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ISSUE #54 November
2007 - January 2008
editorial
It’s
hard to believe that this is the last issue of the OGT for 2007! The year
has flown by and soon the festive season will once again be upon us.
I
hope that some (or many) readers of the paper will realize that the cover
of this issue of the paper is a visual response to an incident that occurred
in the lead up to Pride Week this year where a number of posters advertising
the Lavender Globe Awards, the opening Pride Week event, had “Cancelled”
stickers stuck over them by an overzealous DCC manager who decided
that he’d had enough of posters being put up on Council property (specifically
the “wall” of the building site where the new mall on George Street
is going). Interestingly – and sadly, in my opinion - the mayor publicly
applauded
the manager’s solution to this “problem”. (In fact, the ODT quoted
Mayor
Peter Chin as saying the idea was “wonderfully innovative”.)
The
person who carried out this act claimed that he was not specifically targeting
the gay community and that he stuck his “Cancelled” stickers on
other posters too, but that rings a little false for me as it seems too coincidental
that he was motivated to act just at the same time as Pride Week
was taking place. If his sole concern was that the posters were being put
up illegally and that they were making the area look like a ghetto, then why
didn’t he spend his time and energy removing them rather than defacing them
and deliberately misleading people. And, obviously this wasn’t a spur of
the moment, random thing he decided to do as he was walking along the street. Oh no, it was clearly planned and implemented because he had
to
make the “Cancelled” stickers and then go out and attach them to the “offending”
(or perhaps in his eyes “offensive”?) posters.
Following
this incident the DCC paid for the wall to be cleared, repainted and
now there are “No Posters Here” signs quite clearly displayed on the majority
of the wall with a few areas in between that allow posters. This seems
like the most logical and fair solution if the proliferation of posters was
regarded as an eyesore or an issue. However, what stumps me is why the
Council manager couldn’t come up with this idea himself in the first
place rather
than taking the law into his own hands.
Incidents
like this one remind us that despite all the progress that’s been
made
in regard to gay rights, there’s still an element of hostility out there
towards
our community and every so often it rears its ugly head – either quite publicly
or in much smaller, personal ways. This is one of the reasons why it’s so
important to be aware of and to preserve our history – the documentation
of
our struggles, our campaigns, our successes, our culture. The recently established
Charlotte Museum Trust in Auckland is doing this with materials related
to the lesbian community (see page 3 for more details).
December
1st is World AIDS Day and a time for us to remember those living
with HIV/AIDS and those who have been lost to the disease. It’s also a time
for us to think about how we can slow down the transmission of HIV and how
we can support those who are HIV+. It’s a time for reflection and a time
for
action (see page 4 for more details).
All
the best for the festive season. I hope that you enjoy the time you have
together with family and friends and that you keep safe and healthy.
Tor
Devereux, Editor
Charlotte
Museum Trust
The
vision of the Charlotte Museum is the classification, collection
and conservation of lesbian culture as part of a
network of archives preserving lesbian culture for the benefit
and understanding of future generations. We aim to preserve
lesbian culture with a special emphasis on objects.
LAGANZ
based at the Alexander Turnbull Library collects papers
but is unable to house objects.
The
Trustees and the Friends of the Charlotte Museum Trust are delighted to announce that we now have charitable status and are exempt from tax.
This
means if you donate more than five dollars to the museum we can give
you
a tax deduction receipt. Regular donations ensure we will be able to staff
the
museum with part-time permanent staff rather than relying on project
grant
money which offers only short-term employment. Staff training by way of
the Museum Certificate will be offered and other relevant studies may be considered.
SETTING
UP
With
the assistance of Te Papa National Services Paerangi and Friends of
the Museum we have been developing policy documents to ensure our museum
runs smoothly but within a lesbian feminist framework. We are on the Auckland
City Council accommodation waiting list but to no avail. Now we are currently
looking for premises on the fringe of the Zoo/Motat area of Western Springs.
We
estimate that we need $25,000 to set up the museum and each year will
need about $35,000 to pay for rent, electricity, security, temperature control,
conservation and staff. It will be a modest operation but unique with changing
exhibitions. Already we have received grants of $6,700 towards the set
up costs and Friends of the Museum have contributed towards items that are
more difficult to get grants for. But, we need more Friends and also a
range of
volunteers.
The
collection is temporarily housed at Miriam Saphira’s home and is being reclassified
and packed in archival paper before being relocated to the display venue.
We have begun working our way through essential Museum Standards.
ACQUISITIONS
Before
accepting artifacts for the Charlotte Museum the objects will need to be
assessed as to their archival value according to the museum’s policy of collecting
objects with significant lesbian meaning. Objects with the most significance
would include artifacts expressing a lesbian theme and material associated
with lesbian events. For example:
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Ode
to a Gym Teacher vinyl record and NZ’s own web record |
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Me
and Gertrude Stein painting by Beth Hudson |
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Socks
with DYKE written on them |
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For
Lesbian Lips Only mug |
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Lesbian
ceramics and glass |
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Labrys
used by CIRCE cheerleaders |
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Double
women prizes for the Secret Lesbian Police Ball |
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Minutes
of the KG Club committee |
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Photographs
of lesbian events |
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Early
lesbian publications |
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Early
film footage on lesbian events or involving lesbians |
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Stories
of early lesbians or women who loved women in Aotearoa |
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Travel
souvenirs from specifically lesbian sites (lesbian clubs, Lesbos) |
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Books
about lesbians and fiction with lesbian main characters |
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Feminist
material which contains lesbian significance |
If
the piece fits this criteria a consent form either loaning or gifting the
artifact to
the Charlotte Museum Trust is signed by both the museum staff and the donor.
We cannot accept items where the ownership is not clear. Any artifact gifted
belongs to the Charlotte Museum Trust for the lesbian community and as
such it will be insured and a security system will be in place when we set
up our
premises.
WANTED
We
are interested in essays and dissertations on lesbian themes as there is considerable research to do in this area. For instance, when was the
doublewoman/
double-Venus
sign first used? Was an anklet the only sign in the twenties
of possible woman loving tendencies? Were there only five positive lesbian
novels before 1972? What happened to lesbians in mental hospitals in the
fifties? Who was a lover of Ngaio Marsh? Who went to the Alexander Pub in
Parnell in the sixties? Nancy Spain and Naomi Jacob (Mickey to her lesbian
friends)
wrote books that were popular in New Zealand. Nancy Spain’s have obvious
lesbian undertones, but are there any in Naomi Jacob’s work? At the museum
we have more questions than answers, and we could keep a women’s studies
department going for the next fifty years. We are happy to supply topics.
OPENING
Our
website has been established through lesbian net www.charlottemuseum.lesbian.net.nz
and we’re planning to open on Sunday 18 February
2008 during the Hero Festival. Our first show will be in February 2008 on
early women who loved women and we are looking for photos of lesbians together
in the fifties and sixties. Some of our permanent collection of art pieces,
labrys, glass and ceramics will also be displayed.
The
Charlotte Museum Trust is planning two more shows in 2008: early lesbian
music and early lesbian performance/songs etc and early theatre pieces
done by lesbians with lesbian content from the 60s and 70s in particular.
We are keen to obtain any early lesbian plays, songs and even drafts
of possible performance pieces.
We
also sell black T-shirts for $35 with our logo and Remember
Us on them.
For
more information please email us at [email protected]
A
CHAT WITH ONE OF OUR OWN
Barb
Long interviews Philippa Jamieson
For
as long as I have known Philippa Jamieson she has been involved with
books. When I initially met her she was working at UBS and then
she went and joined the team at Otago University Press. A visit to
Philippa’s house always included a glance or two at her extensive bookshelves
and, of course, she was one of the initial contributors to and editors
of the OGT.
Philippa’s
book Wild Green Yonder: Ten Years
Volunteering On New Zealand’s
Organic Farms was released in
September, has had 2,500 copies
printed and is being positively reviewed. The book is being distributed
as far away as the UK. I was eager to learn more about how
one gets from working with compost and worms to sharing their experiences
in print.
What
motivated you to get published?
When
I first set out as a willing worker on organic farms I wasn’t considering
writing a book. I wrote some articles and profiles along the way,
mainly for Organic NZ magazine.
Friends then suggested that I consider
writing a book and one person advised me that the book could be
a compilation of articles that I had previously written. Although there is
some crossover, magazine and book writing is different so I had to start
anew. It was really the encouragement of others that motivated me to
do something.
It
must have been quite a commitment with your other roles such
as civil union and marriage celebrant and editing work to find
time to write. How did you structure your time so you could complete
the book?
The
first six months were pretty intense. I set myself a goal of writing 1,000
words a day although there was some flexibility in this and if I missed
writing for a day or so I wasn’t going to berate myself. It was over
three years from the beginning to publication.
Searching
“Philippa Jamieson” on the web brings up a number of
hits. Many of these are around the release of your book and reviews
and some are about your standing in the 2005 election as
the Dunedin North Green Party Candidate while others refer to
reviews and interviews you have published in your freelance writer
role. With all your editing and writing experience I naively think
it would be easy to edit your own work?
That
was one of the most challenging things to overcome because I found
that my editorial eye inhibited the free flow of writing and I had to
limit the critic within myself at least in the first draft. I was able to access
the Creative New Zealand funded mentoring scheme run by the New
Zealand Society of Authors. My mentor was also a writer of nonfiction and
an editor and he provided me with suggestions about writing
style
as well as structure and advice on how to approach publishers.
Once
you had completed the book what was the process to get
published?
I
sent off to several publishers a covering letter and synopsis including a
list of chapters with one sentence about each, as well as two sample chapters
and some photos. Then it was a case of waiting for the responses,
which initially were all rejections. I then submitted it to New Holland
Publishers and they rang to say they were really keen. This was followed
up with a letter of acceptance, as well as format suggestions and
a contract. The New Zealand Society of Authors gave me help and
advice
on the contract - they are like a union for writers.
Since
your book has been published have you spoken to any groups?
There
was the launch at UBS and I have also spoken at the Canterbury University
Bookshop and to a small audience in Karamea when I was over
there visiting my brother. I’ve been interviewed on several radio stations,
including by Kim Hill on Radio New Zealand, and I am available for
talks to groups.
Now
that you have achieved this goal what
comes next?
I
am working on a lesbian murder mystery that I have been thinking about for
quite
some
time. At the moment I am developing the characters
and components of the plot – I don’t
know yet who’s going to get murdered!
What
would you suggest to others who have
been thinking about publishing their work?
I
hear a lot of people say that they are thinking about writing a book and I
tend to say “why don’t you?”.
It’s easier to get published if you already have had work published in
magazines and newspapers, or if you’ve won a writing competition.
You
need to have an objective opinion about how to improve your writing, so
join a writers’ group, get an outsider to critique your work and join
the New Zealand Society of Authors (www.authors.org.nz). Benefits
of membership include a weekly email newsletter, a bi-monthly print newsletter, professional development booklets, a model standard contract,
discounts on books and a free contract advisory service.
World
AIDS Day 2007:
Risky
Business
by
Chris Banks, NZ AIDS Foundation
Gay
and bisexual men are being reminded on World AIDS Day this year that New
Zealand’s HIV epidemic shows no sign of slowing down.
84
new diagnoses were reported by the AIDS Epidemiology Group for the first
half of the year. Men who have sex with men are the group still most
affected, both by HIV and a disturbing resurgence of syphilis recorded at
sexual health clinics between 2002 and 2006. The New Zealand AIDS
Foundation is deeply disturbed by the news and says these epidemics are
linked.
“Sexually
transmitted infections like this were quite common among gay men in the
1970s, before AIDS, when condom use was rare,” says Douglas Jenkin, NZAF
National Campaigns Co-ordinator. “When condom use became the norm during
the first wave of the HIV epidemic in the 1980s, rates of STI infection
plummeted.” The presence of a
sexually transmitted infection (STI) like syphilis, gonorrhoea or chlamydia - all of which are on the increase as well - make the body more
vulnerable to HIV infection and vice versa.
“Every
act of unprotected sex opens up pathways for these infections to spread
further in our communities,” says Jenkin. “Gay and bisexual men in
particular need to be aware that a decision to have unprotected anal sex
is a choice that is clearly harming an increasing number of men - friends
and partners alike.”
Discussion
at NZAF’s recent community forums for gay and bisexual men suggested
that unprotected anal sex was being glorified through a lack of peer
pressure against the practice.
“No
one wants to become infected, let alone be responsible for passing an
infection on,” Jenkin says. “Those
of us who were around in the 1970s remember how unpleasant it was.
Condoms, along with regular sexual health checkups, are by far the better
choice for avoiding HIV and STIs.” NZAF
Research Director Tony Hughes says similar linked epidemics of HIV and
syphilis have been taking place in Sydney, Melbourne, San Francisco and
London. “We don’t want gay and
bisexual men to be blindsided by this. Syphilis is a real threat in
particular, and we need to respond before it takes hold in New Zealand as
it has already done overseas.”
Manaaki
Kōrero
This
quarter we hear from author Renee (Ngāti Kahungunu ki Wairoa), who
will return
to Ōtepoti in December for a two-month residency at the Robert Lord writers’
cottage.
Questions
by Anna Chinn via email
In
the acknowledgements of The
Skeleton Woman you
thank your granddaughter Naomi for
her help with te reo. As someone who grew
up in the 1930s and 40s, what has been your
experience of the Maori language?
Until
I was 50 I had had no experience at all. I had
a desire to learn it but didn’t know where to start.
Since the 1980s I have had a few goes at learning
te reo and all these have been great.
Great
teachers. The main thing is to get practice in conversation,
get the structure of sentences into my
head. I’ll never be a fluent speaker but I know and
enjoy a lot more than I used to. I think for someone
like me it takes a lot of courage to do a mihi
but I decided I had to so I do. He
toa taumata rau (Bravery
has many resting places).
You’ve
been a prolific writer in a range of forms from playwriting and fiction
through to speeches and textbooks. Does one form suit you better
than any other?
If
I had to choose, it would be plays. I love the challenge of writing good dialogue.
I work very hard on the dialogue in my plays and novels, and I’m still
learning. When we write plays we have four elements to play with: sound, silence,
dark, light. A lot of playwrights whose work I see forget about silence. Between
the lines, sub-text, is a good place to explore.
You
don’t seem to care much for poetry. Why is that?
I
reject this totally. Do you think this because I had a bit of fun [in Yin
& Tonic] about
poets who read in pubs? I have read poetry and bought poetry for years.
My
all-time favourite is the American Jewish poet Adrienne Rich (we are the same
age, both lesbian, both writers). Her Diving Into
The Wreck is a must for
anyone who calls themself a writer. But I have lots of favorites I read over
and over. New Zealand poets I like are Elizabeth Smither, Bernadette Hall and
Lynn Davidson. And others. This year I joined a poetry Year 2 class as a
student and have enjoyed the experience immensely ... Elizabeth Smither is
my mentor and she’s the best - rigorous and encouraging. All of us in
the poetry
workshop gave a reading on Montana Poetry Day, and we had music, food,
wine and no one wanted to go home – great audience and great reviews.
So
good that we’re doing another one just before I come down to Dunedin.
Playwrights
like Lorca have been an inspiration. He wrote some great plays –
Blood
Wedding, The
House of Bernarda Alba - and he was also a poet
and a great
one. He was killed in the mid 1930s because he was homosexual. He is now
regarded as one of Spain’s greatest writers. Writing poetry is a great
thing for
playwrights to do.
You’re
known as a bit of a cook. Do you have a quick favourite recipe you
can share with our readers?
Too
many favourite recipes, too little time. I love cooking. I have always had
an
intense relationship with food so cooking good food grows out of that. My mother
was not a good cook, but she had little money and less interest so maybe
that’s why I’ve had such an interest in it. At the moment I am into
Thai cooking,
but I like Italian and am still occasionally into a good old-fashioned kiwi
roast meal. I think cooking a meal for someone is a way of showing your love
and affection for them and that cooking is a place where all cultures
meet.
In
your book of comic writing, Yin & Tonic,
you describe as “culture shock”
the experience of going to Auckland parties where they ate cheese
on dry crackers instead of saveloys and tomato sauce. Don’t you
think saveloys have the potential to cross cultural boundaries if only
people would open their hearts, minds and mouths?
Now
there’s a great philosophical question and it made me laugh too. I haven’t
eaten
a saveloy for years. Your question reminded me of a poem of Elizabeth Smither’s
called “Saveloy”. It’s in her collection called Red
Shoes. Saveloys cross
all gender and cultural boundaries it seems. None of us are unaffected by
them. Don’t know whether I put this anecdote in Yin
& Tonic or not but I
remember a girl I knew when I was at school whose father worked in the local
butcher’s shop – she used to throw her white socks in with the
saveloys because
they came out a bright pink. She offered to let me throw mine in, but
I
decided against that tempting proposition. It didn’t put me off
saveloys.
RAINBOW
FAMILY LIFE
by
Tor Devereux
There
are defining moments in our lives which we use as markers – coming
out is often one of these. I’ve found in recent years that having children
is another. From time to time my partner and I reminisce about things
we were able to do before the introduction of little ones into our family
and we also talk about how things are different now that they’re part
of our lives. This doesn’t mean that one period is necessarily better
than the other, simply different. This is never so true as when it
comes
to holidays. When planning a trip to Australia earlier this year our
focus was solely on child-oriented activities and interests. A visit to
Dream World, including Wiggle World (for hours and hours!), zoos, children’s
sections in museums, playgrounds, etc. A few years back our pre-holiday
research for an overseas destination would have included trying
to find out if there were any feminist or LGBT bookshops in the cities
we would be visiting and any other LGBT businesses, resources or entertainment.
How life changes …
And,
with our oldest starting school this year, I
have been reminded once again that regardless of
the fact that our lives are so focused on every day,
kid-related things, our family is different
and there’s no guarantee
that we’ll be accepted by other
families. With a child starting school we found
ourselves back at the stage of him making new
friends who don’t know us and therefore don’t
know that we’re a rainbow family and back at
that point of worrying about how the information once shared will be received.
To date things have been fine, but I’m always very conscious
that
this could “go wrong” and how would we all deal with that.
I’ve
also discovered this year that 5 year olds are very inquisitive. Often
younger children simply accept situations or aren’t particularly interested
in the make-up of families. However, school-age children are quite
a different kettle of fish and there have been times this year when I’ve
been quite taken aback or amused by some of the comments I’ve received
from our son’s classmates. Here’s a selection of the particularly memorable
ones:
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Why is your hair so short?
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Are you Russell’s dad?
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Does Russell have two mums?
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Pink is a girl’s colour (this came about because Russell insisted on
having
a pink reading folder despite the teacher trying to talk him out
of
it! – and no, he doesn’t wish now that he’d made a different choice)
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Which one of you did Russell come from?
None
of this appears to phase Russell though - he’s quite clear and secure
about his family and is happy to talk about us to anyone.
I
also tend to get many comments/questions from adults about our
younger son’s hair and many of these relate to his biological background
since I’m often asked by complete strangers where his curls
or the colour of his hair come from. (The best one occurred at the beginning
of this year at a children’s music group when I was asked one day,
“Do the curls come from you or your husband?”) Who cares why he’s
been blessed with a head of ginger curls? Why is it the business of strangers?
Why does the answer matter to anyone? While I’m sure that such
questions are generally asked quite innocently, they exemplify the heterosexist
world that we still live in and for me they can be awkward, annoying
and invasive.
I’ve
been told too, on multiple occasions, that curls like those our younger
son Tobias has are wasted on a boy – and Russell used to get similar
comments about his eyelashes. This one astonishes and angers me
so much that generally I’m unable to respond. I keep meaning to come
up with a sharp, witty retort that I’ll always have at the ready for such
occasions so that I can let these “well meaning” folk know quite
clearly
that I completely disagree with them (without being offensive), but
to date this hasn’t happened. And, I’ve lost count of the number of
times that our wee curly-haired guy has been mistaken for a girl (probably
because his hair has never been cut – his own decision! - and since
he’s now 3 ½ years old it’s getting kind of long – and only girls
can have long hair, you know!).
In
many ways our children (and those in other rainbow families) are
trailblazers, although at this stage they’re completely oblivious of
this. The majority of the children they come into contact with (through
school, kindy, various groups) won’t know another child from a rainbow
family and so they’re helping to raise awareness and teach others that
in many respects our families and our concerns and interests have more
similarities than differences. As with so many things, I believe that
personal interaction and experience is the most effective way of changing
attitudes and breaking down barriers. Families come in so many different
shapes
and
sizes now that assumptions or expectations of any sort are unhelpful and
inadequate. All I ask is to be acknowledged as a family unit and for our
children’s reality of family to be recognised and acknowledged.
Pride
And The Public
by
Anna Chinn
At
the checkout I have 110 precooked sausages, matching slices of bread, one
kilo of
margarine,
twelve onions, plus six litres each of milk and cream. The checkout lady
asks, “And what’s all this for – some sort of fundraising, is it?”
She
exudes the sort of tension that scrambles gaydar. “Potential dyke!” it
cries, but in the same blip, “Repressed? Hostile? Gaydar has encountered
an error and needs to close.” I
tell her, “It’s for Pride Week. We’re doing a sausage sizzle and
giving away hot chocolate as part of Rainbow Day.” The checkout lady
looks down at her hands and says, “Oh. I don’t think I know anything
about that,” and moves the onions across the scanner. I am not sure
whether this is an invitation to elaborate, or whether she is hoping for a
change of subject.
In
any case, the lady packing the bags pipes up. “Yeah, you know, Pride
Week. It’s a gay and lesbian week of activities.” I beam at her and
say, “That’s right.” The
checkout lady gives me a strange look, directly into my eyes. Reactivated,
gaydar
scans
the barcodes and reads it as terror – but of what? She has inadvertently
opened a can of queers. Is she asking me to close it? I don’t quite pity
her enough to attempt that and, besides, there is no containing the lady
packing the bags.
“They
do all sorts of events and activities. What’s Rainbow Day?”
“It’s
in the Octagon between noon and two today. Free food and entertainment.”
“I
think in Auckland they do a parade, don’t they?”
“The
Hero Parade,” I say, nodding, smiling.
The
checkout lady is looking down again. Shaking her head, she quietly
reiterates her
ignorance
of the topic. The lady packing the bags gives her a cheerful nudge. “Yes,
Gay and Lesbian Pride Week. You know!”
The
checkout lady looks defeated. She says, “One hundred and thirty-seven
dollars and ninety-five cents, thanks.” Then she asks, “Any cash?”
Politely,
I decline.
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Two
pairs of legs in shorts appear above my head while I am down among tree
roots
sussing
out the electricity in the Octagon. Much of the Octagon is draped in
rainbow flags and a barbecue is being set up. The legs belong to domestic
tourists, one of whom asks, “And what’s all this for? What’s
happening here today?”
“It’s
Rainbow Day,” I say. “It’s part of Pride Week.”
“Pride
Week,” they both murmur, and then one says, “Pride in Dunedin?”
I
take the question to mean, “gay and lesbian pride week happens in
Dunedin too, then?”
and
so I reply, “Yep.”
In
the next nanosecond I realise the rainbow flags are not enough of a clue
and the
question
probably meant, “So Dunedin has a week in which it takes pride in
itself?”
This
suspicion is confirmed when one of the leg owners says, “Well, we’re
tourists and we love Dunedin; we think it’s great.”
“Welcome,”
I offer.
They
walk away smiling.
Much
later, after several microphone-pronounced, explicit references to the
nature of the occasion, I think I spy the owners of the legs participating
merrily in a dance lesson on the Octagon lawn. This is part of the
entertainment for our day to celebrate sexual diversity and to be visible.
It
is unclear whether the tourists have cottoned on yet.
********************
At
the Pride Ball on a Saturday night we have a function room to ourselves
but must share the bar with a straight crowd. A large portion of the
straight crowd is rural people. The function room has windows in its doors
and when the rural wives realise they can use these to peer at the queers,
a flock begins to gather at the doors. Some bring their uncomfortable
husbands.
There
is something tentative in their approach – tentative but hungry, like
sheep gazing into a barn full of hay bales. They do not notice three of us
bales sitting on a sofa just a few feet away, watching them, so they must
be quite mesmerised by the contents of the function room.
We
decide having CWI folk perve at GLBTI folk is not what is meant by the
visibility ideal, so we call on one of our knights in shining glamour to
disperse the voyeuristic crowd.
“Hey
hey hey!” the drag queen says to the country wives. “Who are you, what
are you doing here and what’s happening? What’s the story?”
They
bleat tamely for a while before one woolly-haired woman begins to
compliment his dress. A brief and banal conversation about beauty takes
place and then the flock ambles off, its
members tickled by their encounter and apparently pleased with their own
wit.
One
of their ram companions across the room begins to yell abuse at the queen
through drink-lubed lips. The queen, in a red sequined dress, strides over
to face the man. The cusser cannot be charmed like the wives, because he
has perfected his oafdom, but the womenfolk make some apologetic noises on
his behalf. They now compliment the lady in red on her politeness and her
dignity and she high-heels across his ego as she departs. I hear strains
of Chris de Burgh. Lady in
red . . . you were amazing.
Dear
Editor,
I
was very interested to read Anna Chinn’s article
in
the August-October 2007 OGT about attitudes
to
queer students in Dunedin schools. I was even
more
interested to find out what inspired her
to
write the article in the first place. I attended
Columba
College from third form to seventh form.
In
our sixth form year, I think it was, one of my
classmates
wanted to take a female friend from
another
school to our senior formal. She was told
she
had to sign a “contract” saying she was a
lesbian
before she could take a female partner. The
girl
my classmate wanted to take to our formal was
a
former Columba girl who had transferred to Otago
Girls
High School, which might be how the mix-up
over
the schools occurred.
All
this happened eight or nine years ago now and
I
can only hope that Miss Wilson has moved with
the
times, at least a little bit. But, judging by her
very
careful and sometimes inconclusive answers to
the
questions Anna asked her I would have to say
probably
not.
Y
ours
sincerely,
Anne
Barkman
Dear
Editor,
In
the August edition of the Otago
Gaily
Times I reported that Logan
Park
High
School did not return calls in
relation
to my article about secondary
schools’
attitudes towards queer
students.
(LPHS was given an “achieved”
NCEgAy
grade anyway based on its good
reputation
in this area.)
In
fact, some days after the deadline
for
that edition had passed, LPHS
principal
Jane Johnson did call back. She
not
only acknowledged the existence of
gay,
lesbian, bisexual and transgender
students,
but also celebrated the
contribution
they make to the school:
“They
are some of our top, top students.”
She
cited specific examples of high achieving
queer
students and alumni, of
whom
she was obviously proud.
I
found her attitude positive and
affirming
and, being a Libran, I thought it
fair
to acknowledge that here in print.
regards,
Anna
Chinn
Gay/Straight
Alliances: Where To Start?
by
Anna Chinn
Buried
deep in the reports from the recent national evaluation of sexuality
education in secondary schools were indications that the Education Review
Office regards gay/straight alliances and queer support groups
favourably. The main report listed support groups for
nonheterosexual students as a “typical” feature of schools considered to have “effective support networks” in place for all
students. (It reckoned about half the schools it surveyed had effective
support networks, but as no in-school queer support groups or
gay/straight alliances are known to exist in the entire Otago Southland
catchment, the use of the word “typical” has to be questioned. But
that’s another article.)
ERO
also issued a secondary report designed to illustrate to schools what it
considers “good practice” of sexuality education. This presented four
schools as exemplary and, in that context, the gay/straight alliance club
of one school was cited. A student from this school was quoted as saying:
“The gay/straight alliance club here does great things
such as “tolerance awareness” programmes and such. It’s much more supportive for a gay student to have something like this at the school.”
So
that’s the official endorsement, but just how easy is it to establish a
gay/straight alliance or queer support group within a school?
The
obvious place to ask that question locally was Taieri College. In the last
edition of the Otago Gaily
Times, we reported that this
school was planning to put to the school board the idea of
establishing such a group. When the school was contacted for an update on
progress, however, there was little to report. Good things take time, perhaps – certainly the reason progress had stalled was unclear.
Counsellor Robyn Dunlop did point out that such groups are formed on a
voluntary basis and the Ministry of Education offers no resources or
guidelines on how to run them.
If
not the ministry, then where do schools find help in starting support
groups for their queer students, and is there a set framework for how to
go about it?
Nathan
Brown, national co-ordinator of queer youth development project Out
There!, said: “There’s no one way that’s been identified of doing it
and usually there’s a whole lot of different ways, but the Nayland
College example in Nelson is probably the most successful. That is a gay/
straight alliance model and I think it’s the only
school
that is using that model. The Thames High School one is more of a
diversity group, like a queer group sort of thing. The Nayland one has
being going since about 2003 and a counsellor, a straight woman, is the
staff member who supports the group and the chairperson this year was a
Year 13 student. And he was quite key in driving
a
lot of their activities this year. This year was their biggest; they’ve
definitely grown and this year they were able to have a staged diversity
awareness week at the school.”
These
schools have managed to find their own way in establishing support groups,
but others are evidently not so bold. Nathan said Out There! was “looking
at doing a resource next year around setting up and running such a group
in a school. And so, at the moment Out There! is available to be a
support, but there is not a vast amount of resources available”.
Doubtless
there are other reasons why most schools haven’t got round to queer
support groups yet, but this lack of resources does seem to be a major
hurdle.
However,
hope shines from the Internet. Although an overseas model may not be
ideal, the United States-based Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
makes available on its website a toolkit for setting up gay/straight
alliances.
This
can be found at www.glsen.org through
the Resources tab.
Gay
Romancing
Review
by Mike Wooliscroft
A
genre of writing I have only just started exploring is gay romances after
becoming aware through Rainbow Readership* of the books coauthored by four
authors – three gay men and one (straight) woman. The individual authors
are Jim Carter, Timothy Forry, Timothy Lambert and Becky Cochrane, but
they write under the collective
pseudonym
Timothy James Beck. They meet as a group twice a year to discuss plot-lines and characters and in between exchange files over the internet.
As
with more traditional romance genres the writing is not (generally)
sexually explicit. The first two books I have completed reading are a
little in the style of Armisted Maupin in his Tales
of the City series.
In
each of the first four books youngish men from the small-city mid-West
(States) travel to New York to experience more lively and open lifestyles
where they meet others of their kind and fall in love. Complications
abound (but not too many) and the endings are sweet.
The
principal characters in the second book, He’s
The One, interact with some of
the principal characters in the first title, It
Had To Be You. I am only part-way
through reading the third title, Someone
Like You, but it seems that the
characters in this story
have
a distinct existence from those of the first two. The fourth title is I’m
Your Man. A fifth title, When
You Don’t See Me, is to be
published this month.
It
Had to Be You and He’s
The One were Lambda Literary
Award nominees in the Gay
Romance
and Gay Fiction categories and Someone
Like You was a finalist in the
Lambda Literary Awards.
These
books provide light, entertaining and undemanding reading, but they are
wittily written and are likely to develop a committed following. *
The Rainbow Readership group is a member of The Literature Reading Circle
at http://groups.yahoo.com/
group/LiteratureReadingCircle
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Beck,
Timothy James
It
Had To Be You. New York:
Kensington, 2001
He’s
The One. New York: Kensington,
2003
I’m
Your Man. New York: Kensington,
2004
Someone
Like You. New York: Kensington,
2006
When
You Don’t See Me. New York:
Kensington, 2007
TRUMAN
TWO
Review
by Mike Wooliscroft
Last
year I reviewed for the OGT the very good movie Capote
with Philip Seymour Hoffman in
the starring role for which he deservedly won an Oscar. Capote
drew largely on Gerald Clarke’s
excellent and comprehensive work Capote:
A Biography. Followers of film
will know that at the same time another company was making a film of this
same period in Truman’s life when he was working on his “non-fiction
novel” In Cold Blood.
Infamous,
the more recently released film,
is based on another Capote biography - this
time
George Plimpton’s Truman
Capote: In Which Various Friends, Enemies, Acquaintances, and
Detractors Recall His Turbulent Career. As
the title might suggest, this biography is much
sharper
(and quite a lot more amusing).
It
was decided to delay the release of Infamous
so that it received full
attention when it
screened. For some curious reason it hasn’t yet been shown locally,
though it has been in Christchurch’s cinemas for a month.
Good
and all as Capote is
it has been superseded in almost every way by the thoroughly brilliant Infamous.
Toby Jones, who plays the lead
role, is superb. Not only is he much more physically like Truman Capote,
but he gets the distinctive mannerisms to a “T”. Sandra Bullock is a
superior Harper Lee and Michael Parks an excellent Gore Vidal. Juliet
Stevenson plays an absolutely stunning Diana Vreeland while John Benjamin
Hickey plays Jack Dunphy, TC’s longterm and long-suffering partner, very
well.
Infamous
is much more specific about the
affectionate/loving relationship between TC and Perry Smith (one of the
two murderers) played by Daniel Craig who delighted audiences as the
latest incarnation of James Bond in Casino
Royale. The tragedy of TC with
his self-serving approach even to Perry Smith whom he probably genuinely
cared for – but not nearly as much as himself – is convincingly and
very uncomfortably portrayed.
Infamous
is stronger too on the little
details of relationships and gossip, the wit and cynicism of TC and
reminds me of a quote of Geoffrey Bocca: “Wit is a treacherous dart. It
is perhaps the only weapon with which it is possible to stab oneself in
one’s own back.” Of course, TC was his own worst enemy and found
himself shunned by many former intimates when they discovered how
deceitful and disloyal he could be.
This
much more compelling and open version of these years in Capote’s life
when he was writing In Cold
Blood will be remembered for its
sterling strength and perceptive insights into TC’s quirky character
long after Capote has
been forgotten – good though that was regarded at the time of its
release. Books on which the two films were based: Clarke, Gerald. Capote:
A Biography. New York: Simon
& Schuster, 1988.
Plimpton,
George. Truman Capote: In
Which Various Friends, Enemies, Acquaintances, and
Detractors
Recall His Turbulent Career. New
York: Talese, 1997.
This
Breathing World by José
Luis de Juan
(translated
from Spanish by Martin Schifino and Selina Packard), Arcadia, 2007
Review
by Ralph Body
When
I read the line “Mazuf’s story is ours, so let’s take possession of
it before anyone else” in the first few pages of this novel, I assumed
its rather awkward phrasing was the result of an inelegant translation
from the Spanish. As I read on, however, the true significance of this
line became apparent. The novel is structured as a dual narrative. This is
a common enough technique these days - to recount a story from the point
of view of two or more characters to demonstrate how individual
subjectivities inform perception. In this instance, however, the two
narratives belong to vastly different worlds.
The
first, set in first-century Rome, recounts the experiences of Mazuf, a
Syrian scribe who manages to progress from slave to head of a workshop of
copyists. The second narrative is the present-day confessions of Laurence
as he looks back on his student days at Harvard University in the late
1950s. Despite the apparent differences of setting, there are a number of
correspondences between both the characters and their stories. For
starters both are gay, they both spend a lot of time in libraries (where
they find sexual as well as intellectual stimulation) and both are
murderers.
To
make things more complex, each of the stories is positioned as a narrative
composed by one of the protagonists of the other story. Laurence’s
experiences are recited as a futuristic poem by Mazuf at Rome’s
Marcellus theatre, while Mazuf and his associates are characters in a play
written by Jonathan, Laurence’s dead former lover. Throughout the novel
there is an interest in writing, authorship and the stability of a text.
Both narratives involve the rewriting of established texts and, in doing
so, question the authority of history as it is passed down to us.
However,
the driving force behind the plot(s) is more than just an interest in
meta-fiction. As I said, both protagonists are murderers. When reading the
book I tended to feel sympathetic towards their actions and decisions.
Again, I think this has a lot to do with the narrative approach with the
killers’ forceful presence of character and point of view strongly
influencing my perception of events. It was really only once I’d
finished the novel that I stopped to reflect whether their motives,
actions and, in some cases, inactions were really justified. Homophobia is
not a factor in any of the killings, although the threat of exposure is
used as a means of manipulating people. Instead, most of the conflict in
the novel comes from within the gay community itself.
While
I’ve probably made this novel sound rather complicated, it is in fact
extremely
readable.
Despite my initial reservations, the text is a very smooth translation. De
Juan’s language is beautifully lyrical and evocative, his descriptions
both sensuous and visceral in turn. The significance of certain elements
still eludes me - I wasn’t sure what to make of the two female
characters (women don’t feature strongly in the novel) or the
trans-historical ventriloquist’s voice - although this in no way
diminished my enjoyment. The novel ends without any sense of resolution,
many strings are left hanging and the two narratives seem to diverge
rather than come together. Rather than leaving me dissatisfied, however,
the many teasing possibilities and questions meant this novel lived on in
my mind well after I’d finished reading it.
Queer
Cinema
by
Mike Wooliscroft
There
is a splendid new DVD on queer cinema in the Dunedin Public Library
collection - Fabulous! The
Story of Queer Cinema – which
provides a visually delightful, intelligent and thought-provoking
introduction to gay cinema since the 1950s. There are interviews with
directors, actors and academic commentators on the development of queer
cinema from catering largely to a specifically queer audience through to
its becoming mainstream as in Ang Lee’s Brokeback
Mountain, the harrowing Boys
Don’t Cry and
Monster.
There
is nothing frivolous about this presentation and the focus is on the role
of cinema in helping to shape identity. Kenneth Anger’s Fireworks,
portraying his masturbatory fantasy, is singled out as one of the first
truly queer movies.
Stonewall
was a vital event helping to shape much of western queer society and
culture with film-makers being determined to do their bit to be open about
who we were and to stop hiding. The acme of this was probably The
Rocky Horror Picture Show – a
totally gay movie – promoting the delight of being whatever/whoever you
wanted to be.
Through
the 1960s and 1970s many “dykesploitation” movies were made rather
more for straight male audiences than for queer women.
PFLAG
(founded in 1972) was influential in gaining wider acceptance of queer
cinema and the move of the American Psychiatric Association the following
year to declassify homosexuality as a mental illness was also instrumental
in opening doors and minds.
The
role of obviously, or barely masked, gay characters in so much 1970s
popular culture and television series is examined. Also discussed is the
move from films where gays and lesbians are shown as villains to films
which are more respectful, complex and inclusive.
This
is a thoroughly worthwhile documentary for those with a keen interest in
queer cinema.
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Viewing
this documentary brought to mind an earlier documentary of queer cinema. Celluloid
Closet (1995) is based on the
book by Vito Russo which is an excellent history of homosexuals in
film. (I’d suggest reading the revised edition of 1987 which
updates
the 1981 first edition.)
Celluloid
Closet (the book) documents 300
plus movies from the days of Chaplin and Stan Laurel when gay characters
were presented to laugh at, pity and fear. Celluloid
Closet presents a sharper,
wittier treatment than Fabulous
and covers early twentieth
century
queer film much more comprehensively.
The
“sissy” was the first gay stock character with no obvious sexuality as
we know it now. In 1932 the first movie to show the interior of a gay bar
reached the screens. In the 1920s a number of quite raunchy movies were
made and in response to this the Roman Catholic church and some other
American churches came down hard. It was partly as a consequence of this
that it was in the 1930s that the Roman Catholic
church
established its highly restrictive code. One result of this was to make homosexuals
harder to identify in movies. They often came to be presented
as
cold-blooded villains – moving from being victims to being victimisers.
One
statement in the documentary had huge resonance for me commenting on the
subtle appearance of gays in movies: “How we used to be grateful for
crumbs – sitting through 2 to 3 hours of a movie to detect moments of
recognition … hoping to see what we wanted to see.”
Rock
Hudson (a closeted gay in real life) often posed as gay at some point in
his movies in order to get “his” woman into bed and so we have the
situation of a gay man impersonating a straight man impersonating a gay
man.
In
several movies through the 1960s gay characters were often presented as unhappy, desperate and suicidal people. But, in Boys
In The Band (1970) the director
was determined on a script where the gay men don’t die at the end and
where there is an incredible camaraderie, albeit with some
self-deprecating humour.
Russo’s
view is that the first film “celebrating” homosexuality was the
delicious Cabaret (1972)
and he states that Making
Love (1982) was the first movie
treating homosexuality as an act of love rather than violence.
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Both
of these DVDs are well worth viewing, but if you want to delve deeper into
queer cinema a very good place to start is the revised edition of Vito
Russo’s The Celluloid
Closet.
For
those interested, one of the best reference guides to gay and lesbian film
is
The Bent Lens: A World
Guide To Gay And Lesbian Film (2003).
Ribbons
Of Grace
by
Maxine Alterio (Penguin,
2007)
Review
by Janice Devereux
“Con-Lan
and I loved among these poppies. We filled the space between the river and
mountains and sky, flattened the tussock grass and warmed the schist. And,
in a hut, high on the side of a mountain, we burrowed deep into each other’s
hearts. Happiness lived within us until our secret flew out the door,
tumbled down the gorge and rushed into town on the wind. Dark times
followed.”
(page
10)
Ribbons
of Grace is a superb first novel
written by Maxine Alterio who is a very talented and experienced local
writer. The book is an infusion of different societies and is set in
China, Orkney and New Zealand between 1870 and 1895. It explores cultural relations and differences by focusing on the lives of the three main
characters, Ming
Yuet,
Conran and Ida Chynoweth, who work in and around Arrowtown, a small gold mining
town in the South Island of New Zealand.
Ming
Yuet is a young Chinese woman who is intelligent and very resourceful.
When her brother, Fu Ling, is killed by pirates as he travels with her to
a new life in the Otago Goldfields, she takes his identity, completes the
journey and lives for several years as a miner and a translator. Conran, a
talented stonemason and musician from Stromness in Orkney, is spirited,
caring and loyal. Like the sojourner Ming Yuet, Conran has left his native
country in search of a better life and so that he too can send money home
to his family. Ida, Ming Yuet’s English friend who leaves her homeland
after the tragic death of her baby sister and her mother, is a compassionate
and gifted healer who has aspirations of becoming a nurse.
These
characters in turn each narrate a part of the story and through the
different
perspectives
and the interrelated storylines the novel explores the important ideas of
alienation, love and forgiveness - “the healing potential of friendship
and the redemptive power of storytelling” (Alterio). Well-structured,
detailed and compelling the storyline gives the reader a sense of an
actual place in real time. One of the strengths of this novel is that it
does not consciously set out to describe the setting or historical
surroundings. Through the convincingly believable characters and their individual, distinctive dialogue we absorb the history in the same way
that we take in the background of a painting we stand in front of in a
museum.
Alterio’s
poignant love story about the blossoming relationship between Ming Yuet
and
Conran
is beautifully envisaged and expertly accomplished. Reading this book is
like viewing a kaleidoscope of ever-changing illustrations of their lives
and their love.
Alterio’s
descriptive style of writing is particularly skilful. Reflecting
absolutely its title,
Ribbons
of Grace imitates a series of
pictures that constantly change and reshape and
restructure
as the story unfolds. Every image, every sensation, every emotion in
effect becomes it own “ribbon of grace”.
I
loved this book. I have told everyone I know about this book. It is a
marvellous story beautifully narrated. Now I am looking forward to Alterio’s
next one, In Quiet Exile.
WORLD
WATCH
Sources:
www.365Gay.com, www.gaywired.com,
www.pinknews.co.uk,
www.rainbownetwork.com
LESBIAN
PRISON OFFICER WINS COMPENSATION
New
York, USA
A
lesbian prison guard who suffered mental and physical abuse
from
a fellow male co-worker for over a year has been awarded
US$850,000
damages. In making his recommendation the
judge
concluded that the prison department “permitted a work
environment
to flourish where the credible evidence showed
that
she could have been killed because she is a gay female”. It
was
revealed the woman had twice filed written complaints, but
these
were generally ignored by prison bosses.
GAMBLE
ON GAY RIGHTS AS A VOTE-WINNER
Canberra,
Australia
With
his Liberal party trailing in opinion polls, Australian PM
John
Howard is reportedly about to announce that gay and
lesbian
couples will be given a range of equal rights, a move
that
could help two key colleagues retain their Sydney seats in
the
forthcoming general election. In June, the Human Rights
and
Equal Opportunity Commission had highlighted 58 laws
that
needed to be changed to grant gay, bisexual and lesbian
Australians
equal rights. When Cabinet discussed the proposals
two
months later it was split and left the final decision
to
Mr. Howard. The opposition Labour party supports the
recommended
law changes, but both parties support a federal
ban
on gay marriage.
IRAN
DOES HAVE GAYS AFTER ALL
Tehran,
Iran
The
President of Iran claims he was misrepresented by Western
media
when he was quoted as saying that there are no gays in
Iran.
During a recent speech at New York’s Columbia University,
the
president had said: “In Iran we don’t have homosexuals
like
in your country … In Iran we do not have this phenomenon,
I
don’t know who has told you that we have it.” A presidential
aide
now says that the president simply meant not as many
as
in the United States - historical, religious and cultural
differences
mean homosexuality is less prevalent in Iran and
the
Islamic world than in the West. In August, an Iranian
newspaper
was shut down for printing an interview with a
lesbian
poet. In July 2005, two gay teenagers were executed in
Iran
sparking protests around the world.
LESBIAN
FILM WINS INAUGURAL AWARD
Cardiff,
Wales
The
inaugural Iris Prize of £25,000, which organisers claim
is
the largest on offer for a gay and lesbian short film, has
been
won by Pariah,
a film about an African-American lesbian
teenager.
A coming-of-age drama about a lesbian teenager who
unsuccessfully
juggles multiple identities to avoid rejection from
her
friends and family, Pariah has
already made a splash on the
American
gay and lesbian film circuit winning the prestigious
best
narrative short at New York’s Newfest film festival.
ADVICE
COLUMN ADVOCATES GAY MARRIAGE
New
York, USA
One
of the widest-read syndicated newspaper columns in the
world,
Dear Abby, has backed gay marriage: “I believe if two
people
want to commit to each other, God bless ’em. That is the
highest
form of commitment, for heaven’s sake.” The column,
begun
in 1956, also spoke out against homophobic slurs and
parents
who disown kids who come out to them. The column
receives
more than 10,000 letters and emails each week and
has
a daily readership of more than 110 million people. Abby
was
recently awarded the first-ever Straight for Equality award
for
her promotion of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of
Lesbians
and Gays) as a resource for family members with
gay
loved ones. “I hate discrimination,” said Abby. “In my
column
and in my daily life, I have always promoted fairness
for
all people, and I admire the work that PFLAG does for the
friends
and families of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender
individuals.”
CELEBRITIES
RAP TO MAKE GAY SEX LEGAL
Singapore
Singaporean
celebrities are rapping for repeal of a law that
makes
gay sex a criminal offence. They appear in a video
that
is posted on the You Tube website to support one man’s
push
to repeal the law. The video ends with the words “It’s
not
just a gay thing. It’s about equality.” MP Siew Kum Hong
will
present a petition to coincide with debate on the most
extensive
amendments to the city-state’s penal code in 22
years.
The petition urges abolishing part of the penal code that
makes
sexual acts between males a crime punishable by up to
two
years in jail. A bill introduced into parliament last month
proposed
making amendments to the code that would legalise
oral
and anal sex in private between consenting heterosexual
adults.
But the legislation does not address a ban on acts of
“gross
indecency” between men, which dates back to British
colonial
rule.
Endings
and Beginnings
by
Andrew Metcalfe
In
April 2008 I will have been back in the UK for five years. Every now and
then I’ve
penned
a few lines to send to the Otago Gaily Times back home, attempting to
reflect
on
some of the wider issues in Scottish and UK society (especially anything
with a LGBT flavour), as well observations of things I’ve stumbled
across on my travels. The last few contributions I’ve ended saying that
I’m in my “last year” of living and working in Scotland.
For
those who have come in late, my main reason for being here was to be
closer to
my partner, with the idea that we would work towards being able to live
our lives as
a “couple”. Over the past few years this kind of scenario has become
easier for many in the UK as well as New Zealand. For example, a friend of mine,
originally from Alexandra/Invercargill and now living in London, had a
civil ceremony with his partner in May. It’s something that I would love
to do – to declare how much I want to live the rest of my life with my
beloved. But it is not to be.
After
nearly seven and a half years together, we have had to go our separate
ways.
Even
in a society where it should be easier for both of us to work this kind of
thing out, it hasn’t been possible. One of the main reasons is that not
all employers in this land are open to same-sex relationships as (in
theory) they should be. For him to really be with me would mean leaving
his job, possibly his career, his home and lifestyle. Departing from his
job would have also included leaving his local area where he has a
prominent community role. It is rural, conservative and, for any Family
members, very closeted. In the end, the “devil you know” won out
when confronted with the option of taking the plunge to an uncertain
future with me. And, who is this “evil employer” who would not let him
be himself and be with me? None other than the Church of Scotland, the “established”
Presbyterian church here.
Those
of you who can remember some other things I’ve written will recall that
I have
a religious bent myself (pardon the pun!). The church is something that I
manage to love and hate at the same time – probably something that many
of us feel with people and places that have become inextricably woven into
our lives.
So,
how does one respond to such a break up in the supposedly enlightened era
of
2007?
Well, like anyone else going through this sort of thing, it’s a mixed
bag. Tears
have
been (and will be) shed while the practical realities begin to set in. For
me, that
has
involved small things like the sudden disappearance of my partner’s
personal things from the flat, to bigger changes such as the “For Sale”
signs going up outside the flat, with the prospect of having to find
another home. Some days I’m tempted to rant and rage about the injustice
of it all or give in to self pity and blame – I mean, why do I have to
pick the impossible ones to try and make a life with?!
I’m
still determined to chip away from the sidelines as well as from the
insides at the
Church, which espouses peace, forgiveness, community, love … and yet can
be so
hateful and hurtful to people like me who, let’s face it, give the
energy, time and creativity
to keep it going. It is, in fact, with some relief I feel that a difficult
personal
situation
has been resolved (although not in the way I wanted). So, I’ve decided
to stay on here for a bit longer and see what life brings.
In
many ways, what we are going through is similar to many others throughout
the
world
- gay, straight or something in between. Sometimes things don’t work
out, despite the best intentions (or otherwise) from the parties involved.
People come and go from our lives, we change and grow ourselves – or we
don’t, which may be the reason behind the discontentment that creeps in.
I’m a firm believer in “the best is yet to be”, even if at times
that seems farfetched and sounds a bit trite. For all of you who are
riding rough seas, take strength from friends and others around you who
love you. Tomorrow is another day, and who knows what the future holds?!
GLBT
In Rural New Zealand - An Opportunity
by
Sue Thompson, PFLAG South
PFLAG
South has recently been approached by Kate Duggan of PFLAG Hamilton. They
have been successful in getting funding to provide a PFLAG start up and
resource kit for rural communities and larger towns throughout New
Zealand. At present they are paying for me to attend an all day hui on 1
December.
So,
for the next few weeks I will be thinking about how we can best contribute
at this meeting. If this project is done well it should provide support
for families and their GLBT members, as well as opportunities for better
education about sexuality in communities.
I
plan to sort out some of PFLAG South’s collection of books, DVDs and
printed resources to take to Hamilton. I also thought that it would be
great if a DVD could be made of New Zealanders talking about their own
experience of family members coming out. I wonder if there may be other
huge needs we have not met, such as the special difficulties of straight
spouses and their children.
The
wisdom and experience of other people would be valuable in helping us to
think a bit beyond our own perceptions. It would be easy for “townies”
to get it wrong, just by not understanding. It’s such an opportunity
that we want to try and provide something that will really work for
communities.
Have
a think about these questions:
•
What are the particular difficulties which people face in rural areas if
they are gay or have a GLBT family member?
•
Would people be too shy to come to a group?
•
What might be the best ways or the best people to get information into a
community? Professionals?
Parents?
GLBT people?
I
would be grateful to hear from any readers of the OGT in regard to this
project.
Sue
Thompson, PFLAG South ([email protected])
poetry
A
Weary Wanderer
by
Jane E Libeau
Across
the plains of life
The
steps of every moment
Scuffs
across the memory
Of
where one once has been
Behind
us
Are
left the footprints
Light-footed
Deep
set
Amongst
the weathered
Environmental
changes
A
compass direction
Of
the sun and stars
Shrouded
by moon and cloud
And
the prints lead towards
Lost
horizons
Waiting
on the edge of now
Marking
time with the lost image
Of
what we are meant to follow
A
spark of life
A
blur
Smudged
across the naked eye
Espies
a road less traveled
A
gate unhinged
And
a weary wanderer
Ventures
through. |