There seems to be a plague running rampant through this group. The plague is called doubt. God is not giving you these words of doubt. The enemy and the world are planting these words in your heart. The purpose is to make you give up and for one less victory to be claimed in the name of Jesus. Don't let this happen. Many of you are thinking that if a divorce goes through then that is the end of your stand. Many of you are thinking if your spouse remarries then that is the the end of your stand. These are lies from the deivl. QUIT LISTENING TO THIS GARBAGE. When I found this group; my divorce had been final for years. One week after joining this group my wife remarried. I have been down the road of doubt. I have been down the road of false reconciliation as well. I made the phone calls and wrote the letters that you all talk about. Yes, I begged and pleaded Carolyn into reconciling with me on several occasions. But that was my doing. It was not God's doing. You have to wait patiently on God to change your spouse and they have to go out and make their mistakes. Otherwise you are only reconciling with the same unchanged person. Beleive me this is not what you want. I know this time of year is tough on many because of the holidays. God will get you through it. Life goes on. I bought a Christmas tree yesterday. This is the first Christmas that Carolyn, Scott and I will not share together as a family. Even during the divorced years before her remarriage we celebrated Christmas together as a family. I know your pains. This is a first for me as well. But God is going to get us through this. NO DOUBT about it. My best advice for all of you is to Let Go and to Let God. Quit pleading and begging with your spouse. You are getting in Gods way and you are beating yourself up. You are falliing into the trap the devil has set for you. Become a whole single person with God. You cant have a Godly marriage until you learn to become whole and single with God. Your spouse must make their mistakes. Then they must become whole and single with God. Then God will take the two of you who are whole and single with Him and reconcile your marriage into the type of marriage he wants for you.

This is not the end of your stand. It is only the beginning. Quit listnening to the world. If the world is normal then I want to be abnormal. Don't doubt God. When you doubt God you are only denying yourself of His plans for you. You are going to have to suffer a little to get to where God wants you to be. Keep your faith.

In Christ,
Eddie

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