day is a new journey in grief,
Never knowing what will come
Some days are happy, Some are painful
Some horrible and then there are some---

Days when darkness surround you,
And you really must just shout:
"I lost my child, I can't help but cry,
"And I must just GET IT OUT!!!"

Just post and look around you
For always we will be here
There is no need to be all alone
We'll be here for you, dear,

Although our names may change
And at times there may be few,
Know there is always someone out there
Willing to listen and share with you.

Through good days and all the bad
To my loving angel friends I've met
For all the comfort, love, and hugs
Received and sent Thanks to the internet.

If I could have a lifetime wish
A dream that would come true.
I'd pray to God with all my heart for
yesterday and you..

A thousand words can't bring you back,
I know because I have tried.
And neither will a million tears
I know because I've cried.

You left behind my broken heart
and happy memories too.
I never wanted memories,
I only wanted you.

In Memory Of....

You never said I'm leaving
You never said goodbye
You were gone before I knew it,
And only God knew why

A million times I needed you,
A million times I cried
If love alone could have saved you,
You never would have died

In life I loved you dearly
In death I love you still
In my heart you hold a place,
That no one could ever fill

It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn't go alone
For part of me went with you,
The day God took you home.

Author Unknown

Daddy please don't look so sad,
Momma please don't cry,
Cause I am in the arms of Jesus and
He sings me lullabies.
Please try not to question God,
Don't think He is unkind.
Don't think He sent me to you,
And then He changed His mind.
You see, I am a Special Child,
And I am needed up above,
I'm the special gift you gave Him,
The product of your love.
I'll always be there with you,
And watch the sky at night
Find the brightest star that's gleaming,
That's my halo's brilliant light
You'll see me in the morning frost,
That mists your windowpane.
That's me, in the summer showers;
I'll be dancing in the rain.
When you feel a gentle breeze,
From a gentle wind that blows,
That's me, I'll be there, Planting a kiss on your nose.
When you see a child playing,
And your heart feels a little tug,
That's me, I'll be there, giving your heart a hug.
So, daddy, please don't look so sad,
Mommy don't you cry.
I'm in the arms of Jesus,
and He sings me lullabies.

~Author Unknown~