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Issue 33: August - October 2002

Editorial
Letter to the editor
Queer Quiz
Lesbian teachers wanted for survey
Queer Pride symbols
View from the other side
An interview with Stu Terry
Calling all potential OGTers
Gay Pride Week Dunedin 2002
Pride week hits Dunedin
Cleopatra Terrifies Ball Guests
Gay Pride Church service
Pride Dunedin Incorporated
Pride Dunedin reconvenes
Entrants sought for Queen of the South
Pride Dunedin Youth
Mardi Gras Planned
Lesbian Literature Book Reviews
Music reviews
Poem
A walk on the queer side
The purple Passions - a sideline view
UNIQ
Gay ski week New Zealand, Queenstown
Over 35's
Getting hold of your hope
PFLAG
Embracing life
Alcohol and Drug Detoxification service - Richmond Fellowship
Keep your eye on the ball
Homophobia dissected
Queer Quiz answers
NZ Politics
Dunedin Rainbow Labour branch
Who are you hurting?
The Ettie Rout Centre
OUT Takes Dunedin 2002 - a review
Otago Festival of the arts
What's On
Regular events

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Editorial

Here it is - another issue of the Otago Gaily Times - just what you need to curl up with in front of the fire on these cold evenings or to read at a café while you enjoy a hot chocolate with lots of marshmallows! 

So, what’s been happening and what will be happening? During the last couple of months gay pride has been celebrated around the world - and right here in Dunedin as well. While gay pride marches or parades in places like San Francisco, New York and London have been large and very public events for some time now (we’re talking up to a million people at some of these events!), each year gay pride celebrations start to pop up in countries where such public expressions of queerness have not been experienced previously or where there has been tremendous resistance to such demonstrations in the past. 

For example, this year saw the first ever gay pride parade in Jerusalem (with about 2500 marchers) and also in Croatia (with about 200 people marching). These events didn’t take place without protest, though, and in Croatia a tear gas canister was thrown at the marchers. 

Incidents like this remind us that that homosexuality is actually still illegal in some places around the world and that individuals are still convicted and punished simply for their sexual orientation and/or gender identity, while in other countries queer people are only slowly starting to gain rights and freedoms.  

For me, an important part of gay pride is not only celebrating who we are and the fact that we’re proud of who we are, but also remembering and acknowledging our past, those who lived and loved in more difficult times and those who made it possible for us to be where we are today. Gay pride is also a good time to think about the future and what we still have to achieve - and there’s definitely some work still to be done even in a country like New Zealand in order for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, takataapui, fa’afafine and intersex people to have equal rights with heterosexual people under the law. 

As you’ll see from this issue of the OGT there are lots of different groups and activities available for queer people in the Dunedin area to participate in - WAQD, Purple Passions soccer games, UniQ, Pride Dunedin, Ascent, the queer walking group, the Dunedin Rainbow Labour group, LICCs & CLITs car rallies, Vivace, PFLAG, Lesbians Over 35s group, and so on. More details are provided throughout the paper about local groups and events and contact information is contained on the back page. So, get involved, enjoy your community and, above all, be proud of being queer! 

Victoria Devereux   

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queer quiz

  1. Who wrote, “I don’t consider my homosexuality a political thing … I only started going to political rallies to meet women”?

  2. In days gone by, which New Zealand city was described as the “gay capital” of New Zealand?

  3. Which actress first introduced Oscar Wilde to the elite literary circles of London society?

  4. Which city has hosted the Gay Games twice?

  5. In what year did the Stonewall Riots in New York (which sparked the modern gay rights movement) take place?

Answers to Queer Quiz

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Letter to the editor

PRIDE DUNEDIN - WHAT IS IT? 

Dear Editor 

While I commend individuals and/or groups who initiate and coordinate events for the queer communities, I am concerned about the implications of “Pride Dunedin” being used as the slogan for this year’s gay pride week. 

Locally, nationally and internationally gay pride events are associated with visibility and celebration of the gay community. Not only does this affirm us as individuals, it provides a focus for community cohesiveness, an opportunity for public education and for those who may be questioning their sexual orientation. Historically symbols reflecting the diversity of the queer community and language such as gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender were apparent in promotional material for the week’s activities. 

In contrast, though, the use of the phrase “Pride Dunedin” to promote many of this year’s pride week events in Dunedin is somewhat ambiguous and could easily be interpreted as a promotion for our delightful city rather than a celebration of our uniqueness as a queer community. 

The banner across Stuart Street - “Pride Dunedin Celebrate Diversity” - could refer to anything. In addition Pride Dunedin’s logo is on the banner which appears to be much more a symbol of heterosexuality than homosexuality with the portrayal of a female and male figure. There is no symbol displayed on the banner that indicates that celebrating diversity is associated with being queer. Anyone unfamiliar with the group Pride Dunedin would have no idea what this banner is promoting. 

Lastly it is disappointing that a week that acknowledges pride in who we are and reflects the history of our culture has a window display that is mostly comprised of alcohol products and uses media advertising to promote events as “queer friendly” and refers only to “pride week” not “gay pride week”. 

And, isn’t it bizarre that the largest event of gay pride week, the Masquerade Ball, is promoted as “queer friendly” rather than gay or queer? 

            Yours queerly,

            Disappointed & Invisible  

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Lesbian Teachers Wanted For Survey

Wanted ASAP: lesbian secondary teachers from all over NZ to participate in a survey on their appointment, employment conditions and career advancement. 

Auckland lesbian Carol Bartlett, a west Auckland teacher, is organising the confidential postal survey to show how attitudes to sexual orientation affect the employment of secondary teachers who are lesbian. Her Master’s-level thesis in Educational Administration will detail the results. 

“My own previous experiences have suggested to me that with a lesbian orientation it is harder to be appointed, secure promotion or even stay in a job,” says Carol. “If this is the case, it’s important to gather information about it at first hand, especially as schools are required to operate under the Human Rights Act which outlaws employment-related discrimination based on sexual orientation.” 

The validity of Carol’s conclusions depends on having as many teachers as possible complete the questionnaire. “It’s also crucial that a wide range of women respond so that the sample is representative. For instance, it would be good to hear from teachers who are not "out" on the job as well as those who are; rural teachers as well as those in towns or cities; and women who prefer terms such as "gay" as well as those who self-identify as lesbian.” 

Carol hopes secondary teachers from a diverse range of institutions - private, state, integrated, composite or other schools - will take part. 

“As a lesbian working in a secondary school, I am very aware of the need for confidentiality and anonymity in this research. Participants can be assured that their anonymity will be protected through processes approved by the Massey University Ethics Committee.” 

Carol will send those interested the questionnaire and a letter for other potential participants. 

Information: phone Carol Bartlett on 09-820-2332, write to her at PO Box 19-415, Avondale, Auckland or email her at [email protected]  

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View From The Other Side

by Enne Eskay 

It is difficult to be queer in the straight world; it can feel oppressive. To be disabled in an able world can certainly feel as oppressive. However, in creating an even more difficult mix of all this, one ventures into the murky territory of speaking of alternative sexuality of disabled people. 

Granted that even to speak of sexuality in relation to the disabled is already touching a nerve. And to be so bold as to suggest that even disabled people may be queer seems to be going far. 

As with queerness, we are once again in the position of asserting for ourselves that a different belief is okay. It calls for a lot of confidence on the part of the disabled person to assert his or her sexuality. And then to declare that it is not mainstream. 

Like any disadvantaged group, the disabled face being considered ungrateful because society is indeed moving ahead on civil rights for disabled individuals. Accessibility has moved leaps and bounds in the past few decades. But sexuality is not linear, and cannot be put on hold. It, too, is a pressing need. As the queer community knows, more than most, just the acknowledgement and understanding of one's sexuality can bring so much peace and confidence.

To bring the sexuality of the disabled person to the fore is a tall order, one that behooves a disabled individual to make conscious things that are easier swept under the rug. And this includes things like sexuality in general, and particularly alternative sexual desires. But this tough task is something that speaks to the reality of a large segment of the population. 

The sexuality of disabled people is something that only the disabled give any thought to. But disability is a fact of life, and so is sexuality. And so is queerness. For a disabled person to express this will not be easy. But it is a climb of expression that will free so many. And least of all, it will free a disabled person to even be able to say, I'm queer.

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Queer Pride Symbols

What Do They Mean & Where Do They Come From?

by Victoria Devereux

So far in previous issues of the OGT we've looked at the history and meaning of the pink and black triangles and the rainbow flag. This time we're going to investigate the labrys and the lambda. 

The Labrys

The labrys is a double bladed axe and was used by the matriarchal Amazon warrior tribes both as a harvesting tool and as a weapon in battle. The Amazons ruled with a dual-queen system where one queen was in charge of the army and battle while the other queen stayed behind to administer the conquered cities. Amazons were reputed to be ferocious and merciless in battle, but once victorious they ruled with justice. 

The labrys is also connected with Demeter who in ancient mythology was the goddess of the harvest and fertility and used a labrys as her sceptre. Rites and ceremonies associated with the worship of Demeter are thought to have involved lesbian sex. 

Today the labrys is regarded as a symbol of lesbian and feminist strength and independence. 

The Lambda

The use of the lambda as a symbol representing queer rights is perhaps not so common in New Zealand as it is in the USA where it is more well known and where there are organisations that incorporate the term in their name (for example Lambda Legal, a national American organisation committed to achieving full civil rights for queer people and those with HIV/AIDS through litigation, education and public policy work). 

The lambda symbol was adopted in 1970 by the New York Gay Activists Alliance and in 1974 it was adopted as the international symbol for gay and lesbian rights by the International Gay Rights Congress held in Edinburgh. 

However, the lambda symbol is a somewhat controversial one in terms of its meaning with different opinions as to why it was originally chosen as a symbol of gay and lesbian rights. Although the exact reason for using this particular symbol remains unknown, there are various possibilities including the following: 

As the Greek lower case letter "l" it stands for "liberation".

 The use of lambda in physics to denote energy or wavelength.

The Greeks Spartans believed that the lambda represented unity.

The Romans thought that it meant "the light of knowledge shining in the darkness of ignorance".

It may represent scales and balance and the constant force that keeps opposing sides from overcoming each other. The hook at the bottom on the right leg then signifies the action required to reach and maintain balance.  

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AN INTERVIEW WITH  Stu Terry

Recently Brigid Loughran and Andrew Metcalfe talked with Stu Terry, the person currently leading Pride Dunedin Incorporated, about the establishment of the organisation and its future.

At the conclusion of Pride Week 2001 in Dunedin a group of people got together to discuss the success or otherwise of the events. One of those present was Stu Terry. There was agreement amongst the individuals that the programme of events within the week could be improved. A perceived shortcoming was the lack of awareness within the queer community of the celebration of our way of life. 

This is where the impetus for setting up Pride Dunedin came from. Initial meetings were held at Planet Pancake in Princes Street. In its embryonic stage a small group of people, including Stu and some enthusiastic helpers, set about establishing an incorporated society that would be responsible for developing a programme of events for Pride Week 2002. And so, the organisation Pride Dunedin came into being and the committee worked feverishly for several months to come up with the events that made up Dunedin Pride Week 2002.

Sponsorship plays an important part in organising events on the scale of Pride Week. Stu could not speak highly enough of the financial support from the Dunedin Casino and Public Health South. Then there was also Metro Cinema, who made possible the hanging of a banner across Stuart Street in the lower Octagon, and The Chancellor Hotel (formerly Wains Hotel) which was the venue for a number of the events. 

At the inception of Pride Dunedin it was intended that the group would go on and not just plan and execute Pride Week activities. According to Stu the group should not be viewed only as a "good party" organising body. 

Along with its social role within the queer community Pride Dunedin is to have an educational role to play as well which will extend to the whole Dunedin community. In addition, as an umbrella organisation Pride Dunedin could, in the future, help groups get funding and assist with matching groups to funding sources. This is an important reason why the group has become an incorporated society. According to Stu this gives Pride Dunedin some formal credibility which is essential when making approaches for funding.

Currently the goals of Pride Dunedin are as follows: 

To recognise the dignity and value of all people within the queer community

To emphasise respect for the rights of others, based on recognition of worth of each individual.

To co-ordinate and support social and educational activities for queer people within Dunedin.

To promote to the Dunedin community the positive contribution made to the city by queer people.

To develop awareness and understanding of the needs, challenges and strengths of the queer community to the Dunedin community.

To provide for a melting pot, a recognised forum for the free exchange of ideas, skills and experience.

 

Pride Dunedin welcomes the participation of all people regardless of age, creed, gender, gender identification, HIV status, ethnicity, physical, mental or developmental ability, race, religion or sexual orientation. Pride Dunedin’s constitution will be up for review during the next month or so and they are seeking input from the community (see following page for more details). 

Since the establishment of Pride Dunedin Stu has been in the role of Chairman and he has been supported by a committee of individuals who have taken on various other roles. The organisation has now scheduled an extraordinary meeting for August 19 at which they will decide on a nomination process so that formal elections of the committee by the membership can take place at Pride Dunedin's first AGM, probably to be held sometime in September. 

For $5.00 anyone can go along and become a member Pride Dunedin, have their say in the running and direction of the organisation and get involved in the activities and events it organises. This is an opportunity for people to have input into what they want from their community. As Stu pointed out, attending Pride Dunedin meetings and events would be a safer, alternative way to meet people instead of chat rooms and, in the boys case, the sauna. To help people find out more about Pride Dunedin a website has been set up and an email list developed for up to date information on where and when the group gets together. 

Stu's involvement with Pride Dunedin Incorporated evolved from an early interest in community and social issues. At school (Otago Boys High School) he took part in the activities of church youth groups. For him this was a way of meeting a variety of people. Twenty five years on he is a graduate of the University of Otago and works in the education sector. His involvement in community groups continues with membership of the local Rotary Club. 

For Stu it is a matter of continuing service to the community and a way, albeit subconsciously, of exposing everyone to the idea of people getting on with each other. Stu noted that as people got to know him his sexual orientation was not such an issue. For him the experience of being queer was scariest at the point just prior to publicly coming out. He feels that he may have been assisted in that he works in the education sector where diversity of cultures is tolerated and where there are fewer men. 

Like any number of people involved in community work there is somehow time for other interests. For Stu it is study for a Postgraduate Diploma in Commerce and Latin American dance. Then there is Pride Dunedin as well.   

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Calling All Potential OGTers

The OGT is looking for more people to join its collective and be involved in the running of the paper. It’s painless (quite fun actually!), involves as little or as much time as you can give and doesn’t require any specific skills or experience. During the production of an issue we meet fairly regularly (that is, most weeks but not all) and the meetings generally last about one and a half hours. 

OGT collective members help obtain copy for the paper by liaising with individuals and groups in the community, contribute copy for the paper (but this is by no means compulsory!), help distribute the paper around town, talk about the paper on the queer radio show, and do various other things as well. If you would like to be involved or find out what it’s all about, then please let us know - see the home page forr the various ways you can get in contact with us. We’d love to hear from you!!!   

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GAY Pride Week Dunedin 2002

Pride Week Hits Dunedin

Pride week became very visible this year with events and social gatherings bigger and better than Dunedin or any other main centre has experienced for many years. The reason for this is mainly due to Pride Dunedin Incorporated being formed and the huge hours spent by the team of Pride Dunedin. 

The events were varied with something for everyone from dog shows and soccer games to the amazing Ball, which was absolutely fantastic and included a large array of shows and great music that didn’t finish upstairs till 7am; then a breakfast followed downstairs in the Chancellor Café. 

The week was very positive for the gay community with our logo celebrating diversity living up to its name and Pride Dunedin was very happy with the response from the public about the week and its events. 

Pride Dunedin would like to thank our sponsors and volunteers because without their help and donations of time and money Pride Week would not have happened. Thank you to Planet Pancake for letting us use their café like an office, UniQ for all their help and for loaning us equipment, and all the others. You can find a list of all our sponsors on our web page at www.pridedunedin.sphosting.com   

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Cleopatra Terrifies Ball Guests

by Nathan Brown

The atmosphere at Pride Ball 2002 - the “Masquerade Ball” held in the Chancellor Hotel - was electric with roughly half the Ball goers choosing to go Egyptian for the night and the other half donning top hats, tails and masks. Nubians roamed next to phantoms, a comical mix. 

The shows began at 1am, just a little more than fashionably late. Cleopatra (Ruby) left everyone with jaws dropped with all her screaming; she even strangled one poor woman presumably in gest. But I was also left gob smacked by how she looked - totally Cleopatra, full credit to Niki for the amazing make-up, and her stage presence was great. 

But the top act for the night was, without a doubt, the funky female dancers and the mummy - excellently choreographed, top notch, really cool and fun to watch. I so want to see more performances like that at LGBT events. 

What was the deal with having to pay for the vodka jellies though? And how about the loud dude in his underwear? I heard he was an Aucklander!! My only whinge was that the shows were too long for one sitting but boy did the rest of the night make up for that.   

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Gay Pride Church Service

As part of the 2002 Dunedin Gay Pride Week celebrations, a church service was held at Glenaven Methodist Church on July 7th. 

During a packed service the congregation was reminded that they were in a safe place for anyone to be a part of, regardless of whom they chose to love. “We are here in this place as real flesh and blood people who experience God through our often messy and complex relationships,” said preacher and member of the Glenaven congregation, Andrew Metcalfe. “We are known, we are loved – not only by God, but also by all of our friends around us: straight, gay, whatever-in-between, whoever and however we choose to love.” 

A variety of gay and lesbian people and their friends contributed to the service, which it is hoped will continue to be a regular event.

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PRIDE DUNEDIN INCORPORATED

Pride Dunedin Reconvenes

Pride Dunedin was formed just over two months before Pride Week, so it was always the intention to initially focus efforts on that and to review the wider picture afterwards, says Chairman Stu Terry. This process kicked off at the first post-Pride-Week membership meeting on 23 July. 

At the meeting, Pride Week accounts were presented and members were delighted at the news that the event did not lose money despite a lower attendance at most events than was budgeted for. A discussion followed about future focuses and three key development areas were identified: 

The development of positive options for young queer people.

Constitutional and structural review, including the formal nomination and election of an Executive Committee as the present one is only interim.

 Continued planning of upcoming social events.

The next meeting of Pride Dunedin will be at 7pm on Monday August 19 in the Princess Room at the Chancellor Hotel, Princes St. This is an extraordinary meeting to discuss constitutional and structural issues. It is intended that agreement will be reached on a structure so that nominations can be accepted. Elections will then be able to take place at the AGM, to be scheduled for September 2002. 

Email submissions are also being sought prior to this meeting. If you would like to become a member of Pride Dunedin, make a submission or otherwise be part of the process, please email us (at [email protected] ).   

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Entrants Sought For Queen Of The South

Following the phenomenal success of last year’s Queen Of The South at which 200 people had to be turned away at the door, this year is set to be just as big. Last year’s winner, Miss Melbourne, is not permitted to enter this year but must give her crown to the glamorous lucky winner. Entrants are now being asked to come forward. All those interested should email Pride Dunedin (at [email protected] ).

The venue for this year’s event is yet to be confirmed with ReFuel being mooted as a possibility, although other non-campus venues are being sought. However, the date for the night has been confirmed as Saturday 14 September 2002. See you there folks!

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Pride Dunedin Youth

Following the Pride Dunedin meeting on July 23, six interested members (mostly under 25) met on July 26 to begin the process of developing supports for young queer people in Dunedin under the banner of Pride Dunedin Youth. 

The group identified the following areas that Pride Dunedin Youth will seek to address. These areas included (but were not limited to): developing positive identity, strengthening relationships between young queer people and peers, family, school and the community, providing a means by which young people can meet other like minded young people, educating the wider youth population, and working with schools to disseminate information and combat homophobia. 

Actions to address some of these issues include strengthening Icebreakers (a 10 week workshop for under 26 year old men questioning their sexuality) by reviewing the entire programme with regard to training, safety, accountability and funding; building a relationship with WAQD to re-establish a similar programme for women; developing a social network of under 18 year olds with a non-smoking and non-alcohol focus; and seeking 18 year old and under representation within Pride Dunedin Youth. 

Anyone who is interested in helping young gay, lesbian or bisexual people is encouraged to email us (at [email protected] ) and get involved.  

We particularly want to hear from young gays and lesbians and people with youth work experience.   

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Mardi Gras Planned

Tentative plans are underway for a Mardi Gras to be held in the Octagon on the evening of 7 February 2003. This would coincide with the Summer Festival and would attract visitors from cruise ships docked in Dunedin for that night. 

The DCC has expressed support in kind for the Mardi Gras idea which would not be a strictly LGBT display but rather would show-case performances from a cross-section of cultural groups in Dunedin. Pride Dunedin is expected to coordinate the event and planning is likely to get under way shortly. Interested groups or individuals should email Pride Dunedin (at [email protected] ).   

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LESBIAN LITERATURE BOOK PREVIEWS

The following previews of some new lesbian titles have been provided by the Women's Bookshop in Auckland.  For issues of their wonderful newsletter and more information about all sorts of books, check out their recently redesigned web site at:  www.womensbookshop.co.nz  

The Skeleton Woman: A Romance

by Renée

Rose Anthony is reeling from a series of major and minor crises - including breast cancer and a rift with her lover Olga - when life becomes still more complicated. Someone has literally left a baby on her doorstep, and skeletons are rattling in their closets. This fifth novel from a much-loved writer is a delight: a tightly plotted and entertaining story whose heroine provides a comic, human foil to the seemingly inhuman. 

The Comfort of Strangers

by Peggy Herring

Lela's work as a scientist and healer has always sustained her as she drifts from one relationship to the next, never risking her heart. But when the stately blonde warrior Alaric saves her life, Lela's soul stirs with a new passion. A new science fiction title from a popular lesbian author. 

Hot & Bothered 3: Short Fiction on Lesbian Desire

ed by Karen Tulchinsky

A wide range of writers - from the well-known Leslea Newman and Joan Nestle to newer names - guarantees to get readers hot and bothered all over again with 69-plus tales of love and lust. 

Love in Idleness

by Charlotte Mendelson

When Anna Raine's Aunt Stella offers her a London flat, Anna's curiosity about this thrillingly reckless woman becomes fascination. By day Anna feigns efficient adulthood; by night she sinks into an increasingly heated world of discovery. "An intelligent and gripping first novel with a pleasurable ripple of sexual tension." (Diva lesbian magazine) 

Body Check: Erotic Lesbian Sports Stories

ed by Nicole Foster

Let's face it, lesbian fascination with sport doesn't begin or end with Martina Navratilova! Recreational tennis player and professional lesbian Nicole Foster has collected stories of sexy, sweaty action between women runners, basketball players, swimmers and other athletes. 

Around the Houses

by Amanda Boulter

Anna's having a baby. The father's gay, her lover is a woman and she still hasn't told her parents. Rather than offering the usual deal of a straight family with colourful gay characters on the margins, Amanda Boulter's refreshing first novel centres on a gay and lesbian family. Likened to Armistead Maupin's Tales of the City but set in South London and penned by a lesbian, this is the first in a new series. 

Woman to Woman: An Everywoman's Guide to Lesbian Sex

by Carol Booth

At last, an antipodean book on lesbian sex and relationships! Woman to Woman is aimed at questioning women as well as those who are sure of their lesbian selves. Booth, an Australian doctor who came out after turning 30, complements factual information with personal stories and the experiences of other lesbian women. 

Tea

by Stacey D'Erasmo

At eight Isabel Gold loses her mother to suicide, in her teens she finds she likes girls as much as pot and Joni Mitchell, and at 22 she scrambles to keep her bohemian dreams and her relationship alive. "Written with a strength and daring that make reading it a breathtaking pleasure." (San Francisco Chronicle) 

Best Lesbian Erotica 2002

ed by Tristan Taormino

Always popular, with sexy stories appealing to a diverse range of lesbian tastes. This book features established lesbian writers as well as newer names. 

Flying Under Bridges

by Sandi Toksvig

UK gay and lesbian booksellers are giving this novel by a well-known British comedian (and out lesbian) the thumbs-up. When bored housewife Eve meets up with her childhood friend, now a closeted celebrity, she begins to reconsider her life - setting in motion events which include the killing of her prospective son-in-law. This hilarious yet sad story makes some serious points on hypocrisy and family values.  

Burning Ground

by Pearl Luke

Percy Turner begins her seventh season of summer work in a fire tower deep in the Canadian woods. She spends her days scanning the horizon for "smokes" out in the forest, but inside she's smouldering with a passion for her best friend Marlea. 

Lee & Elaine

by Ann Rower

A hitherto heterosexual art teacher falls for a female student. Spurred on to change her life entirely, she rents a home near a famous artists' cemetery and plans a book in which two women buried there (Elaine de Kooning and Lee Krasne) return as ghosts and as lesbian lovers. In real life all hell breaks loose when Elaine's headstone disappears. A funny, sharp book about romance, life, death and art.   

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Music Reviews

become you - indigo girls

CD Review by Victoria Devereux

It's been three years since the last Indigo Girls CD was released and "Become You" is the ninth that the duo has produced. After "Come On Now Social" and "Shaming Of The Sun" which were a bit more "rocky" than the Indigo Girls's previous albums, "Become You" marks a return to a more acoustic sound, and the tracks on this CD are full of the harmonies and melodies that we have come to expect and love from Amy Ray and Emily Saliers. Their latest CD was recorded in the studio with one band rather than lots of different musicians and so the sound is simpler and there's a greater sense of cohesiveness about the album as a whole.

"Become You" contains twelve songs - six written by Amy and six by Emily. In addition to the distinct sound of each singer/songwriter, there's a real mixture here in terms of content - there are songs that are about love and relationships (and break ups) and songs that have more of a political focus. The tracks "Become You" which talks about the South (of the US) and "Nuevas Senoritas" which pays tribute to the ultimate fate of the Mexican women who fight for change with the Zapatistas fall into the latter category: 

"Nuevas Senoritas, are you gone to brighter days? Have you found your greener valleys and the place where your heart stays?” 

In contrast, though, songs like "Moment of Forgiveness" relate much more to personal emotions and situations: 

"Baby I woke up cryin' last night just to realize that you were gone. Has it been two long years without you? When are you gonna come home?" 

There is something of a contrast between the harmony and gentleness of the voices and the angst expressed through the words of the songs, but throughout the whole album there is a feeling of strength and a sense of the power of the human spirit that comes to the fore in dealing with both the personal and the political. 

kd lang - Live By Request 

kd has been recording for almost two decades and “Live By Request” (2001) covers the last fifteen years. "Big Boned Gal" recalls the period 1985-1989 with the release of the albums "Angel with a Lariat" and "Absolute Torch and Twang". These were the Patsy Clinesque backed by the Reclines years. 

"Constant Craving" and "Wash Me Clean" are from the swoony pop and adult contemporary fad that marked the albums "Ingenue" (1992) and "All You Can Eat" (1995). No recording of this nature would be complete without the inclusion of "Crying", the duet with Roy Orbison (1987). 

Other songs come from "Drag" (1997) an album given the 20s/30s cabaret treatment. The latest new songs were recorded in 2000 on "Invincible Summer" and two of these tracks are included here. These are a shift back to the big raw ballads, strong with no frills. 

"Live By Request" is an okay disc as an intro to kd's music or if you want one kd album for the car then this one will do.   

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Poem

Sitting Under A Rainbow

by Val Coleman

 

I’m sitting under the rainbow

Sick of chasing pots of gold

Looking up from way down low

Feeling strong and bold.

 

Some will say I gave up on my dreams,

But you know it’s not so bad here,

Looking up at coloured seams

Is really easy to bear.

 

Chasing that elusive pot

Doesn’t seem so important now

For I found I have a special spot

It doesn’t matter where or how.

 

Friends colour my pathway,

Prisms of internal light,

A different sort of fulfilled days.

That stay in my dreams at night.

 

So I will sit under my rainbow

Enjoying waves of colour and joy

Knowing that this will never go

Because it is much more than a toy.

 

Let me be a bright stripe

In the rainbow of your life

Forget internal worries and strife

Let rainbows light your life.  

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A Walk On The Queer Side

by Tor & Barb

Okay, so the weather has not been particularly co-operative on many of our designated queer walking Sundays recently (as you'll know if you'd been planning on coming along to any of them), but we won't let that discourage us. The walks listed below for the next three months might sound familiar - they are all ones that have been scheduled previously but haven't happened because of rain - and on one occasion, snow! 

Remember that kids and dogs are very welcome on the walks. And - one other very important thing - we've changed the meeting time for the walks from 1:00pm to 2:00pm.

If you have any questions or need a ride, then phone Barb and Tor on 453-1108. Also, if you know of any walks that are dog-friendly and that you think would be good for the queer walking group, then please let us know. 

Here are the walks that we've arranged for the next few months. For all of the walks, meet at the duck pond at Woodhaugh Gardens at 2:00pm. 

Sunday August 25

· Street walk around Maori Hill and Balmacewen

This walk is from one of Paul Hayward's books of "Intriguing Dunedin Street Walks". It should take about an hour to an hour and a half, and will lead us past Tolcarne (St Hilda's boarding residence), Mercy Hospital, John McGlashan College and Prospect Park - to name just a few of the landmarks along the way. We will bring some copies of Paul's commentary about the buildings and areas on the walk because it makes for interesting reading. 

Sunday September 29

·    The Steve Amies Track to Trig Q, one of the Silver Stream Water-Race Tracks at Whare Flat

A number of tracks have been developed in the historic Silver Stream Water-Race at Whare Flat (at the bottom of Three Mile Hill). The walk that we'll do starts from the car park on Swampy Summit Road and takes about one to one and a half hours. Parts of the walk might be exposed so make sure you bring warm clothing. 

Sunday October 20

·    Lee Stream (Outram Glen) - 3rd time lucky for this walk since it's already been cancelled twice!!!

After meeting at Woodhaugh Gardens we will drive out to Outram Glen where the walk starts. This walk follows the Taieri River upstream from the Outram bridge and ends at Lee Stream. Allow a couple of hours for this walk and it might be muddy so make sure you wear appropriate footwear.   

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The Purple Passions - A SIDELINE VIEW

by Barb

Depending on how early one gets to the game, there is an opportunity to view a diverse group of lesbian women in various states of disrobement preparing for the Saturday morning or early afternoon social soccer game. These fearsome amazons bearing their purple passions t-shirts, rainbow socks and black shorts brave the Dunedin weather weekly to entertain spectators with their skills, speed and ability in pursuit of a goal and a lot of fun.  Sometimes those on the sidelines are distracted from seeing the goal scored as they are trying to encourage their canine companions from running onto the field. 

However, sideline support is prolific with cries of “go purple”, “good ball”, “push on up” which easily drown out any noticeable grunts from the rugby game being played on the other field.  There is often a quick flurry of t-shirt swapping as another woman is subbed on and there is always the risk that spectators will need to throw on some boots if the team is a couple of players short. 

All queer women are welcome to come along and play and it’s not necessary to know what you’re doing as this is a social soccer league and a great opportunity to learn the rules. Spectators are always welcome and relied upon to know the score on occasions; at other times they are too distracted trying to work out who the new woman on the field is … 

To find out when the Purple Passions are playing you can check out the Unipol web page (www.unipol.co.nz) or email Shar ([email protected]) and get yourself onto the email list which will give you a couple of days notice of the game and also keep you informed of other queer events.   

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UniQ

Otago University has a diverse range of students and offers a number of services to support them. The UniQ office, at the students' association, is charged with representing the interests of queer (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, takataapui, fa'afafine) students and their friends. Our aim is to create a safe, encouraging and open forum for these students. 

We provide a number of services to the gay community on campus, including peer support, providing health and welfare information from services around Dunedin and referring to those services when necessary, and running campaigns on campus to increase visibility and education about queer issues. 

What has UniQ been up to this year? Aside from running Vivace, the only gay venue on any campus around the country, we've been focusing on running a few quality functions with our resources, rather than spreading them thin. At the start of the year, we helped organise the “Gay at the Beach” which was a great success, attracting over eighty participants. In May, OUSA hosted the national UniQ conference which attracted delegates from around New Zealand and got a lot of positive feedback. And, for Pride Week, we ran the Mr and Ms Pride Dunedin competition in association with Pride Dunedin. We are also helping the Otago Polytechnic Students' Association to establish a similar group, called PolyQ, for the polytech students. 

Over the next semester we plan to keep running Vivace every fortnight using ReFuel as our venue, as well as some high visibility campaigns to supplement Pride Week. Homophobia awareness is one such campaign to educate everyone around the university how hurtful and damaging homophobia can be. Tolerance Week is another planned action and will include a series of activities and events aimed at promoting tolerance within the diverse culture that is Otago University. But none of this takes away from our main responsibility which is to help students in the queer community and to provide them with any support that they need. And if we can't provide it, we'll be able to redirect them to someone who can, like the advocacy services at OUSA, or health and counselling services in Dunedin. 

UniQ has been active at Otago for the last four years, and was started by Alex Nichols. Currently the office is staffed by Alex as Co-ordinator and Stuart Geary as the UniQ Assistant. Regrettably, Alex has decided that it's time to move on from UniQ, and will be leaving us. He will be sorely missed, but we hope to continue providing the same quality service to students that has always been there. 

If you wish to get in contact with UniQ, you can find us at the OUSA building on the university campus, email us at [email protected] , or phone us on 479-5332.   

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Gay Ski Week New Zealand, Queenstown

7-15 September 2002

Gay Ski Week New Zealand 2002 is New Zealand's gay and lesbian skiing and snowboarding week, bringing together gay, lesbian, bisexual skiers and snowboarders alike for a week of fun and excitement.

During Gay Ski Week New Zealand 2002 there will also be a range of social events including the following:

 Fat Gingers Cafe - Official Gay Ski Week New Zealand 2002 Bar, Thomas's Hotel - 50 Beach Road, open 4pm till 1.00am. Pop in for a drink and a chat about the day's events.

 Gay/Lesbian Lake Cruise - 11 September 2002. Come cruising on the Lady of the Lake - TSS Earnslaw - for the first gay and lesbian lake cruise with your "Hostess with the Mostess" - the wonderful Buffy and Bimbo. Departs 6.30pm and returns 8.00pm.

An Audience with Buffy and Bimbo - 12 September 2002. Spend an enjoyable evening with Buffy and Bimbo with song, comedy and their special game show.

Gay Ski Week 2002 Party - 13 September 2002. Celebrate the end of New Zealand's gay & lesbian ski week. Location TBA

For more information check out the web site at: www.gayskiweeknewzealand.com  

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OVER 35s

The "Lesbians Over 35 Yrs" group (now simply referred to as "Over 35s") first met two years ago at the Cigar Bar (very Austin Powers) in the Southern Cross.

That first night didn't end until about 10pm and resulted in two parking tickets.  

The group has continued since then and now has a get together during the week (on Wednesdays from 5:30pm) which provides the opportunity for lesbians from throughout the city to meet up with one another in a relaxed and informal environment. 

Venues have varied from the posh to the otherwise and those in between. From over twenty-five women at some of the nights early on the numbers have steadied to about fifteen on a good night. Eureka in Albany Street seems to be the venue of choice at the moment probably because it comes into the category of "in between" - the food is interesting and the service good. 

Women tend to network in interesting - perhaps even peculiar! - ways and from the Over 35s group has emerged "LICCS" (Lesbians In Classic Cars) and "CLITS" (Classic Lesbians In Transport). Car rallies, movie going and parties for festive occasions for all lesbian women have also come about from within the group. (See Page 3 for more information about some upcoming car rallies.) 

If you want to find out more information about the Over 35s, then e-mail [email protected]  or make your way to Eureka one Wednesday evening.   

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Getting hold of your hope

by Relationship Services Whakawhanaungatanga

Remember that delicious new relationship feeling? How buoyant you are? How you can do anything? How the future shines so bright? 

It's a situation that makes you very aware of the possibilities and opportunities open to you. So some of that buzz may be due to body chemistry and sleep deprivation, some of it is due to your attitude. You’re willing to be positive, you’re willing to be happy and hopeful. 

Of course life presents lots of situations that make feeling hopeful a much tougher challenge. Many of these situations crop up in close relationships. When your partnership is lacklustre, your children behave like barbarians, or your friends forget you, hope is often the farthest thing from your mind. 

When boredom or desperation start to get the upper hand in your relationship, take hold of your hope. When your picture of the future is full of gloom, you are usually stuck with a very narrow range of possibilities about how things can be.

When you introduce hope to the situation, it's amazing how often other possibilities start to emerge. So, for example, if you are locked in an ongoing battle with your parents over their attitude to your sexuality, it feels like every time you see each other you argue and every time you argue you feel defeated. 

If you decided to get hold of your hope you might start to deliberately focus on something positive about your parents. Next time they discount your relationship, you might say “Mum/Dad, I feel really good that you want me to be happy, and I really admire how you can hold on to your beliefs. I’ve learnt a lot about that from you. I’d like to learn more.” 

This is not an instant fix. But it does make a start. All of a sudden you’re showing your parents that you don’t want to be at odds with them all the time. Actually, despite your differences you like and respect something about them. 

It’s a much more hopeful message for the relationship, because it tells your parents that you value them and that you want to be comfortable to be around them. It tells them that you see the relationship as being about much more than the conflict going on at the moment. It suggests that you have strong hopes of a respectful and admiring relationship with them in the future. 

The great thing about hope is how infectious it is. At first your parents might not even notice it. But sooner or later, they’ll warm to the genuine compliment you offer. And so will you. 

Yes you will still feel hurt and frustrated because you want them to accept who you are. But you will also create space for you to remember the love between you. When the relationship between you feels good, your parents might find themselves more able to stretch their world view and appreciate the person you are. 

When you offer someone a hopeful picture of themselves and their relationships it attracts them. They want to be part of it. They feel good when a skill or a good intention is recognised. We all like to be around people who have that knack of helping us feel good about ourselves. 

The more we are with people who give us hope, the more we start to become people who act and think in a hopeful way. 

So introduce hope into your relationships. It's one infection you’ll really enjoy. 

If you would like help to find the hope in your relationships, contact Relationship Services on 0800 RELATE (0800 735 283) or your local office which is listed in the telephone directory. Or visit us at www.relate.org.nz    

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PFLAG

DEMAND FOR YOUTH SERVICES

In recent weeks a surprising number of young people have contacted the Dunedin branch of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). Erin, who monitors the cell phone service for PFLAG South, reports that more calls have come from young gay, lesbian and bisexual people than from parents. “The ratio is probably about 2 to 1,” she says. 

“During our initial phone conversation I suggest a meeting with a PFLAG South member, usually in a coffee bar. It means I have to give a description of the person they will be meeting. It might be ‘the grey-haired woman with the big smile and even bigger handbag’. We haven’t missed anyone yet. We don’t wear our PFLAG badges to identify ourselves as that might cause embarrassment.”  

“Sometimes such a meeting is all that is needed,” says Erin. “We have a range of resources we can give to young people when they are thinking about their sexuality or about coming out to their parents. We also suggest they attend our monthly meetings and most do. It can be very helpful for a teenager to hear the experience of someone who has just come out to their family and to hear the concerns of a parent prepares them for some of the questions they might need to answer. Our PFLAG parents benefit too from hearing the concerns of young people.” 

“It’s been a challenge to our group to provide for this unexpected response,” says Erin, “but all of our members have personally experienced the coming out process, either as parents or as gay or lesbian people, so in PFLAG we have a valuable resource which we are able to offer to both the gay and straight communities.” 

“COUSINS OF DOROTHY”

The expression “Cousin (or "friend") of Dorothy” is one which will be very familiar to older gay readers. It was a code message that could be used in straight company to indicate that someone was gay or lesbian. It carried with it a sense of belonging to a community, something which the Dunedin queer community has experienced recently during Pride Week. It is also experienced by members of PFLAG especially when travelling. PFLAG South member, Sue Thompson, recently visited our the PFLAG chapter in Melbourne. I asked her about it. 

Before I left for Melbourne, a friend suggested that perhaps for three weeks I might concentrate on my new granddaughter and forget about PFLAG! Week one (didn't last long!) I went walking and found myself down in Prahan, standing with the pram and a rainbow flag outside "Hares and Hyenas" bookshop! I heard there of some wonderful people at PFLAG Melbourne. Couldn't resist and rang up. They were so friendly and hospitable. I felt as if I was visiting friends. I was known and accepted without having to explain. The password seems to be "I have a gay son/daughter"! The PFLAG president was Nan McGregor, a dynamic lady. We met at ICE Cafe and she presented me with an envelope of wonderfully interesting things - PFLAG leaflets, key rings, fridge magnets and other information about their publicity and work. 

I was also taken to and welcomed at their meeting, and asked to speak. People were most interested to hear how it was in Dunedin and that so much is being done in a city much smaller than Melbourne.  They presented a book of Australian Coming Out stories for PFLAG South and also an educational programme designed to be used in rural areas. It's called "Not Around Here" (a typical response to the question, "How long would two lesbians/gays take to settle in this district?") Another programme is being successfully run in schools by a young gay man who is a youth worker. It's called "Pride and Prejudice" and there is a video available which tells more about it. 

I gathered from parents that the level of homophobic bullying over the Tasman has been bad. Some parents, even years afterwards, found it hard when they spoke of things that had happened to their children. Nan said that in her experience of speaking in schools that teachers often didn't know how to deal with gay issues, either coming out or homophobia. There was a huge response to a meeting at a Catholic school where 70 people had turned up, instead of the expected 40, to hear Nan speak. It was interesting to note that PFLAG over there has a most welcome attendance of young people as well as parents, and that it enriches the meeting for everyone. It is good to realise that it is happening here as well.   

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Embracing Life

by Jane E Libeau

There are no closed doors in life only those we are afraid to open for fear of what is on the other side. 

So when coming across a seemingly shut door, don’t assume it is locked, or what lies behind it is too daunting to face. Step up to it and knock loudly – and walk on through. If what you find is less than what you expected remember that there are other doors. Keep knocking; keep opening because every doorway is worth entering. 

Take a chance in life and know that where ever you are, is where you are meant to be, and that an ending always makes way for a new beginning. 

To embark on any journey is full of mystery and unknowns, but by embracing change we open ourselves to life’s many wonderful experiences. 

So stepping out into this world with arms and mind open we can expect to receive all that life in her abundance has to offer.   

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Alcohol & Drug Detoxification Service

Richmond Fellowship NZ 

The drinking of alcohol and the use of other drugs such as cannabis is very much a part of many people’s lives here in Aotearoa. However, a significant number will experience some problems as a result of that use. How that difficulty is experienced may differ from one person to another, but for many it will cause problems such as relationship difficulties, high financial cost, legal problems, poor and deteriorating health and fitness, loss of interest in recreational activities, missed days at work, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts and intent, and aggressive behaviour to name but a few. 

We are informed about safe drinking limits, aren’t we? Did you know that as a general guide a sensible upper limit for adult men is no more than six standard drinks on any one occasion. But for some people, once they start drinking/drugging it is very difficult to constantly predict and control how much they use and how often they use the substance. They also experience that it is really hard - in fact sometimes it feels impossible – to go more than two to three days without using alcohol and/or other drugs because they feel physically and emotionally sick. They are possibly experiencing withdrawal symptoms. 

Withdrawal symptoms common to most substances are restlessness, agitation, sweats, tremors, heightened anxiety, nausea, loss of appetite and sleeping difficulties. Supporting people need to manage these symptoms and to get time that is free from alcohol and drug use is what the detox service is all about.

We are a “home-based” detox service and our experience, backed up by overseas evidence, shows that a person supported in the comfort of their own environment to withdraw from alcohol or other drugs is more likely to be successful. Also, that person arrives in a better place both physically and emotionally to be able to make better decisions regarding their future.

The detox service is available to people who live in Dunedin and surrounding areas and it is run by professionals who are well experienced in the alcohol and mental health fields. This is a free, confidential, 7-day service. Self-referrals are accepted and to date over 50% come from this source. Usually from our first phone contact we arrange a home visit to do an initial assessment. Support people/whanau are welcome to be present and involved. This assessment can take up to an hour and involves gathering essential information including the following: 

  1. Motivation to undertake the detoxification.
  2. That the home is an appropriate and safe environment to manage a detox. (A short-term residential bed may be considered in some circumstances.)
  3. That there is no physical or mental illness that may compromise a detox being managed in the home.
  4. That a GP is available should there be a need for symptomatic relief medication and to arrange any medical investigations as seen as appropriate.

Following assessment, a commencement time and date is negotiated. The time involved in every detox is guided by the person’s physical and emotional state and the substance involved. Normally it can vary from seven to fourteen days. However, the person can be sure that the service will visit at a minimum at least once a day with all contact prearranged to suit. 

Our goal is to support the person into a period of being alcohol and/or drug free safely and effectively, and also to offer education and information with ongoing recommendations and referrals as required. For all inquiries phone 471-6170.   

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Keep you eye on the ball... What Ball? Your Balls!

by Stephanie Read, Health Promotion Advisor, Public Health South

Testicular cancer is the most common cancer in men aged 15-34 years. Compared with other cancers it is relatively rare, so there is no need for panic. The risk of developing testicular cancer in your lifetime is approximately 1 in 500, but for young men it is the one to watch out for. Caucasian men are more at risk than other ethnic groups; why no-one knows but it’s something for the researchers to chip away at. 

Even though it is more common in young males, testicular cancer can also occur in late adulthood, so don’t get complacent just because you’ve turned 40 - there is still a lot of life left!  

Testicular cancer has a good cure rate, especially if detected early. Diagnosis of testicular cancer usually starts with self-discovery. The key message is to check for lumps and bumps regularly. If you find anything suspicious go and see your doctor straight away. 

Self Examination Tips:  

Best performed after a warm bath or shower as heat relaxes the scrotum, making it easier to spot anything abnormal. There is no need to ignore your partner in this equation as they often find abnormalities. “Self” in this case really means not a medical practitioner. You might want to try checking out each other’s balls every now and then. 

  1. Stand in front of a mirror; check for any swelling on the scrotum skin.
  1. Examine each testicle with both hands. Place the index and middle fingers under the testicle with the thumbs placed on top. Roll the testicle gently between the thumb and fingers. Don’t be alarmed if one seems slightly larger than the other - that’s normal.
  1. Find the epididymis, the soft, tubelike structure behind the testicle that collects and carries sperm. If you are familiar with this structure, you won’t mistake it for a suspicious lump. Cancerous lumps usually are found on the sides of the testicle but can also show up on the front.
  1. If you find a lump, see a doctor right away. The abnormality may not be cancer, but if it is, the chances are it could spread if not stopped by treatment. Only a physician can make a positive diagnosis.

Fear or self-consciousness is not a good reason to ignore this part of your health. Wishing will not make it go away and the sooner testicular cancer is treated the better the outcomes. Even though the cure rate is very high for all types and stages of testicular cancer, many of the drastic measures taken to cure later-stage disease can be avoided if the tumour is caught early enough. The best way to do this is through regular self-examination. 

The message is: keep an eye on your balls, and if you find something unusual see your doctor about it straight away!!!   

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Homophobia Dissected

by Tony Weisstein 

Hi again! It’s been a while since the last column in this series, but let’s jump right in and take a look at another argument used to justify prejudice and discrimination against lesbians and gay men. Our target this time: “Gay men are promiscuous.” 

The first obvious problem with this statement is the implication that it applies universally. Plenty of gay men - more than you might expect - choose either celibacy or monogamy, and many of the rest of us have dating lives a lot closer to “Will and Grace” than to “Queer as Folk". 

That said, several studies have found that gay men have more sexual partners on average than straight men, simply because there are guys out there who really rack up the numbers in this department. Whether you consider such behaviour immoral, studly or just very time-consuming, the fact remains: on the whole, gay men are gettin’ more than our heterosexual counterparts. No wonder straight guys don’t like us. 

But the story doesn’t end there. The usual subtext behind the promiscuity charge isn’t about behaviour - it’s about psychological pathology. After all, if gay men are running around all day having sex, then surely that means they’re sex maniacs, right? Well, some recent research at Illinois State University looked at this very issue and yielded some interesting findings. (As always, we need to bear in mind that the results of a single scientific study don’t necessarily represent the Ultimate Truth.) 

The study measured how interested men and women, both gay and straight, are in having casual sex. They found that interest levels for gay and straight men are about equal. Ditto for lesbians and straight women. The big difference was gender: men were much more interested than women in having casual sex. (This is one of those “They needed a study to show that?” results.) 

So the reason straight men have fewer partners isn’t that they don’t want to have lots of sex, it’s just that their potential partners are more likely to tell them to piss off. Now, if you want to, you can go ahead and condemn actions you’d gladly engage in yourself if only you had the chance, but your moral high ground is starting to look a bit shaky here. 

In the end, some folks simply like to have sex with lots of people and some folks don’t. So long as people are making informed and responsible decisions about their own behaviour, is that really a problem?  

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queer quiz answers

Answers to the Queer Quiz are:

1.  kd lang

2.  Dunedin

3.  Lillie Langtry

4.  San Francisco

5.  1969  

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NZ POLITICS: ELECTION RESULTS

This year a record number of openly queer candidates stood in the general election. There was a total of 15 - 6 from the Labour Party, 5 from the Green Party, 2 from the Alliance, 1 from Jim Anderton's Progressive Coalition and 1 from Act. In the end only three of these were successful in getting into Parliament - Tim Barnett (Christchurch Central), Chris Carter (Te Atatu) and Georgina Beyer (Wairarapa) who were all re-elected with very comfortable majorities. All three of these MPs are from the Labour Party. 

At the time of writing this, it has not yet been announced exactly what the government for the next three years will look like but it will be a Labour-led government. The percentage of the vote and the number of seats that each party ended up with is indicated in the table below (although this is before the special votes have been tallied so things may change a bit!): 

PARTY

% OF VOTES

NO. OF SEATS

Labour

41%

52

National

21%

27

NZ First

11%

13

Act

7%

9

United Future NZ

7%

9

Greens

6%

8

Progressive Coalition

1.75%

2

At this stage it's looking like the other players, in addition to Labour, are going to be the Progressive Coalition, the Greens and potentially United Future. So, where does each of these parties stand on queer issues and can we rely on them for supporting legislation like the Civil Union Bill and adoption by same-sex couples? 

The Labour Party 

Labour has developed a Rainbow Policy that encompasses community development, human rights, family law, youth, health and government expertise. This policy includes a commitment to introduce legislation for civil unions to give recognition to same-sex relationships and to provide rights equivalent to those of marriage. Labour also claims that it will change the adoption law that currently discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity and instead focus on the needs of the child. 

The Rainbow Policy also talks about ensuring that the standards required by the Human Rights Act are met by government and that legislation will be introduced to include gender identity as a prohibited ground of discrimination in the Human Rights Act. In addition, remaining laws that cause unfair discrimination on the grounds of sexual orientation or gender identity will be amended. 

Labour's policy recognises that GLBT youth are entitled to equality and respect whether they be at school, tertiary institutions or the workplace. Labour will require educational institutions to ensure GLBT students are safe and face no barriers to being open about their sexuality or gender identity and will ensure that the Youth Suicide Prevention Strategy recognises the importance of preventive work amongst GLBT youth. 

The Other Players

So what about the other parties that Labour may be relying on to help pass this legislation?

 

The Green Party is quite clearly fully supportive of ensuring that queer people have equal rights and changing laws that discriminate against people on the basis of sexual orientation and/or gender identity. In information provided to the OGT the Green Party described their position as follows: 

"The Green Party supports human rights for everyone irrespective of the categories into which one individual or group may fit. We do not just uphold "rights", we positively embrace differences and believe they enrich the entire human family. The Green Party believes marriage should be available to all citizens irrespective of sexual orientation." 

Being a left political party Jim Anderton's Progressive Coalition will no doubt be able to be counted on to provide support on progressing civil rights for queer people. 

However, it could be a bit of a different story when it comes to United Future NZ. As a pretty unknown quantity and a surprise winner on election night, Peter Dunne and his eight colleagues may not be easily convinced that queer people should have the same rights and responsibilities under the law as non-queer people. 

In a message from Peter Dunne on the United Future NZ's web page he writes, "We say it is time to rekindle the traditional New Zealand values of compassion, honesty, personal responsibility, reliability, trust and effort on which our country was founded. It is time to recognise again the key role of the family, and that strong and healthy families are the pathway to a strong and healthy society." Potentially there's nothing wrong with this statement at all, but it totally depends on how you define a "strong and healthy family". And, for someone who lived in the US for a number of years, this kind of rhetoric definitely has undertones of the "family values" of the conservative right. 

The first issue of express newspaper to come out after the election included an interview with two members of United Future NZ who are now in Parliament - Gordon Copeland and Larry Baldock. In the article we learn that Copeland "cites his opposition to the Property Relationships Act as the catalyst for joining the party and declares proposed Civil Union legislation an 'absolute minefield'". A bit later in the interview Copeland says, "I don't believe in making homosexuals criminals, but I do support the moral teaching of the church on the morality of, not just homosexuals, but on a whole range of issues." 

Larry Baldock's views on civil unions and queer families are reported in express as follows: "He is neutral on the civil unions concept, 'provided it doesn't weaken the institution of marriage' but opposes prostitution decriminalisation, same sex couples adopting children ('research shows children are best raised by a mother and a father') and any move towards same sex marriage." Interestingly, recent international research has also shown that children raised by same-sex couples are just as well adjusted as other children and do just as well in school. 

So, the next three years are going to be interesting ones from a political perspective for our communities. We have the opportunity to progress a lot of legislation that will provide lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people with rights that are already enjoyed by our heterosexual counterparts. It will take some work - but it will be worth it!   

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DUNEDIN RAINBOW LABOUR BRANCH

A Rainbow Labour Branch is currently in the process of being formally established in Dunedin. Following meetings in the city on June 22 and July 20, it was decided that there was enough interest to get the group going. 

There are five other Rainbow Labour Branches throughout the country - one in Christchurch, Wellington and Hamilton and two in Auckland. The first branch was established in 1997 and Rainbow Labour is now recognised as an official sector within the Party with its own representation at the highest levels of the party. 

The reasons why Rainbow Labour Branches exist include the following:

To act as lobby groups.

To support queer MPs.

To provide a voice for the queer community within the Labour Party.

To influence Labour policy, government policy and New Zealand legislation in order to change the laws that discriminate against our communities.

To advocate for equal rights for queer people.

To educate people (both within our queer communities and outside them) about the issues and laws that affect us, and changes that need to be made.

The next meeting of the Dunedin Rainbow Labour Branch will be held on Saturday August 31 at 2:30pm at the Plunket Family Centre (2 St David St, cnr St David St and George St). Thereafter the group will meet at the same time and place on the last Saturday of every month. Tim Barnett MP (Christchurch Central) and a member of the Christchurch Rainbow Labour Branch will attend the August meeting to talk to the group and answer any questions we might have. 

Anyone is welcome to join the Dunedin Rainbow Labour Branch, to become actively involved or to come along to a meeting. Rainbow Labour Branches can decide for themselves which issues they want to work on so we'll be discussing this at upcoming meetings. If you have any questions or would like any further information, then contact Barb and Tor on [email protected] or 453-1108.   

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Who Are You Hurting? He Aha Te Utu? (What is the cost?)

by Steve Attwood

South Island Health Promoter for the NZAF Gay Men’s Health Programme

In the last issue of Otago Gaily Times there was a call for urgent work to be done in Dunedin to combat homophobia. This followed the experience of Mark, who was assaulted in what appeared to be gay hate crime.  

Mark’s call has, at least in part, already been taken up by the New Zealand AIDS Foundation (NZAF). For about two years now the Gay Men’s Health team of the NZAF has offered education and health workers a four-hour professional development workshop on recognising and dealing with homophobia and heterosexism. The workshop is called Who Are You Hurting? He Aha Te Utu? (What is the cost?)

The South Island centre that has booked this workshop the most has been Dunedin. As many of the people who have attended these workshops have been teachers and/or youth workers, youth counsellors etc., it is to be hoped that their adoption of anti-homophobic practices will have at least some beneficial impact on the attitudes of the wider Dunedin community, albeit probably a long term one.

Who Are You Hurting? He Aha Te Utu? was developed by the NZAF as a means of combating the spread of HIV among men-who-have-sex-with-men. There is a great deal of evidence to suggest that people subjected to homophobia are less likely to be able, or willing, to negotiate safer sexual practices. However, it is our belief that the benefits of the workshop are wider than that. All members of the queer/takataapui community stand to benefit if we can reduce homophobia in our communities, especially among education and health professionals, who not only influence the attitudes of the young, but are often the first resource young people dealing with a “different” sexuality will turn to for help. 

Studies show that young queer/takataapui folk are over-represented in suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, other self-harm behaviours (including unsafe sex) and poor mental health statistics such as depression, isolation and anxiety. They are also over-represented in homelessness statistics, as the victims of school bullying and as victims of community violence. None of this is because being queer is, in itself, an illness or a weakness, but because of the messages young people who are other than heterosexual get from others about who they are. It’s hard to stay well and be motivated to succeed at school when you’re being told you’re rubbish all the time. Therefore dealing to homophobia is an important public health and education issue. It is also being increasingly recognised as an issue that impacts on crime. 

Who Are You Hurting? He Aha Te Utu? is available to any health and education workers (in the widest possible sense) either by attending a “general” workshop (usually hosted by local health promotion agencies such as Public Health South in Dunedin), or it can be booked as a work-based workshop for all or a number of staff in one institution.  

While not specifically designed for this purpose, it has also proved to be of benefit to queer folk as a means of self understanding and combating internalised homophobia. Anyone who is interested in helping promote this workshop to Dunedin health and/or education organisations, or who would like to attend a workshop themselves or organise one for their group, can contact me via the following: 

Steve Attwood, Health Promoter, NZAF

PO Box 21-285, Edgeware, Christchurch

Ph (03) 379-1953, Cell Ph (027) 496-5427

Email [email protected]  

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The Ettie Rout Centre

The Ettie Rout Centre in Christchurch provides the following services:

Information on HIV and AIDS.

Free and anonymous counselling and HIV antibody testing for people who might be at risk of HIV infection.

Individual counselling and support for people living with HIV and people living with AIDS.

Support and counselling for families and friends of people living with HIV and AIDS.

Assistance with maintaining safer sex and drug use.

Sexual health counselling for men who have sex with men.

Appointments are recommended and are available Monday to Friday between 9am and noon and between 1pm and 5pm. 

CONTACT DETAILS:

Ettie Rout Centre

31 Asaph Street, PO Box 21-285, Christchurch

Phone: 03-379-1953, Fax: 03-365-2477

E-mail: [email protected]  

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Otago Festival Of The Arts

The second Otago Festival of the Arts takes place in Dunedin from Friday 4th October until Sunday 13th October. 

The 2002 Festival boasts more than 40 different events packed into ten days. With the Festival’s “something for everyone” philosophy, theatre, music, dance and visual arts are all well represented. Once again audiences will be treated to extraordinary and once-in-a-lifetime experiences as international artists share billing with New Zealand performers. 

Dunedin was abuzz in October 2000 (when the first Otago Festival of the Arts took place) as a result of the dazzling line up of performances. This year’s Festival guarantees an equally impressive and diverse programme with performances ranging from high octane explosiveness to sublime beauty.

The Dunedin Fringe Festival will also be part of the mix with a programme of fringe events running from September 27th to October 6th

So, clear your diaries now and start saving some dollars in readiness for a great arts roller-coaster ride. 

Contact for enquiries: Lindsay Somerville, phone (03) 477-7600 or e-mail [email protected].  A full programme of events is available online (at www.otagofestival.co.nz ).

There isn’t room here to list all the events taking place during the Festival, so here are just a couple to whet your appetite. 

Wilderness / Weather

11 & 12 October 2002, Kavanagh Auditorium

Michael Parmenter is recognised as one of New Zealand’s most highly regarded dancers and choreographers. Dunedin audiences will remember his stunning production Jerusalem that premiered here three years ago. And now in Wilderness, Parmenter's experience of a life-threatening illness is transposed into a powerful stage image of the body intimately imbedded in the natural process of growth and decay. 

Accompanied by a specially commissioned score from Japanese composer Somei Satoh, Michael Parmenter takes us on an extraordinary journey, which had critics at its Wellington premiere reaching for superlatives: " … rich in content and performed with great intensity".  

In his new work Weather, Parmenter's ongoing concerns with the exterior influences on dance movement are expanded by his recent investigations into interior impulses. In Weather, we see the dancing body under threat from both inside and outside, and this feeling of dread is intensified by Michael Gordon's extraordinary musical score. 

Wilderness / Weather promise to be both a radical assault on conventional dance expectations and a powerful and engaging theatrical experience. 

Mika Haka

8 October, Regent Theatre 

Direct from the Edinburgh Festival, Mika Haka is a blockbuster show. It is the youthful and exciting face of New Zealand today. Mika Haka is a song and dance spectacular that merges ancient traditions with new urban styles. It stars Maori showman Mika and his young and funky Polynesian dancecrew Torotoro. Their high-energy performance is delivered to a rich sound track of big-beat dance anthems with lyrics in Maori and English. Mika Haka is a sharp new hybrid of Maori, Pacific and global culture.   

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Out Takes Dunedin 2002 - A Review

by Victoria Devereux

We laughed, we cried, we despaired and we delighted in seeing images of ourselves and our lives, in all their glory and their complexity, on the big screen.

Early in June Dunedin was host to a mini version of the Out Takes gay and lesbian film festival. This was the second time that a selection of films from Out Takes has been brought to Dunedin and overall the event was better supported this year than last which will most likely mean that we get to experience a weekend of queer films again in 2003 - yeah!!! 

Out Takes Dunedin 2002 was primarily organised by Reel Queer Inc., a group based in Wellington and Auckland that organises New Zealand's annual gay and lesbian film festival. Locally Out Takes was supported by DykeWorks and Metro Cinema, the venue for the film screenings. In addition, financial support was received from the Dunedin City Council through the Creative New Zealand Creative Communities Dunedin Scheme. 

Metro Cinema provides the perfect venue for this film festival - it's small and cosy and just like being at home with all your friends. The atmosphere at all the films I attended was great and there was a real sense of anticipation and excitement in the air which underlines how rare and special it is for us to experience our own queer culture in a safe, friendly and supportive environment. 

Out Takes Dunedin 2002 included 5 different films with 7 screenings. The films themselves were a real mixture from the quite light to the serious, dark and macabre with some unexpected twists here and there and some discussion-provoking characters thrown into the mixture as well. 

According to a recent press release from Reel Queer, "This year's festival [Out Takes] has been extremely successful … and attracted its largest audience ever since the festival began in Wellington in 1995." In the same press release a Reel Queer committee member says, " …we are getting really positive feedback about the festival from a broad cross-section of the community. Young gays and lesbians are growing up with access to positive images of themselves and their community." 

Out Takes is predominantly a labour of love with most of the work required to organise and run the festival being done on a voluntary basis. So, if anyone in Dunedin would like to be involved with bringing Out Takes back to the city next year, then please contact Gavin from Reel Queer in Wellington ([email protected]) or Victoria from DykeWorks in Dunedin ([email protected] ).   

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WHAT'S ON

Women's Spring Ball, Saturday August 31, Deaf Society Hall, 232 Armagh St, ChCh, 8pm to late, BYO, Supper, Entertainment, DJ & Bands. Tickets $10-$20. For more information contact Otautahi Lesbian Outpost, PO Box 10049, ChCh or [email protected]

LICCs (Lesbians In Classic Cars) & CLITs (Classic Lesbians In Transport) Spring Car Rally, Sunday September 1, meet at Unity Park at 11am. For more information e-mail [email protected]  or phone 487-8965. 

Gay Ski Week New Zealand, 7-15 September, Queenstown, www.gayskiweeknewzealand.com  (See page 7 for more details) 

Queen of the South, Saturday September 14, venue TBA. For information contact Pride Dunedin ([email protected] ). 

Otago Festival of the Arts, 4-13 October. For more information contact Lindsay Somerville on 477-7600 or [email protected]  or check out the full programme at www.otagofestival.co.nz  

A Walk on the Queer Side

Sunday August 25 - Street walk around Maori Hill & Balmacewen

Sunday September 29 - Steve Amies Track, Whare Flat

 Sunday October 20 - Lee Stream, Outram Glen

For all of the walks, meet at the duck pond at Woodhaugh Gardens at 2pm.   

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REGULAR EVENTS:

Vivace Bar at ReFuel, Otago University Campus, under the Union Hall, gay bar every other Saturday night. 

Lesbians Over 35yrs meet every Wednesday night 5:30pm.

E-mail [email protected]  

Ascent Coffee Evenings, every 2nd and last Friday of the month at 9:00pm at Robert Harris Café (cnr of High St and Princes St), upstairs in the balcony area. 

Glenaven Methodist Church, Chambers St, North East Valley. A “reconciling congregation” which affirms and includes men & women, young & old, gay & straight, people from different cultures & social backgrounds. Services are on Sundays at 11am preceded by morning tea at 10:40am, www.dunedinmethodist.org.nz  

Lesbians at Arc, an over 35 lesbian group meets at Arc (135 High St) every Wednesday from 5:30pm onwards. 

COQ on Wednesdays, Lounge Bar, Southern Cross (lower High St) from 9pm. Unofficial social coQtails, all welcome - join the crew. 

Round The Bend Radio, Sundays, 10-11pm, Radio One, 91 FM. 

Dunedin Rainbow Labour Branch Meeting, Saturday August 31 (and thereafter the last Saturday of every month), 2:30pm, Plunket Family Centre, 2 St David St (cnr St David St and George St). All welcome. E-mail [email protected]  or phone 453-1108 if you have any questions. (See page 10 for more details) 

WAQD social support group for queer women, weekly meetings/social lunches, Wednesdays, 12-2pm, Women’s Room, 2nd floor, University Union. All queer women welcome. 

UniQ Lunches, Thursdays 12-2pm, Clubs & Societies Building, University of Otago (84 Albany Street). 

Queer Beers (run by UniQ), Thursday evenings, Abalone’s (cnr George St and Hanover St). 

PolyQ Lunches, Wednesdays, 12-1pm. Contact UniQ. 

Pride Dunedin Extraordinary Meeting, Monday August 19, 7pm, Princess Room, Chancellor Hotel (Princes St). (See page 5 for more details) 

Planet Pancake open Monday-Thursday 8:30am-5:30pm, Friday 8:30am-9:00pm, Saturday-Sunday 9:30am-5:30pm   

For other listings see the "Links" section of our website

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