Halloween isn�t only for us students here at Hogwarts! Did you know that this day is another holiday? It is Sir Nicholas de Mimsy-Porpinton�s death day. Who? You ask! He is also known as Nearly Headless Nick. Sir Nick as his friends call him likes to celebrate his death day in the dungeons inviting ghost from all around. Don�t be surprised to see some different ghost on this day, for over 100 ghost travel to celebrate. Do you know why he is called Nearly Headless? Well don�t ask him but I will give you the scope! Well, after a mishap with a tooth fixing, he was sentenced to be beheaded. But the dead took 45 chops and still wasn�t a success!
I have this friend. She is really sweet and nice and patient, and she listens to me when I'm upset. Perfect friend, right? Not really. She listens when I'm upset, but if she finds something more interesting, she's after that. When I talk to her thru AIM and what not (meaning, not a face-to-face talk), she always says "hold on" or "I'll be right with you" like some kind of secretary. She is supposed to be my friend. She acts more like a business woman sometimes. She acts like "I'm too busy to talk to you". Its not fair to me that she only listens when its a conversation that she finds interesting, and the rest of the time, she puts me on hold. It gets frustrating. Plus, she shirks out of doing things she said she'd do and is "too busy" to reply to my messages on the phone and otherwise. She is really getting on my nerves, always putting me (and our friendship, kind of) on hold.
How can I tell her what I'm thinking without sounding whiny or rude? I don't want her to think I am criticizing her, but I ALSO don't want her taking advantage of me and putting me on hold anymore. What should I do?
Signed,
Used
Dear Used,
I'm very sorry to hear that your friend isn't really there for you the way you'd like her to be. There are 2 ways that you can handle this situation:
1.) View this person as an "acquaintance" & only have casual conversations with them. This way when she puts you on hold or doesn't respond back, it's not over anything very important & will most likely not bother you that much.
2.) Tell your friend how you feel. This is a little tougher to do because you said you don't want to make her feel like you're criticizing her. Truth is, there is no easy way to break it to her, but you'll feel better if you share your feelings. She may be upset with you for a little while, but this too shall pass. You should approach the subject in a face-to-face conversation, not over the phone or via IM or e-mail. Once you have her attention, tell her that something she does is bothering you & you'd like to talk about it. Use as much tact as possible, avoid name-calling (even if she resorts to it), & hold your temper. If she's a true friend, she'll try to understand how you feel & will do what she can to make things right. If she doesn't seem to care or gets upset with you, perhaps she meant more to you than you do to her. Either way, at least you'll know where she stands & can decide to either stick with her or move on at that point.
Merlin's speed to you!
~Alba
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Dear Alba,
I have been trying to make new friends by rpging in the common room but there is never anyone there. I have been on all day a got no where
Signed,
Ell
Dear Ell,
I know trying to make friends in your CR can sometimes be frustrating if you're the only one logged in on any given day. Truth is that many of the students here have very hectic Muggle lives that keep them from posting & being logged in as frequently as they'd like.
Don't lose hope! Your posts will be read, I can assure you of that. Someone will reply to you when they come into the CR & find your posts there. It may not be all in the same day, but they will reply.
One suggestion you can try if you'd like to be in your CR when others are there is to start a thread in the General section asking others to post when they are most commonly in the CR. Then you can plan a time to be there when they are most likely there & you can chat back & forth.
Good luck to you!
~Alba
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Dear Alba,
Ok, there was this guy that used to send me love notes and tell me he liked me a lot. But now he barely ever talks to me anymore, I haven't a clue why! I'm sooooooooo confused as to why.
Signed,
Confused
Dear Confused,
Sorry to hear this guy that used to like you no longer tries to get in touch with you. Perhaps you should call him or send him a note asking him why he stopped. After all, no one can answer that question but him!
Good luck!
~Alba
Registration kicked off on September 15. I am happy to say that many people have signed up for classes. Cedric and I have been busy sending replies and getting things settled for each and everyone! Now, if you haven�t signed up please do! Before you sign up please check out the classes. See what is required by way of supplies and go shopping for those items. Then put them in your locker (bolded please!). Then you are ready to head off to the administrative office on the first floor corridor. When you sign up remember that you can only take a total of five classes at one time. But don�t worry! If you complete one you may sign up for your next choice. I hope you enjoy the new system and please be patient at the kinks are worked out of the system!
By Samuel Craft
On September 15th, the first Quidditch match of the season started. The Crafty Cranes versus the Silver Serpents. The match is about half way completed, and already, the Penshire house is dominating. The score being 50-0, Penshire. The chasers of the Silver Serpents have yet to have a goal attempt on Penshire, leaving Ava Black, the team's keeper in complete and utter boredom. Though, that could only make good news for the house, and some upsetting news for the Slytherins. Both Head of Houses of the two were at the match, rooting their team on. Professor Snape had of course packed some of his famous scones to munch on while he observed the match. There is about a week left in the match, so will Slytherin be able to catch up, or is there not enough time for the Silver Serpent's to have a chance? Find out next week when I will give you all an update on what happens!