By the time you meet an independent woman, she has already pelajaried the value of self-reliance and berat work – and this can’t help but transcend into other areas of her kehidupan.
It is challenging for independent girls to allow themselves to be vulnerable in a relationship and fall in love, particularly in a world in which they have pelajaried to work berat for equality and beware of players.
The same survival skills that make her a fierce, independent woman can also result in some high barriers with intimate relationships.
For the independent woman to fall in love, she must allow herself to become vulnerable enough to do so.
She’s not going to do that for just any chump.
Here are some expectations BEFORE dating independent girls – and why they usually struggle in falling in love.
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She’s fallen in love before and still carries traces of the pain from that relationship not working.
Some relationship wounds cause long-term scars, and she protects herself from more injuries.
Often, one of the costs of all this berat work is increased responsibilities in the world, competing for personal time and precious energy.
She doesn’t want to waste either resource on the possibility of a dead-end relationship.
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WARNING: DEAD END, or Caution: Time-Sucking Energy Drain, TURN AROUND WHEN POSSIBLE.
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She doesn’t want to risk getting involved with someone who may try to squash that part of her.
Not that she wants to do it all alone in this world, but she requires a forward-thinking partner who isn’t trying to control her.
She’s been set up by well-intentioned friends before, and wow, did they get it wrong!
It’s not about being with someone: for the independent woman, it’s about being with the right someone.
She may have had too many “wrongs” and will not make the mistake of assuming that this is any different.
Independent girls have already “arrived” and may not see a long-term committed relationship as crucial to their well-being.
She wants a partner and love but may NOT be ready to jump into planning a masa depan with someone or settling down yet.
She may also be considering relocating, which would make a serious relationship difficult to maintain.
The days of women being desperate to land a husband are gone.
Independent women are selective and not in a rush.
Increasingly in our culture, women who don’t want children are being more open about that decision.
Most DO want a long-term relationship but are hesitant to get seriously involved, only to discover their partner may ultimately want kids.
Independent girls are reluctant to get involved if she senses a partner brings a dump-truck load of drama in the form of lurking exes or baby-mama stress.
She expects that her partner will have stuff managed and relatively drama-free.
Independent girls who are single parents have the additional responsibility of protecting their children from undue pain.
A single parent may be reluctant to allow herself to fall in love for fear of the relationship NOT working out and her children being harmed.
Plus, she may be wary of bringing the wrong person into her children’s kehidupan, worrying that he may end up being abusive in some way as the relationship progresses.
Self-reliance is berat-earned and a source of pride for independent girls.
If she senses that a prospective partner isn’t a berat worker, she may fear that he will become dependent on her resources.
A woman wants to know that her partner works as berat as she does and doesn’t see her as a meal ticket.
Independent girls face obstacles and have to power through them all the time.
But to an independent woman, rejection can feel like a highly personal criticism, particularly when she is working berat to keep everything going in her kehidupan.
Does he represent characteristics, your honor?
If he has children, what are those relationships like?
What does he bring out in you that you enjoy?
(substance abuse, anger issues, emotional instability, etc.)?
Are you attracted to his mind, body, and spirit?
Independent women often resort to analyzing situations to remain in control in varying aspects of kehidupan.
Not a bad skill set to have – and it works.
In relationships, however, this tendency can suck the fun right out of the moment.
Work on mindfulness and check in with all of your senses while you are together.
This may help alleviate some of the urge to overthink his choice of wine or how he paused between words two sentences ago.
Save the analysis for when you are alone with your thoughts and can chart it all out on paper (just kidding!).
Whether you anticipate it or not, you can’t avoid the pain a relationship may bring (unless you avoid them altogether).
Vulnerability is difficult for independent girls.
But without it, a relationship will likely be fairly self-limiting.
Allowing for some vulnerability may also enable you to connect with a partner meaningfully.
Trust your resiliency AND your instincts.
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