| To be true or not to be.. that always seems to be the trouble with all relationships. Of course, morally and logically we build our partnerships in whatever form, based not necessarily on love, but trust. We choose business partners we can trust our money with, we only tell secrets to people we believe will not sell us out (well, that can only be the pope!), and we marry men we think will not betray marriage vows as long as they live. Take for example the vow, To love and to hold til death do us part. I find this very romantic, the Romeo and Juliet type of thing, but of course, totally unrealistic! For the happily married, they can never know what's coming ahead, we can only hope that the love will last.. Marriage is no bed of roses, but rather a bed of roses with thorns. And for some those thorns can cause to chip and crack relationships that may still be repaired , but most thorns can be very damaging that either of the couple can not fix, and the culprits are often " the other man or woman". The vow itself demands a great deal of trust and loyalty without an expiration date. But since we cannot control fate, what if the right one comes along too late? Are we bound to sacrifice our happiness for the rest of our lives because of that unrealistic promise? What if the love dies? Are we to live as prisoners in our own marriage? What's the use of loving forever if partners are always caught with their pants down on somebody elses bed? Maybe we ought to change it to something more realistic such as, " to love and to hold for a minimum of three years from this day forward until we both agree to renew our vows or not .." Sorry to disappoint traditional couples, but not all partners share a happy marriage. We must keep an open mind to certain realities such as the pure and eternal state of that emotion called love will not be what it is now, concocted with infidelity and dishonesty. That's why we created a scapegoat, that very popular enterprise of divorce lawyers who can find reasons to break a family ranging from common insanity problems to the very lame excuse of uncompromised differences. Weddings are really romantic, but marriage is another thing. Maybe we should not promise what we can not deliver, instead do our best to be true to our partners as long as we love and trust them. For some, even this can be a difficult task. Marriage is simply not about building love and trust, but deserving of such love and trust that make relationships last. Let's cross our fingers, hoping that the man we are with now will be the one who will love us til the end. Then and only then we can say that our marriage lived up to the romance of our wedding day. Love alone is too perfect for an imperfect man. It is a gift more than we, mere mortals can handle. |
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| Sisters' talk |
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| hearts gone mad! |
| .... its all about love, sex and friendship only sisters can understand |
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| this week's love qoute " the saddest thing about loving someone is to see him love someone else." |
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