Dating TIPS: |
-Make a list for yourself of qualities that exist in a person you would want for a life partner and pray over it. When making this list, Physical attributes are not as important as character & personality qualities. For example, "knows how to be self sacrificial", "believes in the same faith as I do," "is not obsessed with making money," "knows how to make me laugh," etc. These may seem like obvious things, but you will need the reminder later on. People often fall for someone and start sacrificing what they really want, just because they don't want to be alone. | Make your standards higher than you even think you can find. If you have faith, you will be surprised what miracles God can do. | It is better to be single than to be dating and unhappy or married and feeling you made a mistake. | Don't put your life on hold until you find someone. Make sure you work on bettering yourself in the meantime, while looking for a mate. Go to school and get a couple degrees, work out your own "issues." | MARRIAGE IS NOT A FIX-IT... If you are unhappy alone, you will be unhappy married. If your fiance or your relationship has problems, they will only get worse when you get married. Set some rules for yourself regarding physical intimacy. | --Decide how far is too far. (Again, set a higher goal than you think you can keep). For example saying you do not want to do more than light kissing is a good starting point. You have more will power than you know! | --When you are first dating someone, go out in groups of friends, double date. It is much better to get to know someone as a friend. Once the relationship becomes physical, it is hard to get to know the person objectively. The physical intimacy gives you butterflies and warm fuzzies and you forget to evaluate whether this person is good for you or not. | Don't get married just to have sex. |
Warning signs: | --You feel like the other person is being secretive or dishonest. | --Your boyfriend or girlfriend cheats on you, even if it is just a kiss with another person. (Get rid of him/her. They will do it again. Do not expect them to change). | --He/she has an addiction to any of the following: gambling, heavy drinking, drugs, pornography. ==>Unless you are already married to this person, these are not issues you need to help them figure out how to resolve. You should stop dating this person (or "take a break" until they clean up their act.) | --If the person you are dating ever gets rough with you, (throws things, gives you bruises, slaps you, calls you a b*tch or other disrespectful names) this is a sign that they have an unhealthy temper, or lack of self control and could have the potential to become more abusive. Don't stick around for it. |
| "You let what you feel Take the wheel
Decide on a whim If you love him But your heart can be blind To what's unkind Use your MIND To seek and find What you left behind Before you bare your soul, Are you reachin' your goals?" -the pink nun |
Quiz yourself | QUIZ: Is it love? | QUIZ: Will your love last? | QUIZ: Does he/she love you back?
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