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This list is adapted from one found on the site of Tammad some years ago. Now deceased, his site may no longer be available. (This is not like the list negotiated between “M” and “J” which included only items they both agreed to, but it does include many similar items.)
Print a copy of this page for each and then mark those items you wish to identify on your copy as follows
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Abrasion Age play Anal penetration Dildo Anal penetration Finger Anal penetration Penis Anal plug (public, under clothes) Anal plugs (large) Anal plugs (small) Animal roles Animal training Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders) Aromas Asphyxiation Auctioned for charity Ball stretching Bathroom use control Beastiality Beating (hard) Beating (soft) Being bitten Being serviced (sexual) Blindfolds Body worship Bondage Bondage (heavy) Bondage (light) Bondage (multi-day) Bondage (public, under clothing) Boot service Boot worship Branding Breast beating Breast bondage Breast whipping Breath control Brown showers (scat) Cages (locked inside of) Caning Castration fantasy Catheterization Cattle prod (electrical toy) Cells/Closets (locked inside of) Chains Chamber-pot use Chastity belts Chauffeuring Choking Chores (domestic service) Clips and clamps Nipples Clips and clamps Loose skin (non-genital) Clips and clamps Loose skin (genital) Clips and clamps Anywhere Clit. stimulation Tongue Clit. stimulation Finger Clit. stimulation Anything Cock-and-ball bondage Cock-and-ball torture Cock rings/straps Cock worship Collars (worn in private) Collars (worn in public) Competitions (with other Subs) Corsets Corsets (trained waist reduction) Corsets (wearing casually) Cross-dressing Cuffs (leather) Cuffs (metal) Cunt torture Cutting Daddy/girl role-playing Diapers (soiling) Diapers (wearing) Diapers (wetting) Dilation Dildo play Dildoes Double penetration Enemas (retention/punishment) Electricity Enemas (for cleansing) Enforced chastity Erotic dance (for audience) Examinations (physical) Exercise (forced/required) Exhibitionism (friends) Exhibitionism (strangers) Eye contact restrictions Face slapping Fantasy abandonment Fantasy gang-rape Fantasy rape Fear (being scared) Fighting back Fisting (anal) Fisting (vaginal) Flame play Floggers Soft Floggers String Floggers Leather Following orders Food play (cucumbers, sorbet...) |
Foot worship Forced bedwetting Forced dressing Forced eating Forced heterosexuality Forced homosexuality Forced masturbation Forced nudity (around others) Forced nudity (private) Forced servitude Forced smoking Full head hoods Gags (cloth) Gags (inflatible) Gags (phallic) Gags (rubber) Gags (tape) Gas masks Gates of Hell (male) Genital sex Given away to another Dom (perm) Given away to another Dom (temp) Golden showers Group sex Gun play Hair pulling Hairbrush spankings Hand jobs (giving) Hand jobs (receiving) Harems (serving w/other subs) Harnessing (leather) Harnessing (rope) Having clothing chosen for you Having food chosen for you Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) Head (rcv fellatio/cunnilingus) High heel wearing High heel worship Homage with tongue (non-sexual) Hoods Hot oils (on genitals) Hot wax Housework (doing) Human puppy dog Humiliation (private) Humiliation (public) Hypnotism Ice cubes Immobilization Including others Infantilism Initiation rites Injections Interrogations Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage Kidnapping Kneeling Knives (perm. marking) Knives (scratching) Latex Leather clothing Leather restraints Lectures for misbehavior Licking (non-sexual) Lingerie (wearing) Manacles & Irons Manicures (giving) Massage (giving) Massage (receiving) Master/slave Masturbation Other Masturbation Self Medical scenes Mindfucks Mistress/slave Modeling for erotic photos Mommy/boy Mouth bits Mummification Name change (for scene) Name change (legal, permanant) Needles (acupuncture) Needles (play piercing) Nipple clamps Nipple play/"torture" Nipple rings (piercings) Nipple weights Oral sex Oral/anal play (rimming) Orgasm control Orgasm denial Outdoor scenes Outdoor sex Over-the-knee spanking Overpowerment Pain (medium) Pain (mild) Pain (severe) Persona training (in scene) Personality modification (RL) Phone sex (commercial provider) Phone sex (serving Dom's friends) Phone sex (serving Dom) |
Piercing (permanent) Plastic surgery Pony slave Prison scenes Prostitution (actual) Prostitution (public pretense) Public exposure Public sex Punishment Scene Pussy worship Pussy/cock whipping Religious scenes Resistance Restrictive rules on behavior Riding crops Riding the “horse” (crotch tort.) Rituals Rope body harness Rubber/latex clothing Safe sex Saran wrapping Scarification Scratching – getting Scratching – giving Sensory deprivation Service Serving as a maid Serving as art Serving as ashtray Serving as furniture Serving as toilet (feces) Serving as toilet (urine) Serving as waitress/waiter Serving orally (sexual) Serving other doms (supervised) Serving other doms (unsupervised) Sexual deprivation (long term) Sexual deprivation (short term) Shaving (body hair) Shaving (genital hair) Shaving (head hair) Single-tail whips Skinny-dipping Sleep deprivation Sleepsacks Slutty clothing (private) Slutty clothing (public) Spandex clothing Spanking Paddle Spanking Palm Speculums (Anal) Speculums (vaginal) Speech restrictions (when, what) Spitting Spreader bars Standing in corner Stocks Straight jackets Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) Strap-on-dildos (wearing) Strapping (full body beating) Supplying new partners for Dom Suspension (horizontal) Suspension (inverted) Suspension (upright) Swallowing faeces Swallowing semen Swallowing urine Swapping (with one other couple) Swinging (multiple couples) Tampon Training (in ass) Tattooing Teasing TENS Unit (electrical toy) Thumbcuffs (metal) Tickling Triple penetration Uniforms Uniforms/military Urethral Sounds (metal rods) Vaginal dildo Vaginal penetration Dildo Vaginal penetration Finger Vaginal penetration Penis Verbal abuse Verbal humiliation Vibrator on genitals Victorian scene Video (recordings of you) Video (watching others) Violet Wand (electricial toy) Voyeurism (watching others) Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) Water torture Waxing (hair removal) Wearing symbolic jewelery Weight gain (forced) Weight loss (forced) Western gear Whipping Wooden paddles Wrestling |
Do you have any medical conditions I should know about? (Asthma: good to keep the medicine nearby; knee conditions: not good to tie the bottom for long periods standing up; jaw dislocations: no face-slapping or only with extra care; problems with nerves in wrists: extra care/support in binding wrists, or maybe no wrist bondage at all; STDs: extra safe-sex precautions; etc.)
Do you have any particular places where you should not be hit or flogged: any particular areas on you that are extra-sensitive, bad pain, or unhealed injuries?
Do you have any emotional reactions to being hit with hands, belts, hairbrushes, or other items possibly associated with punishment, with any traumatic experience, or with anything else that is not someplace you want to be remembering or reacting to in scene?
What do you use as a safeword? What do the safewords you use mean to you? Do you use any words like “No” or “Stop” to mean “Please do go on"?
Is there anything you would like to tell me that is specifically off limits?
Are marks (black-and-blue marks, hickies, etc.) ok? Do marks need to be below clothing lines?
Is sexual touching ok?
What safe sex considerations are we to take into account? (In many communities, condoms are assumed not only for vaginal and anal penetration, but also for oral sex. In some communities, latex gloves are used for any sexual touching where fluids are involved, and certainly if there are breaks in the top's finger skin they are common. It is a good idea to ask rather than assume because customs vary.) What exposures to STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) does each partner represent?
What constitutes sexual touching for you: breasts, nipples? external touching of the genitals or anus? penetration? Is being naked ok?
What kinds of feelings and activities do you actively enjoy in scene? Do you enjoy pain, service, bondage, spanking, punishment, humiliation, fear or terror, resistance or overpowerment, fighting back, mindfucks, verbal abuse, particular kinds of role-play imagery like interrogations, being at school, age play, etc.? Is physical play part of a power exchange experience for you, or is it a sensual experience between equals with no exchange of power? What kind of experiences are exciting or hot in your fantasy life or in play for you? Is play typically a sexual experience for you or is it something else?
Original: 16 May 2002
This page is part of “Living in the Light”
found at: http://www.geocities.com/phoban2000/
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