Guilt                                                                                                                           STAR - Week 2

 

Student Worksheet

 

GETTING HONEST

 

You will continue to feel guilty until you identify and talk about the things that cause your guilt.

 

1. List the things you have done that make you feel guilty.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2. Put a check in front of those actions done while under the influence of drugs/alcohol.

 

Guilt                                                                                                                                 STAR - Week 2

 

Student Worksheet

 

BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS

 

An important part of assertiveness training is the identification of basic human rights. It is essential to identify these rights in order to be able to exercises them.

 

1. Right to say no without feeling guilty or selfish.

2. Right to feel and express all your feelings.

3. Right to feel and express a healthy competitiveness and achievement drive.

4. Right to decide which of your needs take priority.

5. Right to have your own opinion respected and to respect the opinion of others.

6. Right to have your needs be as important as the needs of other people.

7. Right to express what your needs are.

8. Right to be sensitive to others' needs without ignoring your own needs.

 9. Right to be treated as a capable human adult and not be patronized.

10. Right to be independent.

11. Right to accept from others without reciprocating.

12. Right to not have to justify your behavior.

13. Right to judge and take responsibility for your own behavior

14. Right to reject judgment of others.

15. Right to change your mind.

16. Right to say "I don't know".

17. Right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.

18. Right to say "I don't understand".

19. Right to be private as well as public.

 20. Right not to be assertive.

 

Exercise of these basic human rights allows you to retain your own power over your behavior and not allow others to determine your actions and feelings. You become an actor rather than a reactor and make free choices regarding your response. Retaining your own power enhances self-esteem.

 

Guilt                                                                                                                                STAR - Week 2

 

 

Student Worksheet

 

SORTING THROUGH CHILDHOOD MESSAGES

 

In order to regain "moral balance" it is necessary that you sort through childhood messages that created a value judgment on your behavior.

 

1. List those messages learned in childhood that are helpful to you in your sobriety.

 

Example: It's okay to make mistakes.

 

   It's important to take time out to rest and play.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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2. List those messages learned in childhood that are not helpful to you in your sobriety.

 

Example: Drinking is sinful.

 

               You made your bed, now you have to lay in it.