february 6, 2001
hey everyone, long time, no update! i got back saturday night from being out of town for a week, and i've been getting readjusted to my normal working, young adult life (i.e. work...eat...sleep...repeat). i had a great time on the east coast - got a chance to kick it with the fellas again, which is always cool, and hang out with some other friends i hadn't seen for a long time. believe it or not, i actually gave this website a fair amount of thought during my travels. you'd think i'd come back with a carefully and thoroughly planned, thought provoking update, but uh uh! this one's gonna be pretty weak. ha ha...
some comments and questions for you to ponder:
1. the east coast is too cold. i admit it. i'm weak. i can't stand cold weather. it's all good for a few days. even the snow is kinda fun the first day or two. but a whole season of it??? no thank you. i'll happily take my 70 degrees, sunshine, and short sleeves all year.
2. a friend of mine (we'll call her "brenda") is in a dilemma. she got asked out by a friend of hers. he told her it was "a birthday thing," so she thought there would be other people invited (smells shady, yes?). turns out this "birthday dinner" was the night i was in town. when brenda suggested to this guy that i come along (thinking, of course, that there would be a lot of people there), he said, "oh...but...i already made reservations...for two." the guy made this thing a date without her knowing! i don't know how the dinner went, but she suspects that this guy likes her. she considers this guy a friend (yes, the "f" word), but nothing more. that being said, here's my question: if he asks her out on a second date, what does she say? what other comments do you have about this type of situation? do you have any similar personal experiences you'd like to share? i really wanna know what people think! send your responses to: [email protected]. maybe i'll post the most interesting responses. i have another situation below. keep reading!
3. to make things worse, this same friend got asked out by another guy around the same time. this guy is also a friend of hers. and according to brenda, this guy is really, really shy. nevertheless, he walked up to her after class one day, surrounded by all his friends, and told her that he's liked her for over a year; that he's always been too scared to say anything about his feelings for her before then, but has finally built up the courage to ask her out on a date. my friend, feeling uncomfortable cuz she feels she's been put on the spot, tells him that she'll go out with him for dinner anyhow. now my question is this: how does she break it to him that she's not interested in him beyond friendship? is there a "right" or "wrong" way to do this kind of thing? i think this type of situation brings up all sorts of different issues (from both the male and female perspectives), and again, it'd be interesting to hear what people think about this kind of thing. really if i got one...maybe even two...people to respond to this, i'd be happy! so make me happy, y'all. email me at [email protected] or just sign the guestbook (find it on the 'home' page).
okay, that's it for tonight. i need to get to bed. yawn. i'm tired. glad to be back though!
peace...