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"Where the Boys Are, at Least for Now, the Girls Pounce", The New York Times
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At a Halloween party at the C-Lounge in Beirut, women tried to attract scarce visiting men with a "Who's the Sexiest?" contest.


Photo by Kate Brooks/Polaris, for The New York Times


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By KATHERINE ZOEPF

Published: November 2, 2006


BEIRUT, Lebanon, Nov. 1 - This is a city of nightclubs, but the nightlife is something else these days, and not just because of the feverish edge sharpened by the war last summer.


By 8 p.m., women in their 20s and early 30s are prowling in packs of five and six, casting meaningful glances at any and all passing men. In the bars the women dance for hours - often on top of the bar - and legs, midriffs, bare shoulders and barely covered bosoms are offered for public admiration.


Samir Khalaf, a professor of sociology at the American University of Beirut, said the scene astonished his American colleagues. "They are just shocked," he said. " 'This is Lebanon, the Middle East?, they say. They can't stop talking about all the belly buttons, about all these highly eroticized bodies. You see it everywhere here, this combination of consumerism and postmodernism and female competition."


For a few weeks twice a year, after Ramadan and before Christmas, thousands of Lebanon's young men return from jobs abroad - and run smack into one of the world's most aggressive cultures of female display. Young women of means have spent weeks primping and planning how to sift through as many men as possible in the short time available. The austere month of Ramadan ended a week ago.


The country's high rate of unemployment pushes the young men to seek work elsewhere, sometimes in Western countries like France and Canada, but mainly in the United Arab Emirates, Saudi Arabia and the other oil states on the Persian Gulf. The women, inhibited by family pressures, are generally left behind.


"The demographic reality is truly alarming," Professor Khalaf said. "There are no jobs for university graduates, and with the boys leaving, the sex ratios are simply out of control. It is now almost five to one: five young girls for every young man. When men my sons' age come back to Lebanon, they can't keep the girls from leaping at them."


For the men, who return with deep pockets and high spirits, the holiday welcome is gratifying.


"In Doha it is completely impossible, because you can't talk to women in the gulf," said Wisam Hamdan, 35, back from Qatar, where he manages hairdressing salons. "But Lebanese girls are very friendly. I am hoping to meet lots of girls, and then I will pick one."


The other night Roula Hallak, 27, was wandering the bars of Gemmayzeh, an eastern Beirut neighborhood, with a troupe of six meticulously dressed and made-up girlfriends.


"I'm not looking, but she is, and so is she," Ms. Hallak said, poking two of them, who giggled and declined to give their names. "It's so hard to meet the perfect guy this way, but there are so many out in Beirut at this time of year. You go out and you look and you're always hoping."


According to Professor Khalaf, Lebanese Christians have been migrating for economic reasons since Ottoman times. But as the nation's economic crisis has deepened, the exodus has come to include young men from all religious groups and across the socio-economic spectrum, as well as a tiny but growing number of young women.


Over the last two decades, the Persian Gulf has become the economic pole, and its pull has only grown stronger since the monthlong war this summer between Israel and the Hezbollah militia in Lebanon. With the political situation here still so uncertain, investment and work opportunities are growing even scarcer, and the gender imbalance worsens.


For young women here, dressing fashionably is a competitive game; stare-down contests between young women in restaurants and malls are common, particularly, say the girls, when one of the women is accompanied by an attractive Lebanese man.


Kareen Yazbek, a Beirut psychologist, says that the lack of available men is a constant theme in her discussions with young women recovering from depression and drug addiction.


"Throughout my practice, the main issue that comes up with many young women is that they can't find anyone to be with or to marry," Ms. Yazbek said. "Among college-age girls it's not such a problem, but after graduation there's a big change as the men start seeking work outside of Lebanon."


"The social pressures on young women are just huge," Ms. Yazbek continued. "The focus is more and more on being beautiful, on pleasing other people. The competition is intense, conformity is a big thing, and everyone, rich and poor, gets plastic surgery. You can go to parts of Beirut where almost every young woman has the same little nose."


And the big prize, all seem to agree, is the attention of one of the visiting native sons.


"The guys that remain in Lebanon are the stupid ones!" exclaimed Nayiri Kalayjian, 19, who was hitting the bars on Monot Street, in central Beirut, with three girlfriends.


"We're too good for them," she said. "The ones who remain in Lebanon are the ones with closed mentalities, the ones who just want a virgin girl. You start to feel that the men who stay in Lebanon are the ones with no ambition in their work, and so you wonder, why are they still here?"

2006-11-04 14:41:35 GMT
Comments (5 total)
Author:Anonymous
I can't believe that Lebanese women have been reduced to desperado maneaters who have no other skill than dancing half nude on bar tops in designer duds! I find it incredibly insulting.
--Anissa
2006-11-04 15:01:43 GMT
Author:Anonymous
This article is as superficial as the girls the author is talking about. To generalize the behavior of girls who do not even constitute 0.5% of the Lebanese female population to the whole society is not fair. Some of the issues tackled are true, while others are clearly exaggerated. The testimonials only show one point of view, putting us under the impression that all Lebanese girls have such a distorted way of thinking...the article is biased & offending.
--Chaker
2006-11-04 15:44:19 GMT
Author:Anonymous
This article discusses a real issue in Lebanese society, it's sad but true...
--fadi
2006-11-10 00:44:29 GMT
Author:Anonymous
I don't know what to say... Is this what foreigners are thinking about us here in Lebanon?
--steve
2006-11-10 00:59:27 GMT
Author:Anonymous
This article should be banned, it is offending to us Lebanese girls and it is not even true. The author cannot just go interview 2 or 3 girls off the street and consider them representative of the population.

Katherine Zoepf is merely saying that Lebanese girls have all become sl--- because there aren't enough boys in the country, that they wait for holidays to run after the guys who live abroad as if they had no dignity.

I want to know which night clubs are filled with girls? Most night clubs have a more or less equal amount of guys to girls as I know. Did Zoepf go to Maameltein by mistake?

It is true that there is an unfavorable ratio of guys to girls in Lebanon but what is said in this article is too much, just too much, 3ayb...
--Tia
2006-11-10 01:27:16 GMT
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