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Your role as the helper is not to DO things for the person you are helping, but to BE things, not to try to change your reactions. As you change your negatives to positives- fear to faith; contempt for what he does to respect for the potential within him, rejection to releace with love, not trying to make him fit a standard or image, or expecting him to measure up to or down from that standard, but giving him an opportunity to become himself, to develope the best within him, regardless of what that best might be; dominance to encouragement,panic to serenity; false hope, self- centerered, to real hope, God-centered; the rebellion of despair to the energy of personal revolution; driving to guidance; and self-justification to self-understanding-as you change in such a ways as these, you change the word about you and all the people in your world for the better.
REMEMBER ALL PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS CHANGING
When we judge them we judge on what we believe we know of them, failing to realize that there is much we do not know, and that they are constantly changing as they try for better or worse to cope with life. Give others credit even as all of us struggle, give them credit for attempts at progress, even if their changes are not apparent, and above all give them credit for having had many victories which are unknown.( We are all of the same cloth, though a different cut.)
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