Date: July 11, 2003
From: Samantha
To: projectadoption
Subject: (none)

How can you afford another child if you can't afford the adoption costs? I'm really not trying to be rude or insensitive, I just want to make sure that you will be able to provide for this child you want to adopt...
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From: Projectadoption
To: Samantha
Subject: RE: (none)

Dear Ms. Samantha,
Thank you for writing. I don't know what else to say other than I have a good job, in a technical field. I make a good income, and Dad receives Social Security disability, due to a diformed hip preventing him from being able to work. I have excellent insurance, and my position is fairly secure (as suecure as any other job can be in this day in age).

We have no problem paying our bills and putting food on the table, and gas in the tanks. What we do lack is the HUGE savings account to afford the adoption. We do put some in a savings account every pay. We have been able to pay cash for a new transmission for my truck, and other need repairs to my vehicle, and our deductable out of pocket responsibility to our insurance. That has put a drain on our savings account, but we are managing fine on our own.

Normally the adoption process takes anywhere from 9 to 18 months. That gives the parents time to save and do other things to get the money. Since we have a child in mind it is just a paper work issue and the process can be done in a few months provided that we have the money. We do plan on haveing other fund raisers to help get the money. It is not uncommon for families to have fundraisers to help with the expenses.

Our biological son does not do without. He had medical need that have been met since his birth, and he is fine and under control. He has new clothes as needed, and quite the library of books in his room. He is not spoiled, but yet still has a lot. Another child will not be that much more of a burden to our family.

P.A.

(This one is not all the noteable, but I thought I would put it here anyway. The text has been edited to remove the bad word(s), as this is a family web site.)

Date: July 7, 2003
From: Coffeebean
To: projectadoption
Subject: Your adoption web site

I just came across your web site and you people are too <*******> sick for words. You give adoption a bad name, because adoption is NOT charity or begging. Adoption is a very dignified way to become a family and you are obviously in no shape to parent another child. How did you get an approved home study, if you CAN'T afford to adopt? Use the old disabled excuse, but I think someone is too lazy to work. How did an adoption agency give you a referral, if you can't afford to adopt? When I looked to see who your adoption agency is, it all came to light. It figures...Angel's Haven and I hope they rip you off too.
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From: Projectadoption
To: coffeebean
Subject: RE: Your adoption web site

Dear Ms./Mr. Bean:
Not that this email dignifies a response...

First let me thank you for writing to me. Second may I suggest to you DECAF! You seem a bit wound up this morning.

How can I possibly be giving adoption a bad name? I am just asking for help with an adoption that we would like to do. We are not asking/demanding for it totally to be paid for. We are saving our money as well. This is no different than having a bake sale to help raise the money. Adoption is a wonderful process. It is also a very expensive process, especially international adoptions. You stated that we are "...in no shape to parent another child." What shape does one need to be in, square, circle, cylindar??? Ya know what, we are in human shape and have the room and love for another child in our family.

Maybe you should read more carefully next time, as I said that we have not started any of the adoption as of yet. I further explain that since we have a child in mind, the process will proceed fairly quickly, so we are waiting until we have the money saves/raised to proceed. BTW, we have a no intrest account set up so that any donations stay that...a donation and not a profit.

"Use the old disabled excuse, but I think someone is too lazy to work." You couldn't be farther from the truth. My husband is truly disabled, due to a major joint diformity. I do not recall the name of the problem right off but it has a very l-o-n-g name. He was just to a specialist last week and they agreed that he is indeed disabled, unable to work. He needs a joint replacement, however the specialist went on to explain that he is simply too young, and no one will touch him. We have been through several specialists in 2 different states and they all say the same thing. So until you walk a mile in his shoes...close your mouth and watch the words in emails. There is nothing we both would like more than to have him 100% and working. This just isn't the hand we have been delt. It has on the positive side allowed him to be home with our son from birth, instead of paying for daycare. We also feel that if you have kids you should take care of them. We do not do daycare, babysitters, or anything like that.

I work. I currently have 3BS degrees, and hold a nice job. We have talked about me getting another job to put in a savings for the adoption, but we decided against that as our sone needs his mom too. I work sporatic long hours, and sometimes have to travel and a second job would not be doable given that I do not always know when I will have to work late, or get very much notice when I have to travel. I do not get paid overtime.

As far as the adoption agency goes, there seems to be nothing wrong with Angel's Haven. I checked them out. We would have liked to go with a local agency, but we really want to try to get this specfic child, and to do that we have to go through his listing agency...hence Angel's Have.

In closing, You should not make accusations if you have no proof to back them up. It may come back to bite you in the end. < Matthew 7:1 "Judge not, that you be not judged." > Lay off the caffeine, put on a smile, and quit being a grump!

Smile, it does a body good!
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