This is my story.
When I was 21 year old, I met my boyfriend in a club, he was 19 year old. I wasstudying at the University here in Italy where I live and I had just won aschool-ship for the University of California, that was my"dream". My boyfriend didn't study and didn't work either, he used to spend days waiting for the weekend and hanging out with friends to get drunk or try some drug. Well, when we met, it was June and I was supposed to leave for CA in September, but I couldn't leave because of the tragedy in NY, all the flights were cancelled and my trip was postpone in December...Later I found to be pregnant and I had a very
little time to make a choice. The ways were to keep the baby and stay at home or to have an abortion and leave. I decided to keep my baby, after thinking a lot about it, I had even booked some doctor's appointment to stop the pregnancy, but at the end I missed it. Later it was impossible to keep on living in my mother's house: she didn't want to see my boyfriend and hated him, then she wanted to control all my life and didn't help me at all during the pregnancy neither financially, so I moved in my boyfriend's apartment, meanwhile he found a job and started some courses to get the high school degree. I didn't talk to my parents during all the pregnancy and they never came to visit me in the other house, only my boyfriend's parents seemed to be more friendly toward me. Anyway, I kept on studying and going to classes, it wasn't easy, but I passed the exams, even if my friends didn't support me much.
My baby was born on 22 July,2002, day of my mother's b-day. The labor and delivery were beautiful, it was painful, but not that much. My boyfriend cut the cord and we went back home after 48 hours with our lovely Robert. Now Robert is 8 months old, I still go to University and I'll graduate after 4 more exams, he helps me a lot because he gave me the strenght not to give up. It's not easy, because I do all by myself, I do all the housework, then I'm still breastfeeding him and going to courses and studying, anyway all this makes me feel very happy, it's all worth, I think and I would do the same choice. Moreover, me and my boyfriend love a lot and we live together, even if everybody was like " it's a big mistake, you won't do anything in your life!"
So I suggest everyone should listen to the own heart, then there is the right answer for all, you can always trust your heart and love, of course. After my baby's birth, I figured out that my real "dream" was to be a good mother and now I feel very lucky having him here with me.
Anto |
