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Personality Profile

By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.

Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.

• * You may appear to others as hesitant rather than decisive, although you become decisive once all the facts are gathered and evaluated. You will not make a decision unless certain that analysis is complete.
• * You may not jump in immediately for a new idea or activity. You may need time to consider all aspects of the idea before supporting it with time and talent.
• * You tend to think before you act. As a result, the things you do will be purposeful and deliberate.
• * Your response indicates a strong need to be precise. This projects into the social environment by the need to have a place for everything and everything in its place.
• * You prefer to wait until you're sure of your ground before acting. This might mean after several visits to a new place, or after a few meetings with a new person, you will feel more open to risk or share trust.
• * You will generally not act impulsively. As a result, others around you may perceive a slowness of thought or action. This results not from slow thinking, but from complete analysis of the situation before acting.
• * When a new activity is considered, you may require support or encouragement to participate or perform in the new activity.
• * You prefer not to seek quick personal relationships, but rather build relationships slowly. Once your relationships are formed, they tend to be lasting.
• * You function best in an environment relatively free of conflict or hostility. When tension mounts, you may become silent; and if tension continues, you may withdraw or avoid the situation altogether.
• # You may appear to others as hesitant rather than decisive, although you become decisive once all the facts are gathered and evaluated. You will not make a decision unless certain that analysis is complete.
• # You may not jump in immediately for a new idea or activity. You may need time to consider all aspects of the idea before supporting it with time and talent.
• # You tend to think before you act. As a result, the things you do will be purposeful and deliberate.
• # Your response indicates a strong need to be precise. This projects into the social environment by the need to have a place for everything and everything in its place.
• # You prefer to wait until you're sure of your ground before acting. This might mean after several visits to a new place, or after a few meetings with a new person, you will feel more open to risk or share trust.
• # You will generally not act impulsively. As a result, others around you may perceive a slowness of thought or action. This results not from slow thinking, but from complete analysis of the situation before acting.
• # When a new activity is considered, you may require support or encouragement to participate or perform in the new activity.
• # You prefer not to seek quick personal relationships, but rather build relationships slowly. Once your relationships are formed, they tend to be lasting.
• # You function best in an environment relatively free of conflict or hostility. When tension mounts, you may become silent; and if tension continues, you may withdraw or avoid the situation altogether.
• * Your strength is to bring stability, security and awareness of consequences to activities. In a sense, you may be considered as the one with the "conscience."
• * You may be passive and even cautious in your behavior toward others. On first meeting people, you may be somewhat suspicious, wanting to be more studying of others than revealing of yourself.
• * You may be a steadying influence because of your restrained and unassuming way. You usually wait to be asked your opinion rather than offering an opinion.
• * Because you may not call attention to your own accomplishments, you may benefit from others giving recognition to you occasionally. Constant recognition may make you feel uncomfortable.
• * You dislike having to initiate new relationships. However, others may seek you out because you are a good listener, quiet and nonthreatening.
• * In new interpersonal situations, you may appear hesitant in relationships with others, and not easily risking or extending trust. This relates to your rather self-contained and cautious manner.
• * You usually communicate with others in a reserved, diplomatic and congenial fashion. You are a careful and analytic listener who will generally not offer ideas or opinions unless asked.
• * You will convey patience towards others in most situations. This patience comes from a need to maintain harmony. Others may read this as a strong stabilizing factor in your behavior.
• * You value quality relationships over quantity relationships. While others may boast of hundreds of acquaintances, you will find security in deep relationships with a smaller number of people.
• * When asked about your opinions, you may not share your ideas or opinions openly with those asking. You remain rather self-contained in social situations. Some may perceive you as aloof, but it's really caution.

Personality Profile

Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.

• * If you disagree, organize your thoughts before confronting your partner.
• * Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.
• * Allow time to ask questions.
• * Minimize risks by providing assurances for participation.
• * Approach in an honest, sincere manner.
• * If you agree, follow through with your end of the agreement.
• * Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.
• * Limit use of gestures when speaking.
• * Support principles.
• * Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.

Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.

• * You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.
• * You tend to be rational and consistent.
• * You tend to set and maintain very high standards for yourself.
• * You are skilled at finding practical solutions to complicated situations.
• * You tend to look for practical, useful solutions, rather than risky or untested ones.
• * You are excellent at listening to your partner.
• * You like to gather facts and think things over before offering a strong opinion.
• * You generally take pride in being a strong community member.
• * You are skilled at being diplomatic with people in all settings.
• * You tend to have very high values.
• * You tend to be the "Anchor of Reality" in highly emotional situations.

In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.

You may want:

• * An environment free from conflict or hostility.
• * A predictable environment with few surprises that are not "planned."
• * Reassurance.
• * Protection or insulation from aggression or confrontation.
• * Opportunity for privacy and to be alone occasionally.
• * Time to think things over before making a commitment.
• * Peace and harmony.
• * Better planning for change in the future.
• * Recognition for your concern for quality relationships.
• * Others to adhere to your high standards.