| Flirting |
| Ah flirting, to be honest I haven't a clue what to do, it's awful isn't it? I'm sure i can't be the only one to offer prospective love interests the chance to see my jigsaw collection... can I? I juts don't understand why they always laugh :'( and run away.. Anyway, i was reading the mail (I know! lots of sneers there) but I saw a Paul McKenna (hypnosis man) article on how to be confident etc. it has to work though because there's a picture of Austin Powers on the front, and we all know what an unstoppable love god he is (GRR!). I'm quite into this hypnosis at the moment, and this looks pretty good, so I present the best bits: |
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| Step 1: When you meet someone you're interested in, smile at them (not like a lunatic though) and let them know how you feel. Don't be tempeted to go all ice king/queen because (a) how are they going to know you like them (b) people will find a smile flattering and be tempted to say hi, rather than turn away in disgust. Tell about yourself, the more they know, the less of a stranger you'll be. Listen to what they have to say (don't think about what's for tea/hoe much you'd like a furby/their appaling acne) |
| Step 2: Get confident and in the mood for meeting new people, try some "confidence boosting exercises" (I can't be arsed to write them down, baisicly involve flattering yourself) Self help articles are awfully keen on that kind of thing. |
| Step 3: Pay compliments. People are egocentric, think how much you, yourself enjoy being told how great you look (even what you're not). Practise complimenting people, everyone you meet for one day, I dare you. People like being around people who make them feel good. |
| Step 4: Get close to people i.e enter their 'personal space'. however don't go over the top and glue yourself to their chin. If someone's reaction to you getting closer is not favourable, then move away fast and find someone else instead. |
| Austin's guide to love... |
| Step 5: Whispering can be incredabily sexy, you have to move in close to do it, and lets face it, whispering in a husky voice isn't half bad (also helps if you've lost you voice). To creat an instant 'connection' with someone at a gathering, ask the one you like to supposedly 'save' you from a friend or another person at the party, they become you rescuer, and you create a team against the people who want to tell you about warhammer, or such other worrying topics... |
| Step 6: Sharing is a lovely thing to do in any situation, however sharing food and drink is a very flirty way of getting close to someone, a way of entering their space I guess. If you're worried about contracting plague from their beer, then simply share a joke or something which happened to you that day. |
| Step 7: Body language (kylie's album lol) is a very important factor, we've all heard about 'rapport' (not the coffee) where you tend to mirror the other person't movements, usually it's subconcious, however you can use it to your advantage by very subtly copying what they do (e.g crossing legs etc.) don't be too obvious though. Sit or stand at 45 degrees to the person you like, you're preseting yourself, but not giving too much away. Align your eyes and mouth with theirs. Men usually respond to hair flicking and laughing, a flirtacious laugh is slightly exaggerated, and the head is tilted back to expose the neck (I've heard the spot where the neck joins the shoulder is very sexy.. hmmm..). Alternatively you can tilt your head back slightly when talking and run two fingers up and down the neck. Eye contact is very imporatnt, but be careful, in animals too much eye contact can be seen as threatening, think about where you look after you meet their eyes etc. |
| Step 8: You want people to associate you with happy feelings, by encouraging them to talk about good experiences and memories with you, you are making that association. Rember to re-pay people, what you get, give in return ie, if they lend you a cd, offer to do the same to them. This is another form of the sharing mentioned earlier. |
| The gnomes present~ |