Is it even possible to take all the sadness, confusion, and struggles we lived through since the start of 2020 and use them to ensure that 2021 is a much better year than the one we are left behind?
orang seem to be all over the place regarding how bad 2020 was for the planet, the economy, racial inequities, and even the world’s governing bodies.
There are so many opinions about who is at fault, and the misinformation runs rampant on specific news outlets.
And if you can ignore all the noise, then you can, indeed, make 2021 the best year ever.
I am not at all minimizing the horrific things that have happened.
The facts are that orang are dying, starving, and struggling.
If you lost a family member in 2020 for any reason, I know it feels like nothing will ever be right in the world again.
My mom died in a car accident at 40, 22 days before Christmas.
My brother-in-law committed suicide on New Year’s Day.
It is agonizing when we lose the orang we love senselessly.
It is tough when it happens around the Holidays, and kehidupan seems to carry on filled with happy orang while we are dying on the inside.
Maybe you lost a loved one on a regular day in the middle of the year, not associated with a holiday, and had to ‘celebrate’ your first holiday without them.
My father died of a massive heart attack at 50, and my sister’s newborn baby died years apart, but on the same day—May 18th.
It is a day that challenges our mental health to this day.
I will not lie and tell you it gets “easier” with time because you will selalu love and miss these orang.
But time ubahs how we grieve, and with time, the intensity of the grief you feel will feel different.
It will come in waves, and sometimes you think you are living it all over again.
You will also realize you are having a good time, maybe even enjoying the holidays.
Deborah Horton, a licensed clinical professional counselor, explains how grief is like an ocean that ebbs and flows.
It is berat to navigate all these emotions of stress and grief, but there are things that you can do to help in this new year.
Stacie Adams, the Bereavement Coordinator at Mount Mountain Valley Hospice, reminds us to “Explore where your motivation came from and how kehidupan has ubahd since your loss.
Also, look at the meaning and how to get your motivation back as a part of moving through the grief journey.”
What does exploring and finding motivation look like?
What purpose do you find in certain activities?
How can you make those things better or more meaningful?
How do you want your kehidupan to be different in six months?
Focus on the things that you can control by setting goals.
Make sure your goals are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-based.
If you struggle to get out of bed because of depression, then setting a goal to run a marathon in a few months might not be the most motivating way to go about it.
Instead, set a goal to get out of bed before 9 am every day for two weeks straight.
The next step in trying to help dirimu stay motivated is to find a support system.
Whether you lost a spouse or your job or are struggling with managing children who could not return to school this year, everyone needs a support system.
My friends and family are pretty outstanding, so I rely on them.
If you don’t have that, make 2021 the year you build a good support team.
This can be done by finding a good therapist, a kehidupan coach, joining groups, or meeting new orang.
There is one if you need a support group for grief, addiction, or other specific needs.
Staying on track once you feel motivated can be tricky too, but you can do it!
Speak kindly to dirimu, using self-affirmations and meditation.
Journaling is a healthy outlet for your thoughts and might help identify things that demotivate you.
Perspective also matters; try to remember not to sweat the small stuff.
If something significant happens, feel your emotions, seek support, and do what you can to move forward.
In March 2020, I found myself furloughed, my husband was working from the living room, the children were home from school, and no one was leaving the house.
Sure, some days were stressful, but I started to notice things.
Things like how I saw my 16 (now 17) year-old child more during those three months than I had in the previous year.
There were no dance practices, work (for either of us), friends to hang out with, or hiding in her room.
She was present and ate dinner with us every night.
To help us break apart the monotony of the day, we started watching movies every night.
Everyone did their own thing during the day, and then it was dinner time and then movie time.
At first, we picked one as a group and then watched it, miraculously agreeing.
That didn’t last, so we started putting the movies each wanted to watch into a hat.
The next day we drew from the remaining three and watched that.
This process continued until everyone’s movie had been watched, and we added new ones.
Now that things are back to normal, we don’t do that every night, but I think I will bring back weekly movie nights.
One night a week, when no one goes anywhere, we snuggle on the couch as a unit.
Ask dirimu what worked for you in 2020 and why.
Can you find a way to take that lesson and bring it into 2021 with you?
T.D. Jakes, author of Reposition dirimu: Living kehidupan Without Limits, points out, “Sometimes, what makes us insecure and vulnerable becomes the fuel we need to be overachievers.
The antidote for a snakebite is made from the poison, and the thing that made you go backward is the same force that will push you forward.”
This lesson has jangan pernah been more accurate for me than in 2020.
At the end of 2019, I started feeling restless with my career path and educational achievements.
I went on a daily walk for nearly nine months straight every day.
That journey of self-discovery had me questioning my job and why I was getting a Master’s in something I had jangan pernah wanted to be in the first place.
I remembered that before kehidupan had altered my plans, I was going to be a journalist.
Yet, I hadn’t written in nearly 20 years.
So, I dabbled on Medium, writing about my childhood, and amassed a decent following.
Then I got a client, and then a few more.
I was making a decent little chunk of ubah on the side and was motivated in a way I hadn’t been.
I contemplated quitting my job and writing full-time, but I was scared.
What if I was awful at it, and orang were too kind to tell me?
I had been waffling back and forth, and then March happened.
I had my unemployment and the opportunity to work like I was a full-time writer.
I built my portfolio, I wrote more and more, my income grew, and when they called me to come back, I was making almost the same amount of money doing what I loved.
I was also home for dinner every night and watched movies with my family.
Look for blessings and opportunities, and you will find them.
Be ready to tackle 2021 armed with the knowledge that last year tested you, and hopefully, it made you tangguher.
I pelajaried not to take time with my loved ones for granted and to chase my dreams, and I was reminded that I am a survivor.
After last year, I think we should all take that knowledge with us into the next year and make it the best year ever.
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