| public. So when you slap a child's bare-bottom you are not only creating a nasty sting you are also igniting those erotic nerves creating a lot of shame and it is mainly the cause of spanking fetishes in adulthood. Why do you think that there is a thriving spanking-porn industry? In effect spanking somebody bare-bottom is not that much different than slapping a woman across her bare-breast or sticking sharp objects up a child's rectum for punishment. 8) Being sexual in front of a child. This can also include being a prostitute and having your child wait outdoors to collect fees from customers. 9) Exposing yourself to children in a sexual way. This can include being a woman and parading around your twelve year-old in naughty lingerie 10) Voyeurism; this involves not respecting your child's privacy when he or she is naked. A covert example of this can include a mother walking in on her twelve year-old when he's naked in order "to get something". And this can be extremely damaging to a child. 11) Making a child discuss intimate details about his or her sex-life or sexual fantasies. Now here are the myths about child-molestation; Myth 1) All offenders are males. Truth; Most offenders are males; although very rare there are some female offenders (Mary Kay LeTourneau). Myth 2) Most offenders are strangers to their victims. Truth; 70% of offenders are well-known to their victims and their families. Sometimes it is the child's parents who are the offenders. Myth 3) When males are sexually molested it is not as damaging as when it's done to girls. Truth; It is equally damaging and painful as when it is done to girls. It's just that males in this culture are taught not to show any emotion, "to tough it out." Myth 4) When a female perpetrates a male it shouldn't be considered abuse since guys like sex. As a matter-of-fact is should be considered an honor as a rite-of-passage. Truth; It is very painful for a guy or anybody to be sexually-molested by a female. More often than not boys question their sexuality when they find that they didn't enjoy being sexually-abused by a female; the fact that they didn't enjoy the experience has everything to do with the fact that they were in an abusive relationship and nothing to do with their sexuality. Now sexual abuse doesn't just happen in overt ways, it can be covert as well, which means that the act can be disguised as non-sexual when in fact it is sexual often fooling the victim, but the pain still shows later on. A good example is that of a mother who bathes her fourteen year-old son and spends a half an hour bathing his genitals to the point where he is erect. Another example is that of a parent who gives their children one too many enemas when they know that they don't need it. Now I mentioned how extremely damaging voyeurism can be on a child. If you don't believe me talk to psychiatrists who deal with sexual-abuse survivors; they know first hand how such an act can ruin a person's life. That being the case let's talk about being strip-searched; being strip-searched can be a sexually-devastating act especially when it is unauthorized. Realize that we are not talking about the same thing as searching somebody's house or car for illegal material, we are talking about something that makes papers and is often the grouns for lawsuits. Now if you can empathise with people who feel the shame of being strip-searched, imagine this scenario if you will; let's say unlike all strip-search victims who are strip-searched in front of only two people, you are about twelve years-old and are in a room with about forty strangers men, women, freaks, pedophiles and all. Among those forty strangers about five of them are holding cameras pointing directly at you. One of those strangers who happens to be sitting in a director's chair says; "Cameras, lights, action." prior to telling you to drop your underpants in front of all of those people. After parading around naked for a couple of hours on end on that set prior to putting your clothes back on what would happen to your self-esteem? What would happen to your self-esteem some more when an additional millions of more strangers stare at your naked body on screen when the film is released? Realize we are talking about something a lot more sacrificing than a potentially sexually-degrading strip-search which takes place in front of only two guards of the same sex as the strip-searched. Would it make a difference if the scene was shown in context such as a skinny-dipping or shower scene? Now some of you are saying; "You know piutywrec the child-actors don't have to do those scenes if they don't want to; we are talking about child-actors who consented to do those scenes after signing a countless number of consent forms not to mention the co-signatures of their parents; they are not forced to do those scenes." Well that's what I have a problem with; now I mentioned that merely looking at somebody's naked body can be a sexually devastating thing for that person which is why you literally have to think about what you are doing before you consent to model in the nude or act in the nude because it could come back to haunt you in later years when there is no turning back.... Go to page 3 return to Home page |