* country music
* family up bringing
* respect for obeying the law
* drugs and how we completely stand against them
* tomatos (enough said lol)
* weapons
* crazy parents
* military life styles, (her father was prior military)
---Now just to be fair, she did state that she loves dogs, and at that time in my life I had never been keen or in love with dogs. She is turning me around though, I told her that I think it will be wise to get one when we move.
Everyone out there that is thinking to themselves well those are a few things that anyone can find in common with almost anyone. Well my friend I think that you are correct. When two people are so excited about finding that special someone, they tend to find things that they have in common and try to ignore the things that they don't have in common just to make the relationship work on the common things. I believe this is something called honeymooning. Heather and I knew that this was sounding too good to be true, so we tried to get our ideas and life beliefs out on the table in the first few weeks to see how long this honeymoon would last. Let me tell you, everything that I have found out about Heather and her family and friends, I love. Some may say that is impossible there must be something that you don't like about Heather, after sitting at the computer for oh atleast ten minutes just now, the only thing that I can even think of is that she is too hard on herself. In all truth that is something that I should help with, so really it is a down fall on my part too. Anyway on with the story...
During the first month of dating we did some great things, first Heather and I went to Columbus, Ohio to watch a Crew game. Then we went back to my sisters to have a mothers day dinner that I cooked and Heather helped. Right off the bat Heather impressed my family and everyone in my family respects and loves her.
After reading all this guides to relationships, I have been told the first real test is when a couple goes away for a weekend together. Well Heather's birthday is in July, so I took time off work and surprised her with a trip to Brookside Inn in northern Michigan. It was the best weekend I have ever had. No worries, no fears, just time with this wonderful woman and myself. Thoughout the weekend we went canoeing, horseback riding, wine teasting and relaxing on the beach. Like I said, those memories will be in my mind until I die. Thanks babe for such a great time.
Finally Heather and I move to our new first apartment that we had together, we made this place a home in the hood. Everday that I was able to wake up beside Heather I knew that it was going to be a good day.
October 1, 2005 my plans for our future were taking shape. All this time that we had been dating Heather kept saying, JC my family will not like me moving away with a man that I am not engaged to. Side note the summer of 2006 is when I am up for transfer for the Coast Guard. Back to the story. On the way back from up north in August or September Heather looked at me in the car and became very serious and stated this fact again, JC my family will not like me moving away with a man that I am not engaged to. So with all seriousness I looked at her and said, Heather everytime you say that I just brush you off like I am not concerned. She became worried as I got serious again and I said, "Babydoll before we are transfered you can count on us being married"...She looked at me and almost started to cry. I myself thought that I was giving all the signsthat, that would be that case, but I could tell that she wasn't expecting that at all. As a week or two passed I kept telling my family that I would ask her around Christmas. However I am a sucker for giving things to people. So I went and bought a ring and made a dinner date with all of her family. I believe that asking the family for thier blessing is very important to any marriage. By the time that I left that night, I truly believe that I had everyones blessing, even though there were some concerns. So on October 1,2005 I got down on one knee and asked the love of my life to marry me. Of course she was not expecting this for aother 3 months, with eyes as big as silver dollars she said "ARE YOU SERIOUS",...I laughed and said yes, look at your hand. There it was my token of love, my moment of truth, will she say yes or will she say no....She said yes and that is why we are getting married on May 13th, 2006!!!!!!!!
In this day in age, I think people take marriage too litely, trust me I know. So when I asked Heather to marry me I myself had to be ready for that resposibility and committment. For all those who truly know me, I loved Heather from the first day that I met her, I would have asked her to marry me on the second day. However I had one mistake before and I wanted to make sure that I did this relationship and this decision right. I thought about what it would be like with Hether for the rest of my life. Every single piece of my life with her was thought about. Careers, children, money, dreams, beliefs, and so much more. This desicion wasn't made over nigth, this was a desicion that I stayed up thinking about. I kept asking myself will I be able to love and live with this woman for the rest of my life. Do I want to share my life expriences with her, will I be able to look in her eye with nothing in our house to eat and still love and cherish her like I do now? Again, deep down soul searching was done, I wanted to do this right! After all my mind games within myself, my answer was I can't live with out this woman. I may not have all the answers right now to what we will do when it comes to money, or what will we do when we have children, but I know that Heather and I are able to talk though and work though anything that may come our way. Two words come to my mind, when I think about our soon to be marriage...Committment and Dedication!
To Heather and all those who may read this, when I put that ring on your fingure I gave to you a committment, a promise that I will do everything in my power to make life as fun, as happy, as stress free as enjoyable as I can. I have dedicatied my life to giving you all of myself and all that I am capible of. I am truly the luckiest man to have you beside me as we walk down this fun and exciting road. Some days it may rain, some days it may snow, somedays it will be sunny and bright, but I know that I will have a friend, a lover, an angel who will be with me until the road comes to an end. Thank you baby doll, you are the greatest...