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| Body-part touching is confusing Ears� legs� elbows� knees Foreheads� anuses� ankles Lips� the list goes on and on But why are some Body-parts Thought about so differently Why do some parts carry so Much more �Special Meaning� Than other Body-parts� why Are some parts so laden with Emotion� anxiety� even anger Why is a nipple so different Than say a wrist? Why would the touching of the One Body-part be commonplace While the touching of the other A potential invitation to bliss� Or to mayhem How did you already know Which one was which? This Body-part touching is Strange stuff� important stuff Impacting dramatically on Virtually everyone�s life� How they perceive themselves If their intimate relationships Succeed or fail.. or just settle Into some ongoing �limbo�� Tolerable� but not satisfying How does everyone learn Which Body-parts are so Special ? Do we just presume they have Special Meaning because they�re Supposed to be cloaked from view But what about uncloaked hands And lips that flop in and out of the Classification of �Special Meaning� Is the �Special Meaning� label not Related to the Body-parts per se But rather to the Use of the parts� For example nipples do not have Special Meaning unless and until They�re touched by lips or fingers Or yet another alternative� Could it be that �Special Meaning� Comes from the Context of the Touching� meaning Body-part Touching by one is desirable� But abhorrent if another touches And if the Concept of Body-part Touching is confusing� What about individuals� Perceptions Of this major aspect of a life� How could they vary so widely How is it possible that for many Body-part touching is an avocation Pursued with vigor� joy�passion Creativity - yea even desire |
| And yet for others� Body-part Touching is a �make-do� activity An occasional one� one endured Rather than one embraced Accepted rather than sought Tolerated rather than initiated How is all of this possible� How could the same activity� Touching of �Special Meaning� Body-parts� be perceived by The former as exuberant� by The latter as mediocre Does everyone start neutral ? And what of the remaining� Those who perceive Body-part Touching as the �pits�� messy Replete with onerous fluids Sensations� feelings� best To be avoided whenever possible How can an entire core of a life be Frightened or willed away. Why ? How does this happen ? Who would permit this� Is the subject of Body-part Touching Really that complex and confusing Mightily worthy of the turmoil and Disarray it often causes in individuals Families� children� society Or is the simple activity� Body-part Touching in and of itself� Really just very simple� a joyful activity That celebrates life and Aliveness� and Deserves to have participation�s cloak Of shame or deceit removed forever Could it be us who are confused and Perplexed� disarrayed by a society�s Instructions that were built upon idealized Aspirations from folklore and fairytales� � and then transmitted mindlessly from One generation to another by those Whose Quest for Conformity compelled Them in fear� to teach what they knew From their own observations and life of Body-Part touching� to be false Often hypocritical� and detracting from Their own happiness and satisfaction Who would continue to wish this Insanity upon their children�s Lives? |
| To Touch� Or Not to Touch� That is the Perplexing Question |
| Excerpted with permission from: The Little Red Book of Drivel Soul Rot and Other Forms of Insane Relationships In the 3rd Millennium � 2000 Relationships Press All rights reserved |
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