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| There are many feelings and emotions you will go through after the loss of a child. I have asked many people in the online grief groups I support and it appears they all seem to have similar feelings, feelings we may, after a while, believe are strange are in fact quite common. Loneliness >>>>>>> no-one to talk to who understands Depression >>>>>>> feeling of not knowing anything or not wanting to know anything Fear >>>>>>> feelings of loss of control, of not knowing the future Lost >>>>>>> not knowing where you belong Anger >>>>>>> feeling angry at many people, angry that this happened to you and your child .........you may even be angry with God Disbelief >>>>>>>this is a very common emotion as it it hard to believe that this has happened to you Shock >>>>>>> there could be a delay in grief due to shock also Fear >>>>>>> of most things ,of being alone Emptiness >>>>>>> the feeling of emptiness can be over whelming Denial >>>>>>> you simply refuse to believe this is true Of course, if any of these emotions become to much for you to bear, you should seek medical assistance straight away. |
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| There is NO set time for grieving. Don't let anyone tell you it is time to move on. Only you will know when you are able to learn to live with your loss, that is what we all do, we learn to live with it at some stage. We (grieving parents) are in a group of our own. No-one else completely understands how we feel unless they too have been through the loss of a child. To lose anyone we love is hard, but the loss a child is out of order, never should any parent have to bury their child. I lost my father when I was 17, yes it hurt and still does, but the feeling when your child dies is just so totally different. You spend each day wondering about what should have been and knowing you will never know....... |
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| Even though we feel so alone when we lose our child, there are many other people who have suffered this loss also and are ready and willing to talk to you at any time. When I lost Rhys, I lost most of my friends. Not long after the funeral they seemed to have slowly dissapeared, no more calls, no visits, I felt so alone. So one of the aims of POSSAMS is to make sure other parents aren't left to feel the same way I did. I will have contact numbers here for you to be able to reach people and Chat rooms where you are able to talk to people on the internet... You are NOT Alone !!!!!!!!!!!! |
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