This is a very common thing, and I have plenty of personal experience to go by because I was with an unbelieving woman for 8 months and this just completely destroyed me. I'll get on to that later.

The bible says, in 2 Corinthians 6:14-17,

"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial (the devil)? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: 'I will live with them and walk with them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.'
'Therefore come out from them and be separate,'
says the Lord.
'Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.'"

This passage is also referenced to Isaiah 52:11 and Ezekiel 20:34,41. If you don't have a bible of your own, you can read these passages by clicking on the individual verse numbers.

Now looking at this, imagine this is 1848, and you want to ride into town to get groceries. You've got a carriage with a place for two horses side by side. Let's pretend you hook up a horse on one side, and a mule on the other and head off on your way. I know this sounds silly, which is exactly my point. I'm sure you've figured it out by now: you don't get very far because you keep running into the ditch since the horse's stride is much longer. If this were the desert, you'd just be riding around in a big circle--getting nowhere.

This is the same as a believer and unbeliever being tied together. When I was with Ilean for eight months--and I think it was only because of God giving me great patience that I stuck it out that long--there was a constant struggle to keep going forward. It wasn't working at all.

I would try to pray, and she wouldn't let me have the peace to do it. Financially, I went deeply into debt being with her. I'll be digging myself out of that for a long time. Emotionally, I thought I loved her but I've come to realize I just felt great pity for her and mistook it for love. I've also come to realize that I never really felt joy while I was with her. Physically, my body actually ached just being around her. Spiritually, I had no closeness with God because my focus was always on her--she wouldn't give me any time to be alone with Him. I'm sure there are other aspects that I just can't think of at the moment, but I think there's enough for you to get the picture. I'm still climbing out of the ditch I fell into while I was with her.

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