What makes a man a man and a woman a woman? Is it their sexual organs? How about transsexuals? What gender are they? Arent there males with abnormally high amounts of estrogen in their systems? I know i've met several women who had high testosterone levels. What does that make them? Are gender issues ever black and white or are there grey areas inbetween?
Can a man love a man as he does a woman? Can a woman love another woman as she would a man? What attracts a person to another person?
What is right or wrong? Do we have the moral authority to judge others just because they do not fit into our concept of what is right?
I was having a conversation with a gay friend about his lifestyle. I brought up the usual biblical objections and "laws of nature" theories i had heard from others condemning his lifestyle. He looked at me quietly for a long time and then spoke "True feelings should not be controlled by societal norms" I thought about that statement for a long time after he'd left.
Oftentimes, we as humans base our actions and feelings on what we perceive to be the norm, even when thats not what we want. Take me for instance. I've been sitting here for the past few years moping over the fact that i cant find a decent man to marry. All the men that come into my life tend to be morons of one kind or another. I end up in a doomed relationship with them, not because i'm ecstatically happy, but just because its "expected" that a pretty young thing like myself should not be without a man. I have a female friend i share a special bond with. A bond so clean and so pure that its almost biblical. Why cant i find such a bond with a man? Why must i settle for a lesser emotion from a man just because its what's expected of me? Doesnt that mean i'm selling myself short? Dont i deserve the best? And if its a woman who ends up giving me what i need, why should society care?
I'll revisit this topic later
Soppy Issues...:
For the past couple of weeks i've been happier than i've ever been in my entire life. This newfound happiness comes after a lengthy period of turbulence in my life...a period in which i almost lost my life. I want to say thank you to some people for making sure i stayed alive through it. No names but they know who they are...when no one cared, they did...they held my hand when i could not walk. They gave me a shoulder to lean on when i was broken. They cried with me when i cried and also gave me tissues to wipe away the tears. They drove long distances to be with me because they did not want me to be alone. They shared their laughter with me so i would laugh too. They gave me courage to go on.
Thats what soul mates are made of. Thank you both. I'll love y'all forever.
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