Why
do people begin the swinging lifestyle?
What
exactly is a swinger anyway?
All of those questions
are easy to answer, and some have double meanings. A swingers lifestyle
are couple based adult lifestyles where people, be it couples, groups, and the
like engage in sex and sexual activities. Traditionally swingers are best
known as a party activity where two or more couples of married people are free
to swap partners for sex in a amateur group or parties. It began in the UK
and later became known worldwide. Many of you will remember the idea of
swingers originating in the UK from the Austin Powers movies.
Some people see swinger lifestyles as the best means to
add variety to an otherwise stagnant relationship. Swingers come from all
walks of life, be it rich or poor, and of all sexual orientations and levels of
education. Many people see this type of free sex as a degenerate party
lifestyle leading to the breakdown of society and the spread of STDs.
While it is easy to agree with this stance on the surface, it can just as easily
be argued to the opposite, in that responsible swinging increases marital
fidelity with a greater degree of safety. After all, both husband and wife
know who the other is sleeping with, rather than in cheating blindly, where it
is a secret. If everything is free and open this way and both parties are
consenting, at least there is no fear or question for the individual as to where
the better half is spending his or her nights. It may also be argued that
swingers have a greater sense of understanding, security, and self-esteem in
their marriage. Their point is that if they are free to live as swingers
and still be married, then sex is NOT the foundation of their marriage.
How? If sex is less important and viewed as a recreational and semi public
activity, issues of home and family must therefore be the foundation for
marriage. It could be argued that swinging can be viewed as something that
increases the concept of society!
