>> DOCTOR T <<
This really isn't Aaron Carter related, but hear me out. I am human, just like all of you. We all have problems in our life and it can be really hard to deal with them, even the small ones. So, since I have got praise of giving good advice (online, over the phone, and in person), I decided to start up an "advice column" on ACC!
I will NOT guarantee a response, nor will I take responsiblity if my 'advice' backfires in your face. You are the final call with what you do; I am trying to be a guiding hand. So I do NOT want to hear it!!! :) I am NOT a professional, just a 17-year-old that, as some have said, been through a lot for my age.
Your email will NOT be posted, but if you want me to email you personally, leave your email and lemme know! You can address yourself with your name, anonymous, or something like "Heartbroken," or "Depressed."
If you do NOT want your synopsis posted, TELL ME. If you want it to be posted to help others out that may be having a similar problem, TELL ME.
Alright, I'm done blabbing, but hey, this is serious stuff.
And by the way... wanna know what gets me up when I get down?! Shania Twain! She's a doll--love her dearly!!! Her music, her personality! How can you not love her?! =P
Dear Lil Miss Me, If you meant half as much to him as he means to you, and after being told you don't like what he does, then he would not continue to smoke pot, drink, and fight. If everything else feels right BUT those things, then I think you need to let go. The stuff he is doing not only puts him in jeopardy, but you as well. You most certainly can still be friends, but until he stops doing that not cool stuff to where you are okay with it (and don't lie to yourself), then he doesn't deserve someone like you for a girlfriend.
Dear xtie,
Do you enjoy doing well in school and participating in out-of-school activities? If so, then you are not boring. Believe it or not, many actually look up to you and admire you. Honest. Behind the mask of some of the other people, they admire you! I don't think you should need to prove yourself to anyone. I know it's hard not to think about what others are saying about you, but try taking their words, working with them, and using them to your advantage. See, in 10 years you are likely going to be very happy and successful, due to your strengths and drive right now. You'll be more experienced in more ways than school wise. One of my best friends told me I am not only book smart, but street smart as well. Not that I know you, but I bet you are the same way. Keep focused on the future, but make sure you have time to just chill and relax, but that does not mean 'doing what everyone else is doing,' which sadly, seems to be drinking, drugs, and sex. *sigh*
Dear Shy Girl,
Your not alone in getting the chance to meet Aaron only to end up not being able to function properly. LOL! I am thinking the next time you will be able to speak because you know so well you "blew it" the first time. But something that may help... when it really comes down to it, Aaron is just a normal guy. Ask him a question to start up a convo. He won't think you are weird or anything. Infact, I bet he'd appreciate it, a lot. Ask him if he's seen any good movies lately or something like that.
Dear Linda,
You can't make anyone do anything (work with me here), especially when it comes to love. That is one feeling that goes really deep. I suggest you be his friend, first and foremost. Don't force anything, just let it flow. I am a believer in 'everything happens for a reason,' so, in your situation, if you and this guy are meant to be boyfriend/girlfriend, or perhaps more, it'll happen. You'll feel it, as will he.
Dear Melissa,
Ask yourself this: "Do I want more with this guy because of what others are saying or because of how I feel?" You need to be sure of the answer before you make any 'moves'. Keep in mind that whatever may happen in the future puts your current best friend relationship in jeopardy. Sucks, but it's true! As I say often, part of my philosophy is 'everything happens for a reason.' You both need to feel that special connection for something true to grow. I know it won't impress him much if he is told others think you and him would make a cute couple and he would treat you right. You and him are to be the judge of that.
Dear Overprotected Teen,
Sneaking around your mother is NOT a good idea. Your relationship with your mother is key in this. You certainly don't have to tell her everything, but I think you need to be telling her things that affect you at a certain level. Most moms are smart and they sense something is up or something is wrong. Try sitting your mom down, just the two of you, and talk--keep your cool! How you react has a huge impact on how she will react. Even if she raises her voice, don't raise your voice at her. Say, and not in a snobby way, that you don't appreciate her yelling at you when you are trying to deal with an issue that is important to the both of you. And most of all, see your mom's point of view on this, and let her know you see it. I am hoping you two will be able to meet in the middle. This may not relate to you, but I'll say it anyway--don't do things because others are or you think it's the "cool" thing to do.
Dear Mandi,
If you're not going to see him much, then your relationship is not likely to last long. You don't always have to follow up on your lustful feelings. I think as you get older, you'll better understand the feeling of lust and attraction, compared to chemistry and a connection. Don't go out of your way to start anything, just keep doing what your doing and when you see him, ask him what's new! Friends first, always...