From:
Pat
A MEMORANDUM OF ACQUAINTANCE
To:
MICU June
24, 2008
Dear
Dream girl - the Charmed one – My MICU,
1.
Are
you MICU ? Although if you
told me enough about you, I might be able to determine if you are my MICU but
given that you know yourself a lot better, you might as well answer that
question for me. You ever have control over it in terms of whether you wish to
be my MICU . What you must possess to qualify is described below, as also there
are incredible benefits of electing to become one. So please read and decide.
2.
Who
is MICU ? MICU is the acronym for Mademoiselle
Incroiable Charmée Ultimée
as well as Mon Incroiable Cherie Uma (hereinafter “MICU ”) MICU
is a feisty, self-assured, confided and independent woman who cherishes her
femininity. Attractive, slender, active and fit as well as possessed with
high intellect so she is very naught; not threatened by or jealous of my
strengths and able to exercise enough self control to not point out my flaws or
blame me if things go wrong. A dreamer with a passion to live life to the
fullest. You may not be now but if you are able to make a firm determination to
become MICU, you can come aboard, I will teach. Why did I make up MICU, my dream
girl. This is a very relevant question for both the matchmakers and the
potential date. I would admit that answering this question is never easy for
anyone and I have specialized difficulty in answering it given that my approach
is very different. I find myself able to get along with almost anyone. In other
words, any of the attributes that I list here, are flexible with three
exceptions namely - strictly non-smoker, non-drug user, and unmarried at
present, rest everything is negotiable. Having said that what I would easily
fall for is a tall blond (or red head) lady and she can be taller than me. My
preference is now leaning a bit towards full figure as opposed to ultra-slender
runway model type figure, obviously without being clinically obese. I listed
being intellectually gifted, feisty, self-assured, independent and able to make
her mind would be very helpful. In looking for an intelligent blond,
they do exist. I know that. But hair color is a minor consideration
anyway. Here are the 14177 words that I wish to say.
3.
Why
I call you MICU –
III.
While attempting to not make it look like something third rate but trying to
attempt the charm of the third time around, I would be calling my next mate Ms.
Charmed Ultimate (MICU). Inevitably the analogy with the three charmed ones with
Elissa Milano and Shannon Doherty would come to mind with the
third and the youngest of the three charmed sisters being the cutest and the
luckiest. It is time to confess that at one time I was fairly addicted to that
show – Charmed. The connection here is that I view myself as a charmer if not
the Prince Charming. That might be too haughty. So anyone willing to be charmed
by me for the third time would fit the description of MICU. It is highly likely
that if MICU is a virgin, I would be the only man in her life given that both
Leona and Cindy were virgins when I met them and as of today I remain the sole
“man” in their lives. More on it in a bit.
4.
Why
connect with MICU – It
is for the envelopment or global warming. There is some nice woman throwing
dozens of Energizers in the garbage every week. May be if that stops it would
help save the environmental and mother earth. On a serious note there is a pro
earth element to coupling rather than two people living single, as it takes up
twice the energy to maintain two households and statisticians and complied data
that supports the notion of pro-environmental component to pairing up instead of
staying single. Incidentally Both Leona (a paediatrician) and Cindy (a
veterinarian) have called me their “Energizer Bunnie” or “Pat
the Bunnie” of reasons that should not need any further details given that
doing so would not be fair to the joke. Subtlety and erotic touch are the
hallmark of my jokes and It should be very fair to say that my reason to find a
mate namely MICU is partly driven by my desire to locate someone to get my
jokes. When I speak of my magnanimity in the presence of others it is largely
true but about 10-20% exaggerated to add the element of fun to it. Another
reason I am looking for someone to hang out with is my habit of pulling leg. I
have this compulsion to pull a fast one or two in a serious way and sell a line
that is completely irrational but it is fun to make other believe it for a while
until I tell why it is implausible. I get a great kick out of that. I do get
burnt for doing that because I get blamed with falsehood. It is therefore
necessary to know the real me and trust me that I am a perfectly honest man. Why
I do this practical joke thing is because my mind operates some two three times
faster, if not ten times, faster than others around me. And that is a skill I
have worked on and mastered. That skill is both a blessing and a curse for me.
5.
Delicious
irresistible
PV. It would not be an overstatement if I were to refer to myself as
delicious. I draw this inference from the observation that upon having tasted my
women I have been tasted by have not only found me irresistible but even
irreplaceable have preferred to keep my taste with them instead of testing
another man. The fact that I know that women get quickly smitten by me once they
get to know me well, I have a standing policy to permit them to keep the option
of hooking up with a better man if one comes along and I would not object at all
if they were to trade me in for a better man and thus far I have never been
replaced with a better man which is why I am able to make the claims that I make
even if they sound outrageous. There is plenty of truth behind each single one
of claims of mine.
6.
PV
a dreamer.
That is what you should view me as. It matters little for me if dreams come true
or not, I seek to have the knack to make them come true and that is where I am
headed, to charm one last time some colourful girl to join me in my colourful
journey. Someone willing to be charmed by me and once my foot is in the rest is
as the saying goes, matter of time. That is how confident I am of finding my
dream girl. What is on my mind about finding MICU is something on the line of Kate
and Leopold, a life altering experience not just company for a brunch for an
hour or two. With me meals are result of contemplation and planning too.
7.
Incredible
PV.
Before I got on my boasting and gloating rampage, which is my humble attempt at
describing myself to my MICU, I find it necessary to discuss the term incredible
given that everyone tends to use that about me. Its French root of this it is a
distortion is incroible, meaning unthinkable. This makes the word
incredible carry two seriously conflicting or contradictory meanings. The
positive meaning of incredible or unthinkable, what one finds upon knowing me
properly, is one of high achiever who accomplishes that most people can't even
think is possible like landing on the moon for Neil Armstrong, and the negative
connotation of incredible is one of a complete liar, a witness who lies so
ruthlessly that his testimony carries no credibility. At the time when public
believed landing on moon as impossible there really was no credibility to that
statement and it appeared false, but then we did not know better. What I am
going to say about me would come across unbelievable and false but in fact it is
true, All it takes is an honest evaluation of things to come to know that
despite sounding incredible or lacking credibility, everything I say is, in
fact, true and completely credible even if seemingly unbelievable at the first.
When I say that all MICU has to do is to be willing to be charmed by a romantic
and a dreamer like, me all I am asking is to be given a chance to seduce and
given my incredible skills at that, I see no reason why I might fail. In fact,
by giving me that chance MICU is taking a huge risk of falling for me completely
instantly. But there is nothing to lose, all there is to gain only.
8.
Flawless
PV.
The most repeated thing that you would hear about me, is my being flawless. The
lack of flaws in me is partly out of chance but largely the result of my
efforts. To give you an example my body is intact and without any surgical scar
of any sort, with every organ working in perfect condition to a complete absence
of any negative habit that concerns wives or girlfriends and that extends to
things like adventitious sounds men are known to make like snoring, burping and
bum-burps (note that I refrain from 4 letter words beginning with letter F).
Loud snoring is not merely an inconvenience, snoring has been linked with lower
intelligence. Something women need to keep in mind in picking mates. My ability
to not burp in the presence of others is due to the fact that all gas gets out
of my system during the workouts. The most annoying flaw that women close to me
report is my alleged arrogance i.e., asserting myself to be without flaws. I am
happy to let you check me out for flaws until you declare me a flawless gem and
then take me. That is the guarantee that I come with.
I might seem too full of it or pompous. But it is also true that I
am the best deal out there and would not last too long on the market, if my
history is anything to guide. I truly am a rare and a very
“hot commodity”. I do not last long on the lists wherever I
place myself.
9.
PV's
fault?
A line I used while chatting with Cindy was that this planet earth has “major
fault line” and in comparison I am fault free. On taking a closer look it
sure is possible to find minor glitches in me too. At times I do kick myself in
the ass for being not as diligent as the situation warranted. The fault in me
that would concern those who wish to deal with me at close quarters is my
hypersensitivity. I must concede my being overly touchy about things. I demand a
high calibre performance and bitterly resent rudeness. Even minor impoliteness
bothers me. My children were taught a level of politeness where “shut up” is
a cuss word and refrained from or used in extreme situations only. I never use
“the F word” and it troubled me fair bit when Leona and Cindy would use
that. I filed those interactions under verbal abuse. That would give you some
insight into my expectations as far as politeness goes. The result of being this
sensitive and intolerant of minor faults of others is that I have been labelled,
with some truth to it, “overly demanding”. Lowering one's standard of
expectations is certainly a way to eliminate conflicts but that does not sit
well with me. I still continue to demand a high level of performance with output
and a very high level of politeness and the reason for doing that is because I
bring my performance to that level and that in my view gives me the right to
expect it back and failing to get that returned is what has been the killer of
the past two relationships if truth be told. Despite being nice well-meaning and
very caring women they failed to keep me happy due to their inability to come to
my standards and the common line thrown at me was “go find someone who can
meet your expectations” and that is what I am now trying. Would I succeed? I
don't know. Do you??
10.
Is
PV arrogant?:
Given my pompous comments throughout which border on becoming boring self-praise
and self-cantered talk, it would only be natural for people to get the
impression that I am not for real and am in fact bullshitting all this. The
unreal part is close to truth but there is no bullshit. Everything I say is
verifiable and truthful even if totally amazing. I can say that I have worked on
it. I would expect to be praised for the hard work that has gone into making
what I am although I do credit my mom immensely for making me well endowed in
all three key areas where it matter to a guy (1) in the skull – with a
superior brain (2) in the chest with a compassionate and kind heart and (3) in
the loins which needs no further detailing other than stating that even at 50
when half of men are on Viagra, I would be glad to offer my butler
services to any willing lady in exchange for three love making sessions a day
(okay five on the weekends!, weather permitting). Having boasted all that and
inflated my ego, thumping my chest, I would like to add that in reality in the
depth of my heart, I am in fact a very humble man. I would like to be viewed and
treated like one and not be punished for the fact that through my work I have
accomplished things in every sphere of my life. I intend only to use those to
serve and please not to boast, gloat and flaunt my superiority, which is a
reality, i.e., I am superior to most people, due to my acquired skills, habits
and personality traits. Even if I am deemed to be arrogant, I make no apologies
for it because I am guilty as charged but I am able to respect others who I find
not as well endowed with the qualities that I boast about myself. I see nothing
wrong that after having worked hard to develop them, why not flaunt them. I do
that only sparingly that is for sure, and try to be as modest as possible if
that can be arranged.
11.
Lip
or Mind reading: As expected
your first question was regarding my auditory comprehension. Honestly it is
difficult even for me to answer that question precisely. The short answer is if
I am in tune with the surrounding, I can guess what is being asked. Although I
call it lip-reading, but in reality it is more on line with mind reading.
Evidence in support of that comes from the fact that when chatting on MSN with
people I have never met before, I am able to correctly guess or sense through
using my sixth sense. I do no claim to be a psychic but in my circumstances I
have had to develop or it happened naturally that I do have well-developed sense
of intuition which is what most non-gifted psychics do. Real psychics are
extremely rare and I think they do exist but they don't sell that talent. That
would sure be a topic to chat about for fun.
12.
Background/origin
of PV: You inquired about
background as any person would do and short answers to that were I was born in
India on X-mas eve of 1956. I have been in Canada now since 1983 and since then
I have lived in every province and every major city of Canada- Vancouver, Prince
Rupert, Edmonton, Calgary, Regina, Saskatoon, Winnipeg, Toronto, Minden,
Sudbury, Montreal, Victoria, Nanaimo and back to Vancouver over my detour around
the country. Maritimes are the only part that I have not lived in. So we can
talk about city streets of any major Canadian city because cities that I have
not lived in I have visited like Prince George, Smithers, Hamilton, Niagara
Falls, Niagara-on-the-Lake etc.
13.
How
serious is PV about this. I
am into it in a very serious way and out there to give myself in a highly
meaningful manner. I am not looking for just dating and spending a few hours
with someone instead of being alone. In fact I enjoy being by myself so much
that I can be content begin that way for rest of my life without problem. The
reason for getting into a relationship for the one last time, hoping the third
one to be exquisitely charming, is that I feel guilty for depriving someone out
there who could be happier through my being intimate with her. I am certainly
not into making a list of people I have dated or the women I have conquered. For
me getting laid is not a consequent. In some ways, again tainted with some
arrogance, unfortunately, I view that by taking a woman into my bed, I am doing
her a favour, although the reality is that it is a completely mutual thing and
no one is giving or getting sexual favour from either side. I am not into
one-night stands and a steady partner for activities out of doors and bedroom is
what I am really looking for and I am willing to wait for the right person
instead of thinking of getting laid tonight. Becoming a Running Buddy is
more important to me than any other thing.
14.
Children:
My three offsprings are presently at UBC with a plan to run their own hospital
the oldest daughter is in MD program, son in pharmacology, and the youngest and
the sweetest of them (appropriately named Pretty by me) is headed to become a
Nurse. I can add that I would not be procreating and MICU cannot be expecting to
procreate.
15.
Casting
of magical spells: Besides
being a bit of psychic as I mentioned, I also have mastered magic. Now this is
getting bit embarrassing boasting on but it is true and the facts can be
verified. I seem to have the ability to hypnotize the slightly willing ladies
into casting a very powerful special spell. I draw this inference from the fact
that with my recent girlfriend the Nanaimo Veterinarian – Cindy - who can be
contacted to verify the truth of the facts, met me online on May1, 2001 and came
to see me in Vancouver on May 9, 2001. We went passed the two bases that
afternoon and consummated the relationship that very night and I had to stay in
her apartment until the ensuing weekend to p pick by stuff from Vancouver to
move in with her. Similarly the pediatrician lady – Leona - I was married to
for 12 years had met me only less than a month before we got married. The fact
that my spell on them still continues is that both have found my irreplaceable.
Neither has Leona married not Cindy got another boyfriend. We exchange e-mails
and chat often. The break-ups were very amicable and respectable and both still
hold me in the high respect (as is evident from their being not able to replace
me) if not worship me. This unique ability to become so deeply engraved on the
mind of a woman and the ability to click so quickly are pretty unique to me I
guess. So given the slightly vulnerable lady, there is nothing to stop her from
falling for me with heels over the head, my version of that phrase. In that
regard it can be said that you are taking a risk by coming to date me. You are
likely to fall in my spell and I would be the one and only man in your life for
rest of y our life. You might see that as a good thing. It is for you to decide.
16.
PV's
past. A huge trouble with
relationship game is the baggage. It is impossible not to bring up the past
relationships and doing that is tricky as well. As a rule there is a tendency to
shift the whole blame on the other partner and proclaim innocence. I am
fortunate that I have no ugly things to say about both the great women of my
past. I still love and respect them, as do they. There even remains a
possibility of reconciliation. The fact that I was the one who terminated the
relationship should be a comfort to MICU given that I was not discarded for
being riddled with flaws or nasty habits or infidelity etc. The reasons I am not
a skirt chaser is that it has so happened to me in my entire life that
“skirts” have chased me. Both Cindy and Leona were the ones to approach me
and initiate contact and it might noteworthy that the romantic risk taker in the
sense of gambler that I am, I had accepted the lady prior to even taking a look
at her picture or her, merely based on initial interactions. But lucky for me
they both were very attractive and I am equally confident of MICU to be that
way. I want to talk about my past because it is fabulous and instructive and
should form foundation for my relationship with MICU. What I am operating under
is the principle stated as follows: “if immense passion underlies your
pursuit, the entire universe mobilizes itself so as to operate in a fashion
which would bring your coveted object of desire closer towards you as long as
you aim high and have a passion”. This truism comes to my mind through a
process of decantation of hundreds of principles upon which universe and human
mind operates and the strongest influence has been rendered by the movie Serendipity
which I adore tremendously.
17.
Enviableness:
I hope you recall my pointing out that I am in a very unique position that few
human being are in namely that the list of things that I am already doing
happens to be the same that I would wish to try in my life. In my humble view
that if you have not done it by 50, you might as well forget about it unless it
happens to be post-retirement traveling in a motorhome. So that is just one of
the unique things about me.
18.
Why
do I seek to search for MICU:
If the above is true that I have in my life everything that I ever wanted then
why did I bother coming to you to put me in touch with a lady to go out on dates
with. That suggestion of inconsistency is not difficult to resolve. The way I
put it would be that I might feel guilty of being selfish by not putting me out
there for the ladies. There is a paucity of potent men over 50 with almost 65/35
ratio of women to men as men tend to die after 45 from accidents and heat
diseases while women hang in.
19.
Smooth
PV. I have never had trouble
getting along with any women. No women has every objected to my approaching them
or my advances although I have not been too aggressive either. I do great with
both men and women in impersonal and intimate setting. Things go sour only if
our personal viewpoints on material issues or principles or fundamental
philosophies begin to conflict. I have been often complemented to be a good
conversationalist, as also a good debater. The debating skill is so tremendously
overdeveloped that is verges on being toxic and hurtful to people, therefore I
regularly request people not to debate things with me with acrimony because you
are guaranteed to get burnt by me. Tragically my warnings have often had the
opposite effect and have acted as a temptation to tangle with me even more. But
I have no choice but to keep repeating my request to keep out of debates over
things with me as an opponent. Being on my side and concurring with me is the
way to be safe and not get hurt upon losing over and over in every debate
engaged. I try to be soft and gentle but when my personal integrity is placed in
the line of fire, as it often happens, I have no choice but to defend, and that
defending often injures peoples' feelings. I regret doing that regularly but I
feel left without choice as well, so my repeated request is to not argue with me
unless you have a thick skin and can handle defeats or are smart enough to win,
which is extremely unlikely. I am yet to meet an opponent who wins me over in a
debate. All intellectuals seem to quickly concur with my viewpoints. May be it
is because great minds think alike.
20.
Handyman.
I am pretty great at fixing things at the house and have done some serious
carpentry as well, which is an asset worth knowing about me.
21.
Neutralized.
Another strength of mine I owe to Cindy, who being a veterinarian made sure that
I was neutered. That eliminates the risk of accidental pregnancies and also
declared that if children are wanted we need to travel to some third word
country to adopt like Madonna and Brengelina. Incidentally I might mention that
I have been frequently tested and am STD free, such that I pose no threat to
life of any of my intimate mates.
22.
PV
is pretty “wealthy”: I
say that because of my intellectual and physical attributes mostly. Although
having the luxury of time to do whatever I feel like doing is hard to match.
That is way I feel very rich that I have time to do what I want.
23.
PV's
dating history. Even during
high school and medical school, I was a sought after guy for dates by the girls.
I did go out with them often and was a perfect gentleman and never engaged in
making-out as is the tradition in the Indian culture. We are not permitted to
even kiss. Even dancing is very delicate and gentle. I take immense pride in the
fact that I have not had the need for a second date yet given the deal was
clinched on the first date and that is pretty exceptional. I habitually hug my
dates, as that is our cultural tradition.
24.
PV's
fitness schedule: I will
swim 2 Km at VAC on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Saturdays. Wednesdays used to be my
10K around the Stanley Park run days but recently my right knee is interfering
with that. I do weight training on Fridays and Sundays. The Thursdays are my
aerobics day. Although I do try to find excuses to take a day off e.g., when
going out of town the temptation to get my Adrenalin rush or endorphin kick is
too tempting to resist. The only thing that can sometimes stand in its way would
be sex but not too readily given that I can squeeze both of them.
25.
Best
body parts. May be it I
share this trait with Marilyn Monroe, but in both the cruises we took, I was
declared the guy with the sexiest legs which I shave once a week, another of my feminine
habits amongst many. My reason for doing that is to help me shave some time
off my swims to cut out the body-hair drag. Besides their smooth looks and nice
shape they are pretty powerful as well given that I leg-press $560 lb. I have
also progressed to a 180 lb bench press i.e I can press my own body
weight which is a landmark.
26.
Is PV a homebody? Likely yes. Although I have done some
traveling and would not mind going for some outings locally for camping etc., or
long distance travel but that is not a high priority for me. I feel at home, at
home only like most of us and being in the routine that I am presently in, does
not bother me much. I hope in attempting to shed some light, I have not made the
issue muddier here.
Movies.
When asked about TV shows, movies etc, I have to apologize that those things are
not high priorities in my life. I seem to be unwilling to find time to watch
much TV or movies given that my time is spent mostly outdoors. Going for movie
is not a preferred idea of a date for me. I am not a big movie fan. I am not
ashamed to concede that I am found of chick flicks from Pretty Woman,
Sleepless, Harry met Sally, You got mail to Steele Magnolia. Any movie with Uma
Thurman, Julia Roberts, Nicole Kidman, Peta Wilson, Meg Ryan and Charleze Theron
is worthy of my time.
27.
Why
Uma. Uma is a name that
exists in both Eastern and Western cultures. Uma is the beauty goddess with
immense wisdom in Hindu mythology and the roles played by Uma Thurman in the
movies I have watched have been on those lines. Besides that for some reason she
is the movie personality that has appeared in my dreams the most over a dozen
times. All I hope is that your physical and mental attributes do “some
justice” to the personality of Uma in the roles she played and posses as
person. Uma happens to be the place in India where I was born.
28.
Winter
games. Personally I am pro
2010 games but winter games are not my forte by any means. I am not good skier
nor do I skate too well, although I did get my hands on skates one and did learn
it again as is characteristic of me, in one day. I learned roller-skating back
in first year of medical school in one day. I have hard time stopping until I
have mastered the skills to my satisfaction. I was asked about my interest in
sports. Unlike other men, I have concede I have no passion for watching hockey
or any other game for that matter. That is one reason why I don't have
beer-buddies. The only sport that I find worth watching are summer sports like
women's beach volleyball, gymnastics (both men and women), synchronized swimming
and diving.
29.
Summer
sports. My affinity for
water needs no emphasis. In addition to my swimming addiction, I do love to row
or canoe, although I have not had much chance to do that but whenever I did get
a chance.
30.
No
golf etc.
Unlike the high-end consumers of
society I am not into golf, tennis, racquetball, baseball and not likely to get
interested in any of these except may be golf. I am pretty good at basketball
and volleyball but my height is an obvious drawback there. A reason not to get
into overly expensive club membership is that my tastes have tended to be
economical or frugal. The only expensive hobby that I have considered is horse
riding and there is a good chance that I might get into that some day.
31.
Creativity
and arts. I have a fairly
artistic history and have engaged in pretty good oil portraits that I placed in
competitions, although I have created some landscapes and female nudes as well.
My interest in photography is presently on hold but I do have a good eye for the
camera. I could begin to take some more interest in photography at some stage of
my life when I become less physically active. I have sung, played roles in plays
or skits and did learn a bit of saxophone, the instrument of my choice. I do
have an itch to learn percussion instruments. Female drummers are a huge turn on
for me by the way. Some modest attempts have been made by me in poetry when I
compiled two volumes of romantic poems I wrote for a fellow medical student that
I got interested in but that went nowhere. I have written short skits to stage,
have participated in essay writing and debating competitions, have superb
creative writing skills giving me a realistic hope that I would publish a novel
some day, done fair bit of web design work, wood carving, some embroidery,
fabric painting as well. An art form that catches my fancy a lot is nude body
paint art. Thus far I am only an appreciator of this art form and have not yet
considered being a model for that.
32.
PV
the nerd. I have to also
admit that at times I have been pretty geeky as well and did spend a lot of time
on the keyboard and tried my hand at basic and C programming. I did not
accomplish much there but I can take it up again if I feel so inclined and there
is a need to. In any way there is no software problem or hardware-configuring
problem that would be a concern of you if I am around. Cindy often asks me to
help out with that type of problems.
33.
Dancing.
I would never miss any opportunity to dance. That much is true. I do not shy
from the dance floor and am often the first one to run to that when in social
settings requiring someone to star. At the same time, I must confess that I am
not very good at any of the dance style other than the native dances of India. I
do kick my legs around anyway and given that I do have good sense of rhythm and
can follow music, I am confident that if I set my mind to take dance lessons, I
would excel there too as I do with everything else that I start to do seriously.
But to date my dancing is mostly a way of doing aerobics. If opportunity arises
and circumstances permit I might take slow dance lessons. I wont embarrass me.
In short nothing embarrasses me, which is a big element in my success with
nearly everything I find interesting. Most underdeveloped artistic pursuit with
me has been in creating music and dancing. I do plan to start learning sax and
take dance lessons shortly. As of date my best performance in dance is in
Macarena. The good news is that I am signing up for Salsa lessons next month.
34.
A
great chef. A remarkable
point that would be of great interest to many busy ladies would by my ability to
cook very very well. I am comfortable and proficient in the kitchen and I think
and others confirm it that I am pretty good and I even considered of opening a
restaurant. My proficiency is in the East Indian cuisine mostly although I can
do justice to Italian and Chinese and of course BBQ. With me around no one has
to go hungry, that much is sure.
35.
Wines.
As far as alcohol is concerned, my preference lately has been red wines for the
health benefit reasons. I don't take more than a couple beers although I do
handle my liquor well I am not to inclined to drink, especially if it is going
to interfere with my fitness routine. Nothing is to meddle with my fitness
routine, is the basic rule.
36.
Music.
My third best way to get my endorphin kicks, after sex and workouts is listening
to music and if possible either dance or run to the tune. The music styles that
I would commonly play is light rock although I am able to enjoy both Classic and
Country as well, but jazz is my passion to the extent that I ended up going to
and living in Nanaimo for six years only to have one chance to meet with Diana
Krall. I hope that speaks for itself as to my passion for jazz. I also love my
ethnic music a lot in both major languages Hindi and Punjabi. I did try to go to
Victoria to meet Nellie Furtado but that did not work out. Incidentally Celine
Dion, Faith Hill, Teri Clark, Shania Twain and many other beautiful women are
singers that I love to hear.
37.
Theater.
One thing that brought me to Vancouver back from Nanaimo is the ability to go
watch live performances in Downtown Vancouver given that the Nanaimo Theater was
not that busy or good. I am passionately into Broadway type performances, have
been to the Shaw festival and Stratford festival when I lived in Ontario but to
my recollection I have watched live theater mostly when on out of town trips
most of them professional meetings. I can add here that I can sit through
comfortably during a cello concert or an opera. My attraction for live theater
is partly linked with my past personal comedy performances although of limited
nature small roles on a few occasions only but that gives me special respect for
theater.
38.
Art
galleries and museums. These
two inert styles of art are not my cup of tea although I am not totally averse
to them either if there is no other better alternative. I find myself too young
for that as it takes too long there doing nothing but standing. May be in
another 30 years I will get interested in those low energy artistic pursuits.
For now I have the urge and this insatiable need to be on the move all the time.
39.
TV.
My choice on TV is to not
spend too much time on news and let some sitcom like Friends, Jim, Raymond etc.,
run in the background while I do my work. I am able to multi-task such that I
can watch my computer screen and the TV at the same time and in fact I have to.
Here again it might amuse and tickle you to know that W-network if the channel
that I spend most of my time on.
40.
Reading.
Although I would rather be writing than reading them, but in order to enjoy my
solitary time, I do enjoy reading the legal dramas of John Grisham like Client,
Runaway Jury, Testament etc. And the other favorite author of mine is Dr.
Robin Cook is the medical author of Chromosome, Coma, Diagnosis.
I have also read Arthur Hailey and like the Evening News a lot. I have to
confide my taste for the women's novels written by Mary Higgins Clark as
well, and I have read some ten of those too. I do intend to write fiction myself
some day, hopefully not in too far remote a future. Most of my non-fiction
reading is about happiness. I have developed some of my original views as well
and I am working on developing websites to inform people about that.
41.
Travel.
As I mentioned that being bit on the homebody side, I do find travel a bit of a
drag. But that is not to say that I have not traveled. I see not much point in
mentioning the Indian cities I have visited. In North America I have driven to New
York, San Francisco, Kansas city, Colorado. I do intend to travel to Mexico,
Hawaii, Paris, Rome and London when I get the chance. I can handle travel very
well. Camping around the numerous campsite in B. C. is certainly fun but I have
done that in every other major city as well where I lived. I have been on luxury
cruises as well but would shy away from them now given the risk of sudden weight
gain and that it takes me away from my fitness routine. At one time I used to
enjoy driving and have driven to many provinces and States but now I am bored of
that and prefer that someone else drives. I am not into racecars or thrill of
speed. I no longer have a driving licence. I prefer to commute in Transit again
in keeping with my pro-environmental theme in life.
42.
Adaptability
and flexibility. When
talking about my dream date, I alluded to the fact that other than three
absolute exclusion criteria I can get along with anyone and that is because I am
able to adapt to any situation and am very very flexible. I have no hang up or
strict condition that has to be met to make me happiness. I have mastered the
art of being content and happy with myself without depending on anything from
outside other than good food and satisfying workouts and good sleep.
43.
Pets.
As far as pets go, dogs are the ones for me as they join me in the runs. Cats
not so much. And I have a preference for Standard Poodle but I might get
an Old English some day. I have nothing against cats and am certainty not
allergic to cats, which can sometimes become a relationship disaster. Keeping a
horse is a dream that may or may not be realized by me, all depends on how
motivated I get. Any dream I begin to pursue seriously becomes a reality, at
present the dream is to create my dream girl my MICU.
44.
Indoor
games. Needless to say that
my favorite game indoors is the play in bedroom, and other than that board games
I can be guessed to be getting easily bored with. The only exception is chess
and I am great chess player too. It is rare that anyone would defeat me in that
game as is the case with most other things. Defeating PV is not easy if you play
with any fairness. All of my defeats in the intellectual arena have been by
deceit.
45.
Extra-ordinary
me. I think the colorful
persona I would flash before you as me would at least sparkle if not glow as
someone very unique, remarkable and outstanding. You are sure to find me pretty
out of the ordinary as far as at least the professional go who are notorious for
being dull and boring and have little interest or accomplishment outside the
field of their professional practice which is for good reason. In fact, I too
would have been that way, had I not been ejected from the medical practice by my
life circumstances. In fact I am a blaring example of making lemonade from the
lemons!! May be something I can teach you if you are so inclined.
46.
Positive
psychology. I am very deeply
into positive psychology and have written a fair bit on that in my websites. On
a personal level, I can sell my being a word of few or no words as a plus. It
can assure that I wont ever yell which is a blessing in more than one way, and
there is little risk of backbiting or gossip as well. A cute benefit of not
speaking but offering responses in writing is that it adds a new dimension to
privacy of the communication such that they seem very intimate and personal for
being so clandestine and immune from being overheard. In the same vein I have
learnt to give a positive spin to everything as the motto of my life. In my eyes
it is not just the cloud that has a silver lining the entire cloud seems silver
to me!
47.
PV
is a flawless Gem. The
answer to this question has to be an overwhelming YES. By getting me in your
life, you are getting a real gem that you would enjoy having around and
cherishing with a minor proviso, which I will point out shortly. So in essence I
am selling myself to my MICU as a flawless Gem. I might have a minor flaw here
and there which might need some mending but nothing major and any serious
allegation of imperfection upon me would have to be false and would irritate me
tremendously and would produce untoward outcomes and is to be refrained from.
48.
Is PV Nuts? There is a great consensus over this. My
ways are pretty unorthodox and so full of life, that those looking for a mundane
regular date would not be glad to be in my company. I am a hybrid of a stand-up
comic, a clown and Jack Nicholson in One Flew Over Cuckoo's Nest. May be that
combo is the reason that I do get along well with everyone and am so adaptable
but my relationship lasts only as long as they do not criticize me. Once I am on
the defensive, it ruins things seriously. It is not because I am intolerant to
being criticized. But it is because I know that I am nearly flawless and being a
gem. Pointing out flaws in me is often a lie or a fraud and that comes up during
the defending that I am compelled to do once flaws are pointed out in me. The
result is the maker of the allegation then has to face allegations of fraud and
serious misrepresentations and that turns things ugly. So if the urge to
criticize me or leveling allegations against me of wrongdoing can be avoided
things would go totally smoothly. And I can guarantee that. In the end it often
ends up having to comply with nearly every request of mine because I promise to
do the same and that is what I call Love!
49.
PV's
Friends. I pointed out that
for various reasons I am pretty hermetic. I have not had many friends because I
had been too busy with work before the disability and since the disability
people shy away from me in case I might as for help etc., or just do not know
how to communicate with me and do not bother approaching me which is why I had
to rely on the introduction service. Even so, for me life is nothing but a long
party. I can be viewed as enjoying my life as a party and when I was able to
talk I was often the life of the party. But now I keep to myself and am pretty
content and happy with that style of life as well. My intention to meet ladies
is to just get over the guilt of tucking myself away from them as I do have a
lot to offer to someone so inclined. I do have lot of cool ideas to share with
someone interested in them. I still am able to keep things going well using
gestures and signs body language. I wish to spread the idea of Cuddle parties,
there seems to be none in Vancouver and I would like someone to start that here.
Information on how to do that can be found at cuddelparty.com
50.
Romance
of signing. I find that my
not speaking is pretty romantic in many ways. Through not being able to speak I
have managed to enhance my intuition and my body language skills that must be
viewed as something romantic because talking is mundane, ordinary, dull and
boring. As well all know when it comes to romance, everything is in the smile -
no need to utter words at all. .Words can ever hurt smiles don't which is why I
am in an intense pursuit of smiles and laughter, cuddles and dances and that is
the theme of my website cuddlendance.com but that is at very incipient idea
stage only. I need some motivation to work on that, which requires connecting
with others, which I find myself doing with the help of someone special and that
is what I am looking for.
51.
No
ego problems. At one point I
was asked how tall the date/mate should be and I said she could be 5-6 but
quickly added that I can go out with even a 5-9 like Tom Cruise is going with
Katie Holmes and even Nicole Kidman was fairly taller than him. It won't offend
me if she is taller or better than me in any other way. I can very plainly
respect the strengths of my mate in any area where she is superior to me. I
suffer from no insecurities or threats of any kind. I would in fact assist with
the enhancement of that strength of hers. I would however add it promptly that
if she is not into fitness things we would be going very different ways all the
time that it would not be fun. So being inclined to do at least modest exercises
regularly is a pre-condition. I am a person with sufficiently high self-esteem
that I am not threatened by the strengths of my intimate relationships.
52.
No
smoking rule. I can’t
handle smokers or even those people who have smoker friends. My nose and face
begin to intensely itch if I am in the presence of a smoker. And inhaling second
hand smoke gives me coughing bouts, which resemble asthma attacks. I do have a
bit hypersensitive airway.
53.
PV
a complementary “Butler”.
I am very much looking to get hired as a complementary or unpaid butler. That I
hope would help me sell myself. That is what I was doing in Nanaimo with Cindy
in Nanaimo. I cared for the cats dogs and did the house-keeping including
cooking cleaning and I the remaining time I used to do my legal work which is an
important part of my life now. I would get into details of that only if so
requested. MICU can appreciate that in order to have a good butler one has to be
not just very wealthy but also lucky so the offer is certainly drool-worthy.
54.
Patience
and perseverance. I am an
excruciating patient and perseverant person and the reason why I succeed or
excel in everything that I try my hands at besides my superior intellect is that
I persevere and do not give up until I have accomplished what I has set out to
accomplish. Given that presently my goal is to join some great woman in having
fun, I am confident that we will do plenty of fun things together but I am in no
rush there. I am confident that what I am after is going to happen, so why not
just wait for the right partner given that my humble goal is to be able to give
some lucky lady some memorably great time to enjoy with me.
55.
PV's
two relationship. After my
divorce, I was in a relationship for a while (6 yrs) in Nanaimo and then we
split on the grounds I described then I have been busy with some legal stuff I
stand to get some big bucks out of my injury claim because my stroke as result
of neck manipulation. I hope to get compensated for that injury and that could
be a sizable windfall. I am attempting this relationship thing for the third and
the last time. I do not intend to wind up the third relationship like I did to
the previous two.
56.
The
“breakups” (if that is
what you wish to call them) too are not the ordinary type, which happen due to
infidelity, finances, sexual incompatibility, drug addictions etc. In fact in my
views they are not even break-ups. I still feel connected the ladies I loved.
What I say, believe and practice is that once I have stated to a lady “I LOVE
YOU” it is for as long as I live. It is beyond my control to stop loving once
I have slept with a woman. That is how steady a guy I am. And thus far I have
been only with two. I sure am not into bed hopping, serial monogamy etc, either.
I am very very very faithful and utterly honest guy that is why I break up when
people undermine me and engage in a character assassination of mine, mostly to
cover up their own flaws and I find that simply to corrupt and unbearable to
continue relationship or friendship. So that is why despite being a Gem, people
have managed to throw me away given that I view myself as a perfectly cut gem
and I do not tolerate flaws in me. I would be glad to learn of them if I do have
genuine weaknesses. But given the diligence with which I have eliminated each
single one of them from my life, I do get utterly flustered when someone
casually slaps a few of them without thinking and without any basis of doing
that in fact.
57.
PV's
integrity and ethics.
Maintaining my high integrity and following my superior principles is the most
important thing to me. I do not and would never let anyone or anything stand in
the way of that, no matter what price I have to pay. I am that honest and that
is why I break up from people. Again in the words of my hero Jack Nicholson, in
Few Good Men, you have to be keep in mind that before you ask for honesty of
others that you should be able to “handle the truth” because it does tend to
be harsh, and ugly at times although real happiness and peace of mind too
resides in truth. There is however a price to pay. The suffering that comes from
following the path of total honesty and not make short cuts. It is tempting to
say yes to that proposal but then when the situation arises it is equally
tempting to lie and get around the hard work of pursuit of truth. The suffering
of pursuit of truth underlies the foundation of enduring elation as per my
HOGGER theory of happiness. It stands of Hope, Optimism, Gratitude, Generosity,
Empathy and Rationalization. The end result of this is that you have a guarantee
that I would never be willing to lie or be disloyal to the person I say I love,
for personal gains of any kind and would rather suffer than stoop to dishonesty.
The result of the above is that I can adapt to any personality type as long as
the person is honest and does not stand in the way of my principles.
58.
Pursuit
of beauty. I watch faces of
attractive women when I have the opportunity to do so. There is a reason for my
affinity for smoking bodies and there is plenty of scientific data to support
this and every other view that I hold. You will see that all Idols (American or
Canadian) and most of the good singers are great or hot looking. I can predict
the winners of the Idol by their looks. There in fact exists a gene that links
physical attractiveness with singing skills and intelligence. The result of
having that gene is that good singers and intellectuals tend to be attractive
and with the cruel stroke of nature ugly people are stupid as well. So when an
attractive person gets a job or gets promoted it is not necessarily that she
slept her way up. There are other factors operational behind there.
59.
Blonds
make me drool. I have to
confess my weakness for blonds. I can’t resist them. Some examples of the hot
blonds that I drool over are Heather Locklear, Courtney Thorne-Smith,
Portia de Rossi, and Christina Applegate. Ellisa Milano has been on
mind as well even if not blond. I seem to have a thing for Italian women and
also French women.
60.
PV's
drawbacks. I am well aware
of my few drawbacks as clearly as I know my strengths. My open assertion that I
am nearly flawless is viewed as many a form of arrogance. And I do not plan to
change that. My other weakness is that I tend to pick on peoples brain at times
a bit too much so if I am with people who do not see the humor there, they do
get offended a bit and I seem not to make any apology for that. But in short I
view myself nearly perfect and in no need to change. Therefore, it is wasteful
to attempt to change me, and respecting my immutability is a big advantage to
rely on as well given that I wont change my ways. In other words, I would be
playing overly polite at the outset and become rude later on, I am as rude as I
am ever going to get, so you are seeing what you would get in two years from
now. Consistency has its advantages although it can also be misinterpreted as
stubbornness. What you make of that is your choice, I am going remain just me,
the way I now am. I am not a work in progress but instead a finished product and
expect to be accepted “as is” and that goes for the mate I seek as well. I
might play a role in changing my mate only if she is so inclined. For example my
girlfriend or mistress of six years, wanted to become slimmer so I worked on
that. We did not succeed much but at least she held steady after a modest weight
loss. And over the past years since being apart from me her weight has bounced
back. So that is the extent to which I would attempt to change my mate.
61.
Nine
languages. In line with my
ongoing rambling of how smart a guy I am, I would dare to humbly mention that I
am familiar with seven standard language besides the sign language and Braille,
so that I can read in the dark or if I happened to lose vision. My French is
fairly workable for a visit to Paris and I can refresh my German, Spanish,
Italian if need be in order to go visit there. I can watch movies in six
languages.
62.
Pursuit
of drama. My interest in
reading up on happiness, something that every human appears fiercely going after
had taught me to focus on enjoying the drama of life and I would hope that
anyone I spend time with would find me at least somewhat entertaining in any
type of interaction or interview. I have spent some time learning to compose
comical writing. Being able to spread smiles and laughter seems to be all what I
need in my life now, having attained all other attainable things of life. Until
one learns to rationalize all type of sadness or sorrow it sure helps to grasp
that what we need to enjoy most is the drama of life. I would certainly be able
to offer a colorful time on a short term or long term basis if nothing else.
Without caring for sorrow or elation I am able to enjoy the drama of life and
that is the desired approach.
63.
Side
effect of PV's comical attitude.
I do get burnt at times when my jokes get misunderstood and accidentally end up
annoying others. Despite using caution it is not possible to escape those
awkward situations. All I ask from others is to bear with me and give me the
benefit of doubt, unless I am clearly stating a critical statement in simple
direct manner, I do not mean to insult or hurt anyone, and everything I am
saying is out of my desire to create fun and laughter. My classmate and room
mate in India has become so devoted to making people laugh that he does that on
a full time basis and has a very popular website laughteryoga.org which is worth
spending some time on. We used to preach and practice that together in our
medical school days. So my apologies in advance in the event I might
unintentionally hurt feelings of anyone. So this overly comical aspect of my
persona also tends to offend people at times. So that is again something that
needs to be taken into account by people wanting to come close to me. I plan to
keep playing these puns and jokes even at the risk of at times offending people
slightly. I want to be accepted as is given that in my eyes what I do is
creativity and humor and I wish to develop if further.
64.
Sign
Language: In order to get
along with me, it sure would help to learn a few basic signs. Besides being fun,
it is a skill that is helpful in many situations like Scuba diving, talking
across glass walls, and in bars or parties where loud music is playing
compelling one to shout to express one's needs. I would be more than happy to
teach anyone interested learn ASL (American Sign Language) and will be glad to
bring books for that purpose. There are a couple of good websites for learning
ASL. It is a great life skill to learn in any event. Cindy did learn it to get
along with me and used it for the six years we were together. It is not
difficult to learn at all especially if it is used on a daily basis. Many signs
are very sensible ways of indicating things. We can start with yes, NO, water,
wine, tea, coffee, good, bad, thank you, welcome etc.
65.
Inaccuracies
and misrepresentations. A
major reason for people not endeavoring to relate to others, come close to
others or expose themselves is the risk of being defrauded. Humans are
compulsive liars by nature and fears of all sorts make people state things that
they do so purposely with the intent to hurt but in order to relate to others in
intimate relationships they vow to be as honest as possible although temptation
to cheat is always there. The first hurdle often being that of becoming accepted
as a mate which is often done by fraud. Given my near perfect profile I have no
such need. I am able to sell myself with truth alone so that is what I do which
is part of the magic I spoke of at the outset. However I have to make a
cautionary note that the fact that I have to guess part of the questions and my
chronology is bit imperfect some of my answers are at the outset going to be
inaccurate and with time I will try to correct those honest mistakes. Secondly
for my own protection, I will be withholding a few harmless to others facts for
disclosure after sufficient trust has been established when I can be certain
that the personal facts about me if disclosed would not be abused to hurt me. In
that regard the intentional withholding of some facts would be short lived and
the disclosures would follow promptly. I see no way around that and would expect
and allow similar discretion to everyone dealing with me.
66.
E-mail exchange and MSN chat.
There are the best ways to overcome the above hurdle. I can ask you questions if
they come up. Anyone is welcome to e-mail me whatever one feels like. I respond
to all my messages promptly and politely. I am not online unless I am expected
to be online. So my MSN chat sessions are by appointment only by sending an
email first so that I make myself available.
Have
a superb life even if you decide not to become my MICU.
67.
Conflicting
expectation syndrome:
Another way of explaining the tragedy of my life is the fact of conflicting
expectations of women from men, which are disproportionately pronounced in my
case. The nativity lies in the fact that extraordinary events must be
anticipated when one attempts extraordinary things like keeping exotic pets. It
is unfair to the exotic pet, which I come close to get attracted to it initially
then abandon or try to domesticate the pet in the usual sense. Similarly it
would be unfair of a women to pick a guy for the extra two inches over the mean
length of 5.5 inches based on the presence of that extra and later get annoyed
with that very extra length and use it to reject the guy or in the alternative
suggest that the additional two inches must be lost. What must be understood is
thing come in packages and they must be accepted as the packages and fixing the
flaws is not wise unless professionals do that. A common mistake that women fall
prey to is through seeking high androgen masculine men upon becoming impressed
with their masculinity and later resent the fact of high aggression or control
taking behavior. The fact that testosterone produces both these things means one
cant be had without the other. I happened to be a high testosterone guy and tend
to take charge of situations. I resent men who are wimps with the extra two
inches and that is an obstacle to me as is my superior intellectual
accomplishments. The result of that is by conflicting with me which is
inevitable and would happen at some stage despite the initial promises by the
lady picking me not to do so, there is no hope of ever winning from me. So
unless you have thick enough skin to take series of defeats, or are feisty
enough to win at least a third of time, you would begin to feel tramples and
even abused. That is why I am going to insist that this time I be picky and not
be driven by usual compassion and find a lasting match that would be fun for
both. Winning all the time is no fun for me as is the case with the woman I am
with facing loss all the time. But I cannot fake lose either. The alternative
that I keep reminding of not clashing with me and always agree with and go along
with me is often not met with success.
68.
Knowing
me. As pointed out that I am
extremely unique and very different from the standard clients that you would be
dealing with, I would greatly appreciate you knowing me well so that you are
able to conclude that my request that you give me a 50% discount in your
professional fee is justified and reasonable demand of mine. You might ask why I
am bothering with you given that I can easily find someone online again as I did
last time. I can tell you that with Cindy I got hooked up within a week of
posting my profile on AFF. The thing that is different this time is that my
access to Internet is very limited given my other interests and preoccupations.
I would rather be doing more fun things and let you find a more appropriate
match for me given that I am bit inclined to be picky this time around given
that it is my last attempt a looking for love. Your role in my life would be
extremely important and from one angle the price of even a couple of thousands
is very negligible in light of what I am expecting of you. But on the other hand
it is possible to purchase a date without any wait for $200 a night. I have
never even considered paying for sex let alone buy it. That clashes with my view
about myself as being a God sent gift to the women and to be with me in bed is a
privilege worthy of earning. In my mind I do the lady a favour and she does that
to me, and that mutuality of love making is the reason why I have been held as a
“truly outstanding lover” by my bed mates.
69.
Friendship.
I was bit afraid that my disability might stand in my way and that you might
refuse to accept me as a client of yours. Even now I keep fearing that you might
change your mind and dump me. Anyway, for now I am pretty glad that you would be
helping not just me but some nice ladies out there as well. However, I would
like it a lot that you give me a bit of a special status and treat me as a
business associate of yours rather than just a client. It would be better still
if you see me as a friend. Although I did consider becoming a partner with you
and possibly invest with you for now due to couple of reasons I have put that
idea on hold but I do plan to re-visit it at some stage.
70.
Emotional
availability. Given that I
am conceding that despite the divorce from Leona and breaking up with Cindy I am
still emotionally connected to them both you and the dates that you set me up
with the exception of a long term relations would be very concerned if I would
be able to make myself emotionally available in a proper way, as would be
expected in an unencumbered way. My answer to that is a straightforward yes.
Despite the fact that |I still see and refer to Leona as my wife and Cindy as my
girlfriend or mistress, I am able to love another lady with full devotion. I
have a tremendously capacity to love. It would not matter to the my next life
partner if I stay connected to these two nice ladies. However I would clearly
respect her wishes and if she would object to my communicating with them, which
I would be surprised would happen, I would have no problem devoting myself only
to the lady no 3 in my life, who as I mentioned would be the last lady I plan to
relate to in this lifetime. I hope that the fact that both of the woman I split
from never looked for other man to replace me is not viewed as evidence that I
am so “horrendous” a guy that I might have turned them into lesbians. Nor
should the fact that I still love, care for and respect them, that I would be
burdened by that fact in relating to MICU. I am capable of loving all three at
the same time.
71.
Ultra-clean
PV. I find it important to
tell that I am regular flosser besides being a guy with highly clean habits
because lazy is not something that can be attached to my name, and those who are
messy are in reality lazy. To me life is such a source of joy that I want to
live every moment of it which can at times get bothersome for those around me as
they feel pushed around as I tend to force them along compelling them to live
life to fullest.
72.
PIA.
I am not talking of Pakistan Air Lines here. I am talking of me. I can guarantee
that I would be viewed as a pin in the rear due to my rigidity of principles or
adherence to routine. It is tempting to give into temptations. That is why they
are called temptations. I have mastered the urge to curb them and demand that of
others nearby if I feel necessary and that is the key problem that would arise
and needs some understanding on the part of my mates.
73.
My
best attribute. I have to
make it clear that it is simply no possible to talk about me or describe me
without coming across as if all I am doing is boasting and showing myself off.
It makes sense to me to get that out of the way and given that my mate would
want to know me to decide whether to pair with me or not it is even necessary.
No one has ever doubted that I am riddled with qualities and only an exceptional
minor glitch of almost no consequence unless one tries to blow it out of
proportion and make a mountain of a tiny speck. If I were to answer what is my
most outstanding trait, it has to be compassion, generosity and ability to
forgive. That is what the real magic is that I have never had any problem
befriending women and staying in the relationships as long as I want to or
tolerate their attempts at amending me to make me lose my uniqueness. They never
succeed and get frustrated and that is probably the worst trait in me. I don't
and won't change unless I decide to do that. If MICU can deal with that there
would be no bumps in our ride together.
74.
Playing
games. Many profiles talk of
women who would wish to stay away from those who wish to play games. I must make
it clear that I would be bored to death, if I do not play games. I do that all
the time. However there is a difference and that games I play are not what they
mean, as they are innocent and fun games. I would like them not be misunderstood
and mislabeled so that I do not feel that my creativity is either smothered
which is the major source of conflict that I anticipated.
75.
Why
the breakups. It is natural
that in order to test the validity of my claim that I am the “hottest catch”
as I claim to be then why did Leona and Cindy broke up with me. Although I do
claim that I am the one who terminated/suspended the relationship there is
always the possibility that the women dumped me or broke up with me and that I
am simply giving my version of the story with a twist to look good and blame
free. In any event it seems important to know the why of it, given that is it
certainly not financial distress, infidelity, drug issues of personality
conflicts. So why did anyone split from a remarkable and incredible guy that I
claim to be. My answer to that is my being incredible is the very problem, What
attracts also happens to repel. The fact that I am extra-ordinary must have
become pretty clear to you by now. I am certainly not acting in the usual
ordinary manner. I could be seen as nuts. The dynamics of my break ups are
simple and important to understand so that this third attempt of mine does end
up being a real and lasting charm for both of us. The answer is that both Leona
and Cindy insisted that I become ordinary from my extra-ordinary self. Here I
would mention some signs posted by city of Vancouver near ponds requesting that
people not feed the geese and ducks and respect their wild nature. What went
wrong and might go wrong again is that attempts would be made to make me
ordinary from my extra-ordinary self. I have worked hard and very diligently to
become extra-ordinary and must be accepted as my extra-ordinary self without
attempts at making me ordinary. I am not, nor would I ever be happy being
ordinary. That is why when I felt too pushed by both Leona and Cindy to become
ordinary; I had to call it quits. So MICU has to learn to accept me as the
extra-ordinary and great guy that I am, even if it sounds like I am nuts. One
sign of my being nuts or non-conformist is that I am a nudist or more correctly
stated a naturalist. Wearing clothes is unnatural and harms the planet. I simply
do not like to wear clothes, and resent having to dress up, I do not even own
expensive clothes. All attempts by everyone to make me dress well have been
frustrating and I did not change. Those habits are what MICU has to get used to
or accept me as I am. And there are a couple of dozen such harmless things that
bug people about me. The point is to leave me as I am and not start to work on
me as if I were a project, because I am not. I am a bit wild and almost
autonomous and self-drive person and things would work out great between us if
you can get to know understand and accept me exactly the way I am. That is why
get to know me well and not get tempted into accepting me because I sound just
too good and a great or may be the best possible catch, which I am, but with
some side effects or eccentricities. All my eccentricities are part of my and
attempts at amputating my eccentricities out of me would prove to be disastrous.
I would hang in for several years attempting to make you understand what I| am
and why I ought to be left alone. But if I see no progress and no hope of being
accepted in my extra-ordinary self, I would have to terminate or suspend the
relationship for the third and the last time. My answer here is bit lengthy but
given that it would form a foundation of our relationship I feel it is important
to get this point across. Despite both MICU and me being good individuals as is
the case with Leona and Cindy things might not work out perfectly if my
uniqueness and extra-ordinary nature is not understood and accepted completely.
In fact, I would expect to be encouraged with my out of the ordinary views.
76.
Blame
for the break-ups. In
fairness even though I am the one who has suspended/terminated the past two
long-term relationships, I still being as objective as one possibly can, accept
very little of the blame given that there is an inherent fundamental unfairness
in accepting something or someone for an outstanding or extra-ordinary trait
that is very important for its or his integrity and then later on attempt to
remove that special aspect of the person and compel that the very special
feature which originally attracted him, must be removed. That is why I conclude
myself to be the victim. Although in most breakups each party is fully convinced
and proclaims to be the victim, but often that view is fraudulent and it is
possible to see through the falsehood but in my case there is plenty of
objectivity and fits well. It has an air of reality, at least that is what I
hope to say at this stage and would allow my theory to be tested and verified.
In any even, there is no bitterness for being victimized in my mind. I have
completely forgiven and hold no grudges because I understand their rationale and
actions, not without calling naive and unjust. The urge to conformity is a
strong human tendency while it fails to take into account that creativity is not
a trait of conformists. They are incompatible. One must lose conformity to
become creative. I chose the route of creativity and high principles over
conformity. Despite being initially very attractive that creativity loses charm
and the urge to seek conformity takes over and the reason for attraction is not
only lost but also becomes a repellent. Because of my ability to undertake that
entire analysis I am able to forgive them and would do that again. I do however
feel tremendously fortunate for having received an immense amount of love from
Leona and Cindy and my gratitude for that is never-ending one. I hope MICU to
outdo both of them put together.
77.
My
Past. I am clearly ignoring
the traditional advise not to bore or bother the future mate with the details of
the past relationships and instead I am dwelling a lot on that on purpose and I
hope a very positive outcome out of this unorthodox non-traditional approach.
The reason for that is my past in itself is non-traditional. There is even a
beauty in the break-ups of my past. Whether they can be called break-ups is open
to interpretation. I expect to make myself better known through describing my
past relationships because I am not ashamed of it and I wish to emphasize the
fact that past would certainly repeat in my case, which is something other men
would be afraid of. The only difference this final time around I hope that the
relationship would endure to eternity, I mean eternity as much as it applies to
human life. Both Leona and Cindy had made it clear that they wish to love me
always and never share me with anyone else. The part of loving me and
remembering me for rest of their lives is inevitable, the sharing part is not as
I find that not giving me to someone deserving of me would be very unfair.
78.
A real fantasy.
Even though my offer is one of a dream or a fantasy the best part is, it is for
real. That should be tempting enough and worthy of a test drive with me tasting
me. The mechanical or literal version of this gustatory analogy is naturally of
kissing. Being a man with many old-fashioned values although I can hug with
impunity and without consequences, once I kiss a woman, she becomes my
responsibility and I would have implicitly undertaken to serve and protect her
no matter what. And my promise to help out is for life and that means that if
ever Leona or Cindy get into a situation that they need help, and I do have
reasons to believe that they would, I would feel morally obliged to reach out
and help out even though that does not mean getting back together in the
ordinary sense. In fact, at this time my offer to get back together is also
known to them and all they have to convince me is that they abuse and assaults I
sustained at their hands would not be repeated. Neither has taken me up on my
challenge yet. Yes it is precisely true that I am truly offering
a fantasy that would last for a few decades if the two of us work on it. It
might sound risky and intimidating but without taking risk one never gets
anything worthwhile and what is romance without risks!
79.
Why
do all the bragging now and here.
I have taken the time to put all of my traits here to tell as much relevant
information about me even if it sounds unbelievable and incredible, and
annoying, pompous and gloating in nature so that I wont have to do it face to
face, which is lot harder and also because then with this all out of the way I
can focus on my MICU. The chore of having to outline myself in some detail out
of the way also makes it possible that fun can begin sooner without the need for
any waiting and awkwardness. I would go to special lengths to make you
comfortable on our initial meeting when we would be invading each others
personal spaces. I would most humbly request you to not make any attempts to
“impress” me as people do. Impressing me is very difficult if not
impossible. I would respect all that you have to truly and really offer. And if
there are enough real attributes about you to impress me there should be no need
to waste your energy doing that. If you are putting in energy that would only
raise suspicions. So just be yourself and allow me to entertain you. And finally
I would be so grateful and pleased to learn that you accepted me as a person to
honor me with the pleasure of your company that I would be pretty well impressed
already again eliminating the need to go any further. And it would be unwise to
try to reciprocate to my letter in person. That should be left for a later time
either by emailing me or even better during MSN chat session.
80.
I
will die for you MICU. Being
a hopeless (but optimistic at the same time) lover, I am never short of throwing
romantic lines around, although I mean every single word at the same time. So
the profundity of my romanticism, height of my passion and extent of my love for
you MICU can best be summarized by my promise that if a situation arose I would
not hesitate to knowingly place myself in the line of fire to make sure you are
safe and that you live even if I don’t. Although I do wonder why would you
keep on living after that. I will have to let you answer that. May be the answer
can come from Titanic.
Best
Regards Cheers and Hugs_________Pat Verna