So what’s in it for me? Well a killer personality and sense of style along with a number of other stereotypical characteristics for starters. What I had envisioned though, was a level of equality that I thought I would not be able to get with a woman. My idea of gay relationships, revolved around the idea that they would be fifty-fifty. I have been fortunate enough that in the one relationship I was in, it was equal. For example, one night he wanted to go to a gay club and my friends had invited me to a straight club. So came to an agreement that we would start off at the gay club and ended the night at the straight club with my friends. I admit I was fortunate enough to have been in a relationship with a very levelheaded young man. In none of our discussions did we get to the point of fighting or arguing. But from the horror stories I hear, not all gay relationships are like this.
Which leads me to back to what I am looking for, what I want to one day have again. I want someone that wants equality. I want a man that understands that relationships are about respect, equality, and compromise. A man that is independent enough to make decisions. Someone who will offer suggestions about the plans for the evening instead of just saying, “whatever,” or “it’s up to you.” I don’t want to be the only one in the relationship making the plans and decisions.