10.           My son has shown, revealed or been subject to the following behaviour:

(i)             Repeatedly jumped on me while making thrusting movements with his groin

(ii)           Repeatedly asked me for sex “let’s have sex” and said: “Keep it in the family.”

(iii)          Repeatedly tried to grab my groin

(iv)         Repeatedly asked for oral sex

(v)           Repeatedly used adult pornographic language such as saying: “I like a nice juicy cock all hairy around the base.”

(vi)         Repeatedly tried to kiss me on the lips

(vii)        When attempts were made by me to tell him that his behaviour was unacceptable, my son had the audacity to argue that it is acceptable for adults to have sex with children. He shrugged his shoulders when I said it was wrong. He asked: “Why?” when I said it was wrong. When I said: “Surely if it was okay for children to have sex with grown ups it wouldn’t be against the law?” he replied: “Probably.”

(viii)      My son and his two male cousins spontaneously got up from a video game they were playing and leapt around having simulated sex with each other including simulated buggery. They did this without any expression on their faces of joy or displeasure. They then spontaneously stopped, sat down and carried on with their video game as if nothing had happened.

(ix)          I have witnessed my son being kissed full on the lips by his maternal grandmother when he was aged nine.

(x)            My son claimed that his mother rubs his nose in his wet sheets when he wets the bed and that his stepfather said this was to “make me more sexy.” The mother admitted in an interview with DOCS that she has rubbed my son’s nose in his wet sheets as a punishment for bed-wetting.

(xi)          Despite his age, my son regularly sleeps in his grandmother’s bed.

(xii)         Once a fortnight, my son sleeps with his male cousins despite my complaints to the maternal grandmother and maternal aunt that the sexualised behaviour he has revealed makes it unsuitable both for him and the cousins.

(xiii)       My son and I were wrestling when I noticed that his armpits smelt. I said: “Cor, mate, you need to take a shower.” He replied in a grey monotone voice: “Lick them out, lick all the hairs until the smell is all gone.” When I asked him where he had learnt such a thing, he said: “I made it up.” He then rapidly changed his mind and said: “I learnt it at school.”

(xiv)       My son has held me in tight uncomfortable embraces and said in a strange nasal voice: “I’m giving you a squeezee.”

(xv)        My attached copy of my letter to the Department of Community Services dated 2 September 1999 refers to the above.

11.           It is my belief, based on the following, that my son is at risk of abuse from the entire maternal family.

(i)             My son has displayed highly inappropriate sexual behaviour and a moral attitude that says it is acceptable for children to have sex with adults.

(ii)           My son must have learnt such behaviour and attitudes from somewhere. In other matters he has normal behaviour and attitudes, (bar from being noted at school as being withdrawn and quiet.) He has little life outside his family.

(iii)          Members of his family have shown a contradiction in respect of my son’s sexual behaviour. Some, such as the mother and grandmother, have denied ever seeing the behaviour and attitude that I have complained about. Others, such as the maternal uncle, have stated: “He has always been like that.”

(iv)         The maternal grandmother told me that her daughter and the stepfather had accused her of sexually abusing my son but “they could not prove it …nobody can prove it.” In the interview notes of DOCS with the mother and stepfather, the stepfather is recorded as saying: “If anyone is abusing him, it is the grandmother.”

(v)           The maternal grandmother said to me that claims by the mother that she was abused by the maternal great grandfather could not have been “such a big deal” yet submitted an affidavit to court in which she claimed to have been devastated to find out about such abuse.

(vi)         Since court proceedings commenced in respect to the maternal grandmother’s application for contact the mother has claimed she w as abused as a child by the maternal great grandfather. She has not made a formal complaint against the grandfather despite claiming to be concerned about my son coming into contact with him. Despite her claim to have been an abuse victim, her own child (my son) has acquired a moral attitude that says it is acceptable to have sex with adults. My son denied to me that his mother had ever warned him about sex abuse.

(vii)        The family is involved in witchcraft and this, by their own admission, includes the mother, the grandfather, the maternal aunt and a friend of the family. DOCS advised me that witchcraft is linked to child sex abuse.

(viii)      The maternal uncle first defended the stepfather as not being an abuser but three weeks later changed his mind and said he was because he has the correct “passive aggressive personality.” According to DOCS the maternal uncle runs his own private seminars on the subject of child sex abuse.

(ix)          The maternal uncle admitted running his own pre-school in which the mother, the maternal aunt and the maternal grandmother worked. He admitted that the authorities revoked the licence.

(x)            My son has displayed inappropriate behaviour towards me of trying to touch my groin while his maternal aunt and grandmother were in the next room and with the door open. He has not displayed such behaviour when in public with me. This ability to know to control his behaviour in public reveals how he knows to keep the abuse in the family.”

(xi)          There is constant talk of bed “hopping” with adults. My son was persuaded to “hop into bed with your dad tonight.” There is constant talk of him “hopping into bed” with the grandmother. I saw the maternal aunt leave her own bed to get into my son’s single bed with him during the middle of the night. My son regularly sleeps in his grandmother’s bed. He is also made to share a bed with his younger cousins and has told me that he sometimes sleeps with his younger (half) brother.

(xii)         My son’s cousins have displayed inappropriate behaviour and this includes one child, when she was only two-and-a-half years old, pleading to see my penis “please show me your willie Pierre” while trying to drag me into a side room from a room that was full of adults. An eight-year-old invited me to his bedroom to look at a book that he received for Christmas, shut the door, lay down on the bed and then exposed himself to me. My son has regular contact with these children.

(xiii)       There have been other incidents of inappropriate behaviour from the cousins including that outlined in section 10, number (viii).

(xiv)       According to DOCS, my son’s uncle runs seminars on child sex abuse, yet neither he nor his family ever advised me of this. Instead, the uncle claimed to be employed by the Prison Service as a specialist dealing with child sex abusers.

(xv)        My son is not allowed to play with the neighbour’s children and his life revolves around the tight family network. He is not a member of any children’s groups such as the scouts. My son’s mother does not talk to neighbours to the left, right and rear. I have been advised by a child abuse organisation that social isolation is linked to child abuse.

(xvi)       The maternal grandmother suggested an incestuous relationship between the mother and the maternal uncle, “they were found together …. I will tell you more and other family secrets when I know you better.” The mother told me that the maternal aunt had walked naked around the family hobby farm until she was sixteen, in front of her family including older brothers.