| Too Cool for Comfort |
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| Week of July 3, 2002 |
| Dear Odessa, I need some help dealing with a guy. He goes to my school and I just met him. We have mutual friends and a lot in common. When we're alone, he's funny and really sweet to me, but if his guy friends are around, he sort of ignores me. I really like him, and our friends are trying to get us hooked up. He's senior and I'm a sophomore, but I can't stop thinking about him. Can you help me out at all? Are all guys like this? Confused |
| Hey there, Sounds like there's a chance you two could hook up, seeing as how you guys have a lot in common, mutual friends, and are sweet around each other. The thing I would advise against is having your friends involved in the process -- it'd be best if you did the hooking up yourself, b/c looking back it might seem a bit immature to have your friends talking to him for you and all. And as a senior, he might take you more seriously if you pull the moves yourself. Yes, it seems like a lot of guys act that way, where they are the nicest guys when it's just the two of you, but then act differently once their friends are around. It's just what happens with some guys -- they want to look cool in front of their friends, and a guy has to give some serious thought to wants to look "whipped" for some girl. Your guy may just not be ready to seem like he's giving you special attention, especially if he thinks his friends will call him on it. I think you guys have a chance together, but it depends on finding out exactly how he feels about you. If he's serious about more than just friendship with you, then he will have no problems acknowledging you when you're in public together. But right now, it's still to early to ask him to change his ways as far as how he acts around his friends (b/c you guys are still just friends), so I would advise just getting to know him better -- see where you stand and especially where you could go. Drop some hints that you're interested and see what happens. He should show his true colors soon enough. Best of luck. Let me know how everything turns out, *Odessa |
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