Hey there,
So you're the shy-girl type, huh? Don't worry, some guys find that cute and are really into it, especially if they think that the girl is worth getting to know.
Now that school's starting up, you'll have plenty of chances to see each other. Maybe you have activities, share a class, or have mutual friends. If that's the case, then you can call up your group, invite some of his mutual friends, and plan something from there. Things are a lot easier and more casual in a group setting. Anything will do --- catch a summer flick, go bowling, grab some pizza, hit up the rink, find someone's pool, go ice-blocking, anything goes as long as it's casual and fun.
Taking the phone method is another idea you might like to try. Trust me, I know how nerve-wracking it can be to call up your crush, but it does get easier the more you do it. See, the trick is not to sound nervous, because if you do, then that'll make HIM nervous. (Actually, a little nervousness might be cute, because he'd probably be flattered if anything) When you call him, have an idea of what you want to say, but not something all written out and scripted -- that just leaves room for you to mess up somewhere along the delivery. Just be casual and to the point ... since you really want to talk to him, I'm sure he'll be glad to hear from you too. Maybe you could start out with something like, "Hey ____, how's it goin'? It's me, Jen." <his reply here> "Anyway, I haven't talked to you since school got out and I was wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime." And then you can go from there. It'd be a good idea to have a plan beforehand ... so that you can ask him to come along. Say that he can bring some of his buddies too, whatever works. And then you can go ahead with a group date first.
If for any reason, he can't hang out that day or has other plans, then you can still be casual and drop the ball in his court. There's no reason to take it personally. Just say something like, "Oh, ok. I'm sorry you can't go, but we should still kick it sometime. Call me if you wanna hang out." You could even add, "You've got my number, right?" That way, you'll be sure that he has no lame excuse not to call (i.e., "I wanted to call you all summer, but didn't have your number").
Another approach that's more low-key is taking this online. Find some excuse to get his sn/email ("Hey, what was the assignment again? If I have questions, can I IM you sometime?" etc) Then you can be less nervous and go at your own pace, revving up the flirt factor as you go along.
I hope that helps (and that he's worth it). Drop me a line if you need tips on how to flirt or anything else on your mind. Best of luck.
Let me know how everything turns out,
*Odessa |
