| I will never understand how other women think. Most of the time I am positive that they do no such thing before speaking. Myself included. It is such a shame that most of us are viciously intent on tearing someone else down in order to make ourselves feel better for some unknown reason. Or maybe we are just denying to ourselves what is obvious to an avid observer. How ridiculous is that. I would love to say it is not true, and that women are innocent lovable creatures who wish only the best for others around us. But the truth is that we can be horribly catty when we have not received what we expected from another person with whom we had at one time hoped to be close personal friends or more. We pretend not to understand the emotions of someone who does not fit into our category of what is right and proper for our social groups. I myself sometimes find myself falling into that gossipy little circle in order to feel that I am a part of this silly little group. The whole time denying what I truly know to be right by keeping quiet when I strongly feel otherwise. It's ridiculous..... But what would it accomplish to try and broaden the outlook of some of these shallow cruel people when I can't seem to do much better myself. I haven't been boundlessly understanding and helpful with the people I truly love and would never intentionally hurt. And the ring leaders we allow to coerce us into this petty way of reacting are people considered by most to be cute entertaining yet brainless little idiots who we would never normally consider responding to with other than a pat on the head as we would a small child. But I am interested in this point to find out what motivates them??? Example: A young cute 30ish woman is talking to everyone in the office about a handsome 20ish young man who used to work in her section of the office. She is just appalled that he is dating a woman who is 35 years old. She just cannot possibly understand why a young man like him would be thinking to be involved in this kind of relationship. First of all it is not really any of her business since he no longer works here and has not invited her to analyze his dating choices. Secondly, I believe there must have been more than a casual friendship between them since she acts like a jealous ex-lover anytime she mentions his name. An invented relationship in her own mind or real as far as we know is not perfectly clear nor does it matter. Now she is supposedly happily married, but she does not mention her hubby much and he does not attend the office functions with her to my knowledge. |
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