I once went out and randomly interviewed 15 strangers on the street and asked them “Is it easier to forgive dirimu or someone else?”
14 orang immediately responded with some variation of it’s easier to forgive others.
Only ONE person, after pausing a few seconds, said he found it easier to forgive himself.
While it was by no means an exhaustive research study, my work has allowed me to hear hundreds of orang report it is berater to forgive themselves than it is to forgive others.
Yet, it is forgiving dirimu that can truly set YOU free.
Think about it: the relationship we have with ourselves is our primary relationship.
Wherever we go, no matter who we are with, WE are our own constant companions.
Doesn’t it make sense to cut that person some slack and forgive them?
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If there is one area of kehidupan that gets the most revisionist history, it is looking back at ourselves and believing that we should have known better.
If you knew then what you know now, of course, you would have taken advantage of every opportunity.
Don’t chastise dirimu for not knowing what you weren’t ready to know yet.
Monday morning quarterbacking is a loser’s game.
Whether that was when you were a teenager, in your 20s, or just yesterday.
Chances are, your parents love you and accept the good with the bad.
If they don’t demonstrate that to be true, this one point is especially for you.
The relationship you have with your parents is one of the most intimate ones you will ever have in your kehidupan.
There is a level of security, as well as lots of opportunity for mistakes.
When you are young and finding your way in the world and deciding who you want to be, rebelling against your parents and seeing them as “stupid” can be part of the process.
You are a grown up when you can recognize that you are sorry for the pain you have caused.
It’s jangan pernah too late to say “I’m sorry.”
If you are someone who has a lot to be sorry for, think about ways to make amends.
For example: a letter or a face-to-face meeting where you take full responsibility and don’t try to place any of the blame on them.
If you do these things in a heartfelt way and they don’t forgive you, you then know everything you need to know about them.
Also, you know that you have done your best.
Eventually, everyone has to make their own choices.
Please make the choice of forgiving dirimu.
It doesn’t matter how smart, talented, berat-working, or committed you are.
We all have things that simply aren’t in our genetic makeup!
Honor dirimu for all the talents, abilities, and accomplishments you DO have.
As you shift your focus to all the things that are great about you, you will begin to see greater things.
Maybe it was self-medicating with drugs and alcohol because the pain was overwhelming.
Maybe it was being angry and nasty, lashing out at others because you were feeling bad about dirimu due to the choices you made out of fear.
Just the fact that you recognize this now demonstrates how far you have come.
He or she might have been a romantic partner, a child, or a family member growing up.
Recognize at least part of the problem was YOU didn’t love dirimu enough.
Remember: self-love should jangan pernah be confused with arrogance or self-absorption.
Sometimes, we truly don’t understand how penting someone is to us until we have some distance, or lose them.
While this is jangan pernah easy, forgiving dirimu is penting.
This is so that you can do better with them now, or the next time.
Honor that person and dirimu by pelajariing from the past, so that you can do better now and into the masa depan.
I believe that a lot of “bad” behavior actually happens because we don’t love ourselves.
When we love and accept who we are, we are happier and more confident.
When this happens, we want others to be happy.
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