I thought it was so good that I'd reproduce it for others to have a look at.
For the guys I say... "Get rid of the cat"
For the women.... "Is this true?, and send me yours to add"
What Do Women Think About During The Act?
We knew the moment women wanted to know what men thought about while making whoopee, men would probably want to know the same thing about women.
Here are some of the results from the poll
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From Butterfly
Well, aside from the usual, "Oh God, that feels good," and the "What the hell is he trying to do?"... This is my typical mental monologue:
*Ow! You're on my hair!
*If he doesn't quit pinching my nipple, it's gonna come off!
*Did I remember to put the dog out of the bedroom?
*Can the neighbors hear me?
*He needs to hurry up, I have things to get done.
*Maybe if I fake one, he'll finish so I can get some sleep.
*various song lyrics (I hate when I get a song stuck in my head.)
*Did we pay the water bill?
*Shit! I forgot to call mom!
Now, I'm not saying my boyfriend is a bad lover. Quite the opposite, he's wonderful. But after 2 years, there's not much territory left unexplored. He knows how to push my buttons and in what order. But as far as what's going on in my head, it's hard to think about what he's doing when he's done the same thing a million times before.
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From Ischade
I have my 'short-cut scenerio' fantasies. These are almost guaranteed to get me warmed up fast. God help him and his lips if I'm thinking 'beige, we'll paint the walls beige. . .' because I will never get there. Once I'm into the fantasy enough that my body is responding well then I turn the brain off and surrender to the physical.
The only problem is some fantasies get used a little too much and then they don't work any more. (And then I throw them into a book and let other people use them.) And sometimes they start getting a little too detailed and I start thinking which only ruins things.
Do I worry about the cat, the dog, and the kids? Yeah, but at some point this is my home, dammit, and if I can't have an orgasm here where can I? (okay, there is the picnic table in the park across the street, but the police really frown on that kind of thing here in suburbia).
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From Connie Clark
It's a lot easier to simply feel and forget the thinking stuff with no more kids at home and no job to be a hassle. Getting older isn't that great, but "retirement" has it's joys.
Uninterrupted sex, any old time, day or night, is high on my list! (If the cat complains, I just move her out of the room.) Now all I have to worry about is Sascha's heart condition! Damn, darling, you didn't tell me about that.
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From NewOrleans Nick
OK...as a guy I don't even want to give the wrong impression that I may know anything about women.....much less what they are thinking about during sex. But If I may make an observation. First it seems if you ladies got rid of the cats in your lives you would have less to think about and FEEL more during love making. Secondly if the ones that are thinking right, left, slower, faster, that's it, that's not working for me, would say these things instead of thinking them, you would FEEL more during love making. Look You ladies do have us figured out totally -- except for -- we actually want to know if we are doing things you like, Yes we still have a few caveman type that are only worried about their own pleasure, but believe me the are falling by the wayside (mainly 'cause the tend to loose their women to guys who care, ergo they don't reproduce) I think woman should use those two flashlights with the little cones on them like the guy at the airport instead of planes you could direct your man right to a good time for your self. Just MHO [my humble opinion].
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From Sweet Sexy Stormy
Hmm, that is a good question. What I think about, flesh on flesh, getting lost into the other person. And maybe the stray thought of what the cats and dog think.
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From Alex
I can only speak for myself, of course... but it usually goes something like this, a little mental monologue (which may well indicate a serious psychological instability to supplement the ever-present vocal component:
"Oh, yeah, that's it, here goes, hold on...shit, what's that sound? Who cares... okay, getting loud now, getting way too loud, gonna wake the kid, gonna wake the neighbors... that's better, there ya go, what the hell's he doing? Oh, okay, that's nice, very nice, getting too loud again... too loud, way too loud, gonna wake the fucking dead, I don't care..." followed by pretty much gibberish as, well, you know.
You get the idea. Only in very rare circumstances do I drift into "gotta remember to take out the garbage," "is that a fly on the ceiling," that type of thing - those circumstances usually stem from my not being in the mood to begin with, which is a rare thing indeed.
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From KMK
Purely situational. Since, if I have a considerate partner, I've usually climaxed or am still pulsing from one by the time there's penetration, it's my time to concentrate on giving some pleasure. I love the feeling when a man has let himself go with me.
Though there have been times, I must confess, that "will you get it over with?" has run through my mind. I've never climaxed with penetration. While I enjoy the act, it isn't the end-all. I've usually lost most of my mind by then. :)
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From Galiana Chance
What am I thinking during the act? The range is staggering...
* If the cat knocks over my Diet Coke again, I'm going to make a slipper out of it
* If we weren't having sex and I made that noise, he would have me committed
* Variations on: up a little / down a little / to the left a little / to the right a little / more / less / slower / faster / harder / softer
* Yes exactly that, right there, and if you ever stop doing that I'll kill you. (that's one of my faves)
* We should have brushed our teeth first
* I wonder what the thermostat is set to / if we should open the windows tonight / if it's going to rain
* I hope it's a big one so I can sleep without dreaming about work again tonight - doh! Don't think about work! Close your eyes, breathe, focus...
But they all come out sounding the same - I'm totally inarticulate during the act. The difference between one thought and the other is the difference between "mmmm" and "hmmm" and "hrmmm" -- gee, that's informative, isn't it?
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From Sandaidh
Think? You're supposed to think? Damn, must be what I'm doing wrong then. All I do is feel.
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From Selkie:
How come nobody seems to have said? "Oh god. I wish he'd hurry up so I can get some sleep! I got to get up tomorrow!" I think about lots of relaxing scenes. Waves washing on a beach etc and try not to think about whether I will have an orgasm.
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From CaiteyCake
What do I think of? My brain is impossible to shut off at times. I spend days without sleep worrying about stupid crap and I can't shut it off, only change the subject. Soooo...sometimes it's junk like "geeze, I need to scoop that cat box" or "how much less money am I willing to make just to get out of this shit hole job of mine and what was it that person said to me on the phone and are all my customers completely insane and dishonest?" Then it's like "I am really worried about...oooohh that feels REALLY gooooood."
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From Heather
All I know is that for the past year my main thought has been to try to hurry up and finish before he did. The men in this group seem a whole lot less selfish than my soon to be X..
Are we any the wiser now?
I think not.
Regan.